r/XenogendersAndMore

These images resonate a lot with my identity/spirit for reference. I have a deep connection to celestial objects, specific flora, neon purple, and water.

Obviously you guys can't read my mind, but even tips and suggestions will help me decide. For a bit i thought i might be xenogender, but realized that these things were a part of my identity and spirit, but most likely not my gender. Please feel free to ask questions and HELP ME 😭😭😭 (I'm really struggling to find myself and have found SOOOO many rude people! Looking for support)

(Ignore battat hes a hater) (art by rokolad on twitter)

Im 20 and had been on testosterone for a couple years. I had liked cats pre-hrt, and felt some weird tingly gender yearning stuff, but i couldnt help but feel dysphoric because of my past. I didnt even really know about xenos at all!

Deltarune chapter 3 dropped, and we were introduced to Pluey, and the shadowmen (specifically the cat guys) in general. I had NEVER EVER related to a character like this besides mettaton (what made me realize i was a guy) before!

I had never ever seen someone like this!!! A guy, who is also a cat!!!! A guy that likes to shoot guns and be "masc" and that everyone has all these headcanons for with body hair and that everyone actually sees as a guy WHO IS ALSO A CAT!!!!!!!!!!! Who is nonverbal (in the way we understand it) and just!!! Is treated as NORMAL

A guy that is allowed to play with Yarn and bat stuff around and have cat ears!!! And lay on the floor and roll around and BE A CAT WHO IS ALSO A GUY !!!!!!!!

I had seen femboy catboy anime stuff before of course but that is not my deal in the slightest and they are far from treated as normal or whole people with personalities

I love pluey and shadowguys so much and genuinely have never ever seen this specific niche filled before, I have never ever seen a character and went WOW!!! WOW!!!! THATS ME!!! WOW!!!!! Every single thing thats me WOW!!!!!!!!!!! i can do this!!! This can be real???!!!!!

Its such a specific niche lol and sometimes it fills like toby literally put me in the game (nonserious of course)

I love plue so much....

I made my own custom pride flag! This is my first time doing anything like this. I am new to the LGBTQ+ community to some sense. I've been an ally for 2 years now (i never hated the lgbt even before that) and i have officially been a part of the LGBTQ for one month. I've faced a lot of hardships and i have nobody to rely on to support me. Despite the struggle, i stay strong and embrace myself. I'm still working on my name and pronouns, but I'm testing the name Val and Star, with the pronouns He/they/she and neopronouns star/stars/starself. I would absolutely love your input, whether it be encouragement, support, name ideas for the flag, testing my name and pronouns, or just vibes! I support everyone here! Now, onto what the flag represents.

This flag represents a unique xenogender identity rooted in both celestial (cosmic/space) and floral (nature/flower) elements. It is designed to capture the feeling of a vibrant, blooming garden growing under a vast night sky. For name ideas I have astroflora and moonpetal. Let me know your thoughts, and feel free to just say say hi! PLEASE ASK AS MANY QUESTIONS AS YOU WANT!

This is similar to Brightskygender, but is more strongly connected to the Sanrio character Cinnamoroll.

Cinnamocloudgender: a gender that feels connected to the sky, white clouds, and the color light blue. Includes a strong connection to the character Cinnamoroll. (AKA Cinnamorollcloudgender or Cinnacloudgender.)

Slide #1: Cinnamocloudgender flag with all icons
Slide #2: Cinnamocloudgender flag with only cloud icons
Slide #3: Cinnamocloudgender flag with only Cinnamoroll icon
slide #4: Cinnamocloudgender flag with no icons

The other day my friend who isn't very familiar with xenogenders was describing how her gender feels like stars but still feminine, and when we couldn't find a term that fit, I offered to make one :) Here are the flag designs and their definitions!

Starspec (slide 1) - a gender that feels connected to the stars or like a star itself, but also feels distinctly masculine, feminine, and/or connected to other alignments. (Can be an umbrella term or a standalone term.)

