Yeah question in the tittle I guess… :)
Edit: no contact, blocking and ghosting is not an option! But thanks I know that no contact works if it’s a for ever no contact, but thats not what I want. 😊
What would happen and what would you do if your QP friend falls in love with someone and gets into a exclusive monogamous relationship at some point?
I am very sure that I am demisexual and Sex favorable by now like that’s Safe! But I’m still struggling finding out of I am aro or demiro. I do know that I do Not randomly Fall in love with a stranger… and I do Not Fall in love with Friends where I have some Personal boundaries like them being 100% straight or in a relationship that’s for sure as well. I do have made the Experience of thinking a lot about a specific friend, wanting to know everything about her, Tell her everything about me as well, deeply wanting to understand her and those Kind of things but that just happends when a girl that I just getting to know and haven’t grew up with her, so I think that’s kinda normal if you are just getting to know someone new… I do feel emotional attraction what can lead to sexual attraction = demisexual. But what I do not have is the desire of being with someone officially in a relationship like with the whole labeling as gf and future thinking of marriage etc. Those are just things that I do not feel or desire at all like I am totally Fine with the Label close friendships and the idea of a QPR or FWB or so I also go with relationship anarchy and relate quite a bit with that cause I really honestly dont care of the Person I am romantically and sexually attracted to has other crushes and Flirts with other ppl not even care of they have other relationships… oh also I actually do not really know or can say what’s the difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship 🤷🏻♀️ like literally same thing for me 😅😅 so what do you guys would say?? Demiro or aro??
Edit: If you have questions that I should ask myself or so that might be helpful as well and id really appreciate 🫶🏼
Edit: I do wanna have a lifepartner and someone to cuddle with while watching a Movie or cooking together, someone who deeply cares about me and wants to keep me actively in their lives, sends me good morning and good Night and those things 😅😅well but like i said i can imagine a QPR or close FWB relationship or so…
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Like I have notice it here on Reddit but also every lesbian in rl I have met so far said their longest relationship has just been 6-12 month max. 😅😅 while I’m such a longterm relationship person, like usually 5-9 years (I‘m 31) 😅😅
That’s pretty much my question. Do have any experience with it?
Podcast Recommendation for those you like Podcast and are still learning about RA:
I relate a lot with the guy in this podcast! Specifically what he says in the first 35min but also the rest of it is very interesting and would love to hear some thoughts on how others in this community live RA and how you think on different chapters in this podcast 🫶🏼
Where do you agree or not agree with?
What are your experiences?
What do you think about blunt or harsh honesty?
And so on… I’m very curious ☺️
I have been struggling with this my whole life and I feel like an alien in this society, because for me there is literally no difference. Like I love my friends. With some of them I could life together. With some of my friends I can have sex with and with some of them it’s just platonic due to the „natural“ boundaries like them being in a close relationship or being straight and loving just men.
So yeah I keep loosing „friends“ that I really love due to the fact that they would think that I‘m in love with them in a „traditional“ way and they would say that they are just not, what is totally valid, I don’t wanna have a traditional relationship either. But they would get scared or feel pressured or whatever? And finally make me feel like my love to them is wrong, or disappear completely, ignore me etc. and that really hurts, so at the moment I’m totally scared to get close to anyone at all and it feels like I’m not able to make friends, because as soon as I allow myself to get close to the point where I would call someone my friend, that shit would just start over. But this just happens with other lesbians. With men and straight girls I can totally have close friendship and be lovey and caring and do everything for them. But yeah with other single lesbians it has been very difficult to just be friends without them getting weird around me at some point.
Hope it makes sense
Looking forward for your responses. ☺️