I have a question why do people transition. I mean I kinda get it. Almost even man wants to be a woman but still why? I mean always wanted to be a woman since I was little, like most people I assume like a said above but still why. Can anyone explain
Preface: This is about American media's obsession with trans women and I'm asking as a non-American, so my knowledge of what the reality of things are there might be a bit ignorant.
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Pretty much the title, whenever I see a debate or a news article or a social media post the focus is always on trans women and the ways they apparently 'disrupt' society. Be it in sports, bathrooms, prisons, or dating, they always seem to be the target.
I’m telling my friend that being trans is not a choice, but he keeps on denying. Even when I most sources say that it’s not a choice he keeps on denying and denying. How do I tell him he’s wrong.
I’m Ftm20 and Mind you, my name in the system is not updated. But when I got the email that we would be living together I jumped the gun and immediately introduced myself as my chosen name as well as gave her my Instagram. But meeting me I guess she was confused bc after the fact she knocked on my door asking “you’re a guy right?” And telling me she didn’t know what to do bc her dad’s conservative about stuff.
So I just said I was a guy and now her parents want her to move out. I don’t think me telling her would have changed anything. Because I still pass as a guy and If she doesn’t know I’m trans to her parents who don’t seem the most knowledgeable will still see a guy.
I feel a bit guilty but I was quite literally forced into a corner. So AITA?
Hi, so I’ve been on HRT for 2 years and 6 months, and basically I’m stuck at about a Tanner stage 4 after adding progesterone. Overall, I’ve been lucky with boobs, but they still look kind of underdeveloped, and I’ve been thinking about a ba but I’m also worried none of my clothes will fit after.
I asked my friend who’s been on HRT for 7 years if they keep growing, and she told me no, and that’s why she got a BA.
I think starting age changes it a little, she started at 29 and I started at 18, but I still missed the main puberty window, and I’m worried that stunted my growth.
When I came out to my mom as trans, she said two things that specifically apply to this question.
1: “No doctor is gonna put you on estrogen after only considering being trans for 3 months”
2: the quote in the title.
Im MTF, and I feel like I have done enough thinking, research, and experimentation to understand that I am trans. I’ve already had my egg cracked and opened. I have looked at almost every possible negative of being trans and none of it has scared me away. I enjoy being a girl and I know that.
But does she have a point? Do I really have to have thought about this for some arbitrary amount of time before I can even socially transition, let alone get on HRT?
For background, I am a lesbian, currently married to another lesbian, but my ex-husband was a transman. I like to think of myself as very accepting and inclusive, and always want to be a safe place for people.
We had a contractor in today that did great work. She was very kind and communicative and she taught me a ton. She had a male apprentice with her so collectively I would just says “you guys are doing often”. Yes, I know I should be better with my language in general; it’s a work in progress.
Anyway after they left my wife commented about how we’ve had good luck getting LGBT contractors lately (which is true, and I love it). But I was confused - what LGBT contractors did we have today? My wife points out that the contractor was a transwoman. And it turns out she was.
So I feel HORRIBLE that I kept just saying “guys” so casually the whole time not even realizing and am so worried that she thought that I was purposely misgendering her.
I immediately went online to give them a good review to the business and specifically mentioned her with she/her pronouns in hopes that she will see it and realize I wasn’t trying to be an asshole, just ignorant. Cry.
If you’ve been in this type of situation, did you assume that the person was just using ‘guys’ in a gender-neutral way, or did I probably offend her? She didn’t outwardly appear offended but I feel so guilty now.
I know this question has been asked over a trillion times, especially in the subreddit. Don't worry, I've read a lot of them, and it always ends with the same conclusion. Everyone is very supportive and really thinks the the OP is trans. I'm not here really looking for any sort of answer, but I really just want to see what actual people of this community think. Every time I've told someone about this, they always end up being supportive and saying "You're so close to finding out!". However I really don't think that I'm trans. I'm happy they're supportive but I think they have the wrong idea here. Sometimes I wish I was a girl because I think it would make me happy and it would just feel cool to me. I want to have long hair and be pretty and dye my hair a cool color. (I also think I like the outfits associated with the gender even though if I was a girl I'd still wear track suits 24/7). I kind of like when people online refer to me as she or her even though I'm not a she. This doesn't mean I don't like my body or that I hate being born male, but I just think some days I would've liked to be born a girl. It's not like I have gender dysphoria or want to crawl out of my skin, but I would probably be happier if I was a girl. I'm still perfectly happy being a guy though. I hope this made sense
I scroll on TikTok a lot when I'm bored, and lately I've been noticing a pattern with some of the videos I've been seeing...
Usually, it's a passing, conventionally attractive trans woman, and she goes
“What transphobes think trans women look like”
*shows a bunch of crossdressers/transphobic wojaks*
(Or in worse cases, actual non-passing trans women)
and then...
“What trans women ACTUALLY look like”
*shows herself or famous trans public figures being conventionally attractive and passing*
It shouldn't have to be said why this is problematic but just to clarify, I am a trans woman, I've been on HRT for 1.5 years, I've had 10 sessions of laser and I look so much more like the crossdressers/transphobic wojaks used in those videos than the passing, conventionally attractive trans women posting these things.
Some of us will never pass. Some of us will never be conventionally attractive. I know for sure I never will. Not all of us have the money or the privilege to look pretty and feminine in the way that society defines...
I get why they post these kinds of videos, but ultimately all it does is reinforce the idea that you have to be passing and conventionally attractive to be valid as a trans women, and that non-passing ones are somehow "fake" or not woman enough.
