r/getdisciplined

Ughhhh here we go. My husband and I used to be very active, very physically connected and very fun. We started taking edibles in college around 22 years old and have not looked back since. We developed depression, horrible eating habits, and we’ve been so insecure and down on ourselves our s*x life has become stagnant. I’m not really looking for advice because we know what we need to do. I guess I just want to hear other people’s experiences? I don’t really know.

We’re 28, own a home, great jobs and good income. For months we kept saying “we have to stop getting high every night” yet we’d cave as soon as work ended. We keep talking about starting a family, but we’re both in agreement we need to turn our health and habits around first. We started eating way better lately and began working out consistently last week. We haven’t smoked or taken an edible since Sunday which sounds like nothing, but it’s progress.

It’s an addiction. It feels like I can’t enjoy certain things anymore without being high because we’ve conditioned ourselves this way for years. Gaming is more fun high, talking is more fun high, s*x is more fun high (though we haven’t even been doing that bc we lowkey hate ourselves rn), eating is better, I could go on and on.

I started writing to help distract me and it’s working. We just feel like zombies and we’ve been so lazy it’s disgusting. I don’t recognize myself anymore and I’m doing something about it.

hey!

I don’t really know if here’s the place but oh well. I’m not usually the one to reach out for help on any of these following subject, but I have grown more frustrated with myself so I taught Its better than doing nothing ( ironically)

so I want to preface this by saying that I come from a very poor background where activities where really scattered and I ended up reading or « rotting » for most of my childhood (not complaining, the active moment where awesome)

but today, as a 23 yo aspiring artist, I feel like this blueprint of life is really stopping me, maybe and probably just an excuse.

but here’s the issue, I know I’m capable of creating everything I want to make, I have proven that many times, but always create in very scattered ways, I can do a project for a whole week and be busy all day long, wich I really really love, and then spend 3 weeks doing absolutely nothing even tho I have projects I want to do. My issue is starting not finishing.

so i dont know if my issue is my planning, maybe i just don’t want it enough, but all that makes me feel so worthless, and I’m getting scared that my dream lifestyle is only a dream, I don’t know if I have what it takes to change that.

I just wanna be more occupied, having projects lined up and start something as soon as I finish the current project.

I’m so sorry for this long ass text but basically if someone was in a similar position as me and shook things up pls give me the recipe.

loveeeeeee and thank you.

I've been blaming my phone for wrecking my attention for years, so last week I tried something stupidly simple.

Every time I caught myself opening Instagram, Reddit, YouTube, or just unlocking my phone for no reason, I wrote down what I had been doing immediately before it. I expected the answer to basically be, "I was bored."

It wasn't.

Most of the time I grabbed my phone within a few seconds of something becoming even slightly uncomfortable. Difficult email? Phone. Couldn't figure out the next paragraph of something? Phone. Cleaning reached the annoying part? Phone. Even while reading, I'd reach for it the second I hit a page that required a bit more concentration.

That was a pretty uncomfortable realization because apparently my attention span isn't randomly disappearing. I've trained myself to escape the moment my brain encounters friction.

The craziest part was how fast it happens. Sometimes I hadn't even consciously decided I didn't want to do the task yet, and my hand was already reaching for the phone. I counted 47 unlocks one day, and maybe 5 of them were because I actually needed something.

For the last few days I've been trying one rule: when I get the urge to check my phone while doing something, I have to wait 10 minutes. I can still check it after that. I'm not doing some hardcore dopamine detox thing.

But half the time the urge disappears once I get through the annoying part of the task.

Has anyone else dealt with this? I'm starting to think I don't need better motivation as much as I need to relearn how to tolerate being mildly uncomfortable for five minutes.

