r/whatsbotheringyou

so ive been seein this girl for about a month. met her randomly off of tinder. day 1 SHE pulled up ON ME and SHE SCOOPED ME at like 3am... so off rip im thinkin ok this girl cool, she prolly tryna fuck, etc. thats all i thought of it at first..

so considering all that im interested and altho i (as the man) usually am the driver and planner, i decide this is diff and tbh if i just go w the flow then the ball is in her court unless if she literally passes it to me (as in her sayin, 'what u tryna do?' type shit). so that was my mindset, main plan being to "jus go with the flow.." also i was prepared for her to also just bail, stop replying, ghost, or hit me w "some unexpected event just occured, lets hangout another time," or jus for it to be some typa set up. i give her the address to a house down my street as if it was mine and i waited.

anyways back to what i was sayin... to my surprise, she pulls up right when she said she would all late, or early, however that goes (around 3am). Everything so far appears fine aside from 1 red flag, that is if i was seeing this girl as sum more than a hookup. That red flag was that she was coming to me after she was done hanging at the bar "with her homies." Instantly that made me raise an eyebrow but thats just my natural instinct when its a girl im goin for sum more with. at the time all it was in my head is im thinking we gonna fool around and its not nun serious,but for later in the story this changes. We stay local and she parks up in a walmart parking lot. Everything seemed green except her choice to park in the middle of the almost empty lot and her car being a fish bowl.

So i figured in my head "well cross that bridge when we get there" in reference to the fish bowl/parking spot and just autopilot as if its any other time w all green lights.... were in the creating small talk part of it and its going well, nothing too too crazy but definately better than an average convo. like i said she was cool. and she got bonus points in my boom also bc she is def a reverse catfish(looks much better irl than in photos, but i hesitate saying catfish bc she still looks good in photos).

Eventually we end up leaving. not before we actually end up fw w each other pretty heavily (not sexually, yet). But before i go on here are key moments/things thT happened/things said before we left...
• she has a 1 year old

• shes one of those girls that actually tough as shit but i still let her know she wasnt "tougher" than me, that is in a defensive way every time she playfully and physically attacked lol. that said, yes in that aspect we were physical

• she is "homeless" and her son stays w her mom

• she wouldnt aknowledge how i offered her to get a hotel room (for us, and respectfully if she didnt feel comfortable i still would get it for just her) multiple times in response to her complaint of sleeping in the car

• she thinks she knows how to choke a mf out n shit but shes just a tough cookie, she do got a mean bite and is competative bc again we ended up tussling (playfully) but her 1 advantage is her bite. mannn she left me w hella bite marks i tell ya. and i mean i KNOW that hella dudes would not have been cool w dat to the extent it was but my crazy/freaky/weird ass like that shit and it wasnt even a matter of keeping it playful, it just was that mutually. and i think she like that a lot lol

• she has some shit shes going through jus like everyone else but i think she (like a lot of people do, no judgment) puts her issues on a bit of a pedistal

• after one of our lil "battles" she just stayed layed up kinda in a awkward position but we both kinda chilled and the rest of the time were jus dozing off and carressing each other. ultimately falling asleep on n off for a couple hours i think it was.

again these are just some of the key takeaways and memories from the parking lot there was much more some of which I might not see is important right now and some of which I might have just forgotten some of which I may remember and some of which I may not remember

if ur still w me, thank you, shouldnt be too much more!

So we end up leaving and going to the gas station, i filled her tank up completely for her, and then it feels like we going for her to drop me off already (its like 9/10am)... i peeped she had her maps to my house in and when we get to my block she turned it off and kept goin. so then at this point in my head I'm thinking OK I need to propose something so this doesn't just die here. Not knowing what to do and not wanting to say that out loud I just randomly go wanna go on an adventure and then everything that I pretty much said when she asked about it was just me stalling as I was trying to figure something out. Now not only are we local still but we're in my little neighborhood again so we're good where we're at and she found this random parking lot that I told it was OK for us to park up in and she didn't give me too much of a straight answer to the adventure thing but she never said no and I didn't see it like that and so she says you're gonna have to try again with the adventure request if you want me to say yes. She also said I might take another nap I'm really tired I'm sorry and she was very apologetic for being tired but like I said at the beginning I'm going with the flow so I said all right and I kept telling her it's all good don't worry about it and as she was napping I was thinking of ideas and stuff.

