r/loneliness

I'm normally not the type to feel lonely. I've been living my live for 25 years, mostly alone. No relationships, no friendships where you would meet up weekly or anything.

I don't know what it is, but after having played this game, I have this sad, pressing, lingering feeling of loneliness. Like I am not living my life, having missed out on so much. It's also sad I have no one I share experiences with. Just simple stuff, like talking about this game or whatever.

The feeling will fade again, I'm sure, but I am still surprise how much this game affected me and how much I could feel connected to it and its characters. How realistic the world was.

That's it, just had to get this out of my system I guess. 10/10 game.

Hi! I’m 31 and looking to meet someone who’s genuinely easy to talk to. I’d love to find someone who enjoys long conversations, has a great sense of humor, and can make even an ordinary day more fun.
I’m drawn to people who are affectionate, emotionally available, and consistent. I appreciate someone who checks in because they want to, remembers the little things, and isn’t afraid to be a little flirty or cheesy. I miss having that person I can text throughout the day, laugh with until we’re both exhausted, and share random thoughts, memes, and stories with.
I love someone who’s witty, playful, can make me laugh when I’m having a rough day, and isn’t afraid of meaningful conversations either. Bonus points if you’re the type of person who can joke around one minute and have a deep conversation the next.
A little about me: I work as a CNA, I have a dark alternative style, I love TV shows, music, and spending time getting to know people beyond surface-level conversations. Loyalty, kindness, and communication mean a lot to me.
Distance doesn’t bother me if we genuinely click. I’m not looking for someone who’s going to disappear after a few days. I’d rather build something real, even if it starts as friends and grows naturally over time.
If you’re around my age (late 20s to late 30s), emotionally mature, enjoy talking every day, and think we’d get along, send me a message. Tell me something about yourself instead of just saying “hey.” I’d love to hear what makes you laugh or what you’re passionate about.

OK, so yesterday was the Fourth of July as everyone knows.

I told myself that I wasn’t going to sit around and wait for anyone to call me is that I will make my own plans and that’s exactly what I did.

Turns out what I said to myself was true and my intuition was correct

No calls from family no calls from friends no calls from anyone and I feel as if it’s been like this for some time.

I have my own business and I allocate a lot of time towards that & I understand that work life balance is not ideal if you want to create something substantial

I just called my mom and she was very nonchalant about it not even giving me an answer on why she couldn’t call me yesterday to even wish me a happy fourth I’ve noticed if I don’t reach out nothing happens This. It was the driving force behind my friendship’s ending, etc..

Do you guys have any advice or should I just have time to take a course?

I’m voice typing this so I hope you guys can understand that my punctuation isn’t completely off

Thank you all

26M looking to chat and friends

I'm currently looking for people 20+ who want to chat or be friends and I'm down to pc gaming or watching movies later down the line but dm me and let's chat and I'd love to talk about anything tho i am looking for long term friendships and possible gaming friends so just keep that in mind and i don't care how old you are just please be over 20+ i don't talk to anyone younger than that also i do have discord

Ich würde so gerne mit Worten, Metaphern beschreiben können. Sobald ich anfange zu beschreiben, fühlt es sich an, als ob 90% von dem eigentlich Gefühl verloren gehen.
Daher würde ich gerne sammeln.
Mit welchen Wörtern, Metaphern, Analogien etc. würdet ihr euer Gefühl von Einsamkeit beschreiben?

Lieben Dank

I'm 22, and lately the loneliness has been hitting me hard. I don't really have anyone to talk to. I don't have close friends, I've never had a girlfriend, and most days it feels like I'm going through everything alone.
I've started regretting a lot of the decisions I've made because I feel like they've led me here. Seeing other people my age hanging out with friends, dating, or just having someone they can call makes me wonder what I did wrong.
I'm not looking for pity. I just wanted to get this off my chest and maybe hear from people who've been in a similar situation.
Thanks for reading.

I have always been alone in my life. And its fine, I love it. Its peaceful and relaxing. No family or friends, cut that out.

Only one thing use to eat me up, finding my soulmate. I spent 16 years of relationships, dating, getting to know women, chase after them, etc. I use to be a hopeless romantic, i use to dream of a mysterious "woman of my dreams", it felt real. But those 16 years of dealing with all kinds of women that never loved me, never gave me a chance, used me, flings, or just wasn't what I sought for has made me just empty. Im done.

I dont care, I dont give a fuck. Ehhhh. I am no longer a hopeless romantic, I dont wanna date, I think i can finally quit trying to find love. I can finally have complete isolation... besides work and stores I guess I gotta deal with those humans 😵😆

But I always wanted to make a new family between me and this "one" person. I can now just peaceful let that all go and be at complete peace.

Maybe my next step is to leave corporate life. Get a very basic job with minal human interaction and just sell all my stuff for a small lil house and be a hermit in the woods.

Not the end of the world, but anyone else feeling a bit lonely?

