Hiii I’m 17F and I’m going on my first ever date next Tuesday. The guy and me met on snap he’s very sweet, funny, says the right things, etc + he’s soooooo cute. We’ve FaceTimed every day and text 24/7. We’re gonna have our first ever date at the mall and I’m freaking out. I’m now about 150lbs but I used to be 230 at my highest (I struggled bad with BED). Now I have like flabby arms and my thighs look weird and my knees look a little indented. I’m scared he’s going to think I look fat or gross or disgusting. He also told me not to bring money but I’ll genuinely feel bad if he buys me stuff like I’m obv gonna bring money but what if he doesn’t let me buy stuff and he buys it for me? My aunt said that’s sweet but I’ll feel so guilty cause I don’t deserve that. He also said he wants to hug and hold my hand which is fine but he also brought up kissing and I’m fine with it but how? He said you just like press ur lips out but I thought you use tongue? And what if he asks me to be his gf? I really wanna say yes but I’m just so so so scared I won’t be good at being one. Please help any tips or advice on anything would be appreciated

Hi ladies, so I’ve been having this issue increasingly over the last few months but my armpits itch like crazy, regardless if I shave or not. I’ve used both native and carpe deodorants and they don’t make a difference. Taking a shower and using sensitive soap doesn’t help. Witch hazel doesn’t help. I cannot figure out how to stop it and I feel like crying. There’s no rash. Just extreme itching. It almost feels like the skin is too… idk wet? Saturated underneath? Any ideas of what I could try? Does anyone else have this issue?

I am 15f and I had a check up today. All my check ups in the past have been mostly women for certain parts of the check up, and sometimes a male doctor for like checking eyes and stuff. Today I had a couple nurses for this check up one was a man like in his late 20s. He wasn't being creepy and he was super nice. But I really didn't feel comfortable, I wanted to ask for a female doctor but I thought I was just overreacting. He did the check up, like height and weight. I had to partly strip for some of it and he needed to check my lower back. I had to get in a couple different positions i didn't love. He really did nothing wrong and we wasn't alone, the other female docter was there and did some of it. But i feel traumatized, i think i am just over reacting and it's not that deep. But for next time, how do i politely ask for a female doctor? It's it wrong to ask?

I hope this is the right place to post, I dont want to seem all weird and pick me by asking this but it's a wall ive hit over and over and been told over and over.

So im 21, ive tried a couple times to get into dating but ive had a major problem by only attracting creepy men who like little girls, which upsets me. I dont really dress childish, but I do lean towards more darker soft feminine (I only wear things like dresses/skirts/shorts). I hate to admit and say this because I feel weird but I am pretty small i think, im 5'2 and not very full figured at all. (Lots of little boy comments lol) but by being this way, no matter how I dress I attract dudes who only use me to fulfill some kind of fantasy of being with a child as disgusting as that is.

I've frequently been called a loli, and the last guy I talked too I stopped talking to him because all he said to me was "yer so smolll omg so cutie so smoll and wittle and petite" and even as normal as he seemed at first just really eventually started leaning into being a creep and getting worse.

The thing is, is I have nothing against size differences/age gaps, I am grown and thats not really what I care about but with men it seems like theres a really fine line between me apparently being pedo bait and someone just actually liking petite women.

has anyone else had this problem :1 how do I fix it and be aware of who to avoid, I already kind of have a real fear of men and this doesn't make it better. Ive never dated and this is half the reason so im really clueless and just keep putting myself in shitty places without meaning too, if this isn't the place for this please lmk! thank you :,]

My life has been lame since I moved states and sometimes I would unblock them and see what they have going on. Not stalking not. But I know it's giving pathetic monitoring and I want to stop, stop thinking about them in a whole.

I got my ears pierced at 4 years old but quickly found out that I'm allergic to specific metals (don't know which ones cause my parents never got me tested), so I have up wearing earrings at around 10 years old.

I've noticed that on rare occasions my holes will fill up with this pus like substance? It's clear and a chunky white substance when I push on my earlobe. I forget about it until it happens again. My sister isn't sure what's going on; she's knows more about piercing than me but she's never fully healed a pierced hole.

I can see exactly where I was pierced and I can feel the lil hard scar bulb; where the substance builds up in.

