I know I’m not the A hole
Hii readers! Even though I have accepted the situation and outcome. It would be nice to see where everyone’s view point is and how they may have handled the situation.
I’m a 26-year-old single female. I had two friends—we will call them G and Chexmix. (Both females btw)
Some back story on who these two are. Chexmix was someone I met maybe 2 years ago. And she was becoming a close friend. Someone I chilled with regularly. She’s fun, low-maintenance, and someone I always had good vibes with, so I had zero reason to doubt her judgment.
G I’ve known for maybe 9/10 years. G is someone who always seems to be in the middle of self-made mess, but claims she wants to do better. I wanted to believe she was genuine about turning things around, so I opened my doors to her.
I was already pretty hesitant (Not that it has anything to do with me… but in my house it would have everything to do with me). When it comes to my peace it is non negotiable.
I mind my business and enjoy my quiet life. I didn’t want that being interrupted.
I felt like as a friend, I could possibly help as she seemed ready for change and I was just giving my friend the benefit of doubt.
Anyways these 2 friends don’t know each other. I introduced them (first mistake). I figured that 2 of my “ closer “friends that I do hang with and chill with often can come together and WE ALL can get along and chill together idk. 🤷🏽♀️ I never mix friends fyi .. If I do it just depends on the individuals sometimes
Anyways
We go out… and we have a goodnight and we end up back at my house and everything is good, everything is sweet. At this point we are all in the living room. I have an air mattress blown up for them and I even have my futon laid out. I end up falling asleep on my bean bag chair in the corner…. Last I remember is them sitting on 2 complete ends of the futon doing their own separate thing. It had to be 3?4am?
I’m usually sleeping underneath the cover. Head And all and I was slowly waking up, I remember hearing like tip toes so I popped up taking the blanket off my head and I see G in her underwear..she had on a shirt and I go … “what are you doing?” And she just froze and looked at me. I didn’t want to assume. ..Girl could have been doing anything but I then realized that Chexmix was no where to be found…. And again didn’t want to assume. Chexmix could have been left?? Using the bathroom ?? idk and idc. I said interesting and I lay my head back down.
Maybe 30 mins later I wake back up again and I have to use the Bathroom Im walking to the back of my house to get to the Bathroom and lord and behold I see them IN MY BED. The door was wide open… I thought that was pretty bold.
Before I even say anything… I do not care who anyone is being intimate with but in In my beddd is kind of crazy? Idk there’s a level of disrespect and carelessness happening Huhhh ??? there’s so many options and routes they could have taken as well But in this situation they both lack consideration and respect.
Anyways after I told them that they needed to go it didn’t end there.
As the week was going by they both were texting me and apologizing and saying how shitty that was and how they wouldn’t want to do anything to ruin the friendship I have with them 😂 **idk I felt like they were genuine until they weren’**t.
I have Chexmix telling me I’m blowing the situation out of pocket because she’s convinced herself that I’m in love with her? She says she’s been realizing that for a while now and the way that this is playing out I gotta be in love. I can say that this isn’t that. 😂 let’s not deflect.
I can say that I love all my friends and anyone that is in my corner. I’ll show you that everyday. I am very supportive of my friends and whatever they may need they know they can come to me and I got them. So besides me being a genuine ass human being… and a friend my intentions were never ever that.
On the other hand I have G acting like I’m the biggest villain. She doesn’t see anything real fault in her doing but not that I have all the trust in the world anyways but i definitely have none for her or Chexmix now.
In conclusion i said my peace to the both of them and it was pretty straight forward and it was to really say my last words before i decided to just block them both.
I also didn’t mention that even after everything was said and done i was pretty calm about the whole situation. Things were calm until they started being sneaky? I don’t enjoy feeling like I have to worry about a friend’s lying to me. And they were doing that ..just to hang out 😂 so no I realize that they are okay in the chaos that they create
I ended up blocking them both and continuing my life because it does in fact keep going. 🙂↕️