My daughter is 6 years old and this year especially, I feel like it's been really hard for her to make friends. She is super smart and was an only child for 5.5 years, so I feel like she is a little advanced or "grown" at least in the eyes of my sisters, but she is overall a super sincere, genuine friend. She loves to share and she loves to make her friends feel seen and heard, although she has no filter and that's something we're working on. She has started to get her feelings hurt more than ever before recently and I just don't really know how to help her or what advice to give her. I can't remember how I felt when I was her age or what situations I went through that could be similar. I know that now as an adult, I couldn't careless how someone speaks to me or what they say, I try to be the same person all the time; kind and helpful. I don't want her to not establish boundaries or put up with things that she shouldn't have to just because I believe in being kind (I believe you can be kind and still have boundaries).

Two recent examples:

1. My daughter takes dance lessons on Tuesdays. One of her little friends takes the same lesson. They haven't really been around each other since last summer because they went to different schools and her friend was pulled out of the before/after care that they both attended, but they were really close last summer and whenever my daughter would attend the weeklong dance camps. Last week, her friend arrived to dance with a few of the other dance moms and kids, they were playing with squishies (my nemesis) and my daughter walked over to her and asked if she could play also and her friend told her no. My daughter asked her why the other girls could play but she couldn't and her friend told her, "Well it's because we know each other's moms." ... ok. (for context, we had a playdate scheduled for the coming up Friday that the mom actually rescheduled to the next Friday) I told her to brush it off, you have a ton of squishies at home to play with (even though it crushed me inside). They started the lesson and about 10 minutes through my baby comes out to the lobby to tell me that her friend and another mutual "friend" were talking about her and she thinks she wants to cancel the play date. I told her that we can do whatever she wants to do but she should go back in there and ask the girls why they were talking about her. I could see on the TV that as soon as she went back into the room the little girl ran up to her. I later found out that the girl ran up to her and said "can't you wait for our playdate!!!" and my daughter asked her why she was talking about her. She told my daughter that she wasn't talking about her, she was talking about her ice cream sandwich. IDK weird. I tried to talk to my daughter about it on the way home and she was just so confused. She didn't know if they were really talking about her or not, and she didn't know if she wanted to cancel the playdate any longer since her friend told her that they weren't talking about her. She did tell me that when she first got into the lesson room, she was standing next to her friend when her friend said "lets get some personal space." This is very valid, the child might want some personal space and my daughter could very well have been invading it - that didn't bother me much. but seeing the hurt on my babys face and her telling me that her tummy felt yucky just crushed me. I told the mom what my daughter told me and she said she would handle it.

2. My daughter was enrolled in a before and after care program that she initially LOVED. Over time she started to hate it, like HATE IT. She hasn't gone all summer long. After talking to her, I found out it's because one of the teachers gives her a hard time. My daughter says that this teacher is so mean to her and is always yelling at her about something and being sassy to her. I talked to the director who reassured me that the teacher in question has never raised her voice, but I didn't really think that to begin with. I told the director that my daughter just feels like she's always being picked with/on and the only child at that. My nephews go to the same before and after care and have also told me that this teacher is always nit picking with my girl, even though sometimes my nephews are on her side and other times they are the ones getting her in trouble (this is just kids I guess).

My point is that.... everywhere my daughter goes, there is someone who is making her feel like shit. My mind says that the common denominator is the problem (that would be my daughter, lol) but my heart is telling me that it's something else. She is having trouble making connections, getting her feelings across or getting her feelings hurt and I am TIRED OF IT.

I will admit that she is a bit sassier when I am around, idk the science behind that but whenever I am not there and she is just with my sister, my mom or grandmother, etc. she is good as gold. She is even an angel when it's just her and I! but the minute that someone else is around or even on the phone she sometimes gets smart mouthed and sassy.

I am just looking for advice or an encouraging word. It's important to note that I do not live in lala land and think that my daughter does no wrong -- I will not make excuses for shitty behavior; she can be sneaky and manipulative, but she is also soft and sweet and such a good friend.

thank you for reading.

These days I am truly learning the definition of "you can either be your own best friend, or your worst enemy". The only thing holding me back from my true potential is my biggest opp, myself. Allow me to explain.

As a child, I was smart and in accelerated classes and programs, often bragging about how I never studied and still got As. Everyone coddled and praised me and I never faced criticism because I never did any wrong. But I also grew up in a bubble, raised by tiger parents, who never allowed me to do any wrong- or anything I wanted to do ever . As a result I grew into an adult who doesnt know how to work hard for what they want, or how to properly have social interactions, who has minimal financial literacy and freedom, and who lives in fear of rejection and risk taking.

