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This is going to be cringe because im chronically online and thats how i started questioning.

Basically all my life ive been called and made fun of for being a tomboy and very unladylike. Didnt really bother me, only the mysoginistic remarks that came with them.

Another bit of context, i am stubborn with beliefs, and as a child i was told that every person is unique, and that gender and sex are two different things (in science class). So, gender isnt very set in stone and your sex was static unless medically changed. Example, saying trans men cant be men because they had parts chopped off like their breasts just to be a man, what about men with gynecomastia? Are they lesser or not men? And if a trans woman still looked masculine they failed, what about masculine cis women? Are they not valid too? Adults would then call me a contrarian and a smartass.

Onto the random events in my life that lead to the questioning, pleasd dont judge me too hard.

I was 12 when i discovered wattpad, and immediately found out about xReader books. At the time all of them were female reader, and thats all that i consumed. As years passed and the world got nicer, gender neutral and male reader inserts started popping up, and i started to read those too, thought process being i dont want to miss out on a good story just cuz of the gender.

Fast forward, im 17. For some reason i gravitate towards male readers in the xReader genre. Huh. Well its nothing, i still prefer being called fem pronouns irl.

At 18 i wanted a male haircut, but my mom who was paying took me to the salon instead, where a bunch of gay dudes chided me for wasting my "beauty" by wanting a male haircut. Really unsatisfied, so i went to an actual barber, and after fixing the girly cut it felt so cathartic. Everyone made fun of the haircut though, and it made me feel insecure.

19-21 y.o. I noticed how i cant enjoy fem xReaders anymore, but had no problem reading gender neutral and male ones. Im confused, does this say something about me? Nahh, im probably in too deep larping as a guy, if i try really hard it might go away. I revisit THE BEST xReader works, especially one that was LEAGUES above in quality compared to any male or gender neutral xreaders i know. I feel a deep hollowness as these incredible works feel wrong and i dont feel immersed in the story. Im genuinely distressed now, why does it feel off reading and thinking of myself as a girl, but dont mind fem pronouns irl? Am i trans or am i a disgusting fetishist?

I also feel a bit of envy towards cis men, like i wish i was born as a cis guy and then gotten a vaginoplasty, less surgery and less doubting on being a man.

Fast forward today, still questioning if i was wrong for thinking i am trans, and if i just read too much about me being a guy that i just got confused, if its a fetish, if i unhealthily romanticize bl and gay relationships, etc.

I think this for a couple of reasons:

1. I dont mind being called fem pronouns irl

2. I dont mind my fem parts (specifically the lower bits, the tits can go though)

3. i dont have body dysmorphia (tho it may be due to my mindset that every person is unique)

Regardless of wether im trans or not, I do want a penis while still keeping my fem parts. My main goal once i finish uni is to save up for a phalloplasty and living a celibate life, because i dunno anyone who irl who would date me after that, and not think it freaky or weird.

Someone please help me, i ive been avoiding the answer to this problem for so long bc i doubt myself and my thoughts.

Also english isnt my first language i apologize for the mistakes,

Idk if this is the right community to ask this in as it’s very much just a first step, but I thought there might be someone who can help. So I’m a bit of a avoidant and late bloomer and had my first kiss with a guy a few days before my 21st birthday, but I didn’t really feel anything from the kissing itself.

Like I did feel butterflies around him when he put his arm behind me and we were sitting down and later when we were kissing he did run his hand up my body, which also gave me an exciting feeling, but from the kiss itself it just felt like body parts touching you know?

I’ve now also later kissed a second guy and I felt very attracted to him and wanted to be around him, but again the kissing wasn’t exactly exciting either.

Has any other avoidance or late bloomers experienced something similar with their first kisses? Is it something that gets better with more experience or with someone you’ve build more of an emotional connection with? Or is it that I might not be into guys as I’ve always thought? I will say I was pretty nervous before both kisses, so I don’t know if that might have influenced my experience of it (which was tbh also very analytical as in I was thinking “am I doing this right or not” etc.).

I hope someone can share their experiences as that would be really helpful!

