r/makemychoice

Tl;dr a) pay ticket or B) go to court and hopefully get some money off.

Got stopped last night for an unregistered vehicle because it had expired back in April. I was utterly flabbergasted because I always pay my registration and I swear I had paid it.

A) pay the ticket

B) go to court and explain this is the first time in 22 years this is happened and maybe get a couple hundred bucks off. (They usually are pretty good with reducing if people show up to court)

Either way I’m completely fine paying it, I’m actually very happy he stopped because I genuinely had no idea. if I had gotten into an accident that would have been way more expensive then $600. I want to phone the detachment and thank him actually which I don’t know if that’s weird or not.

Edit: sorry! Forgot to add they usually send a letter in the mail as a reminder and i guess this year they decided to do emails because checked my email saying it had expired. I usually pay all my insurances beginning of year. So I guess it did slip my mind, and paid my insurance this morning!! Feel like a fool!

Hi yall, I have a really big choice to make. I am 22F, recently graduated college and have been job hunting for about 4 months for a full time position. I am hoping to go to med school eventually, so I am looking for clinical jobs. I finally got a call back from a plastic surgery clinic where I could get clinical and surgical experience. Overall this job would benefit me a lot as a person and help me grow. When I went in for the interview it felt so welcomed there. However, they want me to start in January 2027 but I had told them prior that I had a big trip coming up in that month where I would also attend my cousin's wedding and would need time off. The manager was very understanding of my circumstances but also needed someone to fill that spot. Like there is no way I can even go for two weeks at all since it is their busiest month.

She said based on my age, I should just take the opportunity to go on this trip before I get locked into a job and my career. She said there might be another opening in Fall 2027, and I should frequently check in with her about a opportunity opening so she can keep me updated in case.

Other than that the cons of the position is that it is quite a far drive, with traffic would be like 1 hour. My cousin that is getting married is one of our first cousins to get married, and my mother (who would be coming with me) said I should just attend the wedding, I would also be visiting my dad who has been living there alone for quite a few years now (and I recently found out he has been falling into bad addictions). My mom believes I will find another job eventually and I should let something a job get in my way of celebrating a loved one. But she also knows how much I have struggled to find a job and have stressed about it. I also thought about it in the lens that this one month of my trip will potentially take away so much good experience I could have gotten.

Even if I didn't have gotten this position, I had already concocted another plan where I just stop looking for jobs at the moment and continue my part time job and study to get certified as a medical assistant and just go on my trip for a longer time and continue searching for jobs in January again. I already have two years of experience and getting certified will probably make me more competitive.

I have want both outcomes but it is impossible, and I can reason for both sides opinion of what I should do.

TL;DR Should I choose to accept my dream job or should I go to my cousins wedding + a month of travelling before I get locked into my career.

That’s it. Looking to decide in the next 30-60 minutes. Here are some pros and cons:

Pros:

1. Casino
2. Could win money
3. Time out and having fun, win or lose
4. Demolished my to do list so no skirting responsibilities.
5. Money is good so no chance of bankruptcy

Cons:

1. Had 2 drinks so maybe I’m just lacking inhibitions.
2. Uber is 30$ one way (cause of drinks) so that’s an expense.
3. The drive there yawn
4. Could lose money
5. Just broke up with the girlfriend Sunday night so I may just be looking for a dopamine fix.

TL;DR: should I go to the casino, list of pros and cons

EDIT: ok we’re doing it. We’re getting there safe (Uber) and I’ll pull out $300 and leave if I lose it. I’ll update you all later.

EDIT 2: I broke even! Minus the uber rides. Thanks all.

we want to live together and save a ton of money, we are debating the pros and cons of navy and police, with the main setback of navy as not being able to live together unless we get married and less income after 4 years of service compared to the police. we will be living in kop or philly suburbs area if he chooses the police academy... so what should we choose?

we mainly want to know the benefits, pros and cons of choosing either one.

TL;DR which is better long term, navy or police?

I am extremely conflicted about moving back from abroad either next week or at the end of the year. I initially planned on moving next week, but got a perfect opportunity out of the blue to stay a bit longer. If I move at the end of the year, I'd have more time to enjoy my last couple of weeks in the country I've lived in for four years (local travel, etc.).

However, somehow it does feel like I'm standing still if I do so and missing out on stuff back home. I am excited to start new projects and meet up with friends, which I already made plans for. At the same time, we're only talking about a time frame of 6-7 weeks extra. I don't know why this is so hard. I will definitely come back as a tourist here, perhaps already next year.

TL;DR: move next week to home country or in December?

TL;DR:Should I follow my passion and go do online college for cybersecurity, or do what my parent suggest to join the military?

Hey reddit, im a 26 year old male and i graduated trade school doing hvac. I really didn't want to do it but I chased the money cause my family suggested I should. I went along and of course, I didn't like it. I told them that my heart really isn't into this and I want to do cybersecurity cause I was genuinely into it. Now my folks

Are giving me a ultimatum,I'd either join the military and then after 6 years in, I study cybersecurity, or do hvac and study it while working in that field. My thought is that why would I do something I know I'd be miserable in, and keep pushing back my passion? I dont know what to do and any advice would be appreciated.

I finish my uni degree this year and secured a graduate job, but it’s an hour away from home so I’m thinking about moving out alone to live closer? I want to experience something new and different whilst being in my early 20s (im 21) with nothing holding me back, so I see this as an opportunity for growth

However, after telling my family about my new job/potentially moving, I can sense that they don’t seem the happiest with my decision 🤷🏻‍♀️ I know I can’t and shouldn’t please everybody, but it’s making me question whether I’m making the right choice. What to dooo?

TL;DR should i move out of hometown for new job?

I moved out of state for college because I was really sold on their program for my major(which is truly amazing), the transition has been so much harder than I expected. I went from living five minutes away from everyone I love to suddenly being completely on my own. I live off campus due to a medical reason, I thought having a roommate would give me someone to connect with, but we have totally opposite schedules. Some days we only see each other for an hour, and other days not at all. Even though I’ve joined clubs and tried spending more time on campus, I still haven’t made many friends.

On top of that, my car broke down and the shop hasn’t been communicating well, so I haven’t been able to go anywhere or get to work really. I have been getting a ride to campus from a friend but we barely know each other and I don’t what them to think I’m just using them for a ride. I haven’t worked in a week, which means I probably won’t make rent or tuition. I already struggle to afford everything even when I’m working as many hours as possible.

I’ve been so homesick. I haven’t been able to stop crying since my second week here. It hit me that I’m really alone. I know I have an anxious attachment to my parents, but I don’t know how to cope with it from so far away. I haven’t been eating or sleeping well, and I feel like I’m failing at everything.

To top it all off, I currently have Covid and a concussion. My mom keeps telling me I need to make a decision about whether to stay or come home, but I don’t even know what “home” is anymore, my parents live in different states now, so I don’t really have one place to go back to. If I move home, I feel like I’m robbing myself of an amazing program and disappointing my family. But staying here feels impossible when I’m this lonely, overwhelmed, and helpless. I just want to feel supported again.

TL;DR homesickness is making me physically sick, do I stay in my out-of-state college or move home?