So I was watching a movie with my bf. He fell asleep. Then, his phone buzzed, I saw it was a message from his friend talking about me. Curiosity got the best of me and I checked what him and his friends were talking about. I saw a message from him that said “I’m tempted to cheat. Why couldn’t I find a girl like that 7 months ago? All my coworkers are starting to have a crush on me.” Then the friend said at least you have a gf like Alyssa. What should I do?

Not that anyone is asking why, but i learned that i was showing symptoms of codependency through a friend

And ever since I've been doing all i can to heal

My boyfriend? Who I've been hurting for far too long by leeching?? I took steps to make things better, but that also make me more alone with myself

I dont really talk to my friends, and so when I got up and into a gc with them i leeched (they dont seem to be affected the same way, personally, intimately affected like my lover was) onto them as well :((

After breaking down at work at least twice i realized that im scared of being alone by myself

I dont know if i can trust myself, and thats so horrifying to me it led to those breakdowns

(I am also on hormones so that probably "helped")

But i got in contact with a therapist, and it might js be the holiday (America day, baby, yay to... this country that hates me :< awesome) but I've noticed that even when she isn't returning my calls, not reaching back out-

Matter a fact, i race to check any notification on my phone, to pull myself away from me

It seems like now that i know the issue, know the fear, and know the consequences of being unhealthy like this

That suddenly its all too real

Im scared of myself

Im not happy

Im dirty and gross

Im further from the boy i love more than ever

And im piss fucking poor

The country hates my kind

My brain hates my mind

All i do is bed rot

For me, it all comes back to one thing

Girlfailure.

Im a fucking perverted unhealthily needy little fucking girlfailure.

I dont wanna hurt like this, i dont wanna be scared like this, and i especially dont want to hurt others like this

Yet i seem to do them all just fine

Fucking girlfailure

Hail satan ❤️

im 17, i do online school and 2 jobs. Everyone at my jobs is older than me and has their own cliques. Since I was 12 i have had not a single friend, no one to hang out with, no one to talk to. Everyday when i get home from work i do nothing, i feel empty. I stare at my wall with a blank face or scroll on my phone watching tiktoks or videos ive already seen. I cant see myself making a friend, or getting a girlfriend for that matter. I don’t think im objectively hideous but i have so many insecurities and i hate myself.

I made some online “friends”, every once in a while i talked in general chat of a discord server or joined vc to play a game, thats all ive ever had, even then ive never been anyones first choice, to talk to anyone I have to be the one to reach out. Online relationships dont feel the same as real friendships i dont think, but i cant remember. I sound dramatic and moody but this is the least dramatic way i can think to describe my situation, i genuinely can’t remember what it feels like to have anyone but me to rely on. its so tiring and i feel so heavy.

I see people online talk about having fake friends, or not “real relationships” and Im jealous of those somehow. I cant find anyone with my experience.

What I wouldn’t give to have somebody near me to just talk to, or just sit with.

I'm 32M with mental health (bipolar) and crippling loneliness!

My hobby is mainly just fitness: nutrition and exercise.

I exercise about 4 times a week, intermittent fast and try to eat keto.

I consume a variety of content on YouTube like podcasts on health, geopolitics, psychology, spirituality, anthropology, etc.

Looking for other neurodivergent folks in the 20s, 30s and 40s age ranges.

Im 23 (f) am struggling with being alone.I have a boyfriend but no friends.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and we had serious talks about an engagement at this time, but now that it’s here he’s saying “In a year or two ” and won’t explain why. We have a good relationship in my opinion. We don’t fight often and when we have we’re able to communicate openly. We live together and spend a lot of enjoyable time together yet, so I’m just not understanding if there is no “reason” why the push back. The only thing that comes to mind is that I had a great relationship with his family until we moved In Together and ever since then they’ve said I’m not the right girl and want nothing to do with me. He’s the oldest and holds a lot of responsibility. My boyfriend has been very clear about not agreeing with them and that this is what he wants to do. I’ve tried very hard to make amends with his mom and family, but they’d rather not. I’m not trying to rush a proposal, I could genuinely wait if I knew the timeline. It’s just the change with no explanation leaves me concerned.

Also, I have no friends. I lost a lot of friends after high school and during covid. When I graduated i no longer had any connections because I wasn’t able to attend regular school after my sophomore year due to the pandemic. and then I didn’t go to regular college so I haven’t been in many environments to create new friendships. I got my certifications, moved out at 16 and bought a home a few years later just a few towns over from where i grew up. I strive at work and often excel in my responsibilities and have moved up professionally quite fast for my age.i seem to be enjoyable and pleasant to be around and people like me at work so idk. I’ ve tried so hard through work, facebook groups, past connections and nothing seems to stick when making friends. I’ve joined different social groups, internet, and just going out alone. I genuinely consider myself a very open minded, kind, and social person. However for some reason I can’t seem to make any lasting friendships. I have a terrible relationship with my family and I’m just struggling to feel wanted in life. Idk If this is just my 20s, my personality, or my environment. Any advice on some self evaluation or how to connect with people?