I'm 25F, living at home with said tiger parents still, unemployed for 6 months now from being let go at a high stress sales job, and in this time of joblessness I have done nothing to help better myself. Part of it is surely depression, anxiety, and burnout. But it gets to a point. I'm sick of living this way and very frustrated because childhood me would be so disappointed in who I've become. Everyones former precious smart successful girl has no aspirations and no career outlook, and no desire for anything except to play videogames all day.

I despise leaving the house because I'm tempted to spend money, or eat out, or interact with people against my will. I've gained 10 lbs already because of this new inactive lifestyle. I've never enjoyed exercise or the gym anyway, but now that I dont get out much its really showing. I like taking walks at parks but thats been ruined for me because I'm a solo female (no friends to go with me). I want to better myself, and I make to do lists and plans and often know exactly what I SHOULD be doing, but can't bring myself to do anything. And the cycle continues.

Apologies for the long post, being concise isn't a strong suit. If you are reading this, please give me some tips, tricks, words of encouragement, roasts even! I just seriously need discipline in my life. TY.

I am not sure if the title is an appropriate way to look at things but here it is...

I feel like my days kind of fly away from me most days.

I write out a to-do list the night prior and try to stick with it.

I often get all my tasks done, but it feels exhausting.

I usually have 5-8 main priorities for the day. It is usually a combo of work and personal objectives.

I am often working till 5-8pm nearly everyday.

Including weekends.

But I do work from home, so I often do other things like workout, play with the dogs, etc throughout the day.

Not sure of that helps or hurts my situation though…

So it's never a full on working non-stop type of thing.

I am self employed so most days I get calls, emails or un-planable tasks that pop up in my day.

Even my off days I am still lightly working or have to do something due to the un plannable events.

I am Just struggling with what to do, most days I feel like I am overwhelmed, maybe a bit anxious as well...

I'm 21F and I am very very out of shape. I weigh 130lbs so I'm not too worried about weight loss, moreso about building strength and endurance so I stop getting fatigued from walking up the stairs or carrying something heavy. I also have a few health problems that could be much improved by simply exercising regularly. The hard part is that I deal with depression and heavy heavy procrastination. Every time I have tried going to the gym and implementing a workout routine, it doesn't last longer than a week or two.

I need an incentive like a reward or some sort of motivation to get me going to the gym twice a week. I've decided to use my apartment gym since I feel like that would be the absolute easiest for me to access and I don't have to worry about money. I've considered doing a reward system per week then maybe after a little doing per month or something where I take myself out to a nice dinner or buy myself a gift. My dad also gave the idea of paying him $100 at the beginning of the month and if I go all 8 days, I get the money back. Please help with ideas or what has maybe worked for you!

tl;dr - in need of advice to get me going to the gym as a very out of shape, major procrastinator.

For a while, I couldn’t understand what was happening to me.

Things that used to take 20 minutes suddenly felt like they required an entire afternoon.

I’d look at a simple email and think, “I’ll answer this later.”

Then later became tomorrow.

My to-do list kept growing, and the more it grew, the less I wanted to look at it.

The weird part was that I wasn’t doing anything because I didn’t care. I actually cared too much. I was constantly thinking about what I should be doing, even when I wasn’t doing it.

So naturally, I started blaming myself.

Maybe I’m getting lazy.

Maybe I’ve lost my discipline.

Maybe I just need to push myself harder.

Pushing harder worked for a little while.

Then it made everything worse.

What eventually helped me was realizing that burnout doesn’t always look like collapsing from exhaustion. Sometimes it looks like procrastination, brain fog, irritability, avoiding small tasks, or feeling strangely disconnected from things you normally care about.

I started paying more attention to the mental load I was carrying instead of only looking at how productive I was.

And strangely, once I stopped fighting myself so much, it became easier to actually get things done again.

