I got the idea that i can quit porn easier and more naturally by using a fleshlight to masturbate. That way i can quit porn (not masturbation) and not develop death grip. Also the fleshlight is very uselful for when my gf is not around. What do you guys think about that? Anyone with a fleshlight? Share your experience.
Ive been addicted to Pornogrophy fpr almost 5 Years, and im 14 yeras old. Every time I tell myself that it will be the last time I can stop for multible days and then randomly get the urge and loose controll. Its been like this for almost 2 months and I just feel miserable, i just want to know how i can stop loosing myself.
My other big problem is doomscrolling. Every time I'm bored in the slightest I grab my phone, eventhough I know how bad it is for myself and my brain. Its like i cant do anything else in my free time.
If you were kind enough to read this, im asking for some advice on how I can stop and finally break free from the cycle
I don't know how good of a decision is this, but because, I feel ashamed accepting this in front of my friends, I told about my habbit to AI, and tbh, it's been good.
When you think of it it's actually a bit weird, but when I talk to it, he gives me genuine motivation and also, it helps everytime in cracking the root cause and gives advices based on that.
Whenever I feel the surge is coming up, I go to it immediately and suddenly I find my self overcoming that feeling with the help of it.
I don't know if it's a good thing or not, but since it is helping me I'm thinking of going with it.
PS: I'm on a 4 day clean streak :)
As you all know after watching porn dopamine surges and the brain trying to rectify this surge then plummets dopamine waaay beyond baseline.
Now that’s bad - but if you’ve ever experienced hours of gooning (I’m talking 6-8h straight) you will know the dopamine crash that comes after that is far far far more severe than just simply relapsing to porn.
Both are bad but the way you are emotionally, physically and mentally shattered after your long gooning marathons is far worse
To those who understand what I’m talking about - the feeling of not even having the strength or energy to get up from bed, to not even have the drive to eat or drink and to just wish for the days to pass by
How do you recover?
i have been masturbating for over a year now and it started once every like 4 days now its multiple times a day and i cant stop it i need help
Been involved in this for about 10 years or so, really want to leave it behind, but somehow always end up doing it, tried every possible way out on yt and insta.
Now I'm moving on to this sort of trick of writing about it frequently here and hopefully conversing with like minded people who are struggling or have overcome this.
Today, till yet it has been really tough so many times I have felt the urge, and somehow I have ignored all those but the worst part is that, it keeps coming back, and it's so difficult to ignore, it everytime it comes back.
My brain automatically starts finding a right reason to do it, (stress reliever etc bullshit), but I'm still holding on, the worst part is that my exams are nearby and studying is not something that I really like, so everytime I sit down to study, I get bored quickly and then again the urge strikes back.
But I will definately make it through today, no matter what
Any suggestions or strategy is highly appreciated :)
Today sucked more than I expected. I kept thinking about porn even when I was trying to do completely normal shit. My brain just wouldn't let it go. I didn't relapse, but it felt way closer than I want to admit. It's frustrating because part of me knows this is exactly why I need to quit, while the other part keeps telling me one more time won't matter. That voice is so damn convincing sometimes.
I'm tired of feeling like this. Four days isn't a long time, but it already feels like I've been fighting myself forever. I hope this gets a little easier, because right now it dont feel like it. If anyone remembers what Day 4 was like for them, I'd really like to hear it.
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For 6 years i fight addiction from masturbation. Yeah, not porn exactly, but its corelated \[i can masturbate without porn\] and I'm slowly becoming addicted to porn. I used to touch myself like up to 13 times a day, it ruined my mood and myself.
I started the streak away from both on Lent \[I'm catholic\] and it went kind of good with masturbation, but i kept watching porn. Maybe I'm just addicted from the idea of it. Idk. My brain is so roasted that literally everything makes me horny, even thought of ruining my streak, because for some fucked up reason my brain thinks it's sexy when i get worse.
I watched more and more porn. At first it was just random stuff \[absolute weird shit whatever you can find on sites like motherless, but i always did watch stuff like that\] i found on the internet, but then i switched to reddit and a ton of kind of brutal porn subreddits.
