r/burnedout

Does anyone else experience something like this?
I feel like I have a weird cycle where, for around 6 months, I become extremely locked in. I train Muay Thai consistently, work out, study, work on myself, keep a routine, eat properly, and basically try to do everything right. I’m disciplined, motivated and genuinely enjoy pushing myself.
Then at some point it completely flips.
I can spend months where I have basically zero motivation for anything. I barely want to leave my bed, I sleep through huge parts of the day, I stop training, stop being productive and just don’t feel like doing anything. Even things I normally love, like Muay Thai, feel impossible to get myself to do.
The difference between these two periods is honestly huge, and it’s been really difficult for me because it feels like I’m either extremely driven or completely shut down.
I’m not trying to self-diagnose myself. I’m genuinely wondering if anyone else experiences this kind of cycle, especially people who are normally very active and disciplined.

I was wondering how burnout depleted everything even what you liked before it happens. Do you think it is a lack of finding joy. .anywhere?

I'm so tired of all the bullshit. I absolutely hate the mundanity of this stupid fucking world. Everything has become bland, all enjoyment sucked out and not in an enjoyable fashion. No, I'm not single, yes I have a family, but none of them register the amount of stress I am under. If something breaks, they bring it to me, if something's not working right, they bring it to me, if they need help, they bring it to me. But the moment I need something, there is no one to be found. They get to have full, rich lives while I have to slave away, providing for their every need. I do ask for help when I need it, yet I am judged for asking. No one takes me seriously, even when it's absolutely clear that I am not joking. I try and try yet seem to do nothing but fail. It drives me absolutely insane! I have goals and dreams, working toward everything yet am expected to drop everything for everyone else. I am the sole income earner in a house of 9. I am the only one with a driver's license. I have to make every goddamn appointment even though I work 60+ hours a week. I even take on odd jobs outside of work to get everything paid on time. Yet, Intimacy seems to be a thing of the past though I am demanded to be present for everything.

I am judged at every turn, am expected to be the emotional anchor, and have so much back logged shit to do that I can't seem to get anything done. Even spending time with my little ones seems to be a pipe dream. Everyone says "oh, he's got it" even when I'm falling apart. No help comes, no respite given. "Trust the universe", "trust a/or the gods", "everything will work out". Fuck that, fuck the universe, fuck a/or the gods. The only reason things work out is because I make it happen. The universe and a/or the gods constantly try to kill me. I hate them all so much! "Just go with the flow!" OH, really? And what does that do when the waters are trying to drown me? What good is going with the flow when our so-called "world leaders" are so detached from reality that they think $400 in groceries every 2 weeks is a good thing? What good does going with the flow do when I have to spend a whole lot of extra money on parts for shit that I didn't break yet are broken? Fuck this place, fuck the very concept of this world. Fuck the god or gods which conspired to create such a goddamned fucked up place! I need a vacation from responsibility, I need time off to go and explore what I'm nit normally around. I need to fuck like a jack-rabbit and I need to paid equivalently for the amount shit that I produce at work.

I hate this fucking "adulting" bullshit, i've done it for over 20 years, it sucks donkey ass! Nothing ever seems to change, live at work, visit home, be the emotional punching bag and be the supporter of unmotivated people. This is so goddamned ridiculous that I hate the sheer mention of any of it! The universe, any and all gods, demons, angels and spirits can go fuck themselves. There is no adventure here anymore. No joy. I don't hate my family, I love them, but I'm having trouble liking them right now. I just want to travel and learn new cultures, but no, I have to be a slave for everyone else. I am conflicted, if I'm being honest. I can go, if I leave everything and everyone, but I don't want to leave those i love, I just want everyone around me to be a part of the contribution and part of the travels. The sad reality of it is that no one else around me wants to. They are perfectly OK with living in this cookie-cutter existence where one size "fits" all. I'm the odd one out. I am also the only one out of the entire group who has experienced more than America, and knows that this isn't my permanent home. So I "get" to watch everyone else do what they want while I visibly suffer and no one cares. I love my family, but I hate my life. No help, fleeting joy, and it's turning me into something I never wanted to be, nor thought I would be...completely unhappy.