Starfemme (slide 2) (the one my friend identifies with!) - a gender that feels connected to the stars or like a star itself, but simultaneously feels distinctly feminine without being exactly a girl.

Starmasc (slide 3) - a gender that feels connected to the stars or like a star itself, but simultaneously feels distinctly masculine without being exactly a boy.

Starenby (slide 4) - a gender that feels connected to the stars or like a star itself, but feels connected to being nonbinary and/or the term "nonbinary" also feels fitting.

Starspecfluid (slide 5) - a gender that feels connected to the stars or like a star itself and changes between feeling feeling masculine, feminine, neither, both, and/or connected to other alignments over time.

Starduo (slide 6) - a gender that feels connected to the stars or like a star itself and changes between feeling distinctly masculine and distinctly feminine over time. (Similar to Starfluid, but fluctuates mostly or exclusively between feminine- and masculine-aligned genders.)

Since I don't identify with any of these genders, please let me know if any of the definitions or designs need to be tweaked :)

Quick note: I've seen the terms Stargirl and Starboy referenced before, but I somehow can't find a definiton anywhere?? "Starfluid" seems to be fluctuation between celestial-aligned genders, so I think my Starspecfluid definition can be considered its own thing. Please let me know if my Starspec definition can be described by Stargender, and I'll just consider my flag to be an alternate Stargender flag haha. Totally not my intent to create a new term for an identity that already has one /lh /gen

🪐Nullgender (absence of gender)
🪐Apagender (doesn’t care about gender)
🪐Toric (enbies attracted to men/mascs)
🪐Candybunnygender (gender related to bunnies, candy, and sweet treats)
🪐Pinkiegender (gender related to pinkie pie the my little pony character)
🪐femme-enby (someone who’s enby and feminine)
🪐Aegoromantic (someone who rarely feels romantic attraction but likes the idea of romance)
🪐aroflux (someone who’s romantic attraction fluctuates)
🪐bellusromantic (someone who’s okay with intimacy but rarely experiences romantic attraction)
🪐cupioromantic (someone who desires romantic relationships but rarely feels romantic attraction)
🪐quoisexual (someone who is confused by the idea of sexual attraction)
🪐quoiromantic (someone who’s confused by the idea of romantic attraction)
🪐aceflux (someone who’s sexual attraction fluctuates)
🪐nebulasexual (someone who can’t tell if they feel sexual attraction due to neurodivergence)
🪐Girlflux (someone who’s gender is feminine and fluctuates)
🪐genderflux (someone who’s genders intensity changes over time)
Stargender (someone who’s gender is related to stars and outer space)

Not really sure if this is the right subreddit to ask this on, but I'm hoping it is.

I've been Identifying as Gendervoid for quite a bit (probably around a year at this point). But I've realized that Novigender also fits me.

​(The ai overview isn't really the best but I guess it's whatever –_–)​​

I haven't been able to find a term that fits my gender and gave up on trying years ago lol, but my brother recently suggested that I just make my own, so that's what I'm doing here.

Brightskygender: a gender that feels connected to the sky, white clouds, and the color light blue. (Also aligned with the Sanrio character Cinnamoroll because he comes from the sky and can fly, hence the "W" shape on the flag matching his mouth. He has a soft color palette.)

The pale blue background with the clouds represents the sky (ofc), the light yellow stripe represents joy and gender euphoria, the light pink stripe represents a detachment from binary genders, the darker blue stripe stands for security in one's identity, and the darker pink/salmonish-colored stripe represents connection and community support between people who identify with Xenogenders.

My gender feels very cloudy, but not dark clouds, more like fluffy white ones. The description of Cloudgender has to do with depersonalization/derealization. Pastelbluegender is closer, but doesn't include the cloud/sky feeling, and Skygender is described as "a gender that varies in clarity." Brightskygender encapsulates all the aspects that I haven't been able to find with other terms!

A oxigender, which mostly woman/non-binary woman/fiaspec, partially or lesser than previous gender a man/non-binary man/miaspec and a little bit of non-binary gender