r/actuallesbians

I was really upset. I liked this creator, because she translated a lot of comics, ran a whole site for arts and merch

Recently I checked her channel and boom - a massive wall of text, criticizing omegaverse, saying she bans this genre and finishing it with "woman = vagina, men = penis". There were a lot of reactions supporting her. I checked comments, hoping someone would argue and call out her transphobia, but people only started spouting stupid crap about "men erasing biological women"! And I thought this was a safe space :(

I was so pissed off, left the group immediately. Transphobia, especially inside queer community, makes my blood boil! Really nasty to attack other minorities

I'm so glad spaces like this subreddit exist, without dumb bigotry

…and the serious underrepresentation of them? Mainly on social media. Every lesbian-related meme, photo, etc. I see has to do with either having a girlfriend, having a crush, meeting girls…what about the lesbians who are perfectly content & happy being single? Who are not looking for a partner? Why can’t lesbians just be lesbians without attaching the idea of a partner to it? It just feels kind of similar in the way that straight women are told they’re “nothing without a man.”

I just want to talk about loving women in general! Not one particular woman…just women loving women!

Whenever I get with someone I always try to fix bad mental habits that ultimately lead to my partner’s unhappiness. I do this because I genuinely care and want to help and want my partner to be happy but this is what always happens: my partner feels like in a therapy session whenever they try to share something personal instead of getting the emotional comfort they need. I always provide solutions instead of comfort and I don’t know how to stop because simply validating my partner’s feelings feels useless and I KNOW the solution (or at least i feel like i know it).

I’m asking people who have been on the receiving end of someone trying to fix them: what do you actually need in moments of emotional distress and what can your partner actually do to help??

I love WOMEN. SO. SOO. MUCHHH.
and trans women are women.
Thus
I love trans women!!!!! TIL THE DAY I DIE BEOTCH!!!!
I will always fight for you!!!
LOVE,
A LESBIAN
💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

^title

My gf is going on a business trip for 2 weeks and I literally bought a whole bottle of her signature perfume so I can spray it on my stuffed animals and make them smell like her.

Holding onto something that reminds you of the person you love while in their absence is peak lesbian yearning to me…

Hey guys just need peoples opinions!

Before I start this, IM NOT GOING TO DATE THIS GIRL CAUSE OF AGE DIFFERENCES.

Okay so, I recently told this girl I’ve been friends with for a couple months that I date women. She’s been open about her same sex attraction from the get go, but I just never shared that part of myself for my own reasons.

Anyway, I came out to her about a week ago, and she keeps asking me the same questions about what I like in a woman, ESPECIALLY how young I’d go. I just turned 22 and she turned 18 earlier this year.

I don’t think I could morally date a freshly 18 year old at my age, but what do you guys think this means? Is she genuinely just curious or is she trying to scope out if she has a chance??

Pleaseee let me know if I’m reading too much into it.

Thanks guys :)

I've been posting quite a bit here the past month, I've been trying to push myself to be more open about myself outside of my close friend group, to feel more comfortable calling myself a lesbian and a trans woman in public (albeit online) spaces. As a massive shy introvert and Autistic, this has been really difficult for me to do, especially because of groups like Reform and the UK Government making harder and harder to be openly Trans here.

It's been really nice seeing so much positively, seeing other lesbians happy and feeling wanted. I wish I had the confidence to come out to my parents and make the big steps, but this reddit has really helped me with my confidence so I'm hoping I can do it soon.

Thank you!

I haven’t experienced a breakup yet. I get why someone would be upset if they get broken up with but are still in love with the person. But I don’t why someone would be upset when THEY break up with their partner when their needs are not anymore, when they don’t love the person anymore and they are not happy around them anymore. I don’t get how someone can break up with their partner for valid reasons and still be depressed about it.

im making a post about this because itll help me feel better writing down my feelings about this, and hearing from other transmasc lesbians. also i think a post like this may help those confused about transmasc lesbians understand a little more 🫶! reminder that it is ok to be confused about something and ask questions as long as you are respectful

i know that sounds contradictory as an identity, but itll make more sense by the end of this post

im going to explain it in this order: a little bit abt lesbian history → my gender → me being a lesbian and how it connects to my gender

so, history. nonbinary lesbians have ALWAYS been a part of lesbian history, and have always had a huge role in it (we would not be here like this as a community without them). the definition of ppl who are not men being attracted to those who are also not men is not a new definition, there just may not have been the proper words/understanding to describe it previously. but contrary to what some people believe, being lesbian ≠ binary women loving binary women (though it can be for certain individuals and thats ok! but thats not the sole definition of lesbian). even within the same label, different people experience attraction differently

my gender is nothing. i am agender. my gender is not male or female, and it doesnt lean in either direction. i do kind of have a gender, its just neutral, kind of like a flavorless gelatinous cube. it exists in a way that doesnt exist, and doesnt exist in a way that exists. my gender is just nothing is the best way i can describe it. i am not a man, not all transmasc people are men. i want to present fem in how i dress and socially, but i want a masc body because it would make me more comfortable. i dont feel that my body is related to my sexuality, especially as someone who is asexual. so in summary, my gender is nothing, id prefer a masc body, and i want to present myself in a feminine manner.

now how that relates to me being lesbian. my gender is nothing, and does not lean either way, but i still feel a connection to feminity. i still feel feminine as a person, and my attraction to women and nb people feels inherently fem in nature, especially due to the connection i feel to being feminine. so basically, i am not a man, i feel connected to feminity, and i experience attraction to women and nb people in a feminine manner, and i am not attracted to men. therefore, the best way to describe myself is that im an nb lesbian who would just feel more comfortable in a masc leaning body. idk if im gonna keep my breasts or not, well see lol? i am going on t

im glad i figured myself out :3

hi all!

i identify as a lesbian, & discovered this in 6th grade. i've had my share of crushes and unhealthily intimate friendships, but i have never dated or had sex with another person. i am currently starting my freshman year of college and have been meeting all kinds of people and i am genuinely looking to actually explore my lesbian identity ... hookup culture is pretty standard for a lot of college life, you hear about it a LOT - but how in the hell do you hookup as a woman with another woman?

for example, heterosexual people can easily fuck on a whim w/ strategically placed box of condoms with no regard for prep like gay men, or extra equipment like us ... of course, i'm aware that you definitely don't need to have a strap or toys to have a great time having sex with another woman (or anyone for that matter), but i am quite interested in exploring strap-ons & topping.

what i'm trying to say is where do i even begin to prepare for safe sex & sex in general with a girl? like, do i have a drawer of dental dams like heteros do w/ condoms? do i buy a strap and have it in my dresser for situations like so? LMAO help 😗