Hello! I'm new to the plural community! I was wondering if I could have some willogenic tips since my journey hasn't been going great…
I have a willomate in mind, but it's hard having him stay around all the time, he only comes out when I want him to. I need some help developing him into his own autonomous person.
I've been struggling with my romantic orientation since I was in elementary school. And it wasn't until high school that I realized that I might be aromantic, but I played it off as a joke. And now that I have a partner, I can confidently say I’m aromantic. I don’t romantically love him, but I playonically, sexually, and sensually love him so much!!! So I don’t want to break up. Being in a 1-sided romantic relationship is actually quite satisfying for me and makes up both happy!
Let's just call my boyfriend "John" for the sake of privacy.
John and I have been officially dating for 1 week, and talking for about 2 months now.
I don't really know how to describe our relationship because we basically just hang out like friends while we do romantic things together, like kissing and making out and junk. We are officially dating, he said.
But at the same time, I do not feel romantic feelings for him.
Looking back, I've never actually had romantic feelings for anybody. When I was in elementary school, I had "crushes" on people but that was more superficial because I had "crushes" on anybody who gave me the slightest bit of attention. I was severely neglected in elementary school, so that kind of comes up now. Back then, I fell in love with the attention my partners were giving me, but now I fall in love with the stuff that John is giving me, like the emotional stuff, like how much he makes me feel, even if those feelings aren't romantic.
I fall in love with the feeling not the human.
He makes me happy, and I'm very happy with our relationship, which is why I don't want to break up with him and I want to stay together for as long as possible.
I just want to clear up my feelings so I myself can put a label on it to make myself feel comforted, because I am very confused and distressed because of these feelings I'm having… or lack thereof.
I'm so confused and distressed because I don't have romantic feelings for somebody I should have romantic feelings for. He's my boyfriend, but when I look at him and talk to him and stuff like that, I feel nothing but platonic care. You know what I'm saying?
Is there a (micro) label for this???
Give my OC as many genders, sexualities, microlabels, pronouns, and headcanons as you can!!
I want to see what vibe they give off!!
What’s with the new wave of queerphobia within the LGBT+ community???
I feel like we are going backwards as a society.
I think I'm aromantic because I've never loved anyone, not even my current boyfriend. Don't get me wrong, I DEEPLY care for him, it's just not romantic care, you know?
I love my friends, I love my sister, but I don't love my romantic partners.
I mean, I've had admiration for people. Like limerence-like feelings. But I'd NEVER describe it as "love".
I'd say my love for my boyfriend is the same for a best friend. I've felt the same thing here that I did for my friend girl.
I LIKE being monogamous with him and I prefer spending the rest of my life with him.
It's just that I don't LOVE him that's tripping me up. It's that I like him the same level someone does with their friend.
I like romantic actions and dynamics with him, it's just that my feelings for him aren't catching up.
Is this aromanticism?