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How to make decisions I can not I am going insane?

I am being totally serious, this is taking a tremendos toll in my life where I just rather not do anything. I repeat this every single day and mostly every year, and this year I have done it again. Its been two weeks straight of waking up, looking at my computer and sitting all day, then staying up late until finally going to bed. I dont know what I do all day and my brain hurts. I am on the verge of INSANITY because i can not I CAN NOT make a decision.

RIght now I am trying to choose housing for the 26-27 school year that literally starts MONDAY. I can not pick :

Both private bathroom. 235 sq fr room in 6/7 person house 1350K + 50-100 utilities. 15-20 min walk to main campus, 5-7 min bike ride unfurnished. 85 sq ft room in four person 970sq ft apartment (other rooms are 104, 102, and 88 sq ft), girls and gay people, 1.8K flat fee including utilities. 3 min walk to campus, furnished, small kitchen/living room, with like girly girls who are all friends. I am emotionally attached to the people of both places and they are such different people and ultimately SUCH different lives and I do not know where I belong I am suffering, I know im really grateful for these opportunities, but they are about to go.

I CAN NOT DO THIS ANYMORE. I can not fathom how to move on and decide. After this decision, I have to choose my courses for school. It is never ending and I need help.

TL;DR: I’ve spent two weeks sitting at my computer all day, doing basically nothing, staying up late, and repeating it. My brain is fried because I CANNOT MAKE A DECISION. a huge 235 sq ft room in a 6/7-person , room unfurnished, house for ~1,400, or a tiny 85 sq ft room in a 4-person apartment for 1,800, but 3 minutes from campus. I’m emotionally attached to the people in both places, and they represent completely different lives. I don’t know where I belong, and I cannot do this anymore. Then I have to choose my courses too. I desperately need help getting unstuck.

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u/Impressive_Respond89 — 3 days ago

I can not make a decision about housing for the LIFE of me.

I repeat this every single day and mostly every year, and this year I have done it again. Its been two weeks straight of waking up, looking at my computer and sitting all day, then staying up late until finally going to bed. I dont know what I do all day and my brain hurts. I am on the verge of INSANITY because i can not I CAN NOT make a decision.

RIght now I am trying to choose housing for the 26-27 school year that literally starts MONDAY. I can not pick :

Both private bathroom. 235 sq fr room in 6/7 person house 1350K + 50-100$ utilities. 15-20 min walk to main campus, 5-7 min bike ride unfurnished. 85 sq ft room in four person 970sq ft apartment (other rooms are 104, 102, and 88 sq ft), girls and gay people, 1.8K flat fee including utilities. 3 min walk to campus, furnished, small kitchen/living room, with like girly girls who are all friends. I am emotionally attached to the people of both places and they are such different people and ultimately SUCH different lives and I do not know where I belong I am suffering, I know im really grateful for these opportunities, but they are about to go.

I CAN NOT DO THIS ANYMORE. I can not fathom how to move on and decide. After this decision, I have to choose my courses for school. It is never ending and I need help.

TL;DR: I’ve spent two weeks sitting at my computer all day, doing basically nothing, staying up late, and repeating it. My brain is fried because I CANNOT MAKE A DECISION. a huge 235 sq ft room in a 6/7-person , room unfurnished, house for ~$1,400, or a tiny 85 sq ft room in a 4-person apartment for $1,800, but 3 minutes from campus. I’m emotionally attached to the people in both places, and they represent completely different lives. I don’t know where I belong, and I cannot do this anymore. Then I have to choose my courses too. I desperately need help getting unstuck.

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u/Impressive_Respond89 — 3 days ago

I can not make decisions for the life of me

I repeat this every single day and mostly every year, and this year I have done it again. Its been two weeks straight of waking up, looking at my computer and sitting all day, then staying up late until finally going to bed. I dont know what I do all day and my brain hurts. I am on the verge of INSANITY because i can not I CAN NOT make a decision.

RIght now I am trying to choose housing for the 26-27 school year that literally starts MONDAY. I can not pick :

Both private bathroom. 235 sq fr room in 6/7 person house 1350K + 50-100$ utilities. 15-20 min walk to main campus, 5-7 min bike ride. 85 sq ft room in four person 970sq ft apartment (other rooms are 104, 102, and 88 sq ft). 1.8K flat fee including utilities. 3 min walk to campus. I am emotionally attached to the people of both places and they are such different people and everything.

I CAN NOT DO THIS ANYMORE. I can not fathom how to move on and decide. After this decision, I have to choose my courses for school. It is never ending and I need help.

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u/Impressive_Respond89 — 3 days ago

What actually matters most about your college degree?

This is a typical “I am so lost help” post, but I was wondering, looking back at your college degrees, what really mattered at the end of the day.

I am an upcoming senior at USC who feels like I has "wasted" my time not committing to a major due to a lot of circumstances and losing momentum, and I am finally waking up.

I have used the crazy tuition to not take advantage of any opportunities, and now I do not know where to turn.

I have taken such a wide range of classes from dance, biology, chemistry, humanities, and business without committing to a major. A semester ago I declared a Health and Human Science BA degree, but it feels so wrong and like I am just taking easy classes with not much to gain compared to the huge opportunities this school provides.

I am at a loss if I should even go back. I am now stuck with having to do three more semesters if I stick with the BA Health and Human Science degree, but if I have to do another three semesters to graduate in Fall 2027, it's like why not extend to Spring 2028? But then I have no idea what I'm doing. I have gotten into the business school and could also enter the dance program, but would mean graduating Spring 2028. But then, maybe theres a option to take some summer courses.

I am such an ambitious but indecisive person, and I don't know how to choose between the life of a scientist, health worker, business person, working in cinema, dancer, or marketing, as I have touched all of these subjects but cannot commit myself to one.

I really don't know what to prioritize in this decision or how to deep dive into knowing what I truly want, because I keep not living my life since these decisions are always in the back of my mind. I want to use the remainder of my time wisely and not waste the tuition, but it puts a lot of pressure on me to make this decision that could greatly benefit my future because USC has some of the coolest opportunities if you actually take advantage of them for certain career paths.

Looking back at your college degrees, if you were in my position, what would you prioritize? Would you focus on graduating sooner, choosing the degree with the best career opportunities, following what genuinely interests you, or something else entirely?

What ended up mattering the most after college?

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u/Impressive_Respond89 — 16 days ago