u/DistrictLow417

Im not too upset about it beacuse i'm fine with she/her, but it still kinda sucks that ive never had someone refer to me as my neopronoun fang/fangself, since it makes me feel pretty euphoric.

does anyone have any advice to maybe encourage people to refer to me as such, without pushing away my she/her prns as well? Or do i just gotta deal with it unfortunately 🥲

Hi its me again.... lol i post in this sub a lil too much but alas...

Ive been wondering for awhile if im on the aromantic spectrum. I know im not fully aromantic, but I might not be alloromantic either.

I have had romantic interest in others before, though its pretty rare for me to get a crush on others. I'm not sure if its because I've been mainly looking at men as a lesbian or what.

ever since i was younger I've always been a hopeless romantic, wishing I'd find "the one" or whatever and having a silly little school crush, but it just never really happened. Sometimes id even force myself to try to feel something towards someone, and of course its pretty obvious how those went. (spoiler alert: not well)

Ive had alot of people crush on me before in school too, but Ive always ended up turning them down one reason or another. They were always just close friends towards me and nothing more. (albeit, all of the people whose crushed on me were men.)

Ive only had a outgoing crush towards two people (both were women), and I've only had 2 legit relationships in my life that ive actually felt anything towards, one towards a girl, and one towards a guy (he crushed on me first and i was just like fine, but it ended up working out for a few years), and they were like 7 years apart.

I did have a crush on a girl recently, and it was very early into meeting her. Though honestly it could've been due to me recently going out of a traumatic breakup and other things, because my crush would fade, maybe she would say something and i would go EEE!!!! but then it would fade again, it was super weird. Then i realized i actually didn't really know anything about her and we stopped talking and i didn't feel anything anymore.

same thing also happened with my ex boyfriend around the end of our relationship. Sometimes i would love him, and then i would get turned off and feel nothing. then i would love him again, turned off again, and so on. But it wasn't always like that through the relationship.

However there was a point where i suddenly just didn't feel anything towards him anymore. like at all. which caused us to take a break from each other for a few months to a year before wanting to try again.

it could've been because I realized I might be gay lol- but i thought that was worth mentioning.

But i do want a romantic relationship, i yearn to be loved, im not repulsed nor indifferent to romance, im a huge hopeless romantic lmao! But i feel like my ability to feel romantic attraction is a lot less than usual or unstable.

or maybe i just don't know how to talk to people and I'm gay who hasn't been on the market for women much yet lmao.

sorry if this doesn't make much sense, this turned more into a ramble than a question. But id love some advice.

Hello everyone! Second time posting here.. A lot of questioning and stuff going on lol

I'm so confused on whether in gay or bisexual. The thought of being with a woman in the future feels amazing to me, it feels "too good to be true" in the sence where I'm like "omg I can be with a woman???!?!!!! " lmao. Like it feels exciting and it's something I want. I'm sexually attracted to women, I just have had many actual wlw relationships yet. (Arospec moment)

So me liking women is definitely apart of the picture here, what I'm more confused on is my attraction to men.

Ive had a boyfriend before, hell I've had sex with him before and it was fine. I'm not repulsed by male genitalia or hate it.

But if it came to being with a guy/having sex with a guy, it feels neutral or not exciting at all. It's kinda just whatever. But sometimes I've looked at an actor and could see him as hot or attractive in a way, but I'm not sure if thats my sexuality or just me seeing a pretty actor and acknowledging he's attractive. (It could also just be I find emotional intelligence really attractive, and the actors were portrayed to have that) or it's something more and I'm so confused 😭😭

But also if I was bisexual, I probably wouldave been fine with my boyfriend. The reason we fell out was because I realized I yearned for a woman, and slowly became less and less attracted to him.

So.. would I a man long term? Probably not. Would I be sad if I never got to be with a woman or have sex with a woman? Yes. Definitely.

But I'm not sure if my experiences land towards a HEAVILY woman leaning bisexual, or just a confused lesbian lmao

Hi. im still questioning if im a median system, and i had something happen that was very overstimulating and im left confused

so i fictionkin TDL and i'm questioning if hes a facet. i was just chilling and watching edits till one got me pretty shifty or just got TDL to come very close.

