u/playingsmart

انا امرأة عاملة سعودية اعتياديه، وزوجي ايضا موظف
عندنا مشاكلنا الماديه ووقتنا ضيق وبصعوبة نتلاقى واثنينا مكروفين باختصار ومرات كثير يكون هو مطفر وانا اتحمل مسؤوليتي بنفسي وهو مايقدر يساعدني بكل شي
بس كل الناس اللي حواليني والله مامزح كلهم اوضاعهم غير عني مرات احس اني مخنوقة وابي افضفض لاحد يفهمني بدون مايحكم علي ان ليش تزوجتي وحطيتي نفسك بهالموقف او يحسون بتفهم ان هالتعب على المرأة صعب
كل اللي حواليني حالتهم الماديه افضل مني بمراحل، واذا حالتها مو مره كويسه زوجها يصرف عليها بالكامل او اهلها
احس اني فلبينيه والله العظيم افكر اصادق فلبينيات

Hey, i know how everyone does hate having a “jealous friend” but unfortunately, sometimes it’s me. And i hate myself for it.
I am an average working woman, not super pretty or skinny or rich. But most of my friends are either SUPER rich, skinny, or pretty. I am not kidding when i say how gorgeous they are. And they’re a good friends and i love our friendship and I support them with my whole heart.

But,I can’t help to feel smaller around them sometimes, i know my place and my reality. My husband is struggling financially a lot and that affected me in a way that I started to compare my self with every girl i see.

And I despite myself for that because i used to be so sure of myself and so confident that when i see someone bigger I don’t feel smaller.
But it started happening to me again.
It socks my energy and I don’t feel like the same person again.
I hate how jealous I’ve became from everyone around me and i keep trying to remind myself to stay cool and kind to everyone.

Do you have any tips to deal with that?

Hey, i know how everyone does hate having a “jealous friend” but unfortunately, sometimes it’s me. And i hate myself for it.
I am an average working woman, not super pretty or skinny or rich. But most of my friends are either SUPER rich, skinny, or pretty. I am not kidding when i say how gorgeous they are. And they’re a good friends and i love our friendship and I support them with my whole heart.

But,I can’t help to feel smaller around them sometimes, i know my place and my reality. My husband is struggling financially a lot and that affected me in a way that I started to compare my self with every girl i see.

And I despite myself for that because i used to be so sure of myself and so confident that when i see someone bigger I don’t feel smaller.
But it started happening to me again.
It socks my energy and I don’t feel like the same person again.
I hate how jealous I’ve became from everyone around me and i keep trying to remind myself to stay cool and kind to everyone.

Do you have any tips to deal with that?

انا انسانه كبرت وتعودت اني اشيل نفسي بنفسي
اذاكر لنفسي من اول ابتدائي،
وبشكل عام تعودت جددا على الاستقلالية من عمر مبكر جدا ماذكر ان في فترة مرت في حياتي اعتمدت فيها على احد من اهلي سواء مادي او نفسي او عاطفي. بنيت لنفسي كل شي من الصغر
ودايم من وانا صغيره لاحظت اني مو مره احب اعطي زي الباقي
مو بخيله بس ماراح اعطي اي احد اكثر مما هو يعطيني ولا اوصف نفسي بالكريمة يعني عندي حدود جدا واضحه اتجاه هذا الشيء مع الجميع ،
والحين مع زواجي احس هذي الصفه ماتنفع
مادري مرات احسني white washed والزواجات عندنا قائمه على العطاء المتبادل (مو شرط مادي) بس حتى مشاعر واهتمام
سؤالي هو كيف اعود نفسي على هذا الشي؟ خصوصا اني بتزوج قريب ومره ضايعه من هالناحيه
متعوده اني دايم لحالي واشيل نفسي بنفسي ماحب اشيل احد ولا اثق باحد انه يقدر يشيلني
بالبداية ماكنت احسه مشكله بس خطيبي اكثر من مره جاب الطاري وقعدت افكر اذا هذا الشي طبيعي ولا؟
هل هي فعلا صفة سيئة؟

I am 21 working F.
Since I’ve started working, i got away from my family emotionally and I don’t know why (I didn’t get abused and we love each other)
And I don’t understand that sudden need to stay away from my family. They miss me a lot and my heart breaks when I realize how much i am not a good daughter / sister to them. I don’t know how to love correctly or understand what’s happening to me or what is bothering me.
I am literally at a point where I don’t recognize the patterns, the pain, I don’t know what’s wrong and right. And mostly, even with spending some time with myself. I question myself if i am exaggerating my feelings or is it normal?
Today, I slept alone in my new apartment for only 30 minutes after work. And I’ve felt so so relaxed and relieved by being alone.
A strange feeling I didn’t feel it for almost years.
It’s been one year where I feel i am outside my body, i am always tense and i lost my period for 5 months straight, I kept crying at work everyday for 6 months. And mostly, I didn’t socialize a lot with my coworkers and always by myself. I kept to spend some time alone away from my house everyday. It’s like i was looking for escape but I don’t know why?

Hey,
I’ve lived with my mom my whole life. She struggles with major mental issues that she has schizophrenia (where she can hear voices)
She’s super nice and try her best to hide it but I can’t help but notice her patterns. I know how hard it is for her to live inside her body.
I just wanna help her without making her feel like she’s a burden.

I am a young employee. I love my job and i try my best to be good at it. Before i got engaged, i was deeply passionate about my job and most of the team saw that in me already.
But, since i got engaged. With all the pressures of preparing for my next chapter.
I’ve been less involved at work. My manager hated that and always complained about me being late.
We discussed it later but i feel like i’ve been behind my colleagues already, and i am afraid that i’ll never get back aligned.

Hey,
I’ve been working with my coworkers for almost 2 years.
We have a pretty decent relationship and we know our boundaries.
However, some new hires just came in recently. And since they came in. The dynamic of the relationship changed.
We started to go eat lunch together, we take coffee together. There’s no age gap between us.
And it felt like we became a friends more than coworkers.
But, since the relationship got stronger, there has been a lot of drama. The girls started to get sensitive towards each other a lot and barely even talk in the office now.
I started to get kind of uncomfortable because i am afraid that they will explain my actions, words in a bad way. So I got a lot quiet than before.
I also don’t like how they joke with me because a lot of times i feel like it’s an insult not a joke. And it’s not funny to me. But I don’t know how to respond and this eat me up later.
The other day for example, i was chatting with my coworker about a kind of weird situation happened to me. She responded “ yeah, because your face seems dump, that’s why people feel comfortable around you to say weird stuff”
And that’s what i mean when i say I don’t like their tone with me.
But at the same time, I don’t wanna be alone at work
I want to learn the soft skills to build good connections without feeling like it’s personal, having good reputation without being involved in drama.
And yes, i am stuck with them.