There's been so many times where I feel extreme regret for getting my ears pierced, especially at such a young age.

hi redditors! i'm asking here because i'm not sure where else to ask.

i'm (F23) going to the gyno for the first time tomorrow and i'm TERRIFIED. to the point i've been having nightmares about it the past few nights.

i'm expecting to get a pap smear. i have a bit of pain with any insertion, including tampons, so i'm worried about that. has anyone here askes for a smaller/kids sized speculum before? do i need a pap smear if i'm a lesbian and only ever been with one girl (who has also only been with me)

additionally, what should i expect? will the dr/nurse come in and talk to me/ask questions before i get undressed? do i take my top/bra off too? should i bring a pad or panty liner incase i bleed after? ... should i take extra anxiety meds tomorrow? LMAO. (i'm prescribed xanax in addition to my other normal medication for anxiety. xanax is for emergencies, but ive only ever taken them once.)

THANK YOU!

i'm also particularly nervous to mention my pain with insertion because im a lesbian and that feels like a punchline waiting to happen lol

My fiance and I moved out to my home state three years ago to be closer to my family and for better job opportunities. Two years later and my parents left to go home to their home country to retire. I have no sisters, I have brothers but I’m only close to one of them. The three years that my fiance and I have lived here, we’ve been in our own little bubble, not really making friends. I’ve gone out with my coworkers and so has he but I wouldn’t call them friends. The friends I had in the state that we moved out of, distance has for sure put space between us and I barely talk to any of them.

I’m getting married soon and I have no one to go dress shopping with. I have no one to get advice from. I feel pretty lonely. What should I do? Just ask my brother?

Pardon me if this is a ridiculous question. I (23F) have a new boyfriend (23M) and I had to leave unexpectedly for a trip before we could have sex for the first time, but in the excitement of this new relationship I'm masturbating WAY more than I ever have before. Everyday for the last two and a half weeks I've been masturbating at least once daily, usually 2-3 times and sometimes more. I'm a bit shocked at my newfound capability to be always "on", and I'm wondering how much is too much and how often other women masturbate in general.

For years I genuinely thought I developed some mysterious, aggressive hormonal sweat issue in my mid-twenties.

i would put on a cute, expensive business-casual blouse for an office shift, sit in air conditioning doing zero physical labor, and by 11:30 AM I smelled like I ran a marathon in a trash bag. No amount of clinical strength deodorant helped. I felt so insecure that I kept spare body spray in my desk drawer and avoided raising my arms during team meetings.

Then I finally started reading the tiny fabric tags inside my clothes.

Almost every single blouse, blazer lining, and dress I owned was one hundred percent polyester. We are paying seventy to ninety dollars to wrap our torsos in woven petroleum plastic. Polyester does NOT breathe; it traps bacteria against your skin and bakes the odor into the synthetic fibers forever. You wash the shirt, think its clean, but the second your body heat warms the fabric up next week, the old scent instantly reactivates.

Switching to cotton, linen, and modal completely fixed the issue within three days. My body was completely normal the whole time. The clothes were just toxic heat chambers.

Why is it almost impossible to find affordable office wear made from actual breathable natural fabrics nowadays?

Today i went and had my first exam done at a gynecologist. I am fairly young so im not sexually active or anything like that. When the doctor examined me it just felt so uncomfortable, i hated the feeling, it was a weird pressure. My thighs kept closing without me realizing it and she got irritated with me. She said i needed to use tampons now and that it wasn’t a question or recommendation but that i absolutely had to do it, she also said i needed to start having sex. Her excuse was that her daughter who’s my age uses tampons and has sex. What do i do? My mom is just agreeing with the doctor and i don’t know how to make myself comfortable with being touched there. I cried during the exam and keep crying about it, am i overreacting?

I am 24f. I’ve never had sex, never worn a tampon, nothing has ever been up my vagina. Finally got my Pap smear and it was very uncomfortable. It actually hurt. The doc that did it was great. She was very kind and patient. After everything, she asked if I had some sexual trauma and I started crying. I don’t have any trauma. Idky but I am terrified of putting anything up my vagina. I’m anticipating pain. I’d love to have sex (penetrative) one day but I don’t see myself ever getting comfortable or over this fear. Idk where it stems from. My parents never talked to me about sex so unfortunately my first impression of it was through porn. So maybe that idk.

I’m a 25F and I work a full-time job. I've had a hard time making friends with other girls and I’m pretty sure it’s not a me problem cuz I’ve always been nice to them even when they completely ignore my existence :')

I sometimes wonder if they’re jealous of me in some way cuz (please don’t take this as a brag) I look a bit pretty or if it’s simply because our mindsets and interests are different. I really crave female friendships but I’ve ended up having more guy friends. Some of them even joke that I’m “a guy in a girl’s body” cuz I’m into things that are stereotypically associated with guys y'know WWE, dark/dank memes, action and sci-fi movies, etc.