I’m curious if anyone else experienced burnout this way.

Did you ever mistake burnout for laziness at first?

I'm going to be brutally honest: I've been coasting on autopilot for the better part of three years, and I'm finally disgusted enough with myself to want to change.

My current baseline is embarrassing. I haven't stepped foot in a gym since 2023. My diet consists of whatever is fastest, washed down with more Diet Coke than actual water. I sleep whenever I crash, wake up whenever my body gives in, and consistently miss morning commitments because I just don't feel like getting up. I work from home with zero structure, so my productivity is a joke – I'll cram a week's worth of work into a panicked Sunday night and tell myself I'll do better next week. Spoiler: I never do.

Mentally, I'm drowning in noise. I scroll TikTok for hours, binge podcasts to avoid silence, refresh news feeds obsessively, and fall into the xxx rabbit hole more often than I'd care to admit. Socially? I have acquaintances, but no real friend circle to meet up with, no partner, and no shared activities that get me out of my own head. I feel like I'm watching my life from the outside, and I hate it.

I know motivation is a myth at this point. I've waited to feel ready for years, and that feeling never comes. So I'm leaning into the idea that I need discipline, not inspiration. I've read about 75 Hard and similar programs, and while I'm not going to follow someone else's blueprint, I want to design my own 30-day "hard reset" with strict daily non-negotiables:

• Wake up at 5:00 AM – no snooze, no exceptions.
• Go to the gym every single day – even if it's just showing up and moving for 30 minutes.
• Eat a clean, simple diet – no takeout, no junk, just whole foods.
• Work with discipline for set hours – no procrastination, no cramming.
• Zero junk media – no TikTok, no doomscrolling, no porn, no mindless YouTube.

The goal isn't perfection. It's to prove to myself that I can override my feelings and just do what I said I would do, for 30 consecutive days. After that, I'll reassess what's sustainable and what isn't.

Here's where I need your real talk:

1. Has anyone here done something like this – a strict 30-day (or longer) reset with rigid daily rules – while starting from a place of zero discipline?
2. How did you survive the first week when your brain screamed at you to quit? What actually got you out of bed at 5 AM on day 3 when you were exhausted?
3. Did the momentum carry over after the initial challenge ended, or did you crash back to old habits?
4. If you could go back and redesign your reset, what would you do differently? What rules were actually helpful vs. just performative suffering?

I'm not looking for gentle encouragement or "be kind to yourself" advice – I've had enough of that. I want to hear from people who have dragged themselves out of a similar pit using sheer, stubborn structure. Did it work? Was it worth it? And what did you learn about yourself in the process?

Thanks for reading – I'll be updating this thread as I go, for better or worse.

I'm 18 and I want to get my life together and build a better life for myself.

Because of that, I want to get rid of the bad habits in my life (porn, doomscrolling, etc.). But even if I remove all of those things from my life, everything doesn't suddenly become good.

First of all, having a good life isn't just about avoiding certain things. You actually have to take action and do something, but I don't know what I can do.

I want to do something that genuinely changes my life, not just something that makes me feel good temporarily. That's why I'm more interested in concrete actions rather than things like meditation. The problem is that I genuinely don't know what those actions should be.

I'm also not living in the US or another high-income country. Where I live, the average monthly salary is around $200, so I don't really know what I can realistically do to improve my situation.

I don't even know if I should go to university. AI is already making me question what kind of career I should pursue, and I don't have much money either.

What do you think I should do? I'm starting to feel like I'm going to die from overthinking all of this.

I've been blaming my phone for wrecking my attention for years, so last week I tried something stupidly simple.

Every time I caught myself opening Instagram, Reddit, YouTube or just unlocking my phone for no reason, I wrote down what I had been doing immediately before it. I expected the answer to basically be "I was bored."

It wasn't.

Most of the time I grabbed my phone within a few seconds of something becoming even slightly uncomfortable. Difficult email? Phone. Couldn't figure out the next paragraph of something? Phone. Cleaning reached the annoying part? Phone. Even while reading, I'd reach for it the second I hit a page that required a bit more concentration.

