u/Ok_Slice7016

so, ich und mein Freund wollen bald anfangen, sexuell aktiv zu werden. da wir aber momentan noch kein Interesse an einer möglichen Schwangerschaft haben, möchten wir auf Nummer sicher gehen. Kondome stehen schon fest, aber mein Freund ist etwas besorgt, falls da irgendwas schief ist und ich finde doppelte Sicherheit auch nicht schlecht.

ich hab aber das persönliche Problem, dass mein Körper ziemlich empfindlich ist. Tampons, Spritzen, Tabletten - eine ziemliche Überwindung. also etwas einsetzen ist für mich auf jeden Fall ein No Go. Also die Pille.. ist zwar eine Tablette, aber alle anderen Möglichkeiten die ich so gefunden habe, haben sich schlimmer angehört. ich hab darüber aber natürlich auch viel gelesen und gehört und habe jetzt ziemlich Angst vor den Nebenwirkungen.

natürlich kann man es erst wissen, wenn man es ausprobiert, aber ich bin schon so nicht die stabilste - körperlich und seelisch, also hab ich auch keine Lust, dass es alles noch schlimmer wird.

also wollte ich einfach mal nach euren Erfahrungen Fragen :)

ich müsste ja sowieso erst zum Arzt und so, aber ich wollte einfach mal Erfahrungsberichte sammeln

EDIT: wir sind beide erwachsen (22&23)

so I (F23) have once again realised how beautiful female friendships are. I used to have good friends back in highschool but I barely speak to them anymore sadly. I have one really good friend but she's pretty social so it's not like we can hang out that much. I feel like my closest female friends are so far away, some on the other side of the country, some on the other side of the earth.

idk I just love hanging out with girls I miss it

okay I genuinely need advice because apparently every guy I talk to thinks I’m flirting with them and I don’t understand what I’m doing wrong

I’ve been on a few trips with the organisation I volunteer for and okay the first time I’ll admit I did think someone was cute so whatever, fair enough. BUT every time after that I was already dating my now boyfriend, so I really was not looking at anyone else like that. I was still friendly and talking to people because obviously I’m there to connect with people, but I kept it strictly friendly.

and somehow it STILL KEEPS HAPPENING???

like one time a guy kept moving closer and closer to me the whole evening until I got uncomfortable and left.

and I started noticing that one of my friends never has this problem. she’s super pretty and cool and honestly I’d assume everyone would crush on her, but they don’t act weird around her the same way. so I kind of observed how she acts and tried copying it a little. the only time it kinda worked was when I basically barely talked to anyone and just stayed with people I already knew + their friends.

then on my most recent trip she wasn’t there, so I felt like I should actually try to network and connect with people more. I was switching between groups, trying to include people in conversations, keeping things super casual. and I spent my time trying to find this one girl from my organisation because I adore her and also because I lowkey did not want to be alone with the guys there.

anyway at some point she was outside with some others while some of us were still inside the venue, and this guy asked where she went. I told him she was outside and he suggested we go out, and I said sure because I wanted to check on her anyway.

so we go outside, can’t really find her because it’s dark as shit, and while we’re walking he starts slowing down, puts his hand on my shoulder, and asks if I want to sit somewhere and talk longer. I got uncomfortable immediately so I was like “no sorry I’m tired” and we went back. and while we were walking back he told me I should just enjoy the moment like I wish I could dude

and I genuinely don’t get it. I was specifically trying NOT to give anyone the wrong idea. I was constantly moving between groups, trying to make group conversations happen, talking to everyone equally. I even kept running back to this girl because I felt safer around her.

I’m not going around announcing I have a boyfriend to everyone, maybe I should start doing that?? but I text him all the time, he’s literally my lockscreen and homescreen, and I feel like it’s very obvious I’m not interested in anyone there because I’m happy in my relationship and I’m genuinely just trying to make friends.

but this keeps happening and it honestly ruins these trips for me because then I’m overthinking every interaction I have with men. like am I accidentally flirting without realising it?? do I just come across wrong?? how do people make male friends without this happening and no I don't talk to just guys there

okay, so since I didn't get a ticket for the city I live in I'll soon travel a bit to go see conan but it's been a while since I didn't have an assigned seat so now I'm gonna have to queue up if I want to be able to see anything. for all the concert goers - when did/will or would you queue up if you want a good view (general admission)

EDIT: also what are you supposed to do in the queue? I'm going by myself so I fear I might just be bored and then also lose my spot in the queue if I go for the restroom or anything else

just for me to compare what's "normal"