So when she wakes up from her nap we go to McDonald's across the street I get food for us and we they're still talking and continuing your vibe that was literally just getting better and better I come to find out that she sometimes stays the night at her Homies's house or whatever and she said seems like all of her friends are guys like literally every single one so at this point it feels like it's still just the same hook up vibe but at the same time it feels like potentially me more I'm with that side even to this moment that I'm writing this to post on Reddit the only red flags about her are that for some reason she doesn't live with her mom and her son and that all her friends are guys and it seems like she's very much so around these guys but she swears that they're just Homies and mind you I never put her on the spot about it so when I say she swears it's not like she's like trying so hard to prove it but that's the type of vibe she paints when she talks about it in any context.

OK we're coming up to the end here because there's still a lot more to the story but the details going forward are pretty straightforward nothing too specific other than what it is so here it is

I have forgotten to mention she is 19 on this day that we hung out for the first time and by the second time we hung out she was 20 or she is now 20 and I am 24. I have a strong belief that in regards to personality and respect to a person I'm not gonna judge someone just cause they're younger or older than me but at the same time I think that that is also very relevant only in some parts of this whole thing which I will not point out but just keep that in mind I guess. So we decide that we're going to go to Dave & Buster's I also forgot to mention that this is on 4 July so this whole time I'm just waiting for her to hit me with "oh I have plans" or something and an abrupt ending to our hangout which again considering I just met her would've been totally cool and OK I would've understood. this never happened to my surprise.

although we're still on day one for telling the story where not far from being done here so again if you made it this far thank you and please bear with me..

So we go and get some alcohol and she got her own that I paid for as a gentleman but she got it on her own because I didn't provide her alcohol since she's not 21 and when I got in her car she already had alcohol so I'm not taking her responsibility for providing alcohol I'm just saying what happened lol. But yeah we got alcohol and we went to Dave & Buster's had a great time there. And actually I think she was having a better time than me at least until towards the end when she kind of paused and zoned out for a moment and then she came back to it and said "I'm sorry" and with a big smile on her face said "i just haven't been this happy in a really really long time." for me at least that was the moment things definitely took a turn and I'm not sure if I even realized you're not real time but we took some breaks to go to the car and drink a little I find out that she is on her period which definitely got in my head because then I was thinking what was her intention this whole time because she's not knowing that I'm a freak and I would have still hit it but I'd assume that she would assume that I as most probably wouldn't when the girls on her period. anyways I'm at this point wondering what's gonna happen next and it feels like now we're going to drop me off so I can propose going on a cruise down Lakeshore Drive(chicago) and remember it's the fourth so we get to Lakeshore and Lakeshore Drive is pretty much shut down not officially but just because you know it's Chicago and it's the fourth and everyone is outside. I'm talking people are getting out of their cars on the middle of Lakeshore not because there was a road closure just because people wanted to be outside for fireworks and stuff and it was pretty much a party on the highway or not the highway but on Lakeshore. Mind you up to this point there's a lot of conversation that I've left out and all of it is good conversation and we are only getting closer and closer and yes I'm still aware that I just met this girl. They got to the point though where she was the first one to do it but we're calling each other babe and honey and baby and all that and I know I just said this but again I'm aware that some people are just like that and shit but this vibe was good.

I don't really drink too much these days anymore but regardless of if I do or don't drink I'm always someone that can handle my shit but I'm also someone that if you know me long enough I have my moments and warning well I'm warning for me from that day one of my moments is coming. I had consumed a lot of alcohol even off of bottles from randoms on Lakeshore and stuff and at this point we're for sure heading back towards my house and in my head I'm thinking oh she's homeless she's cool as hell she's down for things we went and spent the whole Fourth of July on a fly together she'll probably be down to sleepover. Again I'm not she's on her period I'm a freak though and I'm not dirty I wouldn't do this with just any girl but she was definitely an exception like she hit the criteria for me.

We're getting off on the highway by my house and she spots the guy in a motorcycle he was being kind of crazy actually I might've spotted him first I'm not sure but clearly the dude liked her and he offered her a ride because she was showing interest in the motorcycle now although I'm saying all this shit I'm pretty aware and down to earth and I keep saying I just met her and respect to her because with that considered she still asked me she said is it cool if I take a quick ride with him and I told her yes but I'm going to be on your guys ass in your car. Oh I forgot to mention about myself that I'm a big Car guy and I sarcastically seriously say this I'm the best driver I know so I was being very serious when I said this and we had already talked about that she knew that. But she was ultimately very appreciative like very appreciative almost as if I was the one on the bike myself and we pull up to this gas station right by my house right off the highway and then the biker guy leaves then this is where things turn bad for day one which I somehow recovered from but that was out of my control I guess I got lucky when it comes to that.

