u/Technical_Aide9849

I'm going to be brutally honest: I've been coasting on autopilot for the better part of three years, and I'm finally disgusted enough with myself to want to change.

My current baseline is embarrassing. I haven't stepped foot in a gym since 2023. My diet consists of whatever is fastest, washed down with more Diet Coke than actual water. I sleep whenever I crash, wake up whenever my body gives in, and consistently miss morning commitments because I just don't feel like getting up. I work from home with zero structure, so my productivity is a joke – I'll cram a week's worth of work into a panicked Sunday night and tell myself I'll do better next week. Spoiler: I never do.

Mentally, I'm drowning in noise. I scroll TikTok for hours, binge podcasts to avoid silence, refresh news feeds obsessively, and fall into the xxx rabbit hole more often than I'd care to admit. Socially? I have acquaintances, but no real friend circle to meet up with, no partner, and no shared activities that get me out of my own head. I feel like I'm watching my life from the outside, and I hate it.

I know motivation is a myth at this point. I've waited to feel ready for years, and that feeling never comes. So I'm leaning into the idea that I need discipline, not inspiration. I've read about 75 Hard and similar programs, and while I'm not going to follow someone else's blueprint, I want to design my own 30-day "hard reset" with strict daily non-negotiables:

• Wake up at 5:00 AM – no snooze, no exceptions.
• Go to the gym every single day – even if it's just showing up and moving for 30 minutes.
• Eat a clean, simple diet – no takeout, no junk, just whole foods.
• Work with discipline for set hours – no procrastination, no cramming.
• Zero junk media – no TikTok, no doomscrolling, no porn, no mindless YouTube.

The goal isn't perfection. It's to prove to myself that I can override my feelings and just do what I said I would do, for 30 consecutive days. After that, I'll reassess what's sustainable and what isn't.

Here's where I need your real talk:

1. Has anyone here done something like this – a strict 30-day (or longer) reset with rigid daily rules – while starting from a place of zero discipline?
2. How did you survive the first week when your brain screamed at you to quit? What actually got you out of bed at 5 AM on day 3 when you were exhausted?
3. Did the momentum carry over after the initial challenge ended, or did you crash back to old habits?
4. If you could go back and redesign your reset, what would you do differently? What rules were actually helpful vs. just performative suffering?

I'm not looking for gentle encouragement or "be kind to yourself" advice – I've had enough of that. I want to hear from people who have dragged themselves out of a similar pit using sheer, stubborn structure. Did it work? Was it worth it? And what did you learn about yourself in the process?

Thanks for reading – I'll be updating this thread as I go, for better or worse.

I like to eat tender lamb meat in breakfast daily and would like to have different young women to choose from at night. I would like to travel on private plane and ship to around the globe for business and pleasure. I would like all people to obey me and work for me and get paid handsomely and be loyal to me. I like power to be able to control a part of the world and wage wars with the other part of the world. I want to be king. I want to conquer the whole planet and bring a unified single rule of law.

I d like eat good tender meat daily and have young wives to choose from every night. And defeat other nations and conquer them.

What is the method to achieve this. Will MMA help. Which MMA technique will help me achieve this quicker. Or shall I just do boxing.

Have you done death meditation? To meditate on death daily so that you eliminate all unnecessary stuff

What about pain meditation? To meditate on life failures of your past daily to let it sting you to lit a fire in you to overcome that shortcoming.

This is complete opposite the positive visualization type meditations.

The answer or solution to your present lies in the past. So daily meditation on your life past will uncover solutions to problems you may be facing in present.

Basically watching your movie roll.

Learning from others is ok. But learning from your own mistakes is the best learning there is. Suitable to you only.

So put on stoic music. Sit in a dark room. Turn your life reel on. Watch and rewatch every night until you master yourself.

