r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide

I have been with fair amount of guys, some I have told them I have never been able to have an orgasm if I see is going anywhere, if not I always end up faking an orgasm, Especially when the excitement fade out, and it just feels like a drag.

Don’t get me wrong, I have had an amazing sex. Especially with my ex, the only reason we broke up was because, he ended up moving out of state, and we both know it wouldn’t work out for us. But god, he was amazing. I may not have been able to orgasm, but that man made me squirt 9 times or more, during a single session. I hade been made to squirt by other guys too, but usually stopped after 2-3 times, never thought I could do it this much lol.

Other than that, I absolutely hate it, when guys go for my nipples, licking, and sucking. 1 I don’t feel anything when they do that, 2 when they start biting it just fucking hurts. But he, I don’t know how he did it, but my nipples and clit were sore and sensitive for days, hell my whole body would be sensitive for days. We had an amazing chemistry. He knew I couldn’t have an orgasm, so he tried his best too, toys, plays, clitoral focus, but nope, if anything too much clit stimulation would just give me a headache, we tried taking breaks and what not too. I just don’t used why. Especially when he says stuff “like look at my baby girl whimpering, how beautiful” that man really knew how to make a mess off me.

But yea, we ended up breaking up, had an amazing break up sex too. After him I didn’t date for a while, ended up adopting a cat, loud, annoying, clingy cat, but I love him no matter how much he makes me question my decision of adopting him. and soon I ended up dating another guy, but he ended up dumping me saying I don’t give him much of a reaction, like fuck you, you gotta make me have a reaction. And then casual flings here and there. Some were exciting, but most of the time I always had to fake it, even if it started off right. Some which did end up long term, dating or not would always end in saying “it’s/you are too much work.”

All in all I am just tired just thinking about sex, it starts off exciting, but ends up disappointing, they always go for the clit, when I just tell them to finger me, have to get them off, when I haven’t been able to, just to make them leave, and the constant headache I get after. Just don’t see the point of having sex. If I can’t even find a good sex, don’t think I will find an orgasm either.

I am just gonna stop being a whore, focus on myself and my cat. If I find a right guy yay, if not I will still have my cat, even tho I did end up kidnapping him from his mom.

Hello everyone I recently just turned 20 and ive been putting myself out there more which means ive heard more opinions about myself. Naturally I am a loud more (dominant) one could say, type of woman. Ive gotten many comments recently that I am “intimidating” and “scary” how do I become more feminine in the way I act? I know I cant change overnight but any tips would be much appreciated 😕

hey girls,

i recently just left my 9 year long relationship. it’s been hard. i wanted it to be him so bad but i just couldn’t do it anymore. this is probably the hardest thing ive ever done. my mom is no longer here and i wish i could run into her arms. how did you do it? what hobby did you pick up to keep your mind busy? will i ever love again? i’m scared.

So, I bought 12 laser sessions on sale and now I’m mourning my bush 😭

Last Christmas I scored an incredible deal! 12 Brazilian + underarm laser sessions, bulk bought, on sale. I felt so smart. Set it and forget it, right? Never think about hair down there again.

I’ve had two sessions so far. Underarms? Amazing, no notes. But my pubic hair is already noticeably thinner, patchier, and grows back so much slower. A few more sessions and it’ll basically be gone.

And… I don’t want that anymore?

The more I sit with the idea of being permanently bare down there, the weirder it feels. I’m a grown woman. Something about erasing it completely and forever has started to feel off to me in a way I genuinely didn’t expect. I’d rather just wax when I want to be smooth and have the option to grow it back. Fuck it.

Has anyone stopped laser partway through on purpose? Did you keep a thinned-out result, or did it eventually grow back the way it was? Trying to figure out if I should tap out now or do one more and call it. Maybe I can I ask if they can just do bikini instead.

I'm in my early 20s and it's my first time going to places alone. I usually go out in groups or with family since I was very little but now I want to go do stuff alone too without nagging someone to come with me. I still love company and very much prefer it but also some independence.

Any tips for staying safe when travelling or just going around town? I need like extreme basics. Like what you would teach your daughters. Cause I don't have any female family I can ask...

I carry pepper spray, have cash, phone numbers written down always. I live in a pretty safe city but still helps to be sure.

I try not to go anywhere at night and pay extra for nice public transport when doing so.