That was a pretty uncomfortable realization because apparently my attention span isn't randomly disappearing. I've trained myself to escape the moment my brain encounters friction.

The craziest part was how fast it happens. Sometimes I hadn't even consciously decided I didn't want to do the task yet, my hand was already reaching for the phone. I counted 47 unlocks one day and maybe 5 of them were because I actually needed something.

For the last few days I've been trying one rule: when I get the urge to check my phone while doing something, I have to wait 10 minutes. I can still check it after that, I'm not doing some hardcore dopamine detox thing.

But half the time the urge disappears once I get through the annoying part of the task.

Has anyone else dealt with this? I'm starting to think I don't need better motivation as much as I need to relearn how to tolerate being mildly uncomfortable for five minutes.

I’m 29 and I’ve spent roughly the last 10 years procrastinating, avoiding responsibility, isolating myself and constantly telling myself that I’ll change “from tomorrow.” I’ve had very little consistency with anything. I’ve quit jobs, abandoned plans, spent huge amounts of time in my room, and developed terrible habits around scrolling, porn, masturbation and avoiding difficult or uncomfortable things. My physical health has also suffered, and I have chronic health problems that make me even more aware of how badly I’ve neglected myself. I know I’m responsible for a lot of this, and I’m tired of understanding my problems without actually changing them.

Career-wise, I’ve never really found anything I felt I belonged to. I’ve worked in call centres and other jobs, but I hated the idea of spending the next 5–10 years in a corporate environment. People keep telling me that at my age I should stop thinking so much and learn technical skills, coding, digital marketing, etc., and get a job. I may try digital marketing because I have a relative who works in the field and has offered me part-time work while teaching me things like Google Ads and practical marketing skills. I’m not against working or earning money, and I know I need financial independence. I just don’t see myself building my entire life around a corporate career.

The thing I actually care about is literature. I genuinely want to study English literature properly because I never really got the chance to experience a normal education. I completed my BA English Honours through IGNOU, but I never had the regular college experience. For years, whenever I passed through a university area near me, I would look at the students, classrooms, professors and whole atmosphere and feel like I had missed a huge part of my life. I keep thinking that if I had been given the choice at 18–20, I would have gone to a regular college and studied literature. Now I’m considering preparing for CUET-PG and doing a regular MA in English Literature at 29–30. Part of me wants the academic environment, the discipline, the chance to meet people and make friends, and the chance to actually become a better reader, writer and speaker. I also genuinely love novels, especially classic, gothic and darker literature.

I also want to start a YouTube channel around that interest. I don’t necessarily want to make boring “educational” videos. I want to talk about novels, gothic/classic literature, stories, folklore, culture and eventually other things I’m interested in, in a conversational and entertaining way. I want to build something of my own rather than spend my entire life working for someone else. My relative has said I can work part-time while studying, so in theory I could do the MA, earn some money, and slowly build the channel alongside it.

But here’s where I’m stuck: I have a terrible history of not committing to anything. I’ve spent ten years thinking, planning and fantasizing about changing my life, but when the actual work becomes boring or difficult, I run away. So I’m scared that I’ll prepare for CUET, get into a college, and then repeat the same behaviour there. I’m also scared that maybe the MA is just another respectable way of postponing getting a job and taking responsibility.

Should I commit to the MA and use it as a chance to rebuild myself while working part-time and building something of my own, or am I simply finding another way to avoid entering the real world? And more importantly, how do I actually break a 10-year pattern of procrastination instead of just making another plan about breaking it?

I've been trying to get my shit together for as long as I can remember now but damnnn, I've gotten to a point where I feel I'm not cut out for this and should probably just go with the flow. I mean, I've been struggling to break my own worst patterns, but fail, and then it becomes a huge gap coz I have to start a streak all over again, then I try hard once again picking myself up. This damn vicious cycle ALL.OVER.AGAIN!!

I do get that it's all about being consistent and not giving up no matter how we feel at any given day, but why is this so hard? Or am I making it harder than it should be? How does one be their own cheerleader over and over again, hyping them to get better each time they fail?