So I've been dating a girl for almost a year and basically, when we started dating I was more right leaning, pretty much homophobic, she is pansexual and gender fluid (as least as far as I know), she tries not to mention the gender fluid stuff though, like in public, I don't care what people think but I'm a teenager and my family has opinions also, besides the point, so, 5 days ago she broke up with me (we got back the next day on some premises ill explain) because she didnt agree with me in some shits (we never really discuss lgbt shit so she didnt know my opinion progresses since we started dating, she knew I was alittle more open minded yet we mostly discussed politics (borders, capitalism communism n shi)) bit then the next day I actually spoke with her, she asked me some questions, and honestly, I didnt open up to her as much as to myself.
So, I'm straight, have always been, but with all this shit of me leaning lefter and lefter with her, my brain normalized LGBT so much, I'm not as sure as I've always been. Like, I obviously am attracted to women, and my drive didn't die or anything. I just don't find dating a man as disgusting as I did. I don't find dick as disgusting. I don't think about explicitly fucking with a man or anything, but when she touches me around the lower back and ass, I don't have the rejective reaction as always, instead it lingers in my mind for a while

Sorry for all the fluff, I honestly never asked nor explained anything like this to anyone

My final question is,
What should I do? I know i should tell her, and I'm planning to, but I'll wait for y'all's advice.

And don't tell me shit like break up with her and shit, I won't

Hi everyone. I’ve had a persistent doubt for quite some time now, and the frustration that comes with it has honestly been tormenting me during all this time.

About a year and a half ago, I started watching Thai GL series after avoiding them for a long time. In my head, it didn’t make sense for me to watch GLs if I was straight, even though I had watched BLs before and never questioned that logic much.

At first everything felt normal, just another series like any other. But during that very first GL, I caught myself wondering if I might actually like women.

The truth is that I’ve never really fallen in love or genuinely liked someone before. I’ve never been in a relationship, so I don’t really know what that feeling is supposed to be like. I always hated the idea of relationships, marriage, and having a family… until that moment.

The series made me wonder if having that kind of care, comfort, and emotional closeness with someone could actually be something good. But whenever I imagined that comfort, I simply couldn’t picture a man there.

Throughout my life, there were situations that made me feel disgust and especially fear toward men, so I started wondering if this doubt could just be caused by that fear, by the series, books, and the content I consume in general.

But the truth is that it’s been a year and a half, and this question still comes back every single day. Whenever there’s silence, my mind goes back to it again. So now I keep wondering if I could genuinely like women, or if this is all just influence.

Sorry for the long text, and thank you so much if anyone is willing to help or share their perspective.

Hello ! Recently i've been trying to understand myself more with my sexuality and have come to the realization i don't like the aspect of a man, just the genitalia. I've struggled with my sexuality for years and always thought i was bisexual with male preference. Recently, i've been more into women in a romantic sense and the only thing i truly like about a man is once again, the parts.

I don't see myself marrying a man, fully loving and committing to a man but i'm confused as i do like male genitalia. I would however, marry a woman, fully love a woman and committing to one on top of more intimate acts.

What does this mean? Am i still bisexual or is there some sort of label i need to find?

* I've never kissed anyone or had any sexual experiences. Lately, I've noticed that:

* In a neutral state (not in a sexual state or watching porn), I don't feel any desire towards men.

* I can only imagine sex with a man if I'm in a "sexual state," but in real life, I don't feel like approaching him, kissing him, or initiating anything.

* I don't imagine myself romantically with men; I only see them as friends, or maybe until I found the one.

* I tried forcing myself to imagine romantic relationships with men, and I didn't feel anything real.

* With women, sometimes I don't "let" myself imagine it at all, as if there's a block, but I feel more confusion or something different.

Right now, I'm trying to understand if this could be real attraction to women, a lack of attraction to men, or simply that I'm still figuring myself out. Thanks.

I accept all pronouns whats the best label to use genderflux or genderqueer or something else?

17M – Sometimes I feel weird, is that normal?

I'm 17 years old. Sometimes I feel like a girl. Some of my actions seem that way. I want to be sweeter, more adorable. I don't want to be judged when I act childish. It's been like this since adolescence.

This is mostly about gender, and I’m honestly really confused right now. I’m 20, AFAB, and I’ve identified as a lesbian for years because I’ve always known I was attracted to women and never to men.

For context, I socially transitioned when I was around 14 and lived as "male" for a while. Later, because of changes in my life and environment (homophobic and transphobic), I decided to detransition and started presenting femininely again. Even before transitioning, I already knew I liked girls. I’ve known since I was around 8.