Thanks in advance : ))

So is it actually worth it? I am wearing loose cotton CLEAN pj pants rn without my cotton underwear and i am about to go to sleep. Idk it feels weird is it actually healthy?

I feel like most cycle apps only say things like:
ovulation today 🌸
But don’t really explain things like
emotional shifts
anxiety spikes
attraction changes
social burnout
low motivation
sleep changes
I honestly wish there was something that explained phases in a more human/emotional way instead of just calendar tracking.
Sometimes I don’t even want predictions as much as understanding why I suddenly feel different certain weeks.
What would you actually want a cycle app to help with?

i met these people just months ago and we vibed so easily since we have a lot of common interests. we are five in the group and there are only two girls, including me. the other only girl is queer and she’s well celebrated among us though the guys are constantly teasing me “when will i also out myself too” and whatnot. they have also become too comfortable calling us lesbians or gay. while the other girl is unfazed by all the names they’re calling us, i begin to spiral into thoughts. i am well aware that i am not conventionally feminine and expresses her femininity in other ways; what mostly hurts is, every time i would defend myself, they don’t take me seriously and think what i have to say is bullshit. i want to confront them in the most drama free manner though i also want to slap them in their faces because i don’t like being disrespected like that knowing my words will get stuck in my throat and resent myself for not knowing what to do.

what should i do?

Is there anything else I can do to be prettier? I do my own lashes. I have an in-depth skin care routine. I do my own nails. I have a consistent hair care routine and I take an everything shower one to two times a week.

With all that said, I take very good care of myself and I eat well and I hit the gym multiple times a week .

Is there anything else I could be doing to make myself look better? I know it might seem like I’m insecure but it’s a big hobby of mine where I love to do this kind of thing and see what I can do to look better, thank you advance for any help!! 🫶😚

I’m a pad girl, always have been because I have a short vaginal canal and tilted cervix, however I am doing a beach weekend with my friends which will include swimming/floating.
Can yall give me some tampon recommendations for a girl with a heavy flow and a weird vagina?

The older I get, the fewer bras and thongs I own 😅

They’re just not comfy, so honestly… bye! I have no idea how I used to wear them all day like it was normal

Anyone else feel like their underwear drawer has completely changed with age?

I don’t care about my appearance at all but I wish I did care. I’ve always been like this. There are just an endless number of other ways I’d rather fill my time.

Hair? Snatched into a ponytail as soon as I wake up. Like I sleep with the hair tie on my wrist. I don’t want my hair touching me and I don’t usually take time to brush it.

Skincare? Don’t know her. I ain’t taking time for all that. My face gets washed when I shower.

Makeup? It’s fun in theory but not in practice. I’d rather lay in bed for those extra 10 minutes rather than do my makeup.

Nails? Always chewed. Always unpainted.

I always wear tees and jeans to work. I tried wearing “nicer” tops for a while but then I need to wear a good bra too or it just looks dumb and I don’t like how it feels, and I prefer wearing a crappy bra so I can comfortably sleep in it as well. You can get away with an old, borderline useless bra with an equally old t-shirt, not so much with a blouse. When I’m off work I’ll usually either wear the same tee I wore to bed and sweatpants or jeans. Again, I’d rather spend that extra time in bed rather than putting together something nice.

In my mind this goes hand in hand, but I also do not care about my hygiene. Like really really don’t care and never have cared. It’s at the bottom of my list of priorities. I would rather be tied to a truck and dragged down the street than shower/bathe. HATE. LOATHE. Manage to get it done every 7-9 days and that’s more than enough for me. As I’ve said - there are just other ways I’d rather spend my time.

But I want to care!!! I wish I was one of those cute, pretty,
put together girls. How do yall do it? Were you raised this way, or discover caring in adulthood? How can I get there? Please!!

I need to find a cute purse that fits my fat laptop. I have a large cloth tote bag but I need my bag to be durable for the winter cause I commute on public transport in the winter. What is cute, durable, affordable and aesthetically pleasing?

I spent my entire 20s brushing off symptoms that in hindsight were pretty loud. Cycles that were never quite regular, fatigue I blamed on work, hair thinning in a way I told myself was just stress. I was really good at explaining things away and I think a lot of us are because the alternative is sitting with the possibility that something might actually be wrong. When we started trying I just wanted to actually know what was going on inside my body for once. I ordered a hormone panel through Goodlabs and got back results that finally gave me something real to work with. My AMH was lower than expected for my age, my FSH was on the higher end, and my thyroid antibodies were elevated in a way nobody had flagged before. I had walked around with all of that for years and had no idea.

