u/StopBeingStupid2022

Okay, so I need to tell someone because I think it's funny.

(I trained my legs yesterday and got sore muscles.)

My gf and I got intimate when we woke up, and when she got down on me, my leg cramped (the cramp also got to my hip), and my body decided to close my legs, so her head was in-between my thighs haha. Thankfully, we just laughed it off.

I also sneezed an ex on her inner thigh before because I couldn't move back fast enough haha (It was one of those sneezes that come so fast you can't even do anything).

What are your funny accidents if you have some?

I've been thinking about getting my nipples pierced for a while now, but I've heard from several people that they lost some or even all sensation in their nipples afterward.

Has anyone here experienced that? Or maybe you had reduced/no sensation at first, but it eventually came back?

I'd really appreciate hearing about your experiences. Thanks! :)

Btw I put a NSFW tag on it just in case. 🙌🏻

A friend of mine who is straight really wants to sleep with a woman because, in her own words, she "just wants to try it."

That's completely her choice, but she keeps asking me if I'd do it with her.

I've already told her several times that I'm not interested in sleeping with her, but she keeps bringing it up anyway. Maybe it would be different if I found her physically attractive, but I don't. I've also been completely honest with her and told her that I like her as a friend, but I don't find her sexually attractive.

At this point, it's honestly getting really frustrating that she keeps trying.

I've even suggested that she check out dating apps because there are definitely women who are interested in sleeping with straight women who want to experiment.

I know she's asking me because we already know each other and she trusts me, but that doesn't change the fact that I'm simply not interested.

What would you guys do?

BTW, English is not my first language 😬 Sorry if there are any mistakes.

My brother (29) and I (27) had a really difficult childhood filled with domestic violence and emotional neglect. As you can probably imagine, it really messed us up. We both struggled with addiction, but we've both been sober for several years now. ❤️‍🩹

Over the past few years, I've learned a lot about psychology, and I can understand why my father is the way he is and why my mother is the way she is. However, I can't forgive my father for the way he treated us. I have a good relationship with my mom. They are separated.

For some context: I moved about 350 km away when I was 18, so my brother and I don't see each other very often.

Now to the main issue:

As you might expect after everything we went through, my brother has a lot of emotional and personal struggles. He was really cruel to me when we were kids, but he seems to have forgotten how badly he treated me.

Over the past few months, he has also started taking our father's side. He says our father wasn't as bad as I remember him being. He even makes me feel guilty for the way I see our father and for not wanting any contact with him, even though my brother himself cut contact with him for some time.

A few months ago, my brother wanted to talk about our childhood. At the time, I was in a very bad mental state and simply wasn't able to revisit those memories. I asked him several times to stop talking about it, but he got angry and kept going anyway, even though he knows how painful that topic is for me.

I have PTSD and depression because of my childhood. I can't always talk about my past because it can seriously worsen my mental health for days or even weeks afterward.

Another issue is that my brother is very easily influenced by people who aren't good for him. I think some of his newer opinions come from the people he spends time with because he wasn't like this before.

Over the past year or two, I've noticed that he has started expressing a lot of right-wing views and anti-LGBTQIA+ opinions. I'm part of the LGBTQIA+ community, and many of my friends are too, so hearing those things is really painful.

What finally pushed me over the edge was that he voted for a far-right party. He genuinely doesn't understand why I have a problem with that. I can't even have a calm conversation with him about politics or his anti-LGBTQIA+ views because he immediately becomes defensive and aggressive. He sees any disagreement as a personal attack instead of a discussion.

He's deeply unhappy with himself, and he often takes that out on other people without even realizing it.

I'm even nervous about bringing my girlfriend (she's half Turkish) to visit my mom and stepdad because there's a chance my brother will be there too. I don't think he would say anything directly to her, but knowing his views makes me uncomfortable. I don't want my girlfriend to feel unwelcome, and I know I'd be constantly on guard, which would change the whole atmosphere. She doesn't know about his political views because I rarely talk about my family.

Honestly, if he weren't my brother, I wouldn't choose to have someone like him in my life.

I don't feel like I can cut contact completely because I know it would hurt my mom, even though she herself stopped talking to one of her brothers because they don't get along.

So... am I wrong for not wanting much contact with my brother?

Sometimes I feel guilty about it, but whenever we've had more contact, my mental health has gotten noticeably worse.