After detransitioning, I started calling myself a lesbian again. At first it didn’t feel completely right, but over time I developed a really strong connection to the identity. Being a lesbian used to make me feel proud and understood. I don't know anymore.

But over the past months, I’ve started feeling really dysphoric again, and it’s been getting progressively worse. Lately I feel like I barely relate to the experiences of a lot of lesbians I know or the discussions happening in lesbian spaces I’m part of. It’s strange because, externally, I have lived many of the same experiences other lesbians have, including in relationships with women. Also, some of those relationships have even ended because my emotional state around all of this became overwhelming.

The problem is that it sometimes feels like my internal experience doesn’t match the external one. Like I’m moving through lesbian experiences, but emotionally or psychologically I’m relating to them differently than I “should.” I don’t even know if that makes sense, but it reflects how confused I feel internally right now.

I guess I’m posting this because I want advice or perspectives from people who may have experienced something similar. Thank you and have a good day/night.

I’m a 24F lesbian and I’m thinking about trying sex with my 24M best friend

Okay so for context, I’ve identified as a lesbian for most of my life. When I was around 13 I actually dated this same friend for a little while. We tried doing sexual stuff a few times back then but it was awkward and I just wasn’t really into it. I wasn’t attracted to him like that and not long after that I realized I was a lesbian

We broke up but we stayed close, he’s still one of my closest friends now.

After that I ended up in a relationship with a woman for a few years. Sex wasn’t really an issue there. I was attracted to her, I enjoyed being with her, everything felt way more natural. We broke up eventually for unrelated personal reasons and I’ve been single for about two years now.

My friend has had some random hookups and also a long term relationship that ended a couple months ago. Through all of this we’ve always been pretty open with each other about sex, relationships, what we like, our experiences, etc. He has also had feelings for me over the years, both romantic and sexual, but he’s always been really respectful about it. He never pushed anything because he knew I wasn’t attracted to him, or to men in general

The confusing part started after my breakup around two years ago. I randomly started having sexual fantasies about him. I kind of ignored it because I was in a weird place emotionally and eventually it stopped

But recently they came back.

Which is extra weird because until recently I was falling for a female friend of mine. We were flirting for a while but the whole situation got messy and it didn’t work out. Now that I’m starting to get over her, these fantasies about my male friend have randomly come back and my brain is basically doing backflips trying to understand what is happening.

The thing is, I don’t really know how to explain it. Some of the fantasies turn me on in theory, but I’m pretty sure they would turn me off in real life.

For example, I’ve always liked dirty talking someone and knowing I’m turning them on. I like the idea of someone being really affected by me sexually. If I see a woman touching herself because of me, that would have me doing actual backflips. But with a man it’s different. The idea can turn me on, but actually seeing it happen turns me off instantly

That has happened before. It happened when we tried stuff years ago, and it happened again more recently when we were sexting. In my head the fantasy worked, but in reality seeing a man touching himself like that just threw me off completely.

I think a lot of these fantasies are like that. Things that sound hot in theory but might feel completely different in person.

But then there are other things I’m less sure about. For example, I’ve always liked penetration with toys, strap, etc.

So part of me wonders if I might enjoy penetrative sex with him because physically maybe it wouldn’t be that different. But at the same time, part of what I liked with women was watching my partner enjoy touching me, even if she couldn’t physically feel it herself. So I don’t know if I would enjoy it with him, even though I know he wants to do it and would probably enjoy it

We’ve talked about all of this pretty openly and we decided we might try having sex once to see how I feel about it. If it goes well maybe it could become a casual occasional thing. If it doesn’t then at least I’ll know

Honestly I don’t know what to expect. We’ve been talking and sexting and that part has been fun. I know I’m not physically attracted to him, but somehow the idea of having sex with him still turns me on a little, but the more I think about it the more that is throwing me off

I guess I’m writing this because I needed to get it out somewhere. I’ve talked to one friend about it but I don’t think she fully understands the weird mental loophole I’ve gotten myself into.

Has anyone experienced something similar?

