Can a trans woman use label "lesbian"?
Saw a post about excluding trans women from lesbian spaces, if they still have male genitals. And if a woman wants to date and have sex with trans woman without bottom surgery, she's bi and not lesbian. The main argument I hear is that lesbianism based on being attracted to sex and not gender.
I am myself a lesbian. I think it's totally fine, if a trans woman uses therm "lesbian", as much as I think it's okay if you have preferences to date only trans or cis people. For me it's like having a type, if you're not spreading hate.
I'm curious to hear people's opinions.
UPD: woah, first of all, thanks for all your comments! really made me think over some stuff that i've been told. i decided to add some context, because my post really sounded like ragebait. my apologies!
so, as i said, i'm a lesbian. recently i've been talking to a trans girl and i think i got a little crush on her. she's really nice, gorgeous and brave. but we drifted apart, one of the reasons was her words about thinking that she's not into girls and she's not wlw. the whole situation made me kinda doubt my sexuality. also the fact that when i bring up trans women in conversations about lesbian spaces, a lot of lesbians around me say that it's "erasing lesbian community" and that we're being oppressed by trans people more than gay men. that's why i wanted to ask here, instead of continuing the debating with cis people around me.
sincerely sorry if i made someone uncomfortable with this question!