So I forgot the exact order of how this next part go but it doesn't really matter I had pretty much at one point proposed to her to come sleep over she said no because she had already told her friend that she was going there her homie friend and she made it out to be like it was a thing of oh I already said I was going there so I have to go there now out of respect and at first I lightly tried pushing her to just come anyways but she wasn't going at least not easily I don't know if I would've kept pushing the issue if she would've but that's not like me I'm not gonna beg beg bag until you agree for my own respect but also out of respect of not being pushy type shit. Mind you at this point I'm also pretty fucked up and I don't even realize how fucked up I am I'm just seeing red because of this amazing time we just had this abrupt shitty ending. Nonetheless she did not want to leave me at the gas station she was planning on driving me home which was very close to that gas station but I figured I was so pissy but I wasn't showing it I think it was obvious I wasn't just blatantly showing it though. Im in a very salty tone I'll admit, I told her no I'm just gonna sit here at the gas station let me grab my shit and finally she said OK I grabbed my stuff grab my last cut water out of her car chugged it right in front of her and walking into the gas station where I was gonna go gamble the rest of the money I had on me on some slots.

I was being salty when I said that and I was almost saying it in a way of like oh wow you're really gonna just leave me here and again I'm pretty down to earth so I was ready for that to be the case it wasn't a Bluff it was more of a test that she failed at first but then kind of passed after. So she drives away and I'm just flabbergasted but nonetheless I walk into the gas station with a very weird empty feeling but I'm telling myself I just met her and it's whatever and even with that ending that it was still a good time and she's gonna do what she do I should just do what I do. so I walked into gamble all the machines are taken I walked to the next gas station over I put money in the machine almost fight a crackhead and at some point in between all this I find myself drunk texting her and this is where my memory starts getting foggy because I remember half of what happens next and I don't remember half of it like absolutely no recollection but obviously I'm just gonna speak on the parts that I do remember and then I'll tell you what happened from her telling me about it the next day.

I eventually decide I'm going to walk either home or around my neighborhood at like three in the morning. I don't know what's up with three in the morning time stamps but yeah it was three in the morning the next day at this point. And I was walking through alleys n on blocks saying very much out-of-pocket things like I was definitely in the wrong for the level I escalated it to which I don't remember getting to this level but I was saying things like oh of course you're gonna go sleep with your homie and oh I should've known and at one point I even thought she was with her homie and I'm starting to even say threats to him and it was really goofy of me because I find out with my own two eyes that she was definitely not with anyone and I say it's so confidently because she actually turned around when she realized I was what I was doing aside from texting her out-of-pocket things and I eventually found myself under a tree she finds me gets me in her car and brings me home.

So that's generally what I remember from that night apparently I was calling her the name of this other girl I used to talk to that kind of broke my heart not too long before which I have no memory of I'm very embarrassed of and I felt terrible about
. I made it a struggle to get me inside the house and I was trying to escape to my garage where I thought I had drugs and I told her that and even as drunk as I was and I do remember this part she was not cool with that. She told me that she wasn't gonna tell me what to do or that I should or shouldn't do drugs but that I shouldn't do drugs around her. Finally she gets me inside she make sure I'm good and then my mom starts coming downstairs and she meets my mom her and my mom go to another room and they talked and they actually in a weird way became pretty cool with each other out of this which I am not proud of the ending of that night but it worked out in that regard.

Anyway here we are at the end eventually she leaves I wake up the next morning hear all about this apologize and long story short she understood and was cool about it and we proceeded to hang out a few more times I even took her out on an actual formal date and we had sex the second time we hung out she was still on her period it was raw and everything was going good up until the other day. So her texting started becoming dry whereas before she would egg me on to keep texting and I would apologize for sending her so many texts a couple times but she was egging it on and told me not to apologizing that she liked it and then I should keep going. It got to a point where she was barely responding when before she would text me good morning and stuff I was never able to gauge if she was a texting person or not or any of that it was pretty inconsistent the whole time and then the other day she didn't really respond to me at all and I sent her a text saying not again referencing my not so good luck with women lately which again that's another thing me and her had talked about so it wasn't like I just randomly said that and she just pretty much was telling me I just got my own shit and that it's not me it's not me at all she doesn't see anything bad about me and that it's on her and that she has identity issues and post teen issues. Which I'm guessing she means from just turning 20. oh and by the way when we had sex she was already 20 and she had even joked well at least you didn't fuck a teenager. Which made me kind of uncomfortable but also was kind of funny.

