u/Ok_Slice7016

so, I'm moving abroad for a few months for my studies. of course I had an amazing connection I would've taken but I took too long to book it that now there's no seats left on that train. and yes of course I feel terrible but now I've moved on to the next stage which is: planning how to get to the new city instead!

so far I have found 3 options:

1. same night, different night train, everything sold out except for the shared sleeping department for the price of a private one aka very expensive!

pros: almost the same as original planned

cons: a lot more expensive than originally planned

2. day train, I would arrive too late to check into my accommodation

pros: pretty cheap

cons: would have to pay for a night's accommodation - expensive, was planning to meet a friend in the city I had a changeover, would not work with night train

3. some connection with up to 9 changeovers to get there

pros: rather cheap, would arrive in the morning and could get to my accommodation

cons: I have a lot of luggage and if there's one delay it would throw the entire plan, stress level would be off the roof

those are all of the connections I found. I could've checked the flights but it is not categorised as a long distance flight so I'd have to pay a lot for my luggage, too expensive

TL:DR: should I take the very expensive train, the cheap one where I'd have to pay extra for accommodation or the cheap one with lots of changes and risk delays and stress?

ich fahre mit dem deutschlandticket und müsste zwei mal umsteigen. der zweite Zug hat jetzt schon eine Verspätung von 59 Minuten und deswegen werde ich den letzten Zug zu 100% nicht bekommen. ich finde hier am Bahnhof keine Mitarbeiter und möchte eigentlich ungern dann von 1 bis 5 uhr am bahnhof hocken. kann ich da irgendwas machen?

I (23f) have always been more of a loner. I was online quite a bit so I had lots of friends on the internet, but my main socialising app was shut down last year and in general I've lost contact with many people because I'm really not good at texting, it's hard for me to really connect just reading words. it worked better when it was friends I would only talk to online, but people I knew in real life, I was never good at keeping up over text.

so anyway, I've gotten myself a boyfriend about 10 months ago and now we're long distance for almost two weeks with 10 more months to go, yay. I'm leaving as well at the end of the week, but to a different country than him. anyway, I've never felt so damn lonely. I did spend a lot of time with my boyfriend, maybe lost touch with some people because of it which feels terrible in hindsight.

now he's gone, both my siblings and their families are on vacation I don't know if I'll see them before leaving, my dad lives in a whole different country, my mom is away for the weekend to see her boyfriend, I said goodbye to my cousin and my grandma today since I won't see them anymore as well as some of my friends. and my boyfriend for some reason learned how to put his damn phone away plus he'll go to a party today? so today I'm really all on my own and I can't stop crying and I've tried turning my phone off, knowing no one is on there anyway, slept for an hour and now I'm back feeling like shit. I can't concentrate on anything because I just want this feeling to go away but I don't know how. I picked up my guitar after a long time to play and sing along and guess what, I'm crying again.

I literally don't know what to do. I could text people but I don't think I'd get the comfort out of that. I've tried laying in silence, distracting myself with netflix and games, with my guitar now, just listening to music. I was outside as well today but my thoughts literally get through everything and I don't know what the fuck to do I feel like I'm losing my mind

I just want to stop feeling like shit but I genuinely don't know what to do anymore I think I just need a hug but there's literally no one around? I'm all alone and I'm not handling it well at all

edit: great, I went on Instagram to reply to some dms and distract myself and see that my fucking rapist posted so my day just got even worse I really need to block him already omg but on the bright side now I'm more pissed than sad so... a win?

so, I'm in a store and I have to buy hiking shoes that are already expensive, which is why I don't like the idea of getting the other shoes + jewellery.

so the shoes are really pretty, I've looked for boots like those for a while and I'm moving to Sweden over the winter so I think those would be nice for there. simple black boots .

I also found a set of rings + a cute necklace with a bear on it (I love bears). why I want those? I love jewellery and want to get into wearing rings. also, love the bear necklace it's so cute

the jewellery combination would be just slightly cheaper than the pair of boots (20€ for the boots, 17€ for jewellery)

idk what to get because in theory I'm sure I have some old boots and I have necklaces but none with a bear and i don't have any rings and the boots are so cool!

