u/Livid-Law3025

My partner 27f and I 28f got into an argument about my standards somehow that snowballed into her asking me if I am her person. I purposely did not answer because you being my person is not enough. You being my person does not give you a pass to just do anything. I also did not answer because I feel like she would take that and say I should accept because xyz because “I’m her person”. My person is anyone who meets my standards, fulfill my needs in a relationship and is respectful. It doesn’t have to be perfect BUT love is not enough. After that she basically pull the woah is me card and was see I know it I wasn’t your person and someone who wants to marry someone doesn’t say that. I’m confused because I never said she was or wasn’t I said I have a criteria and you can tell me what you can do or not do. If I’m okay with that you’re my person if I’m not okay with that you are not my person.

Am I wrong? I feel like my response was very mature.

My gf and I have been together for 7 yrs. She does this thing where she will start a convo with me and then spend the whole entire time on her phone while we are having a conversation. I’ve approached her about it several times throughout our relationship and she always gives a very dramatic response like I guess I’ll just turn my phone off. I know it’s not cheating or anything but I feel like she’s always zoning out when she talks to me or looks like she can be doing something better but she’s the one initiating the conversations….

I'm a 28F, and I started my first corporate job almost 3 years ago.

About 6 months in, I started experiencing severe mental health issues. At first, I thought it was just stress and that I'd eventually adjust. Instead, it kept getting worse.

Over time, it started affecting my physical health too. My hormones became so dysregulated that I developed acne. I became prediabetic. I developed severe IBS, developed a small bald spot, and minor eye twitcg. My relationship suffered because my mood swings became so intense and I was to irritable.

Eventually, I was crying every single day at work from stress and from how it impacted my physical appearance.

I would wake up 10 minutes before I had to leave, throw my work clothes over my pajamas, quickly wash my face, and head out the door. I stopped doing my makeup. I stopped doing my hair. I stopped expressing myself altogether, and sometimes eating because that require more energy and cleaning.

I gave up my hobbies. I stopped exercising. It became impossible to balance taking care of myself while trying to survive work.

Last December, I went on short-term disability for six months because I was so burned out. I returned to work three weeks ago, and I'm already feeling completely burned out again.

I'm genuinely wondering: does it ever get better? Has anyone recovered from burnout while staying in the same job? What actually helped? Or was leaving the only thing that made a difference?

I'm feeling really lost and would appreciate hearing from people who've been through something similar.

I'm a 28F, and I started my first corporate job almost 3 years ago.

About 6 months in, I started experiencing severe mental health issues. At first, I thought it was just stress and that I'd eventually adjust. Instead, it kept getting worse.

Over time, it started affecting my physical health too. My hormones became so dysregulated that I developed acne. I became prediabetic. I developed severe IBS, developed a small bald spot, and chronic chest tightness, severe brain fog to the point that I forgot out to spell some words, and a minor eye twitch. My relationship suffered because my mood swings became so intense.

Eventually, I was crying every single day at work.

I would wake up 10 minutes before I had to leave, throw my work clothes over my pajamas, quickly wash my face, and head out the door. I stopped doing my makeup. I stopped doing my hair. I stopped expressing myself altogether.

I gave up my hobbies. I stopped exercising. It became impossible to balance taking care of myself while trying to survive work.

Last December, I went on short-term disability for six months because I was so burned out. I returned to work three weeks ago, and I'm already feeling completely burned out again.

I'm genuinely wondering: does it ever get better? Has anyone recovered from burnout while staying in the same job? What actually helped? Or was leaving the only thing that made a difference?

I'm feeling really lost and would appreciate hearing from people who've been through something similar.

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Hi, I am 28F and I am currently learning Brazilian Portuguese and am looking for people to connect with and immersed myself in the culture and language more and hopefully make some friends. W would anyone be interested?

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Hi! My gf 26 and I 28 have been together 7 yrs. We met in college at the time she was 19 and I was 20. Throughout our time together she would bring up how she was a date to marry person. She even comes from married parents and no one in her family is divorced. I on the other hand did not really think of marriage before. ( I had a traumatizing uobringing and never really had the chance to ever think about that).

Overtime I started to really want to marry her and actual saw a life outside of just having a career but things have changed. Now she is saying she is scared and I completely understand that but I am just alittle confused and also upset. She seems to keep moving the goal post on when the right time will be.

First I thought it was maybe our age but them I remembered we are both closer to 30 than 20. But, it was money and then her job. Which I get but she makes great money. I will admit I feel bitter because she requires alot of emotional physical and mental labor. All of our relationship I have been the sole person responsible for bringing up the hard conversations. Even things I see bother her that she should be voicing herself. I feel like I have done way more than what a gf should do and have endured alot of things that I did not have to take on. Ive endured trauma from her friends been in the middle of drama that was not mine etc. And I kind of feel lied to she didnt communicate this throughout the time she just said it recently after almost 8 yrs. And even then she didnt come to me I had asked her about our future going forward after talking to mt therapist about it.

Am I wrong for being juat alittle hurt?

Hi! I am a 28 yr old woman who has been estranged from my family for about 5-6 yrs. Sometimes I feel like a fish out of water. I have been blessed with having gf and her family have taken me in. But, I feel really lonely they are nice people but we are culturally different and no one is like me. No one gets my jokes my struggles my issue my perspective. And they lately it have really affected me I constantly feel like the odd ball out. No one to go to about anything no one to get positive validation from. (I have not heard a good thing about myself in years). I miss familiarity. I look around and I see people that I may know but no one is familiar no one gets me. This didnt bother me for a long time until this year. And I dont know what to do? Does anyone have any advice on how to get rid of this feeling?