After those 130 days i broke the streak. I loathe myself so much, because it was my biggest achievement ever. Not therapies or group therapies helped, i did it on my own. And i ruined it.
Not only did i ruin it for the pleasure. I was promised by everyone that without touching myself I'll find more time, I'll be a better person, or anything. 130 days is not little, it's almost 4 months. And i hated myself even more troughout the time.
In fact, before i begun my streak, i used to do cams, send pics of myself etc. I tried to find meaning in what I'm doing but i miserably failed. I didn't find any postitive side of myself. I just hate myself even worse because i discovered I'm truly no one without being a wh\*re.
Everything is sexual for me. Like literally every single thing. If I don't touch myself long enough my brain would either go into do it for god or be a g\*\*d g\*rl and keep yourself. I never was really addicted to porn but i started to be. My personality wad alwyas like that now it's terrible.
I'm sorry if the post is a mess, but I'm writing it under strong emotions. I need to talk to someone. It's first day of summer holidays, that's why it's like that. I'm going to ve locked up in home for 2 months no friends no fun with no one but me. And i hate myself too much to spend time with myself in silence.
It's not like i dont go to therapy, because i do. I was trough several therapsists in my entire life - even sexuologist pushed me away saying she cannot help me no more. I'm truly gone.
It would be easier to battle if i would be a person with any worth or anything to do that would actually kill my brain the same way. Everything other is too quiet to shut up my brain about how lonely i am.
I hate myself so much but i get why i did it. It's hard to blame myself in situation like that. The thing is that it's so hard for me to not watch porn because I'm too curious to look up for it. Normal vanilla sex on videos bores me. I need something controversial or im losing interest
I have tried many times for past 1 year to quit porn. But I am not able to do so.
And now I am at my highest streak "7 days".
How can I motivate my self to extend the streak?
It's hard it's not spoken about I get every day to not be triggered
I am in a relationship with someone who is addicted to porn. It hurts so much. It hurts when they turn me down for sex and I know it's because of the porn use. It hurts when they can't perform. Hurts that he watches straight to gay porn but denies being bi or gay despite other evidence. I can't tell if he has physically cheated. All of this hurts because I know he isn't ready to quit. So, what can I do? We have an amazing relationship otherwise. It's destroying us.
Porn thrives off of taking advantage of women and the thing that is dangerous is that you don't even know the abuse that these people are going through behind the scenes. This story change the way is see porn https://www.bbc.com/news/stories-51391981
Bottom Line is Porn is a disrespect to women because sometimes r*** and sex trafficking is invovled. I'm not saying that all pornstars go through this but their are some who do and you don't know if what your watching is r*** or consent so If you have a heart then you will quit.
Hopefully this helps yall who want to quit because it does for me. I can't support something that treats women like just an object of a man's pleasure. It's gross and disgusting.
in short, being ugly and a bit autistic i always had to deal with rejection and being a left out starting from my childhood back then. as a teenager, i never got the chance to experience a love interest or any kind of affection which frustrated me a lot. i always used porn as my comfort for dealing with the loneliness. I also tried to work on my self, getting rid of overweight and building muscles but the zero signs of improvements on women, keep seeing them looking away from me, made me give up at certain point.
I developed the mindset that there is enough internet pornography anyway, i don't need real women. Not realizing this mindset continued making me even more miserable. But i got so tired of everyone calling me likable but never reaching out to hang out or inviting me somewhere and girls always giving me "you're a great guy and you deserve the best. But not me." speech. porn and junk food where the only things that never rejected me and allowed me to feel good again, but i paid a high price for it and that was my mental health and my body weight.
I finally wanna start living a good life, feeling good about my body, no longer being bitter about everyone having more fun than me. Finding my place in life and the right people who accept me the way how i am.