TLDR: similar price and I can't decide whether to get the cool boots I've been looking for or the jewellery set to try wearing rings and get the cute bear necklace

Side note: me (23f) and my boyfriend (22m) are both in our very first relationship, been together for 10 months and now he left last week to study abroad for 10 months and I'll leave to study abroad in another country for a few months next week.

Am I too much? I’ve actually been relatively sure my whole life that the answer to that question was “no.” After all, I’ve always put myself second in pretty much every situation, no matter how I felt about it. All I ever wanted was what was best for the people around me. I never wanted anyone to feel bad because of me. I’d rather just take the pain on myself. And what has that gotten me?

Now I’m putting a burden on my boyfriend, the person I would never want to burden, while he’s abroad. I want him to enjoy his time there, to really make the most of it. I just don’t know how to deal with all of this. Ideally, I’d do what I’ve always done with everything else and just pretend that nothing is wrong, but that also feels somehow unfair. I want to know how my boyfriend is doing. I want to know if something is bothering him. But I feel like everything I do is just destroying our relationship.

Nobody wants to constantly hear about how bad someone is feeling. But what if that’s genuinely how I feel right now? Is it better to say nothing, to lie, or to be honest about how I’m doing? I would love to tell him about all the beautiful things happening in my life too, but unfortunately there just aren’t many of those right now.

I’m genuinely doing absolutely terribly with this whole situation. I don’t know if there’s some part of me that just needs his attention and is now doing everything it can to make sure he doesn’t forget about me. That could definitely be part of it. But I’m scared that if I keep going like this, eventually he just won’t want anything to do with me anymore.

I feel like that first week was important, and I messed everything up during that week. Not because I wanted to. I was genuinely having such a hard time with the situation, and he called me so often that of course he noticed and saw how badly I was doing. And now we haven’t talked on the phone at all for five days.

Does he not want to talk anymore? Is he waiting for me to call him?

I would really like to call him, but I feel like our schedules just don’t line up at the moment. Whenever I ask what he’s doing, he’s out with people he’s met there. And then, when he says he’s heading home — meaning that would actually be a good time to call — I’m usually just about to head out myself to do something, partly because I need to get out of the house.

Should I just ask him when he has some time to call? I think that would probably be the best solution, because I don’t feel comfortable just calling him, no matter how many times he tells me that I can always call. I don’t think he actually wants to answer my call when he’s spending time with his new friends, no matter how badly I might be feeling in that moment.

I just miss him. And I think missing him is bringing out the worst sides of me.

I feel like I’m making myself unlikeable to the person who means the most to me. How are you even supposed to deal with something like this?

Should I just text him like I normally would? We don’t really communicate emotionally over text. For me, texting has always mostly been about planning when we’ll see each other next. And he knows that I don’t really like texting. I just feel like he would forget about me if I started communicating with him that way.

Maybe that’s why some part of me is rebelling. I just don’t want him to forget about me, but I think I’m handling that fear in completely the wrong way. I feel like I need to approach this differently.

Maybe I should go back to being the supportive girlfriend who is 100% happy for him all the time. And I am happy for him. But it’s getting harder and harder to hide how awful I’m actually feeling about the situation.

And then there are moments when I get emotional because he didn’t say goodnight to me, which is something we always do when we’re not together. Of course, we both fell asleep, but usually you can tell when the other person is getting tired, so it’s not exactly a surprise. And I know that he always turns off his internet before going to sleep. If he had genuinely just fallen asleep, my messages would have gone through. So he actively turned off his internet without even sending me a quick goodnight.

That hurts a little.

Maybe this is the first stage of him forgetting about me. Maybe this is his way of telling me that he needs some distance. Maybe he really was just exhausted. But even then, to me, it still means that he didn’t think of me.

Of course, he doesn’t have to think about me every minute of every day. But I think about him every time I go to sleep.

