u/Famous-Cable-5042

So I got a call last week offering me a one year student internship beginning on September 1st, which I agreed to.

Just yesterday I was made aware of plans to go on a group vacation from September 3rd-9th, and it seems like an experience I don’t want to miss.

However, I don’t want my first impression to be that of a skiver. Am I setting myself up to be unfavored by taking this holiday on such short notice and so soon into the job?

TL;DR - I’ve been offered to go on a group vacation just a couple days after I start my new job. Should I decline to avoid a bad first impression?

I’m 23 years old and have been in and out of bjj gyms for years now. 5 different gyms. 100 different classes. But I can never make it a routine.

I’m a shy person, and I find the social aspect of BJJ intimidating. If I can’t get a technique right during drilling I find it awkward. I don’t know whether to talk? Be quiet? Talk about BJJ? Talk about life?

Sometimes I feel judged.

Does anyone else deal with this? How can I move past this? I love the sport and it’s holding me back

I’m a 23 year old male. My day-to-day life is pretty much working, then coming home and watching TV and playing video games, I’ve become comfortable with this life.

Up until maybe 2 years ago I was very active in a bunch of different sports, I was pretty social too, often going out with friends multiple times a week

However, I fell out of love with the sports, I feel I don’t have the ‘energy’ for them anymore. I’ve tried going back to training a few times over the past couple months but at most I go to 3 training sessions routinely then quit. Also, many of my friendships have disappeared and I find myself going out maybe once a month now, mostly a club night or grabbing a coffee.

There’s nothing i’m inherently good at. Nothing calls me, I don’t have a passion. I feel stuck and lost, I want to be doing more with my life, something that I enjoy waking up for.

How do you find that hobby or activity that gives you a reason and an identity? I need a change.

I’m a 23 year old male. My day-to-day life is pretty much working, then coming home and watching TV and playing video games.

Up until maybe 2 years ago I was very active in a bunch of different sports, I was pretty social too, often going out with friends multiple times a week

However, I fell out of love with the sports, I feel I don’t have the energy for them anymore. Also, many of my friendships have disappeared and I find myself going out maybe once a month now, mostly a club night or a grabbing coffee.

There’s nothing i’m inherently good at. Nothing calls me, I don’t have a passion. I feel stuck and lost, I want to be doing more with my life, something that I enjoy waking up for.

How do you find that hobby or activity that gives you a reason and an identity? I need a change.