Ive never been in a long term relationship but i have been close with people intimately but whenever it gets to the point of actually having sex i get wierded out. its almost as if the forplay is the part that i enjoy?

i havent been in too many relationships so im not sure if it was just the people of if it was me. the thing is when i fantisise about people /doing things its always just physical closeness but never actually the act of having sex, like i can never imagine it without wierding myself out.

ive never really prioritised relationships but i always seem to crave that physical intamicy/ closeness. for example sometimes when im with my friends i will always want to hold their hand or lay next to them if were just sitting around(just for that closeness as i know anything more is wierd). if i dont get this opportunity i will hold something that is on them e.g. their bag or their coat. i try not to like hold their clothes because i feel like they will find it wierd but its just the.(probably not relevent)

to me it doesnt really matter who it is with i just want that leval of intamacy that you get when youre in a relationship but without having to go that extra step to actually having sex.

ive tried to find other posts that relate to me but have failed so decided to make my own. if anyone relates then please let me no im not crazy but also any advice on what to do because it can get akward when my partner gets to the point of wanting sex and ive done everything up to that point but i dont want to have sex. thanks for reading this whole ass thing xx

Okay so I am a straight male 23 years old, working and recently got a breakup. Let me clear it first that I am completely straight means I don't have any feelings for boys or male private parts and it disgusts me thinking about the sword fight thing. But sometimes I feel that It'd be better if I were a girl tbh not for experiencing sex with a male but for experiencing sex with a female. Sometimes I just want to be a lesbian girl and have a lesbian girlfriend. I converted many of my pics to 2, 3 types of girls pics using AI and when I merge them with Grok or gemini like they're hugging or kissing... I instantly get a boner. Why is this even happening and I can't understand why I am thinking like this. Being a straight male but thinking that it'd be better if I were a Lesbian girl... But why?? Please help me.

I'm primarily attracted to women, but there are certain men I find attractive. My experience with sex with men is entirely superficial through the Hub. I can comfortably imagine myself in a relationship with men, but I don't know if I'm actually bisexual.

Hey so I just want to share a bit of my confusion on something.
So I like guys
And I like girls
But when I like a guy I don’t try to impress him. I dress normal. Do my makeup normal. And just act like myself.
When I like a girl it’s the opposite, I over dress, try to impress her. Pay dates, flowers.. etc. Which makes me really confused. I always try to impress girls and don’t give a fuck about guys And just act like myself.
When a girl touches me it sends shivers throughout my whole body. I love it when a girl calls me babe or princess. But the moment a guy does it it’s eh. Idk how to explain it
I’m bisexual but I’m starting to question.

Hi, I'm a boy, maybe. And, as the title said, I hope i'm transgender. In this post, I'm gonna try to sum up everything I've thought about. I've been thinking about my gender a lot, like at least once a day, probably multiple times, for now at least 3 months. But this thought has been in my head for probably more than a year.

Right now, it's just a roller coaster of "I'm 100% a girl" and "There is no way I'm a girl" which, I prefer being in the "I'm 100% a girl phase" but there is still doubt because I just...can't really do anything with these thoughts. Like, yeah I'm a girl, that's cool but I can't do anything about it. I can't experiment because of my parents. I want to because it give answers but I can't.

I want to try and have long hair (managed to convice my parents not to cut them :) ) as well as girl cloths, which some seem nicer than boy clothes. Tbh in terms of cloths, I always wear the same 5 stuff and barely pay attention to what I wear. Fem clothes do seem comfy tho.

I've always wanted to have some platonic girl friends (idk how to word it better) but never could because of social anxiety and me being an idiot in social relationships. Idk if this has to do with my thoughts tho.

More on the thought of "being a girl is cool", I've always liked stuff associated to gender transformation and I especially was obsessed/exited whenever the topic of trans people was brought up. I used to watch some trans memes last year for example which were probably not for my demographic, but i still liked them. (i'm chronically online which probably isn't that good lol).

I hope watching these type of content as such an early age didn't like gaslight me into being trans or something. Sometimes I wonder, If I would still have those thoughts if I haven't been online this much.

I did however watch very stereotypical girl shows when I was little. Like I remember watching the entirety of "My Little Poney" and some other girl shows which were clearly not for boys lol. I did know it wasn't normal but i just hid it from my friends.

More recently, I used to be really on the worst website ever: character ai. Now I quitted that hellhole because of the ban but I mention it because 90% of my chats there were me turning into a girl and doing girl stuff. Again, I hope spending this much time on this website didn't gaslight me into thinking i'm a girl. I also hope it's not a kink or something.