Then again, maybe that’s just me. Maybe it’s completely normal to just go to sleep sometimes without thinking about it. But when a routine like that suddenly changes, it really stresses me out.

I haven’t even been jealous over the past few days. I haven’t been worried about all the girls around him. No. These past few days, I’ve realized that I can destroy our relationship in other ways too.

How is this whole long-distance relationship thing supposed to work? I genuinely don’t know how to do this.

I don’t want to ruin our relationship.

I know I don’t need to know exactly where he is, who he’s with, or what he’s doing. And I don’t ask all of that anymore. I just ask him how things are going and let him tell me whatever he wants to tell me.

The problem is that I’m struggling with the fact that I actually want to know a lot more details because knowing them would help me feel calmer.

I just don’t want him to hate me after all of this. Because then it would be even easier for him to say that he’s found someone better.

And I wouldn’t be able to handle that.

I hate long-distance relationships.

so idk how else to word that question, because I'm not entirely sure what's wrong. so, I (23F) have my first boyfriend (M22) and we've been dating for 10 months now, officially together for 7. it's both of our first relationship, so we've been super careful and going very slow. now, we've talked about sex for a while and recently tried it and well.. we failed? we tried a few times. different days, different positions, it didn't work. and yeah, I'm sure we were both nervous, but we talked and laughed openly about it and knew it didn't have to happen, but I don't get why it didn't. he got soft rather quickly due to his nerves probably and my body blocked him off? I was focusing a lot on trying to relax but it didn't work.

now idk how to deal with it. i once got assaulted and my body blocked off then too, so I thought it was a defense mechanism, but I trust my boyfriend 1000% and it was nothing like that assault. we had fun and just tried with no pressure, but he couldn't really get in. just very little.

we gave up eventually and I just don't know how to let him inside? I wanted to. sure I was still nervous, but I felt fine. we didn't rush into it and he was very kind about it. does anyone know what to do about it? and yes, I did look into vaginismus and maybe I have that. is there a way to just train myself at home? I am already in counselling because of the assault and last time we talked about vaginismus as well, but I told her I wasn't sure since that time my boyfriend and I hadn't tried yet. so yeah, maybe I'll just talk to her, but maybe someone here has some advice

I'm moving to Stockholm in a while and am very into thrifting, but I feel like everything will be rather expensive in Stockholm.. so I'm just wondering how the thrifting culture is and if there are any good stores?

so I (F23) and my boyfriend (M22) have been together for 10 months now (including dating because we were pretty much exclusive, all that changed was the title) and in general it has been great. we don't fight and are very understanding of each other. sure we disagree on stuff but we either talk it out or agree to disagree.

anyway, one thing that I've tried really hard to drown is the feeling that I'm not as important to him as he is to me. I'm less of a priority.

to be fair, yes, he does just have more priorities in life than I have, but except for that.

I have just noticed that every time we are together, he checks his phone a lot and replies to his friends quickly while I sometimes have to wait quite a while for a reply, which is fine if we send empty messages back and forth, but sometimes we're in the middle of a conversation and he'll just disappear without saying anything. and when he's with his friends he barely replies, so why does he always reply when I'm around?

also, we usually do end our chat at a goodnight, but sometimes he falls asleep and I'll message him not knowing and in the morning he takes quite a while to reply while I know for a fact checking his phone for notifications is the first thing he does in the morning, because sometimes I lay next to him in bed and wonder why it's more important to reply to his friends first before interacting with me in any shape or form.

and I know he's busy with his business kind of thing and I support him fully, but it just feels like there's always time for that, for his friends and for networking and I can be squeezed in when there's time. sometimes even the gym has more of him than me.

idk, we went on vacation together for the first time and it was still the same. he was on his phone quite a lot, sometimes for his business, sometimes to talk to his friends or family and I don't want to be like "yeah you're not allowed to do that" but man, I'm right next to you. what broke me in the end was when we were waiting for our flight and suddenly one of his female classmates from school texted him and they were texting back and forth a lot, very long messages and all and he told me that she's just very social and kind of still holding on to school like yeah sure fine but am I not interesting enough for you?? like, nowadays it's a rarity for us to really have a conversation over text. when we're together we do talk a lot, but wow they were talking a lot. and yes she does know he's in a relationship because he literally told her he's on vacation with me.

anyway idk I really want to be supportive and not isolate him from people, but why does he always have time for everyone and everything else first? we were having a conversation when one of his friends called and of course he picked up to talk to him for a bit.

