Like I have notice it here on Reddit but also every lesbian in rl I have met so far said their longest relationship has just been 6-12 month max. 😅😅 while I’m such a longterm relationship person, like usually 5-9 years (I‘m 31) 😅😅
That’s pretty much my question. Do have any experience with it?
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I relate a lot with the guy in this podcast! Specifically what he says in the first 35min but also the rest of it is very interesting and would love to hear some thoughts on how others in this community live RA and how you think on different chapters in this podcast 🫶🏼
Where do you agree or not agree with?
What are your experiences?
What do you think about blunt or harsh honesty?
And so on… I’m very curious ☺️
I have been struggling with this my whole life and I feel like an alien in this society, because for me there is literally no difference. Like I love my friends. With some of them I could life together. With some of my friends I can have sex with and with some of them it’s just platonic due to the „natural“ boundaries like them being in a close relationship or being straight and loving just men.
So yeah I keep loosing „friends“ that I really love due to the fact that they would think that I‘m in love with them in a „traditional“ way and they would say that they are just not, what is totally valid, I don’t wanna have a traditional relationship either. But they would get scared or feel pressured or whatever? And finally make me feel like my love to them is wrong, or disappear completely, ignore me etc. and that really hurts, so at the moment I’m totally scared to get close to anyone at all and it feels like I’m not able to make friends, because as soon as I allow myself to get close to the point where I would call someone my friend, that shit would just start over. But this just happens with other lesbians. With men and straight girls I can totally have close friendship and be lovey and caring and do everything for them. But yeah with other single lesbians it has been very difficult to just be friends without them getting weird around me at some point.
Hope it makes sense
Looking forward for your responses. ☺️