In terms of dysphoria, I don't think I've got any (or at least it's minor). I do not really like my facial hair or when people comment on how deep my voice is getting. But, because dysphoria is so common amongst trans people, I feel like I want to have dysphoria. This is a stupid thought but I feel like it would make me "more trans". I want to want to be trans in order to be trans.

I don't think I relate to enought trans people's experience to be a girl.

I also feel like I don't hate being a boy, I'm fine and I kinda like it (idk really) but I do feel like being a girl is better.

When I am presented with something like the button test, my answer will always be uncertainty. I don't know if it's the right thing for me to become a girl. What I do know, is that I don't want those questions to stop. At least not on the "I am a boy" phase. Sometimes I really think being a girl at this exact moment would be insanely nice (usually when I'm exited about something or jaming to random songs or at like midnight)

In terms of transitionning (even thought I probably can't do HRT this young from what I saw), I looked up the effects and basically all of them are good. The only one I'm unsure about is boobs. Which...ig I want some ? Like my chest always seems weird and too flat ig. But if I had some, I don't want them to be too big ig. Even thought I'm pretty sure nobody controls that stuff. Feels weird talking about this as a literal child lol

Ig I want to be curvier (don't know how to say it).

I also am half-addicted to porn. Which I'm gonna mention for the sake of everything even thought, I looked it up and i'm pretty sure it cannot influence gender identity.

When I think of myself in the future (which is hard for me lol) Idk what I expect to see. I've always imagined stuff I'd do when i'm like 30 as my dad lol. Like an exact copy. But never as a girl even thought, now I want to try and imagine it (hard because it's so far into the future). Apparently if you don't see yourself as a girl in the future it way indicate that I'm not trans but idk. Normally I imagine myself as a boy, althought different than how I present myself currently. But I want to want to be a girl and not just a feminine boy. Idk if that makes sense.

Other thing I should mention is I think being a girl is objectively better than a boy.

I also tryed to call myself a girl out loud (hard yet again lol) and it did kinda feel good. When my friends said I looked like a girl I didn't feel the same sensation but I did want it to hear it again. Sometimes I just feel like i'm dragging all these claims to be a girl. Guess that's another evidence.

Ig I also have some more boyish interests but I don't think that matters tbh. I'm also scared that having some more boyish beheaviours stops me from being trans or something. I hope it doesn't.

Idk If I'd like being a girl full time. I hope I would but in the end, idk. Maybe it's just because it's so different then what I am.

I never chose a girl video game avatar exept for Alex in Minecraft (which I thought was a boy, and then I became sad that I couldn't wear it) which is better than Steve imo. I don't play a huge range of customisable video games so that may be why.

I want to talk to my friends about this but I'm scared of their reaction so i keep pushing the reveal further and further. I feel like when I'm alone, I'm more sure of being transgender than when I'm talking and being social with people.

I did think a bit about being non-binary or genderfluid. I don't think I'm either but if i'm non-binary, I'd be fem leaning for sure.

I hope I'm not using being trans to cope with some other probleme. I have pretty bad procrastination rn and I hope that's not why I question stuff.

Being sure I'm a girl makes me happy.

I probably repeat myself a billion times in this but i'm too lazy to proofread this.

Holy rant. I should have a Nobel Prize for how weird all of this probably sounds. I hope it's at least a bit structured. This took an hour to write but it's probably the most complete writing of my thoughts ever. And it's probaly not even 100% complete. I kinda suck at telling how I feel so I just dumped everything lol. Please tell me what all of this means. I'd mean a lot to me.

Hi! I don’t know if this is the right place to ask, but I’m really confused and I was wondering if anyone has felt similar. I used to have a very large chest (like a g cup but I am a size s or xs so proportionally it was pretty crazy)but I got a reduction surgery last year and now I am like a b cup. I always hated my chest and compressed it or tried to hide it, but I thought I was just because it was so large. Now it is smaller, I am so so so much happier, but I have all these thoughts super frequently about wanting to have a flat chest. I also have defined hips, and I wish I could get rid of them. I think I identify with being a girl (which I have been from birth) but recently I used medical wrap to make my chest entirely flat, and I stared in the mirror for like an hour and it felt what I think people describe as euphoric. Does this mean I am trans? I am a teen btw so sorry if any of this is an insensitive tone, I don’t have anyone irl who I can talk to about this. I feel like this isn’t normal to want, or to think about this much, but I can’t stop. Nothing against being trans ofc I just don’t think I am but what if I’m wrong???? Pls pls pls share advice or experiences

Hello.