I'm really really trying to be understanding and not too clingy and all, but it starts to hurt. I got very passive at the airport and slept over at his place because there was so much delay I couldn't get home. anyway, in the morning we barely spoke and then I packed my stuff because he started using his computer and phone as I went to the toilet quickly. then he was surprised when I told him I was gonna go home like??? after barely interacting with me all morning?

idk and then a day or so later we were in the middle of a conversation when he disappeared for AN HOUR and then forwarded me a message from one of his friends?? and then told me sorry I'm on the phone with my sister I'll reply in a bit. like yeah fine but your friends you can reply to?? really?

i really want to be kind and understanding of it all but it's starting to really hurt me. but then again if he doesn't need that much time or conversation with me I don't want to pressure him or change him in any way.

and we talked, he said he's happy in the relationship. I asked him what I can do more and he said I should just say my opinion more often because he felt like we always do what he wants to do but other than that he's very happy.

so yeah. i just feel like maybe I need to become more interesting to be worthy of his time or something and it hurts.

am I overthinking this? or am I actually not a priority

so I (F23) and my boyfriend (M22) have been together for 10 months now (including dating because we were pretty much exclusive, all that changed was the title) and in general it has been great. we don't fight and are very understanding of each other. sure we disagree on stuff but we either talk it out or agree to disagree.

anyway, one thing that I've tried really hard to drown is the feeling that I'm not as important to him as he is to me. I'm less of a priority.

to be fair, yes, he does just have more priorities in life than I have, but except for that.

I have just noticed that every time we are together, he checks his phone a lot and replies to his friends quickly while I sometimes have to wait quite a while for a reply, which is fine if we send empty messages back and forth, but sometimes we're in the middle of a conversation and he'll just disappear without saying anything. and when he's with his friends he barely replies, so why does he always reply when I'm around?

also, we usually do end our chat at a goodnight, but sometimes he falls asleep and I'll message him not knowing and in the morning he takes quite a while to reply while I know for a fact checking his phone for notifications is the first thing he does in the morning, because sometimes I lay next to him in bed and wonder why it's more important to reply to his friends first before interacting with me in any shape or form.

and I know he's busy with his business kind of thing and I support him fully, but it just feels like there's always time for that, for his friends and for networking and I can be squeezed in when there's time. sometimes even the gym has more of him than me.

idk, we went on vacation together for the first time and it was still the same. he was on his phone quite a lot, sometimes for his business, sometimes to talk to his friends or family and I don't want to be like "yeah you're not allowed to do that" but man, I'm right next to you. what broke me in the end was when we were waiting for our flight and suddenly one of his female classmates from school texted him and they were texting back and forth a lot, very long messages and all and he told me that she's just very social and kind of still holding on to school like yeah sure fine but am I not interesting enough for you?? like, nowadays it's a rarity for us to really have a conversation over text. when we're together we do talk a lot, but wow they were talking a lot. and yes she does know he's in a relationship because he literally told her he's on vacation with me.

anyway idk I really want to be supportive and not isolate him from people, but why does he always have time for everyone and everything else first? we were having a conversation when one of his friends called and of course he picked up to talk to him for a bit.