I understand that privilege blinds people in many ways, but I wish passing, conventionally attractive trans women understood that trying to lift themselves up by shitting on the rest of us is harmful.
And this isn't just a trend on TikTok either... I've seen this kind of stuff on Twitter too and pretty much all social media platforms.
Today a lady asked me if I had a cigarette, I said no but as I was leaving she asked me.
But instead of answering ''I'm a Woman'', I just didn't answer and walked straightforward.
It's not that I'm ashamed of who I am but I'm scared of people's reactions if I tell them. Like surely some would be positives but a lot would be negatives, right?
I just don't know If I can handle something hurtful or transphobic when I don't have a direct mean to escape or isolate myself.
Should I have responded or should I have just stayed quiet? What would you have done? Would you respond to someone that you see a lot like a cashier or a bus driver?
If the title doesnt explain it, an example would be: having consistent thoughts/fantasies about being the other gender. I've seen a few of these and was collecting some more for personal issues and general reasoning, as there isn't one way to find out if you're trans. Thanks!
Basically the title.
How did you tell your parents/parent/legal guardian that you were transgender?
And how did they react?/ What happened after?
I've heard some horror stories as well as some fairytales and would like to hear from actual trans people.
I 22 (AMAB) always had a relationship with porn , particularly trans porn, force femme, femboy etc. I can’t remember how I fell into it, but I’ve consumed for the last 4 years, it never was a dependency , I could go a week or 2 without consuming and be completely fine.
In the last 2 years I began to consider why I like that, I am bisexual but when I watch it I picture myself as the woman not the top. I began experimenting with cross dressing, which eventually led to me posting femboy NSFW content online, which I garnered some moderate attention from. The feeling of happiness I got from being complimented for being pretty completely eclipsed any complements I got associated with my male presentation .
I’ve been porn free for 4 months now, I haven’t posted but I do miss it. I did this to remove the sexual aspect to consider whether I am trans or not. I still have a heavy desire to transition but I wonder if I had never watched this porn would I actually feel this way ?
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I am convinced that.. GOD HATES ME! God despises me. Proof? Oh sure, he made me a girl and trapped me in a females body when I'm male! To make it even worse? He gave me Autism.. (With Undiagnosed ADHD symptoms) Even worse? He made me short! (Slightly under 5'0) AND he made me look horrendous. I am convinced he put some sort of curse on me.. I hate my body and my life with it. I'd do anything to be a boy. (Teen FtM here)
Hi so recently I watched "I saw the tv glow" and I wanted to know you how did you know you were trans. I guess I'm just curious, I found my sexuality from horror movies and TV shows. PS I'm gay and not trans. But I love my trans sisters and brothers 🩵🤍🩷
I've posted before but I'm cis f and I've been with my boyfriend (using he pronouns because he's not come out yet) for nearly 2 years. We're both 18
I know when he was about 11 he came out as trans and he socially transitioned and was a girl for about 3 years then he started a new school as a boy, cut his hair real short and everything. He did keep the name he went by and it's the name he has now because it was more a nickname and it's now his legal name
He's bisexual and a lot of people think he's gay because of his mannerisms
When I first posted he constantly called himself a lesbian and said little things but then got super defensive if I said anything, I've left him alone and not pushed him in any way but he's grown his hair out and he's still making little comments mostly when he's drunk
He said once that he's too feminine for a guy but not enough for a girl and then the big one yesterday we were drinking and he randomly asked if id get the ick if I knew he was wearing a thong the other day and I said no but then he said he didn't “because itd be weird” and he was just rambling mostly about how he feels like a girl and he wants to wear a bra but by that point it was extremely late and he was so drunk and it was the two of us then he's only said this to me
He also mentioned how he’s taking a gap year this year and going to uni next year and said in sort of a joking way that it’d be funny to go next year as a girl and fool everyone that he’s cis but then he said he was joking but people probably would think he’s a girl at first because of his hair (which has already led to him being called she in shops)
Do I bring it up? How do I help him? We’re in the UK which isn’t the best place for trans people
I’ve been wondering about something and I hope it’s okay to ask. I’m genuinely curious about how different trans people feel about this.
If you could have magically chosen, from birth, to be born cisgender as the gender you identify with—for example, a trans woman being born a cis woman—would you personally have preferred that? Or would you still choose the experience of being transgender, knowing everything it entails? Is the fact that you started in one place and ended up in another important to you? Or would you sometimes prefer to have started out as the gender you identify with from the very beginning?
Maybe a dumb question. I know it may be a personal preference but I was wondering if I keep taking it forever or could I stop whenever I get to a point I like myself enough w/o surgery? Everything says that my body won't revert back so it feels possible to stop nut idk if that has negative effexts or if there long lasting benefits to taking it for 20+ years?
I have been on and off for about 4 years. So I don't plan on stopping anytime soon.
So today I have come to the conclusion that I will be starting hormones and for the longest time I always thought this was just a kink until just a few days ago I won’t go to deep into it but I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s actually who I am, now to get to the point one of the things that initiated me thinking there’s actually a chance this isn’t just a kink is remember something that I did when I was a child. Back in 5th grade before I thought of anything sexual and I was just a innocent little kid I’d stuff my shirt to have fake boobs because tbh I was jealous of all the girls and I wished I had some and now that felt like true gender dysphoria and I took a deep dive and now I’m so happy to have a clear mind. But anyway this is kind of a stupid post ik but have any of you had that moment?