The problem is that lately I’ve noticed that some of my guy friends eventually catch feelings for me. Things get awk when they confess cuz I genuinely see them only as friends (or even like brothers). When I turn them down, some get angry and block me while others keep begging me to “give them a chance” just cuz they “love me” 😑

I know some girls might enjoy having guys fall for them but honestly I find it EXHAUSTING!! 😭

So how do I make sure my current / future guy friends understand that I’m only interested in friendship and avoid things turning romantic? Would appreciate some advice on this 🙏🏻

This is gonna sound dumb, but stay with me on this. I just got a boyfriend, and I’m absolutely head over heels for him. We’ve only been dating for a little while, so it feels too soon to say that. But I’ve never felt this comfortable and safe with somebody. My problem is that I’ve heard so many people talk about immaturity with people my age. So I hear people say they thought they were in love with someone and it turns out that they were just young and dumb. I feel that way about every single thing I do. Every time I get emotional or try to figure out something about my identity, I just keep thinking “typical 20 year old, I’ll grow out of it”. It’s like I’m patronizing myself at all times. That’s always in my head, and it sucks that it’s there for my relationship, too. When I start to think that I could see a future with him, I shut it down and say I’m too young and immature to be thinking like that. Am I crazy or is that not healthy to have in my head?

So ig main reason I'm posting this is for yalls opinion. In school a bunch ive been told when girls are on their period use heat pads stay in your blanket and just relax. But for me i feel more cramps when im warm and less when im cold/freezing (i have sat outside in winter for an hour in rain) and interested if anyone else is the same.

Hi everyone, I’m getting married next September and I have a friend who is getting married the week before me. They asked me to be a bridemaid and I said no since my own wedding is so close and I didn’t think I would have the extra time to dedicate to being a bridesmaid for them. Well, they were hurt, which I can understand and respect, but what followed after were snarky and confrontational comments from them. It turned into one of those “gotcha” conversations where I felt like they wanted to “win” the conversation with the things they were saying. I tried to explain my side but I wasn’t getting through. I stopped responding shortly after cause it wasn’t going anywhere good.

Unfortunately, I anticipated this reaction as I’ve seen them not accept “no” for an answer before or you have to explain why it’s a no to them and such and even then if they don’t accept it, they will be annoyed. It’s why when they asked me, my stomach dropped cause I knew I had to say no and potentially upset them. I’m still hurt and confused. To be a bridesmaid is a huge honor, but when I say no, this is the response and treatment I get?

Well, now I’m in a dilemma. I still care for this person and the way that convo ended still sits with me. However, I want to stand up for myself and make it clear it’s not okay to treat me this way. Originally I indicated I would attend their wedding before the convo turned sore and now I’m not sure I want to put in the effort and time to attend their wedding if this is how they think they can treat me.

Some people tell me it wasn’t right how they talked to me, some people say the right thing to do would be to attend their wedding and still invite them to mine. Some say I should reach back out to them, some say I should wait to see if they’ll reach out to me.

Anyone ever been in this situation before? What did you do?

ugh god. today when walking and taking the bus I got harassed by multiple men and I’m sick of it!!!!

the first man was the one who scared me the most so I’ll center my question around that experience and what I can do in the future to be better about being safe. basically what happened was:

I was walking to the bus stop. I see there’s a man walking in the same direction a few paces ahead of me. he suddenly turns around, looks at me, smiles, and then keeps going. he does that again. then he fully stops and waits for me to get closer.

- first question before I keep going: should I have turned around? I regret walking past him. would turning around have made him chase me? get angry? is it worse to keep going or to turn around?

continuing with the story: as I approach he starts ranting to me about some coffee shop and how I should never go there and that I need to make sure no one else ever does either. He was trying to keep pace with me so I sped up and just said, “thank you. Good to know.“ to be polite. I could sense he wasn’t the most stable so I didn’t want to trigger him to be angry. He didn’t seem happy with that response anyway either so whatever. nothing I do is ever enough to placate these creeps.

i pass him fully but could hear him walking closely behind me and muttering about something. I knew I had to get away ASAP!! Sadly my bus stop was right there but I decided my safety was more important than missing the bus. So I turned left and went a different direction. Immediately after I turned he started yelling angrily and loudly, saying things like “pussy ass bitch” and stuff.

- my mistake here was that I turned down a neighborhood street cause I was just trying to flee. I should’ve turned towards the businesses nearby. I’ll do that next time

the crazy thing is he was assuming I did that to get away from him (he’s right and his reaction showed me it was def the right choice). But like I might’ve genuinely needed to turn that direction? He’s unstable I know and probably would’ve gotten angry about anything I did but still.

so what could I have done better to be safer? And any tips to stay safe as a woman when walking alone?