I'm really really trying to be understanding and not too clingy and all, but it starts to hurt. I got very passive at the airport and slept over at his place because there was so much delay I couldn't get home. anyway, in the morning we barely spoke and then I packed my stuff because he started using his computer and phone as I went to the toilet quickly. then he was surprised when I told him I was gonna go home like??? after barely interacting with me all morning?

idk and then a day or so later we were in the middle of a conversation when he disappeared for AN HOUR and then forwarded me a message from one of his friends?? and then told me sorry I'm on the phone with my sister I'll reply in a bit. like yeah fine but your friends you can reply to?? really?

i really want to be kind and understanding of it all but it's starting to really hurt me. but then again if he doesn't need that much time or conversation with me I don't want to pressure him or change him in any way.

and we talked, he said he's happy in the relationship. I asked him what I can do more and he said I should just say my opinion more often because he felt like we always do what he wants to do but other than that he's very happy.

so yeah. i just feel like maybe I need to become more interesting to be worthy of his time or something and it hurts.

am I overreacting here? or am I actually not a priority

hey hey

so, my boyfriend and I will go long distance as we're both gonna study abroad for a year, but in different countries. anyway, since his luggage will be packed I don't want to get him anything big that's physical.

I came up with a little online game/website/..?

THE IDEA:

it's kind of like an interactive journal. I designed a room and want to make some of the objects in the room clickable. for example: there's a window and if you click, you can see or add pictures either of you took and uploaded. or a radio which when you click it shows you song recommendations you have for each other. I got a few more and I want them to kind of light up or move slightly to signal there's something new. maybe even add the view in the window if that makes sense?

idk how game-y I want it to be since I am very very new to this, but if I wanted it to be more game-like, I'd want you to be able to build a simple little character and walk through the room, maybe even the house then to make it more fun.

now my question; HOW?

I downloaded some game design programmes I found online like blender for the general design or unity and i don't remember which others but I don't even know where to start and I don't have that much time left until his departure

so, me (F23) and my boyfriend (M22) went on a mini vacation for the first time and while we were just outside and walking around, he suggested to ask each other some "deep" questions and googled some.

we went to the relationship category on the website and asked each other some stuff. I then asked him a question something along the lines of: "what does quality time mean to you?"

he replied a bit more generic and said that he enjoys spending time with people but then does need time to recharge in the evening or something like that.

he said he doesn't really feel that way when he's with me, but then also kept mentioning how important it is for him to wind down even though I told him after the first time that I got that, because I'm the same in this regard.

idk just the mentioning this part so many times made me think "oh so maybe he does feel this way with me as well" and while that's not even necessarily a bad thing, it kind of hurt. he did tell me he appreciated that the night before when we went to a park for a nice view and we just sat there listening to music together he needed that and was glad I was fine with it.

like I get that so much. I need time for myself, he knows that more than anyone, because I have told him before that I wouldn't come to a social event with him when it was too much the days before.

idk just the repetition of that statement multiple times made me think he was trying to hint at me that sometimes he does get tired of being around me if I'm there too long or something

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Budget: 800-1000€

Country: Germany

Use Case: Gaming - League of Legends, The Sims 4, Genshin Impact ; Music production (Cubase) ; Game Design (not sure yet, just getting started) ; university work

Preferred Specs: Optional: RAM - 16GB, storage - 512gb or 1tb SSD, even after all my research I'm still not sure about GPU and CPU

Notes: I don't have many ideas as to how to find a good laptop. after looking and asking around a lot I'm now at I have those options:

Lenovo LOQ 15 either Ryzen 5 or 7 (but 7 is slightly over my budget)

MacBook Neo (not sure about the gaming experience on that one)

I just want a good laptop that I can use for all my interests and that i won't have to get a new one in like 2 years

so I found two laptops

Lenovo LOQ R5 15AHP10 - 15,6" - AMD Ryzen 5 - 16GB RAM/512GB SSD - RTX 5050

and

Lenovo LOQ R7 15AHP10 - 15,6" - AMD Ryzen 7 - 16GB RAM/1TB SSD - RTX 5060

I compared them and it seems they're mostly the same except for storage and graphics (and of course processor)