One other key thing is that she I don't think is even homeless she just kind of says that which kind of supports my case of she overdramatize her problems. I'm not gonna ever tell her that though because For all i know I'm wrong but that's just what it seems like. And when I say never I mean at least on the terms that we are right now like if I in the future end up dating her and we're really close and stuff then yeah I would tell her stuff like that but I'm just saying reference to like what it is right now. But not yeah she's not homeless she lives with her friend her Homie which is a guy and there's only always guys there. And she even be fighting them I guess I don't think that there's any of the biting included but she's definitely a little bit of a tomboy especially when it comes to that and I'm trying to tell myself that that's all it is because that's all I know I haven't seen anything other I haven't heard anything other to think anything other but you know how it is it's almost impossible to actually fully believe that.

Another key thing is that I think my mom knows more about her life than I do and neither of them tell me any of that but I play a long game I'm very observant I'm definitely more down to earth than both of them again I wouldn't say that to them but like that I know for a fact unlike the overdramatizing her problems thing I know for a fact that I'm more aware than both of them are and I don't think they realize that I'm more aware of that than they think. Like the day I took her on a date I kind of brought up that it feels like my mom knows more about you than me and she was saying something that reassured that but she was trying to think be slick and I don't think she realized how not she was but I didn't say anything further I just peeped it and noted it in my head but even that though felt reassuring in the sense that oh this girl is cool with my mom which I'm not used to.

but yeah now she said that she was going through things and that she didn't know about our status or whatever and that she just has a lot going on and that I should do whatever I think is better for me and that was after me pretty much telling her like hey I'm gonna just give you your space let me know when you don't want space anymore if that ever comes to be and it seemed like she wasn't trying to have me just go dark on her so that's what she responded with do whatever you think feels better and then I gave her what I thought was a very low pressure response saying OK I'm here for you like how much time we need to take or whatever however like just pretty much selling her I'm in her corner and then the next day her response was OK then don't do whatever you want which I completely was thrown off by and then ultimately I just said what I had originally said again that all right I'll leave you alone to figure out what you need to figure out and shit and that's pretty much where we stand right now but that again came out of nowhere this vibe changed came out of nowhere and we only knew each other for like a month I get that but I just don't get this sudden switch consider considering how good it was going. and this wouldn't be the first time that something very similar with girls has happened so even if there's something that you guys see from me that I'm not seeing please let me know because I've noticed the only thing that I noticed is that I'm the common factor when it comes to that I'm pretty sure. I've tried to give the narcissistic explanation of all these girls are the same but it's kind of impossible

and very last thing per her words the status we were on was that we were gonna take things slow and watch it slowly turned into becoming lovers

I don't know but yeah please can someone give me insight and help me out?

i DON’T want to feel this way at all. i don’t know what do to. when my friends want to get into the same music i like, same hobbies, or same style as me. i don’t like having these feelings. i don’t tell my friends to not get into them or anything, i encourage it because why would i act on these feelings? however, i hate feeling them. i don’t know what to do.

i think this is a subconscious thing, i don’t feel truly good at anything, and i’m scared to see my friends have a better understanding of my hobbies, style, and shit like that. all of this has been internal but i’m afraid if i do nothing about it i will eventually burst.

So I don’t exactly know what’s wrong with me but I’m afraid of losing people and I don’t know how to explain it but I get really affectionate with people too quickly and I was friends with this guy right? Let’s call him Jake. I meet Jake on Discord and we started playing Minecraft together and it was so fun we were talking together on call and I had such a great time with him on the first day we talked about everything and I felt like we really clicked. The next day was good, but after that it went downhill. Jake barely talked to me and I didn’t know what to do I felt really sad because I saw him as a brother and I really liked him as a person. (I did not have a crush on him I just really liked him) So that day I randomly asked him “are you okay?” On chat. I didn’t get a reply yet and I feel so embarrassed and I can’t just let it go because I finally have a chance to be close friends with someone and I ruined it because I’m fucking stupid. So then I started crying and I left my house because I kept thinking of people that I lost because of myself. I didn’t have anywhere to go so I walked to school then I walked back. I still felt miserable and lonely and I don’t know what to do anymore and what I should say to Jake. I ruined a perfectly good friendship(friendships actually) and I don’t know what to do anymore and where to go.