It's really tiring!! But when will I succeed? When will I get to live like that version of me that I look upto?

It's like with each passing week, month the faith I have in me is only going downhill.

When will this get easy??

Context:
I could dismiss any alarm without waking up.

I could do that without even looking at my phone. On iPhone I literally know where to tap to snooze.

Missed a flight in oct 2022.

Missed exam at university.

Missed important standup at work every other week.

I have tried everything:

- phone in different room

- 7 alarms

- sleep earlier. (real hard than it sounds)

Nothing worked coz when I am half asleep I find a way out of an alarm.

What worked for me, was two rules:

Rule #1:

The alarm can only end after I do something I can't do from bed.

I tapped a QR code to my kettle and the alarm won't stop until I scan it.

QR part is how I choose to solve it.

The point is the rule has to be completed standing in different room.(not bedroom)

Rule #2:

Snooze is allowed but capped.

One snooze, ten minutes.

I tried zero snooze, I messed up the whole thing in 10 days.

Unlimited is meaningless.

I found one is enough for me and keeps me sane. LOL!

The thing I got wrong for years:

I thought the problem was discipline.

It was that my system was flawed.

The moment there is a cost like getting up, going to another room, walking. The decision is made by me who is awake and not on warm bed.

Loopholes mater more than being hard. Any skip, any way to mute the phone and I would use it.

So whatever you try, try it when you are half sleep not at 7 pm during dinner.

3 months, no overslept mornings.

Curious what other people do to get up in morning. Especially people who figured it out without some special alarm clock or an app.

I have a problem. I love starting new things. Learning a new skill is amazing. Getting into a new hobby feels so good. The initial rush the dopamine hit it's addictive. But then reality sets in. I have like 7 different hobbies I'm actively trying to pursue right now and I'm good at none of them.

I have my guitar sitting there mocking me. My half-finished embroidery project is staring at me from the corner. The coding course I bought last year is still untouched. My journaling habit lasted three days. I feel overwhelmed constantly by the sheer number of things I *could* be doing but aren't.

It's not just the time commitment it's the mental space these things take up. The guilt of not progressing. The feeling of being scattered and unfocused. I want to feel accomplished in something. Not just dabble in everything.

I’m trying a new approach this week. I've picked two things. Just two. One creative one practical. I’m forcing myself to dedicate at least 30 minutes to each every day. No exceptions. The other hobbies are literally put away out of sight. Out of mind.

Anyone else deal with this multipotentialite paralysis? How do you choose? How do you stick to it without feeling like you're missing out on the other exciting things? Any tips on reducing the mental clutter and actually getting good at something?

I never really plan my day.

Sometimes I do, but most of the time I don’t. Why?

Because you can’t predict your mind 10–12 hours in advance.

You decide, “I’ll work for 2 hours,” and then your mom calls you for something. Now you couldn’t complete it, and instead of becoming a + point for your motivation, it becomes a - point.

So how should you start your day?

1. Plan the week, not the day

Write down the important things you need to get done this week.

Don’t plan every hour. You can’t control everything that happens.

Let your brain decide what to do first when the time comes. Don’t fight your own mind.

It sounds simple, but making it a routine isn’t easy.

2. Remove distractions

Your phone, Instagram, doomscrolling, movies, games, etc.

I see people using 10 different apps just to control their scrolling.

But if you don’t want Instagram, why keep it?

If you use it for friends, get their number.

If you’re an influencer, sure, Instagram might be part of your work.

Otherwise, delete it.

And don’t use scrolling as a pill whenever you’re sad, bored, or unmotivated. Your brain will start craving it every time you feel bad.

Use entertainment when you’re actually free, not when you’re trying to escape your emotions.

3. Do something outside of work

This is probably more important than the second point.

Go to the gym. Play a sport. Paint. Write. Read. Do anything that isn’t work, scrolling, or watching movies.

I’ve been going to the gym for almost 2 years without skipping unless it’s necessary.

These things make you realize that life has more to offer than your work and your phone.

Once you’ve experienced that, even going back to endless scrolling starts feeling shitty.