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Warning: Talking About Sexual Stuff

Hello. I am 19 female though I do wonder about my gender (I'm fine with my chest, sometimes they are good and sometimes I find them disgusting) (I would rather have male genitals instead of female genitals).

I have been questioning my sexuality and gender since I was 13. I used to think I was asexual. I used to be very repulsed by sexual stuff and genitals, until I learned that they could be done with certain conditions (I learned this at 18). I still would not want certain stuff, though.

For example, I think I would be fine touching someone else (it might take a few times to get comfortable touching genitals, though, as I mostly find them disgusting), however, I do not want them touching me. I would want to be the top, or dominant, though I wouldn't mind being a submissive top. When it comes to vaginal sex, I do not want that. However, if my partner really wanted it, I do not know if I would refuse (I am kind of scared that I would not). I want to please someone, however I do not want to be touched (arms, legs, head, neck, back, abdomen is okay I guess). I also do not masturbate and do not desire release. I also rarely feel aroused (though it is someone's faces/noises they make that will be the most arousing, I guess?).

I know I have been romantically attracted to men. When I was 13 or 14, I could imagine being in a nonsexual relationship with women, and when I was 15 though I do not remember, I felt like I was pretty certain that I did not want to marry one day, but if I had to, I did not want to marry a man, then I could imagine myself in nonsexual relationship with men, then I discovered that Femdom and pegging exist, and then I realized that I would be fine engaging sexually with anyone (if they do not touch me), however, I'm not sure about marriage. Right now, I think I would want to marry one day, and I can imagine marrying a man who lets me peg him (maybe not letting me peg the man would be okay? However, I would worry that would require other sexual acts to make up for the lack of pegging) and does not touch me in return, however, I am not sure about marrying a women anymore. The last time I had thought that I wanted that was when I was repulsed by sexual stuff. I do not know what to do. I am sorry.

I also have OCD around orientation. I have very rarely used labels regarding orientation. I feel like I am constantly going back and forth or left and right.

I do not want to disrespect anyone. I do not know what to say to people. I do not want to cause any bad feelings.

I apologize for any disrespect.

Thank you.

anyone please help i been having sexuality crisis for the past few days okay 🤍

I'm quite confused about where I fall on the gray area between asexuality and hypersexuality. Let me explain, and see if you can give me a clear answer or a label that works for me:

1. I usually have a very high libido and masturbate several times a day.

2. However, I don't think I feel what's called "sexual attraction." I mean, I see someone considered "sexy" and I don't feel like having sex with them unless I know them.

3. On the other hand, I can get aroused watching NSFW content, for example, cartoons, although those same characters in an SFW context don't arouse me.

4. I can feel sexual interest in specific people I know, but only once have I confirmed that they feel the same way about me. Even so, I don't know if I should consider it "attraction" because it doesn't imply a desire to have sex with them.

5. When I have that interest, I like teasing, dirty talking, and even sexting, but I'm hesitant about IRL sex.

6. Interestingly, I almost always have that interest with anyone who has previously shown interest in me in that way.

7. I can have IRL sex, but I don't usually enjoy it, and it's more about pleasing the other person; if anything, I prefer to masturbate in the other person's company, without direct contact.

8. I can feel sexual arousal in the company of that person, when we're clothed and if they're teasing me, but when it comes to having sex as such, I lose the desire and the arousal.

9. I have no genital preference, nor any preference regarding body type, although I don't usually like very masculine bodies, but I'm very flexible.

10. That "sexual interest" I mentioned earlier can be felt towards someone who has kinks similar to mine or a peculiar way of dressing.

As you can see, I'm all confused and have no idea where I fit in with all these traits that seem almost contradictory, lol. Could someone give me a clearer answer?

For a while now I’ve been wanting to be a girl but I’m not sure if I am one or am another gender.

I’ve always had feminine features and have leaned into that a bit (growing out my hair, shaving my face as much as possible, etc) and there were some other signs that I might be trans.

However, I’ve never really thought about my gender in my day to day life and I’m not confident in my sense of what womanhood is as I’ve never been close to any women. I don’t experience that much that could be attributed to dysphoria (closest is me disliking having facial hair or short hair). I also don’t always feel like I want to be a girl, although, more often than not I do.

So how can I determine if I’m trans, just want to be a girl, or if I’m some other gender?