I don't know much but would the Ryzen 5 be enough for some gaming + game development + music production? (I wanna dip my toe into them all)

the comparison said that the Ryzen 7 is better for that but is there a big difference? I'd have to pay like 250€ more for the 7 and while that's not the world, both are already expensive to me so I'm trying to save where I can

so, I(F23), my boyfriend (M22) and his two best friends probably are all leaving to study abroad for 1-2 semesters.

since they're all close and leaving around the same time, they had the idea to have a shared goodbye party. they made the group chat today to plan. apparently nothing fancy, maybe going to the lake and bringing some drinks and then just chilling there to see your close friends before leaving for a few months. my boyfriend asked me if I wanted to join in on it and invite my friends as well.

now, I told him I'll think it over. he is convinced I should do it, me, not so much. I have like two close friends in that city and I don't even know if they could make it. I don't know anyone in my university and all my other contacts are from the organisation I volunteer at and yeah I see them quite a lot but I never hang out with any of them one on one, just those two I consider my close friends. that's problem one. I wouldn't know who to invite and where to make the cut. if I just invite my closest friends it's those two, make it 5 if we're very generous. if I invite any more people I'm in the group where I know many and get along with them well, but enough to invite them? and where to make that damn cut because that group is big!

the other hosts are all in the same university and I've gone to events from there, it's always the same people. I'm sure they'll all invite some people from outside as well, but idk that's like one huge group and then there's my friends who maybe know my boyfriend.

another thing, my boyfriend will leave literally a few days after that party. I will stay for a few more weeks. I will see everyone I'm close with before leaving for good probably.

also, I really don't like being the centre of attention. I know, I won't necessarily be since we'd be 4 hosts, but I still don't really like inviting people because I'm leaving, like, it's not that big of a deal. I don't even celebrate my birthday.

like, I've been in this situation before. I moved abroad to another continent before, this time it'll be a country not that far. back then I met with my two closest friends (basically all of the ones I had at this point) and we just hung out like any other day. okay, my sister threw me a surprise farewell party which was very nice, but there it was all family and people who are basically family because they're from my church. I can't invite any of those this time since I currently live in another city a few hours away from my home and I know my people. anyway, when I went back from living abroad for a year I did the same. one last karaoke with the two friends I had left (since everyone left before already) and that's how we parted. I enjoy attending those events, I don't like being the centre of it.

my boyfriend said it'd be nice and I agree. but I don't really see the point in it. he has many friends, I barely got any, especially in that city. all my friends are spread out in the world so idk

TLDR: my boyfriend and his close friends plan a farewell party and since I'm leaving as well they invited me to host it with them, but I barely got any friends and don't like being the centre of attention, so I'm not sure I want to join as a host.

PS: I will definitely be there. I know all the hosts and one of them is my boyfriend(!) I just don't need to make my departure a big deal

looked at the calendar and realised it's been a year since the last time I was sexually assaulted! cried a bit. glad that is over. just one more month and I can celebrate having cut him out of my life!

so, I'm moving abroad for a few months.

I'm in Germany right now and need a laptop for gaming for games such as the Sims or league of legends but also for programming and production, so music production and game design/programming programmes should work with no issues either.

since I'm moving abroad and need money for that I'd like to go as cheap as possible, under 1k€? the cheaper the better

I don't know much about laptops, but storage as well as battery life and just a good performance (no lagging when gaming) would be my main focus I think

sooooo basically I'm going abroad for my studies and won't be able to bring my computer (which btw is not a good one). since I will study abroad of course I just need any laptop that's functional, but I also want to use it for other things. I like playing video games like league of legends, genshin impact, the Sims or whatever game I'll be into in the future. I also want to download some programs like cubase or blender so idk I don't need the best laptop out there, but I do want it to work properly even when there's a big program on there. I used to have a laptop many years ago and it was so slow and I couldn't do anything but use the browser basically and even that was slow.