I know how this sounds, pathetic. I just cant help but feel jealousy. One of my childhood friends stopped talking to me for no reason years ago. She sometimes goes through spurts of posting on her Instagram. We never unfollowed each other so I always see when she posts. She grew up being chunky but when we grew up a little after she moved, she came back fat and I lost weight so the difference was a little shocking. I only said something once, she laughed so its not like thats the reason we stopped talking. Anyways, after she left she only posted once in a blue moon and her life seemed so boring so I just thought her not talking to me was a mental health thing. Yet she STILL hasn't reached out, but now shes going through a spurt of posting for the first time in awhile and shes having the time of her life. She also lost weight, so i suspect its the drugs. I have no idea what I did, but maybe its for the best. I dont like who she became. Lol just a rant!

Not to be a prude, but I’m tired of every movie having excessive nudity and sex. Especially focusing on just women.

I’m with someone who loves film and I love watching movies with him, but I hate that most movies are full of naked people.

He doesn’t intentionally seek out movies that are sexual, but I feel like a majority of what he watches is borderline pornographic.

It makes me feel insecure, especially when he watches them alone. He always reassures me he doesn’t view the movies in a sexual way, but that does little to make me feel better.

Am I stupid for feeling like this? Or does anyone else feel the same?

I have a habit of sharing every detail of my life with people I trust, whether it's about me or my family. But in the end, I'm always the one sharing everything. When it's the other person's turn, they often say, "I don't share my private things." Every time I hear that, it breaks something inside me.

It always leaves me wondering: Am I a fool for trusting people this much? Or am I just not trustworthy enough for people to open up to me?

Because of this, I've started wanting to change my habit of sharing every little detail of my life. I always end up regretting it later.

I'm not saying people who choose not to share are wrong. Everyone has the right to keep things private. But when they say that to me after I've shared so much with them, it makes me feel like I'm the dumb one for trusting so easily.

Recently, this happened with my boyfriend. I asked him about a part of his past that has always made me feel insecure—something personal about his casual relationships through dating apps. His response was, "I won't share my private things." This wasn't the first time he's said that about this topic.

Again, I'm not saying he's wrong. It's his choice, and I'm not blaming him for wanting privacy. What hurt me was that I've shared everything with him, even things that are deeply personal to me, because I trusted him. Hearing him say that made me feel like I was foolish for being so open while he still feels that some parts of his life should stay private, even with me.

I couldn't stop crying after that conversation.

Has anyone else felt this way? How do you stop oversharing without becoming emotionally closed off? And how do you deal with the feeling that your trust isn't being matched?

It gets deeper in the comments but I was groomed and it made me hurt someone I love, all amends are made but im still haunted by it and doubt im a good person

Hello. I am 17 years old and in a really rough space at the moment.

I have had a lot of bad things happen in my life and i have lost trust for society and people.

I recently joined this discord server in my country (my country is quite small and isolated) and made some friends. It was good at first, sharing banter and having fun. One of the members of the server was slowly getting more and more annoyed by me over time (i am not good at socializing and make a lot of awkward mistakes) and eventually he started insulting me or calling me "it" or "this thing" and it really hurt me.

I eventually got fed up with him and told him that his partner deserves better, and then he went crazy and started bullying me and all of his friends in the server were joining in too.
They all hated me for the mistakes I made also (i find it hard to trust people and always ask if they care about me or hate me repeatedly, and I ask if I should end it all)
I have had a lot of trauma and depression and loneliness and it affects my choices.

I eventually left and they started stalking and harassing me in other servers.

Today one of my friends (now ex-friend) mentioned in the server about some false rumors about me being a zoophile from another server by bullies and now everyone is believing it and making the rumors alive again. Im scared everybody I know might think I did something I never did and never will do because its disgusting and horrible and I dont like being associated with that. They also go to the same conventions as I go to and might confront me there or tell all my friends about something they believe i did when i never did do it.

I feel really sad that a lot of people hate me, and I feel heartbroken that this may affect my reputation for the future and find it hard to make friends or find a partner or people who will care about me.

I have made a lot of mistakes in life and some mistakes have led me to this downfall, but I just want it all to go away. I want it to be over and for people to leave me alone. im scared this might chase me through life forever and everybody will think im something that im not.

if you could talk to me about this and try give me advice, it would mean a lot. thanks so much

Okay so for context, I have a friend we shall call Beth. Beth has been with her man for around a year I have known Beth for 10 years.. Beth and I have hooked up just her and I before and we have had a 3!sum a few times with her ex. It's always been a lot of fun.

Beth and I fell out for a couple years and she recently messaged me asking if I would be down to hang out. While we are hanging out we end up having sex.... Later in the day she asks about a 3 sum with her new dude. I say yes because historically it's always been fun.