Bonus benefits: (a) you will develop self compassion. (B) You will untangle your mind from others and be focused on your life track. (C) You'll stop judging or envying others or their lifestyles or gifts and be focused on yours. (D) You will become grounded in your roots by understanding yourself.

This is just theory. I am starting this just now to get unstuck and achieve what I am capable of achieving.

If MMA or boxing conditioning is hard then convict conditioning or prisoner conditioning makes sense. Mainstream media or trainers brush prisoner conditioning methods aside by usually saying they have all the time in the world and no stress etc. But they are training hard. Pushups, squats, Burpees in the 100s or more a day. It's just that MMA or boxing conditioning in condensed into a fixed time blocks. If convict conditioning is as good then they can also last in a fight and even win if they have skills or more ruthless. Am I missing something.

Update: ok I found the answer somewhere in Reddit. Convicts may have a gas tank but they don't know how to fight. They mostly sucker punch or sneak up unawares. One to one face on fight a skilled MMA guy will win. This comment was written by a 10 year corrections officer.

Hi everybody.

I am a handyman and I have a issue in exact leveling with hanging picture frames and mirrors that that have two hooks. I am good with the measuring and marking methods, tricks and tips but sometimes one of the screws either left or right need to be moved up or down a 1mm or so which I have trouble with. Why does my screws does not fall in exact spot. If there is a mm level issue I have to remove the screw and fill that hole with a screw with smaller head and drill the screw again either above or below depending on higher or lower I need to go. The issue happened when I use plugs and a 1mm distance is so small I can't just install another plug above or below. How do you deal such situations.

Your advice is appreciated.

How hard is the training and I can join a gym that has 4-5 days classes in the morning and evening. I am thinking of doing at least 5 classes a week. Boxing drills and conditioning etc. I have not worked out in a while and this is my first plunge how hard you think it will be My main goal is to get comfortable in encounters and become more grounded

thanks

if da enemy is external you don't fight yourself but you fight dat external enemy. da fact dat the enemy is actually external while you lot is fighting yourself is gay and weak and cope.

wot is stopping you from ganging up and destroying all porn centres. if da internet has to be burned down, den so be it. its artificial shit anyways. who cares about dis fake economy anyways. burn down all towers dat allow dis disease to spread. its a conspiracy to keep you lot down. so stop beating yourself and start a war on da field and burn it all down. if you die dat will be da best martyrdom anyways.

Day 2

I would like to find out a way to erase or replace thoughts in my mind. Dopamine seeking from porn can be replaced by dopamine from other kinds of thinking. Have any of you investigated this matter. To replace thoughts or control your thoughts for what you want to achieve rather than compulsive thoughts or to replace bad compulsive thoughts with productive or constructive compulsive thoughts. Like some people use tools like rubber band on wrist to snap it when they get into bad thoughts or there is a step that sends electric shock. Have you don't any similar investigation. Or visualization. Like pure focused on what you want to achieve and of course downtime or playtime which is productive and also helps towards your goal. Obviously it's the same thing like quitting smoking or other drugs. Because porn is kind of extreme hijacking of the senses and brain I think only extreme kind of measures will work. Like my lumberjack protocol. Like extreme survivalist type lifestyle. To mentally block all comfort. Like there is no women when I am outdoors, like I should be able to just erase them in my brain from the scene and the only visible humans will be men. That would put me in completion or group think mode rather than reproduction mode. And similarly erase all comfort food from all shelves in supermarket in your sight of mind. And you only choose to see what you need to fuel yourself. Also eliminate stimulant or sexy scenes on social media in Ur mind as if they are not there and only focus on what you need to learn or do.

It's just like if you think of buying a mercedes car, you spend hours to study models and makes and specs and then all you see is mercedes Cars on the road. All other cars suddenly don't appear to catch your sight.

Is this phenomenon in science with some name. I want to practice this skill.