I am on a budget since I'll move to a different and more expensive country, I don't have a limit per se, but I would like to just get the cheapest form of an actual good laptop that won't stop working on me 1 year into me owning it

so, I (f23) have been invited by a good friend of mine to go to a dorm party and pre-game before that. I said yes because I had nothing better to do, plus I kind of abandoned my social life lately. especially this week, I basically only went to university and okay yeah I did socialise but barely.

anyway, my boyfriend asked me just an hour ago if I want to come later. I asked to what because earlier he just said he had a gig which he wouldn't be happy with so I shouldn't bother coming. he said he has to be at university for a while today but that I could come to his university at 7pm. I told him about the invitation to the party and ever since then he's just told me that I have to know what I want to do. I said yeah I'm not fully in the mood to go but there's people I'd want to hang out with and I just got a "you have to know" again.

and like I don't even know what we would do if he invites me to his university. his classes would be over then but after that? idk maybe go on a walk which I'm all for, but I agreed to meet up with my friends over a week ago so I don't really want to cancel.

especially since all week I was in my room not doing anything, hoping my boyfriend would have time but he always did other stuff. didn't even have to work or anything else he had to do, just stuff he wanted to do that day. (I mean yeah it was practice and gym mostly so it's fair he wants to do that stuff but he told me he didn't do anything all day before that so I just thought to myself - why didn't you do stuff earlier then? we could've met up).

anyway this is the one plan I made this entire week so I don't really want to cancel but then again I do also want to see my boyfriend. we saw each other this week but a lot less than usual since one day was his gig so yeah I saw him but he was busy mostly so we didn't interact much. another day we went to a park and just spent time together for the evening until he went home to prepare for the gym (which he asked me to come along to but I had stuff to do and would have to stay at his place, so wouldn't get anything done + he was already going with a friend of his so I said you two just go)

so yeah now I low-key feel bad because I do want to meet my boyfriend but at the same time, I'm always free! this is the one singular plan I made this week and this is apparently this one evening he'd actually have time but he didn't tell me any of that beforehand!

and now his messages made it sound like he's a bit pissed off with his repeated "it's up to you" like come on, I always respect when he makes other plans and now I'm here feeling bad for having made one plan.

idk I want to do both but I feel like if I go to him before I won't go to the party and if I go to the pre-game/party i just feel like it'll be late already. (we do usually meet late since my boyfriend is quite busy, but of course today is the one day he is free before 9pm). and yes I would take him along to the party but he's not really into that (neither am I tbh, I don't plan on staying too long) plus he sounded very uninterested when I mentioned it

so, what should I do?

TLDR: I made plans with some friends of mine and now my boyfriend has time for me at the same time and I want to go to both which would be a logistical nightmare

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I'm going abroad for my erasmus later this year. (from Germany, going to Sweden)

I know there is this Erasmus funding from university but I'm on the waiting list there and they told me the chances of me receiving those funds are low.

I will most likely get some support from the state since I'm from a low income family but I genuinely don't know what else to do. I saved up so I think I'm good but I'm still scared I will struggle since I'm going to Sweden, which isn't too cheap.

I already got the cheapest accommodation I could find (cheapest student dorm room they offered) and plan to eat out as rarely as possible but I do also want to enjoy my time there. plus I feel like a laptop would make things a lot easier over there and as of right now I don't own one. I have a very old one but since it was a super cheap one it's no good anymore so I'd rather buy one that's better but those would be a bit more expensive (I'd still get the cheapest I could find that's good)

idk, how do you guys do it? any tips?

I'm going abroad for my erasmus later this year.

I know there is this Erasmus funding from university but I'm on the waiting list there and they told me the chances of me receiving those funds are low.

I will most likely get some support from the state since I'm from a low income family but I genuinely don't know what else to do. I saved up so I think I'm good but I'm still scared I will struggle since I'm going to Sweden, which isn't too cheap.

I already got the cheapest accommodation I could find (cheapest student dorm room they offered) and plan to eat out as rarely as possible but I do also want to enjoy my time there. plus I feel like a laptop would make things a lot easier over there and as of right now I don't own one. I have a very old one but since it was a super cheap one it's no good anymore so I'd rather buy one that's better but those would be a bit more expensive (I'd still get the cheapest I could find that's good)

idk, how do you guys do it? any tips?