The first couple times we were all supposed to meet up her dude never showed and he quit replying. It was weird... I wondered if maybe she lied about having a dude and wanted to see me again?? I didn't know it just seemed sketchy to me the guy asking for it wouldn't show up?

How over the last month I've seen Beth almost everyday. I think I may have actual feelings for her. .I told her the other day I wasn't sure if I could follow through because honestly I am scared to see her with him. She is basically in love and this dude treats her like shit. She doesn't have a lot of confidence I wish she could see how beautiful and special she is. She adds so much happiness to my day.

Well long story short we were all supposed to meet up and I ditched them. I freaked out because I didn't want to tell her why.... But then it got them fighting. He called her a liar and accused her of making me up.

She was sexually assaulted and raped a few years ago. She can do most things sexually but struggles with others.. hence bringing in a female to do what she can't. And hello. That's fucking huge. I wouldn't do that for my man.

It just makes me so mad at him. He broke it off with her After I flaked out.

She is devastated. I went over there tonight and she was hysterical. I ended up telling her the truth which she was happy about and she said she likes me too.

What do I do? I want to go pay this dude a visit. Like in heated. But also I just want her to know she is safe with me and I'll never hold her past over her head.

How would you guys proceed from here?

So question lady’s???? If your man was planning on going out of town for work and he told u over a month ago it was just going to be a week come home for a week and then go back we’ll all of that changed. See he was suppose to be gone this week but it didn’t go that way so now it’s the week coming up ok I knew that! What I didn’t no is he’s going to be gone for 3 weeks straight and he found out yesterday it was changed and didn’t even tell me he was going to be gone for 3 whole weeks till he was on the phone getting his flight booked? Like what is that? Why is he like this? He won’t tell me anything that goes on with him if he’s off on a day I won’t find out till that day n that’s fine but the other time he was off and was getting ready to get his oil changed to his truck when normally I’d no bout an oil change! So he got up showered was brushing his teeth I asked if he worked and it was a no and then told me bout the oil change! And it’s not like this is new with him but he just thinks it’s okay I don’t!!! I mentally have to prepare myself to be comfortable being home without him!

This is the same day different story!! So I’ve been wanting a dog for a couple months I grew up with dogs I’ve always had dogs my last one was 13 the one before that was 10 so at least one! Well I’ve wanted one he says we can’t afford it I no dang well that is some b.s the dog comes fixed and with shots and he makes good money! So I found a way to where I could get a dog for 2 weeks to see if I even want a dog bc I have a baby to! It’s called couch crashing it’s when u can take a dog home for a couple weeks no charge and she came with food!!! Guess what I ran that past him before I brought her home he said fine!! Well when I got to the house he told me the dog was not allowed up stairs!! Huh? That’s where i literally hang out!! In the baby’s room on the floor! And then he just tried telling me he told me this earlier bout not wanting the dog upstairs and he did not he said the furniture! So he just tried to gaslight me! But now the dog will go back and I’ll be alone for 3 whole weeks and I hope and pray when he gets back! I’m able to leave! I have truly had enough! He had the nerve to say I’ve never hit you so I’m that bad!!! I told him I’d rather him punched me in the face bc a bruised face will go away and that would have only been one time the emotional abuse he’s done over there I’d rather been punched lol

Hello, i am 22 years old guy. I just wanna talk about something, that been bothering me, do girls hate nice guys? Why do girls love toxic guys soo much? I just dont know. I wanna change myself soo much in soo many ways an idk how, i never got the idea om what changes to make.I am also a slow learner in everything.Its like i am falling off to depression.And falling apart. Anyway nothing more to say. I hate falling in love

Why would you leave the house in skin tight, neon colored leggings, a sports bra and parade around in the street waiting for a guy to look at you so you can roll your eyes and act like your are so annoyed? If it bothers you that much, why not just put some clothes on and stop walking around half naked?

this summer has so far been the best and worst summer of my life. This is the first summer where i’ve felt like i’ve had a real friend but my friend is leaving for college very soon. Me and my friend have talked nearly everyday of the summer so far, which is great but it’s to the point where when I’m not talking to my friend i get very anxious and it almost makes me nauseous. I’m glad my friend is going to start a new chapter in his life but thinking about him making other friends makes me jealous and i feel horrible for feeling that way and I just wish I could get over that feeling of attachment towards my friend. I still have two more years before I graduate highschool.

