Are my parents whack or am I being dramatic with them??
Colour guide:
Purple = me
Black = my older brother
Pink = my SIL
Red = my fiance
Blue = my baby
Yellow = my oldest brother
Alright so some back story on this. I live about 3.5hrs away from my family as it worked for us & my fiance got work & I can stay home with my baby full time & we can afford to live in a nice house out here. I didn’t know I was pregnant when we moved. Anyways fast track to recently, my baby is now 4 months old & we don’t visit out there much. We can’t. It’s really hard to travel constantly with a baby. Idk if anyone here has done it, but our 3.5hr trip becomes almost 6hrs & it’s exhausting. We try to fit in all the visits we can in one weekend, but it’s hard to. We spend the nights mostly at my in-laws because my fiance has a spine fusion so he needs an orthopaedic bed. Anyways. We went out last weekend as it was the last weekend my fiance could go out before harvest season & we had made arrangements to meet with my parents at their house in the city (they were 40 mins away at the cabin) & we have a hard time giving ETAs cause.. again… travelling with a baby so there’s lots of variables. I let them know around when we were planning on leaving in the morning about a day in advance, then my mom messaged me that they made other plans with my brother & his lady instead. Keep in mind my brother lives about 3 mins from my parents & they see them literally all the time… we don’t because AGAIN… travelling with a baby is hard. So I was hurt because it’s their grandson & I thought they’d be excited to come out & see him & spend an afternoon with him before we headed to my in laws. Guess not. So about a week later I messaged my mom PRIVATELY saying that I was kind of hurt that they cancelled on us to make plans with my brother & his lady instead & mentioned that we can’t visit much & that we don’t want them feeling left out when we visit so we really wanted to see them so they could spend time with the baby. She didn’t take it well & victimized herself so bad in that convo. Anyways here’s how the convo went today a few days later. Absolutely ridiculous. Idk what to do. Also for back story, we were JOKINGLY calling my parents “coocoo & poopoo” (inside jokes) & I guess it offended her even tho she was playing along with it at the time. Like he’s 4 months, it’s not that serious.
Also another thing to note is that my in laws visit our here quite a bit. My FIL works & my MIL doesn’t, but they still come out 1-2x/month so we see them that much + when we visit. My parents r both retired & have nothing going on. So with that too. Before I went to the hospital I had it out a bit with my mom because we have 2 dogs & 2 cats & needed someone to come out & take care of them when we were in the hospital until we got home as the hospital was an hr away from us. I was tryna see if my parents could possibly come out as theyre the most reasonable choice for BOTH not working & having nothing else going on. We got keys cut for both sets of parents. Anyways she eventually just “gave in” & said to message them to come. My in laws gave me no issue when I asked if they could come out in case we needed them to, so ofc while I’m in labour & in pain & it’s our first baby so we’re stressing, we go the stress free route & ask my in laws to come out. I ended up needing a c-section & was in the hospital for 3 days so it’s a good thing they came out & stayed at ours. They even came to visit in the hospital. & then they stayed until I was able to get out of bed on my own (extra 3 or 4 days). So that was really nice. No issues. They were so helpful with everything in those recovery days. I always had a feeling that my mom felt jealous of it all & she indirectly basically said she did in this chat & our private chat. Like. Anyways. I feel like I’m talking to a wall whenever I talk to her & im tired of it. Any feedback is appreciated!
Edit**
-I would like to add that I’m slightly autistic & have always had problems with my words, especially regarding affection towards people that aren’t my baby & fiance. & im not a hugger. Never really have been.
-the 20-30 mins calls r with my older brother who she sees & talks to alllll the time (he calls her a MINIMUM of 4x a day & then they text all day. He’s 25.)