4. Train your brain to keep commitments

Decide small things and actually do them.

If you can’t commit to something, don’t decide it in the first place.

The problem isn’t breaking one commitment.

It’s training your brain that your own decisions don’t matter.

Start ridiculously small.

For example, I have a bike with both kick and button start. I decided I wouldn’t use the button for a week.

If I accidentally do it, I turn the engine off and start again with the kick.

Sounds stupidly small.

That’s exactly the point.

There are still a lot of things I experiment with in my life to figure out what actually works.

But for this post, I think that’s enough.

Hope this helps someone.

Comment if you have questions

I am pretty young, still in high school. From the outside it looks like I have a great life. My parents are well off, I live in a nice neighborhood, and I have a lot of friends. I even have my own business and I'm making a lot of money. But on the inside I'm incredibly stressed and unhappy, always moving the goalposts, and because I'm making money I've lost that passion and drive to keep working that I had a few months previously and am just bed rotting and scrolling on instagram all the time.

I go to the gym and eat well, that's just about the only thing I properly do. But at everything else I procrastinate. I barely work on anything, and am still filled with worries.

Whenever I'm alone, my head is always filled with thoughts of how precarious my current situation is. Before, I had a goal for my future to work on, as in going to college, getting a degree, etc.

Now I'm making more than most people who hold a degree, and all my focus is on trying to maintain and grow what I have but I'm not working to maintain it. If I lost that, I'd probably break down as a person, it is my foundation and yet I still procrastinate and can't bring myself to work.

I dunno, it feels like I'm rambling. Sorry about that. But the gist of it is, I feel very empty inside, I procrastinate a lot, and my days are blending together it feels like none of it has any substance. I don't have any goals to work toward apart from making more money. I can't chase any of my other passions in fear of losing what I have. And I can't do more than the bare bare minimum in maintaining what I've got.

I just need advice on what I should do.

Unhealthy tips more than welcome. I’m tired of gratitude journal bc that won’t do anything.

Im 27 yrs old.
The thing is, I’m procrastinating my own happiness.

Absolutely silly how come I was enjoying more the “chase” of changing my life to reach a goal and after that I’m lazy to do anything.

How can i basically be another me but like somehow that actually works?
I smoke, I’m a procrastinator, I have phone addiction and a mix of giving up easily.
I want to be addicted to gym idk like health mind idk
If you guys see my notes about how many things I wish to do this summer and now I’ll have class again and all I did was burp and clean my house.

More straightforward: how can I go gym, read, phone detox, diet, meditate, be creative (I study arts), chase my YouTube goals (I want to talk about Anthropology), make friends (I moved to US a year ago and I don’t have friend), have a healthy social life? Learn French? Start to post on substack? Read 3 books a month? Stop cussing and be more feminine (in atitudes, I can pretend to be a lady but it’s not true).

I want to be a better person for myself, I find it deeply annoying how often I have bad habits and how judgmental I am inside my head.

Also, my school colleagues are 19/21 years old so that why I don’t have friends, not to judge is just that we don’t have much in common to talk.
Well, before everyone jumps into conclusions that I’m depressive; i am. And im under medication and treatment.

Hey Everyone , I am Startup Founder building on some products around community building and creator economy. I am a technical person who writes code and build products. I have few launched product. I really want to create content for my product , launch them regularly, engage on the social media and distribution side of things more regularly to help my startup grow.

But I am a very introvert person and standing in front of the camera and creating content feels like a huge mountain to cross. I always procrastinate this and prioritize on the technical work only. Now that the products are live and not much technical work to do, I am wasting time, procrastinating and not really putting the time needed to create content for my business. I have already have almost 20+ ideas for content shortlisted, I have even conceptualized the actual content for few of them, but I am too coward / lazy to actually make the content.

I would really appreciate if any fellow founder, entrepreneur , business owner or literally anyone interested in content creation and offer some suggestion / advice / feedback on being consistent on this part.

I tried being disciplined on my own , but nothing really worked and I almost always keep procrastinating and would really appreciate outside advice on this.