Yes, this sounds sweet and innocent by itself, but it's complex in ways that most dont understand. I (19f) have developed feelings for A.C. (21M). He is the nicest man I ever met. He is always telling me I can talk to him if I need, checking in on me, asking if I'm okay, and making me actually feel wanted (which growing up I lacked severely). He's held me and comforted me when I broke down talking about my ex-boyfriend and the shit he did to me, making sure I ate real food after. He will even go out of his way to do something to make me laugh or smile (which he has admitted).
The problem? We are military, and he is my corporal. If anything was ti happen, it would be fraternization, and I don't want to have any negitive paperwork or NJP while I'm so new to the Corps. Do I still like him a lot? Yes, absolutely. Is it smart? Hell no. I thought it was a phase at first, just finally feeling seen and heard, but it just hasnt even faded. If anything, it's gotten stronger. It's made my mind a jumbled mess of feelings and rational thought.

Reddit can u hlp me? Heres context:a dude i dated made someone who am friends with feel like their life is a joke and doesn't care abt them and they r testing a theory which i think it needs someone to die. And am scared. I wish I was joking but it gotten worse so much worse..and broken it off cuz he treated that friend and others badly and srry for showing this if anyone ik but idk where to show it and they r hiding stuff from me so ya..

As always this post has nothing to do with grammar or punctuation so if u don't like it deal with it or don't read.

Context:I'm 18 almost 19 and this post is targeted more towards 40s+

Genuine question: why are grown adults always in the business of young adults or teenagers?
I truly don't understand.?

Like I swear even at 14 grown adults were ALWAYS in my business

At 14 I wore a black sweater and a black ripped baggy jeans and mascara and I got commented on so much with comments like "Oo we got an emo one over here" "do I need to buy you new pants" or ones who would bash me saying I shouldn't be wearing that or I should smile more

At 16 I wore a crop top out shopping and a mom wouldn't leave me alone saying I was too young for that and how she wouldn't let her kids do that blah blah

Or the time like a grown man was trying to argue with me about something and then got mad I told him off for arguing with a child.

I'm 18 now turning 19 as I stated before and still grown men and grown women will not leave me alone especially on Reddit it's truly so strange to me Like I made a post asking a simple question "am I missing anything to pack I can't take a whole lot" and went on to list everything I was bringing and some 50 year old mom was in my business being like "oh u shouldn't be leaving ur parents your too young" "and then kept asking a bunch of questions trying to get in a business then basing me when I said it wasn't her business
Just because I post part of a story doesn't mean I'm obligated to post the whole story
And it's obviously not just me

I seen a young mom about 24 her kid was like 6 and she was playing with like makeup from Claire's and a 40 year old mom was bashing her saying she's a bad mom for doing that and her kid is too young it's kids makeup dude..?? and she's acting like the kid was wearing heavy makeup or wearing makeup from Sephora like what

And another girl who was autistic she was about 10 her mom posted a video of her getting a squishy and so many grown adults were bashing the mom and the daughter for wanting a squishy the girl was a child..?
And it was ONE squishy id understand a TINY BIT better if the mom got her like 5 but it was ONE squishy..? Plus yall act like yal! didn't freak out over stuff as a kid or collect things like what??

It's truly so weird to me

Im 22F. I wake up crying, take 3 lorazepams then gts and repeat. I’m so pathetic. I feel misunderstood by literally EVERYONE and that even sounds corny to myself . I’m the miserable person. I’m the one always complains. I’m the one you can never make happy. I don’t know what I want. I have a secret individuality complex for some stupid reason when I’m not the interesting or special . I think I’m smarter than I am. I’m a bitch. I’m the most cynical person ever.and it’s so hard to try to think past where I’m at when I’m so isolated.

Which I honestly like about myself sometimes it keeps me safe. But not when I’m being jealous or overreacting. That’s not being bitch that’s throwing a tantrum.

I feel just here. For no reason. I’m nothing special. No special looks for sure. no special talents. Not even a cool personality. I talk so much once I get the chance to. And then No one likes what I have to say. My whole life. No matter how much I change . And ppl tell me I’m cute. But it obviously doesn’t matter. Im never loved only liked enough. Never the center of a room. My whole entire life I’ve been … okay. Just ok. I don’t even know what I like or want. Ofc no one wants to be around me.

I don’t know what I’m doing or where I’m going and I’m terrified. But I’m honestly at my lowest and to tired. I give up. My life will be just a basic low income statistic. With the state of the world it almost seems stupid for someone like me to expect anything more than I have. My worst fear is already here.
And I don’t want empty words of encouragement. I don’t think anyone understands me. Not even a little. And maybe that’s selfish to want but I just mean a little tiny bit . But I don’t understand myself either I wish someone else did.