I would like to find out a way to erase or replace thoughts in my mind. Dopamine seeking from porn can be replaced by dopamine from other kinds of thinking. Have any of you investigated this matter. To replace thoughts or control your thoughts for what you want to achieve rather than compulsive thoughts or to replace bad compulsive thoughts with productive or constructive compulsive thoughts. Like some people use tools like rubber band on wrist to snap it when they get into bad thoughts or there is a step that sends electric shock. Have you don't any similar investigation. Or visualization. Like pure focused on what you want to achieve and of course downtime or playtime which is productive and also helps towards your goal. Obviously it's the same thing like quitting smoking or other drugs. Because porn is kind of extreme hijacking of the senses and brain I think only extreme kind of measures will work. Like my lumberjack protocol. Like extreme survivalist type lifestyle. To mentally block all comfort. Like there is no women when I am outdoors, like I should be able to just erase them in my brain from the scene and the only visible humans will be men. That would put me in completion or group think mode rather than reproduction mode. And similarly erase all comfort food from all shelves in supermarket in your sight of mind. And you only choose to see what you need to fuel yourself. Also eliminate stimulant or sexy scenes on social media in Ur mind as if they are not there and only focus on what you need to learn or do.

It's just like if you think of buying a mercedes car, you spend hours to study models and makes and specs and then all you see is mercedes Cars on the road. All other cars suddenly don't appear to catch your sight.

Is this phenomenon in science with some name. I want to practice this skill.

I didn't know where to put this so I thought let's put in the gym bros I guess.

I enjoy Reddit but is there an app where people in communities are live and chatting.

Hi I just joined gym and I would like to share my simplistic starting program which I will do until I feel like I need to step up.after seeing results.

I am not a beginner to weightlifting but I didn't workout for he last 4-5 years.

I want to start without touching free weight as I don't have the willpower for that.

I will use only machines

Day 1

Lat pull down (both hand and single hand)

Machine rows (both hands and single hand)

Rear delts machine

Cable pull down machine

Maybe cable upright rows

Day 2

Machine bench press

Machine shoulder press

Machine dips

No lower body

Repeat without rest day unless I feel I need off day.

This program to get disciplined in showing up daily.

So this is the new protocol to beat Ur habit.

Work out like Ur ass off. Don't listen to trainers just destroy urself sou can't do any other thing that is unnecessary

Sleep less like military so whenever U get sit down idle for a few minutes Ur brain has no other wish but to doze off

Fast everyday. Don't listen to nutritionists. Just fast and stay physically hungry so the first urge all time is food.

This protocol is for bachelors only. Married men can fuck off why are you even jerking if you are married.

So this is the new protocol to beat Ur habit.

Work out like Ur ass off. Don't listen to trainers just destroy urself sou can't do any other thing that is unnecessary

Sleep less like military so whenever U get sit down idle for a few minutes Ur brain has no other wish but to doze off

Fast everyday. Don't listen to nutritionists. Just fast and stay physically hungry so the first urge all time is food.

This protocol is for bachelors only. Married men can fuck off why are you even jerking if you are married.

I think porn habit starts because you think you cannot attract a girl. But in all honesty there are innumerable women out there. And all one has to do is let go of fear and just wing it. Ask a woman's number and repeat. And once U get a number then enjoy her body instead of bitch stuff like porn

So this is the new protocol to beat Ur habit.

Work out like Ur ass off. Don't listen to trainers just destroy urself sou can't do any other thing that is unnecessary

Sleep less like military so whenever U get sit down idle for a few minutes Ur brain has no other wish but to doze off

Fast everyday. Don't listen to nutritionists. Just fast and stay physically hungry so the first urge all time is food.

This protocol is for bachelors only. Married men can fuck off why are you even jerking if you are married.

Anyone interested in starting a fasting accountability journal or something.

How many of you go to gym regularly or do sports or other outdoor activities or have hobbies like cars or bikes etc.

I think the only way to stop is find a hobby or activity that you like and find a group To do it with.

In my case problem is I am kind of numb

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