But all of a sudden i started shaking? I wasnt anxious or anything, TDL is just extremely hyperactive as a character/person, and sometimes when he gets closer he can cause me to shake and sometimes i can even feel my heart rate increase

TDL was fronted(?) I guess and I was in the background. Of course again, im able to control everything, but he got all pissed off by seeing a double and just became extremely overstimulated and angry. And it felt like we were talking at some point before he went in front

I managed to calm myself down and got a bit distracted by answering someone elses post regularly (without TDL) and I eventually calmed down but im still a bit shaken up, and felt a bit blurry and out of it afterwards.

Was that just a super intense fictionkin shift, or did TDL front for a bit?

Hello! I'm Dakota, but feel free to call me Dark, or whatever you want to call me. This is my first post here!

I'll try my best to explain this, but its kinda hard to lay it out lmao.

Ive been questioning plurality for a few years, but I know I dont meet the criteria for DID. Ive done a good bit of research on plurality and dissociative disorders, but I'm no doctor so if I get anything wrong or sound insensitive in any way please let me know.

Before I say anything, I am a fictionkin with autism and ADHD, with possible BPD and C-PTSD (working with my therapists about it but C-PTSD is very possible, my therapist is very convinced i have it lol)

But one of my kins fees a bit different than my other fictkins. TDL (also known as Dark, hinted by one of the names i go by) Sometimes it feels like me and him share a brain. Not only is he me, but i can hear him in my head sometimes, commenting and giving his own dialogue if hes "close" to me. (thats the term i use, I don't know the actual terminology.) Sometimes we can talk, but its kinda hard and blurry to. its not like I'm just roleplaying with myself.

I can choose and ultimately control what I do, but I'd be lying if i said his influence was just a mood or shift. because i can very easily "channel" him (again, dont know if thats the right word) and talk as him, but to shift or "front" as him i cant just do it on a whim, it usually happens on its own and/or is triggered in some way.

Sometimes when I'm having conversations with my friends he butts in and wants to say something to them or add to the conversation. I have full control if I say it or not (TDL is a bit unhinged, so I have to filter him out sometimes) But its not like I'm just coming up with a dialogue option he would say. It just appears in my head if that makes sense, like he said it or thought it. and I get the urge to type/say it. but again, I'm in the drivers seat and can choose to "let" him talk or say it if I want to.

Upon doing some research about medians I also connected this with my age regression and more quieter sides of myself to. Its similar with my age regression where i can hear my little respond or like something despite not being regressed. Also times where i kinda co-fronted? where i was little, but also able to take care of myself, like i was the caretaker of myself? Lol I hope this is making sense.

However these shifts don't come with any amnesia, I am aware and it is not distressing when they happen. Sometimes i might lightly zone/blank out, but i don't loose time or forget anything, it just kinda feels like my brain is switching to a different mode. But ultimately I am still me, I can control what I do and say always. and can become "me" very quickly if needed (ex. parents walk in, need to do something, ykwim.)

Heyy everyone! Before I say anything I do NOT!!! Harass doubles or anyone for that matter. I block/avoid, but I'd thought I'd share my story and ask anyway. I won't go too in depth in the matter bc I don't wanna be too venty lol.

I'm a Deimos (madcom) Raiko, and I have been for about 5 years now! (Our anniversary is on the 21st!). Ive always been no sharing with him even fresh onto yuming him. I relied on him a lot to cope with my problems, as expected. (2021- now)

In 2023 during a very rough patch, my parents learned about Deimos, and saw him as problematic and how I was being "delusional" (THEIR WORDS NOT MINE!!!) and actually took everything regarding him away from me, a necklace, my sketchbooks, even a small little clay figure I had of him. Saying they were "fixing me". Obviously, this was pretty traumatizing and even caused me to disconnect from Deimos for a bit.

Ive slowly been healing from this situation and getting better about talking about Deimos again (I rarely gush about him now) but when I (albeit, rarely, Id say he's pretty niche) run across a double it can be pretty distressing for me. Like ive left entire whole servers and communities because I saw a double. Again, I don't harass them or really say anything, but it still really bothers me and can impact my mood for hours or even days.

Is anyone here similar? Or have any tips on how to get better? I'm always probably gonna be strictly nonsharing, but I want it to be less distressing for me.

(If this is too venty I apologize!!! 😭)