Might be getting burned out

So a little more about me... im a duder who is in his 30's of years approaching 40's.

Married for 9 years with 2 kids.

Lately I have found life to be a big struggle.

Whatever I do... it seems to be never enough.

I work and I work and I work.

I do around 60hrs a week at least.

I've lost almost all my friends, hell I think I dont have any real real friends left anymore.

But last couple of months it feels like every day is a struggle.

A struggle to get up, to get clothed, to get to work, to just do anything.

Sometimes I ask myself what's the point?

And then I go into auto-pilot mode.

I know... I do everything I do for my kids... and they keep me running. But can't shake the feeling I am running on fumes this last month and I feel my mind might collapse sooner than later.

Never had a feeling like this so I dont really know what to do with it.

I try to be happy... but lately thats getting harder and harder.

I don't know what I'm living for anymore. Like, what is this life actually for? Just handling responsibilities? Doing what you're supposed to be doing because everyone else is doing the same?

It's not like I don't want to fulfill my responsibilities. I just don't find much joy in my day-to-day life.

I don't really have friends I can talk to. I mean, there are one or two people, but there's no real connection where they're actually available to talk about life and shit.

I'm at a marriageable age, but I haven't had much of a social life. I got a well-paying job, but I've been working remotely for the last 5.5 years, so there hasn't really been much opportunity for a social life either.

I got laid off last month, and that made everything worse. Now I'm constantly thinking, what happens if I don't get another job in the next 2–3 months?

Being the only son comes with a lot of responsibilities. My family's financial situation hasn't been great either, so I can't just ignore everything, take a break, and simply do whatever makes me happy.

I don't know. Sometimes it just feels like I'm living because I'm supposed to keep going.

i’m a senior in college, i was supposed to graduate in 2024 but changed my major so now im graduating this fall.

i was extremely busy last year, had a 9am every single day and worked so hard. i was very proud of myself considering my classes and work load were very hard to deal with, but i just feel so fucking burnt out my last semester.

and it’s not just classes. it’s everything! i don’t want to go to the gym, i don’t care about eating healthy, i sometimes dread going to my extracurricular activities, i dread doing anything that’s not going home on the weekends. i don’t feel like working, i don’t feel like doing ANYTHING. im so tired of my environment as well.

i try to be productive, but i just don’t care. i even attend workshops and stuff for career fairs and panels for when i graduate, but i still just don’t care.

i just want to scroll on tiktok and be left alone and sleep or go home on the weekends!!

I came out of retirement this year to work as a teacher for one more school year, hoping to save a little retirement nest egg. I also felt a little selfish for not teaching anymore.

Now that I’m back to work at a new school, I have discovered MORE reasons why people leave teaching. To try to do my job reasonably well, I am spending my weekends grading papers and lesson planning; I have no work-life balance; I have already gained 15 pounds in 2 months because I come hime so exhausted and feel like I no longer have time for gym or food preparation; my administration expects teachers to find and use their own resources - the school doesn’t provide books or online curriculum; I have already spent about $1,000 on my classroom buying posters, books, and folders for my students; administrators expect teachers to use various computer learning programs for students and expect teachers to teach the programs to their students but without adequate training leaving teachers to ask their colleagues for help learning the program(s) or ask their students for help with the program(s); I feel like the philosophy of my school is to let new teachers “sink or swim”; about 6 weeks into the school year I was told I must also complete a year-long course using my time during my school day and my personal time at home.

So, I am ready to burn out after being at this job less than 3 months. I realize I can’t do this job for 10
months!!!

I put in my 30-day notice that I’m quitting mid-year. My administration told me they were surprised. An administrator I know outside of this school workplace advised me to just “do the bare minimum” as I work out my notice.

Anyone else experience unrealistic time demands at work? Piles of work being loaded on them by their bosses? or lack of adequate training to do their job reasonably well?