I want to finally share what happened to me probably a little over ten years ago:
I was physically attacked by a crazy older couple who drugged and violated my sister. She called me and the rest of our immediate family (my dad from another neighborhood, and myself, mom, and brother all who lived with my sister who had recently been hired as a server by these people) in the middle of the night begging us for help. We all received separate, desperate, hysterical phone calls and we could tell she was under the influence of something. We all arrived at this pizza shop after hours to get her. The man unlocked the door and let us in. She was completely belligerent and the older couple who owned the restaurant were visibly intoxicated but trying to convince her to get off the floor and leave with her family. She was acting insane and resisting us. While we were trying to get control of her, out of left field, the older woman grabbed me by the hair and there was a brawl. None of us at any time showed any aggression towards these people before this woman attacked me.
I couldn't get this woman off me. My mom was on her trying to get her off me too. I pleaded with her to please let go saying we were going to be here all night. I was exhausted. I could barely breathe. I pushed my fingernails into her face but it didn't hinder her at all. I was stuck. My dad and the male owner started scuffling on the other side of the restaurant. My brother called the cops from outside and when they showed up, we all went out to the sidewalk to talk to them. After seeing the condition of my sister, who was now rolling in piles of garbage bags on the curb like a dying animal, they didn't call an ambulance. They didn't offer to take an official statement from any of us. We told them exactly what happened and why we were all there and they accused us of showing up in a gang to beat two people up. They threatened to arrest us for trespassing even though the predatory couple had unlocked the doors to the restaurant for us and led us in to collect my sister. That was the exact moment I realized cops are useless. I had been so relieved to see them arrive. After 15 mins of this woman holding onto my hair, I thought the good guys were there to save us all. Instead of helping, they accused of us instigating the fight. They saw that the older woman had marks on her face that I had made while trying to push her away from me. They claimed this proved I was the aggressor. Meanwhile I was combing my hair with my fingers and removing what she had detached from my scalp. I was then asked if I wanted to press charges and I said yes. They then told me that if that was my final decision they would arrest me and my whole family. I considered it for a few seconds and looked at each my family member's horrified, pleading faces then said then forget it.
We went home and the violent predators faced no consequences.
It took years but I finally overheard my sister discussing some the details of what she remembered the couple doing with her in the basement in the restaurant that night and they were extremely graphic and disturbing.
After the incident, I was in complete shock and in a very poor mental state for months. I felt there was nothing I could do about any of it. I realized no one is looking out for us. We are all unsafe.

The two cops that changed my entire outlook on law enforcement that night were from the 111th precinct in Queens.

Hi, I’m 26F and recently I’ve been going through a lot of complicated feelings. Being friendzoned by a good friend and then finding out they have feelings for my sister… 🥲
If anyone is willing to listen, I would greatly appreciate it. <3

I never knew waiting for someone could hurt this much.
Every notification makes my heart stop for a second. Every time my phone lights up, I secretly hope it’s him. It never is.
I’m terrified of waiting for his reply because I already know what it’s going to be. Or maybe there won’t be one at all. Somehow, both possibilities hurt equally.
I keep checking snapchat even though I know there’s nothing waiting for me. It’s like my brain refuses to accept what my heart already knows. I tell myself, “Stop checking,” and five minutes later I’m looking again.
I don’t think people realize rejection can become physical. My chest feels tight all the time. My stomach is in knots. I can’t focus on work, I can’t sleep properly, and sometimes it genuinely feels like I can’t breathe.
Everyone says, “Move on.”
How?
I don’t even have the energy to imagine meeting someone else. Loving him took everything out of me.
The last conversation we had plays on a loop in my head. Every word. Every pause. Every sentence.
He told me his answer would never change.
I don’t know why that wasn’t enough for me to let go. Sometimes I wonder if I have any self-respect left at all.
The thing that broke me the most was when he said I’d never added anything to our friendship.
I still don’t know how to process that.
Maybe I cared too much. Maybe I became obsessive. But I tried so hard to make him happy. I remembered everything about him. I worried about him. I was always there. Maybe I wasn’t perfect, but I loved him in every way I knew how.
And somehow… it feels like none of it mattered.
He also used to tell me that I confused him, that it felt like there were two different versions of me. Lately I’ve started wondering if he’s right. One part of me knows I should walk away with whatever dignity I have left. The other part is still desperately waiting for his reply, convincing itself that maybe this time he’ll understand me differently.
I don’t know how to stop being this person.
I don’t know how to stop waiting.
I just know that this is the saddest I’ve ever been