I’m 23, male, and from the Midwest. I work 60 hours a week, with people who are all 30+ with kids, and everyone I know seems to have their person. I feel so alone and I can’t keep feeling this way.

I’ve tried everything, from dating apps, to becoming a regular at places. I don’t get responses on apps, never see anyone regular around my age, and I don’t have a lot of friends to meet mutuals.

I just don’t know. I have no clue how to meet people or to make things work. I’m not a party person, and I don’t do clubs. And the job I work is 5pm to 5am, 5 days a week. It’s just that my time is limited to what I can do, and on top of that I just don’t know how.

I love deeply, and I try to be as kind and as caring as much as possible. I don’t see women in some sexual way, and I only want someone who loves me and chooses me. Not someone to chase, or to prove myself to. Someone that I can experience life with, and hold close.

I sit here, listening to fireworks going off outside and I think about how much I used to love holidays. And now I don’t. I can’t, even though I try.

I’m 25 and honestly feel stuck.

I still live with my parents, I’m living paycheck to paycheck, and I don’t have much of a social life. I have friends, but I don’t have a friend group. I feel like I’m the side friend to most people. Everyone seems to have their people, their plans, their trips, and their traditions while I’m just kind of watching from the outside.

It’s the 4th of July and I have absolutely no plans. I know it’s just a holiday, but it’s hitting me hard. Seeing everyone posting barbecues, lake days, vacations, and parties makes me feel like everyone else has a life except me.

I’ve tried to put myself out there. I used Bumble BFF, but I usually end up getting ghosted after a few hangouts. I joined a Bible study and went for months hoping to build friendships, but most of the girls were already very close. A lot of conversations revolved around trips and plans they all did together. Some things that were said about the Catholic Church also really turned me off, and eventually I stopped going.

What’s hard is that I used to have a larger friend group. I walked away because it was incredibly toxic. There was constant drama, gossip, people talking badly about each other behind their backs, and even getting with each other’s exes. I don’t regret leaving because it wasn’t healthy, but sometimes I see them all still hanging out and doing fun things and I wonder if I made a mistake, even though I know deep down I didn’t.

I spend a lot of my free time in bed. I bed rot more than I’d like to admit. I smoke weed because it helps numb some of the sadness for a little while. I have good days, but if I’m honest, most days are bad. I go to work, come home, get in bed, scroll, smoke, sleep, and repeat.

I’ve struggled with depression for a long time. I’m on Wellbutrin and don’t feel like it’s helping much. I’ve prayed, journaled, tried self-help stuff, tried putting myself out there, tried focusing on gratitude, and I’m still struggling.

The hardest thing lately is that my sister was recently diagnosed with a life-altering disease. Watching someone I love go through that has been heartbreaking, and I feel like I’ve been grieving the future I thought she would have. I don’t think I’ve fully processed it.

Part of me feels guilty for feeling depressed because I know I have things to be grateful for. I have my health. I have a roof over my head. I have a car. I have parents who let me live with them. There are people dealing with far worse.

But despite all of that, I feel lonely, stuck, and hopeless a lot of the time.

I want a life I love. I want close friends. I want purpose. I want to eventually live on my own. I want to wake up excited about my future instead of dreading it.

Has anyone else been in this place and actually gotten out of it? If so, what changed? Is there hope when you’ve felt this way for years?

I just need to talk about something lighthearted with a human being. I just tried the suicide-prevention hotline and it just made me feel even more miserable. All they wanted to talk about was death. I need to talk about life. I need to connect, please. Even just for a few minutes.

It has been for a while now, and I always kind of knew it. I was stupid enough to have even a little bit of hope, but now I’ve reached the conclusion that my life never even really started.

I’m 26. No friends, no boyfriend, ugly and boring. The only thing I got going for me is being half way through a masters degree with 80k in savings, a nice sports car and my pets. But it still isn’t enough.

I’ve just turned into a mean and bitter person as I get older. I have no one, really. I’ve been told I’m ugly my whole life. I have no friends so I don’t go anywhere, I just go to work and come home to sit in my room. Men have never showed me an interest because I’m ugly, I’ve been told my whole life. I don’t get hit on, I don’t get compliments, I’m just completely invisible.

I’m traumatised by people to the point where I’m scared of them. Even if I had friends or a boyfriend, I would feel like I have to walk on eggshells so they don’t abandon me. I wouldn’t even know how to have fun or socially function anymore. I would have to be fake and always hide who I really am because everyone will leave me anyway.

I’m really done with my life. My cut off is 30. No one will want me especially as wrinkly old lady. No one wants to be friends with someone with no friends. It’s truly over for me. I have nothing to look forward to, nothing to be happy about, nothing to work for anymore. It’s really just completely over for me. I have been like this since I can remember, and it’s not going to change no matter how hard I try.