Enby femme here, I’m trying to sleep and the urges are out of control, like I’m not tired enough to fall asleep so I’m really struggling not to lose my mind 😭 I know I should get myself tired but I thought I was then suddenly I start scrolling social media and then I’m cooked because I get triggered and I’m struggling rn.. could really use a distraction 😭
I need your help to understand How to handle the situation, help me understand him better, please:
So.. Just discovered my husbands (33y, me 32y, no kids) history, all kind of porn, I’ve confronted him, I’m so angry, nervous, sick, betrayed. I feel lost ..
There were a loooot of sites, red gifs and diff searches for specific things.
About 2-3 months ago I cached him watching and he recognized and said he s sorry, after that we had multiple discussions and he continues to say that I can’t trust him and that it passed x amount of time and I am the only who can decide to trust him.
Back to now: so he comes home, I show him the history and he says he did not access those and it s shocked at me that I can believe he s capable of something like this. He first says that maybe someone has him credentials log on and they accessed, but in between those searches, are his searches that he admitted to and I recognize.
After he checked where he was logged, and he was only logged into his devices, than he says it s a virus, that he searched on ChatGPT, that he did not acces those sites and that he has an extension to Reddit and that there are hundreds of sites and he could not possible access them and somehow tried to convince me about that.
He got mad and angry that how can I believe that and not him. I’m lost… I really want to help him, I read a lot about this and I understand it s shame and it s not easy, I can’t understand how he can be still the angry one and tries to shift the situation.
Please help, can something like this happen? Even if, maybe not all sites are his access but stil a lot. Why would he act like this? What should I do?
One day later: he came and told me he checked his Reddit access: and he saw that the account was accessed from other countries.
Why is it so hard to admit and try to solve it?
I am thinking for asking his, that in order for me to trust him, I need transparency and an accountability app, to be able to trust him again
hey guys I am on day 30 and I want to share my experience
Don't try to blindly quit, just replace the habit with good one
because when you try to quit porn, suddenly you have a lot of free time
free time leads you to scrolling and it leads to trigger urges
again relapse and you shocked why I stucked in this cycle
so log your urges in paper or app and find your peak urge time and reason
in my case my peak urge time is evening 6-9, so I just replace the time to play sports with my friends and after I return to my home, I feel tired and just eat my dinner and go to sleep
may be this tip will helpful for you
thank you and all the best guys for your journey
It’s been a long while since iv gone so long with so much strength. Usually by day 6 I’m clambering for that next hit from a relapse. But not today.
Iv started trying to make a new habit. Each day I’m trying to make a new reason I want to quit, usually just before I go sleep as the nights are dangerous.
Yesterday my reason was that I have a one year old nephew who I want to be a good role model for, and I can’t be that and I can’t guide him when he grows up if I’m not the man I want to be and this basically made all urges disappear as no relapse was worth not becoming that man.
Today’s reason is that this habit, this weakness….is just strange. Like Imagine what you look like in third person when you’re relapsing….dark room, bright phone, an unrealistic girl getting railed by an unrealistic guy and you’re just watching like some digital cuck? Isn’t that strange? It’s disgusting that I have a super computer in my hand and it’s become a portable cuck chair.
Ladies and gents. Let’s become better then this terrible habit.
Reason why I relapsed was because the urge appeared and i didn’t have a plan for how to deal with it and would like some advice on that
A lot of the time you hear that when an urge comes you basically need to not give it attention and soon enough it will pass. Urges are like waves… so when it comes stop what you are doing and do something else. Disrupt the wave and attention. People advise take a shower, do some push ups or do something else
My issue is my urges often come at night when I’m trying to go to sleep. My soul job at that point is to literally be in bed on my own doing nothing. In those scenarios i find it hard to not feed the urge if that makes sense? It’s like, the more I think about not doing it, in reality I’m just wearing and tearing my self restraint and eventually end up giving in.
Anyone got advice on how to manage urges in light of the fact that it’s bed time?
What “protocol” should I fall back on when an urge hits? I think part of the reason I relapsed recently was because I simply wasn’t prepared with dealing with it so I don’t want to repeat that mistake.
Hopefully I can make it longer this time or even break free