Am I transphobic? (Full version because I didn't know how to use this b4)
I am 17f and have an online friend I'll call her sammy she's trans her gender was a he and now she prefers we call her a she I don't mind that at all. Sammy sends me her pic in dresses I think she looks cute but then she sent me a pic of her in underwear and bra it freaked me out and she hasn't transformed yet I moved past it even though it was a bit uncomfortable then the pics got worse so I told her not to send me any but she did not listen so I ghosted her and deleted my account (I know what I did was bad) then created a new account and she followed me there too and we are friends now again.
So my parents are super religious and hate online friends concepts. I was on a call with sammy when my mom heard her voice it was still a bit manly so later she asked who it was, rather telling her it was a friend from my uni I told her it was my online friend and since she heard her voice she went bonkers to save myself I told her my irl friend introduced me to her (which is true) and they lost faith in her
Now sammy is coming to my town and I don't know how to meet her she hasn't transformed yet so she still looks like a guy and my parents hate when I meet with guys and my real life friend will be there too who they don't trust so I don't know what to do and how to meet her and since all of this is so stressful i just feel like I should just not meet her (btw I still live under my parents roof so I can't disobey them yet) (am I transphobic for not wanting to meet her?)