The part that gets me is that I wasn't sick enough to be taken seriously but I also wasn't fine.I was just in that middle space that a lot of women live in for too long, getting told their labs are normal without anyone ever running the right labs in the first place.

Did anyone else have a moment like this where something finally made you actually check?I just think about how long I walked around not knowing this.

Why does it feel so hard to focus on myself? Like I feel motivated then I missing talking to someone or I get bored and I find a guy to talk to. How do I be alone? I want to be in a relationship but how do I focus on myself until it comes?

I have short hair about half an inch long. It’s Afro-textured and I have mental health issues, so managing long hair is extremely stressful every day. Short hair is the best for my mental health and peace. Mostly I feel confident and self-loving towards myself and my appearance, but I want to share how I feel at my worst sometimes.

1. I feel undesirable and unworthy to men: I am 6’0.5 ft tall with brown skin, which is already masculinized. I can’t imagine a masculine man genuinely finding me desirable without there being some creepy fetishization involved. I am a straight woman, who would love to be held by a strong, masculine, and protective man. Yes, the right man will accept me for me, but I cannot imagine a manly straight man like for example Dean Winchester in Supernatural being attracted to me. I don’t want submissive, passive, feminine, or creepy fetishizing guys and I tend to attract those types on dating apps and in real life.

2. I feel so unsafe: I don’t conform to gender expectations in my clothing, and don’t intend on changing. My appearance combined with my hair could definitely be associated with being non-binary or lesbian, neither of which I am. And the world is violent and prejudiced towards people like that, especially in the American South where I live. I feel like a zoo animal in public, I see people staring at me very often.

I want to wear short hair for the rest of my life, because it is wonderful for my health and peace of mind. However, multiple times a day I fantasize about growing out my hair long so that the world, men AND women, treats me with more respect, kindness, and gentleness. Because both men and women are prejudiced and harsher towards people that look like me. But long hair does not suit my gender-expression, and maintaining that would be absolutely hell for me because I have severe mental health disorders. I’m trying to reconcile my desire for social acceptance and male desirability with my need to stay completely true to myself and prioritize my mental and physical well-being.

Last time I saw a guy for a date and I’ve been seeing him for about a month. Most times I saw him all we did was kiss. He was telling me about his hobbies or interests and I thought he was really nice. I never saw Star Wars and he told me about how he does light saber fights with his friends or they choreo it. And he told me he’d send me more info about Star Wars so I can learn.

But most recently he went from talking to me to just full on making out with me. Then giving me a hickey. And I was taken aback. After that he didn’t see interested to make any more plans. I got so confused and followed up about it. And in the past we both collaborated for plans. Now he’s texting me and last thing he said was asking what I want to do, and I asked him which day and time works. But we don’t have a place set. And our plans are supposed to be in like a day. So I don’t know what to do now.

He was hardly messaging me these past days and now said he had to stay at work. But idk. I feel like if I continue to press these plans it’s not gonna lead me anywhere good. I already feel like he was just trying to hook up last time because we went on a hiking trail and this time I picked one that was more remote. That’s where he was doing that much kissing. And then I felt the switch up of not really wanting to make plans. Do I just let this go?

He has some work thing coming up but he didn’t seem to urgently wanna make these plans with me and I just don’t know what to do now.

Hi,
I’m going to post pics in the comments so no one is getting unsolicited feet pics on their feed lol.

I don’t know what to do about my feet. I have areas of thick, dry, scratchy skin and my big toes are like peeling on the bottom. I’ve tried pumice stones but feel that maybe I’m not using them properly? They don’t really do much. I’ve tried consistent moisturizing, but it doesn’t really do much. I have tried also just clipping off the thick skin with nail clippers but it always grows back.

I’m so insecure about them. Any advice at all is appreciated.

Basically the title 😭
I hate wearing plain briefs because they make me feel so unattractive, but super lacy underwear like Victoria’s Secret is insanely uncomfortable and feels scratchy. I just started uni and one of my close friends got me my first thong for my birthday. I tried it and I genuinely don’t understand how people wear them all day 😭

Are there any brands that have cute prints, bows, frills, etc. but are still actually comfy?