r/yumeshipping

Hello, I apologize that this type of post is my first one here but I need to let it out somewhere. I'm a yumedanshi and I've been in love with a certain character for 13 years now and he means the whole world to me (I don't wanna name drop this character because I wanna keep myself as anonymous as possible).

I love him very much and I've been meaning to do a persona to yumeship for years now but I just couldn't get myself to do it. I would always tear up with so much shame and guilt because someone ugly like me doesn't deserve to yumeship and I feel like I do not deserve him at all because other people are so much better. My body dysmorphia and the fact I got bullied for how I look since elementary school basically rules over my brain and I know it's silly to think like this but whenever I decide to finally draw a persona, I just get insanely nervous and guilty because if the character I love was real, I don't think he'd even give me a minute of his time. I love it when my yume friends and mutuals do it of course, I support them and encourage them as much as I can but there's just something about me in particular doing it makes me a bad person.

Ok so I happen to have a relatively evil F/O who has a redemption arc to an extent, but he's still bad enough to where I feel weird ever sharing about him because of the events he's connected to in the media he's from, because it is placed in real historical events. But he's complicated in a way that he betrays the side he was on when he realized he was going to lose, and he never had the views of the bad side he was originally fighting for.

I'm just wondering if anyone faces anything similar, because I really do love him, but I worry about harrassment and people thinking I'm a bad person for yumeshipping with him, even though I don't condone his actions.

This isn't any hate, btw. My f/o is Kars from JJBA. I'm agender and I've been trying to find gender neutral or male y/n fanfic of Kars, but it's been absolute HELL. I write my own fanfiction of him and my sona, but I want to experience someone else's work and how they interpret his character. To my shame, I even tried character AI, but it still is female centered. I know that some people can grin and bear it and get all the fanfic that they can get, but I just can't. I'm just too dysphoric, I can't. I feel so pathetic because I can't get past it.

If anyone has any suggestions then please give them. Thank you!

This is both a question & a ramble post because oh man

Personally I've been acknowledged by a show creator in the past but it wasn't to do with yumeshipping and I've also been acknowledged by a voice actor of a source one of my f/os is from because I posted fan art of my f/o and tagged him in it, wondering if he'd ever see it because he's honestly one of my favourite voice actors.

But holy shit my more recent one is the actual creator of Skatoony aka what I've been fixated on for nearly a month now and have 3 f/os from. The creator of it followed me just today on my art instagram WHERE I HAVE YUMESHIP ART WITH THE CHARACTERS and I'm honestly so nervous and mentally shitting myself rn because I know now that he's seen my ship art and has acknowledged me in some way 😭😭. What the hell are you supposed to do in this situation 😭

For anyone who's experienced the same, how was it for you? Give me the details because I'm genuinely curious :)

My f/o is Varka from genshin. I'm very attached to him, he's like a f/o and comfort character both. Until the last few months, his most popular ships were with Flins and Nicole. And I hated these ships for the longest time, but eventually warmed up to them. For example, I was so upset about pulling Nicole for Varka back then. But now I adore these ships and look at fanart, etc.

But then Lohen was released. He was actually introduced in Varka's story quest. I'm a very impressionable sort of guy, so it's easy for me to naturally agree with whatever posts I see even if I don't actually think so. So yeah, this is also a ship now and it makes me so incredibly upset :(

Lohen's voicelines revealed that Varka has the spare key to his room. I first found this from a ship account so naturally it left that impression on me. And Varka shows up in Lohen-related content a lot like his own story quest, trailer, etc. My brain focuses on that so much and it hurts

I don't do block/mute as stupid as it sounds because I don't want to miss out on Varka content/fanart even if it has to do with that ship. "Alternate universe" thing doesn't work either because I hate the concept of that ship being true in any universe.

Today I saw fanart of them, and I actually cried (overreacting maybe but I guess I'm just a little emotional today).

Self-shipping is supposed to be fun, but all I can do is overthink on their design/lore stuff, analyzing like a shipper against my own will and not enjoying the game. I literally haven't pulled Lohen out since I last pulled him (why did I pull him if I hate the ship so much? : because he is honestly fun to play and I like to collect the male characters). It feels so miserable :(

Out of every character, out of every ship, why does it have to be the one character I love this much? Example, I love Wriothesley/Clorinde a lot, but I still have no issue with Wriothesley/Neuvillette (ship them as well). Why is it hard to apply this logic here?

I'm not trying to be the biggest fan of this Varka ship. I just want to be able to look at a fanart or one of those analyzing posts without literally feeling my chest tighten.

Your F/O loves you !!

They would want you to take care of yourself !

They want you know that even when things get tough, you can get through it and come out stronger !

And also they wanted me to tell you that you're the most precious thing in their lives !!

- you should also show your f/o... possibly.. 👀

- also lmk if anything here needs to be changed like the flair or whatnot

So im thinking I wanna get into yume shipping but I have a couple questions before I do and what better place than here, so im curious.

1. Do all ys think theyre in an ACTUAL relationship?

2. If a random person or just someone comes up to you and asks if you are taken do you say yes?

3. If you have an irl relationship and yumeship is that considered cheating?

4. Can you have multiple f/os and if you can are you cheating on those other characters?

5. If you are aware you arent in an actual relationship is it still yumeshipping?

6. What makes a yumeship valid

7. What makes a yumeship invalid

I desperately need these questions answered and I would love if you guys answered in numbers like the question (i have ocd it just makes it easier).

Thank you!

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