r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide

I started at a new job at a restaurant and my boss often comments on my appearance and calls me names. He says things like I’m “deliciously delicate“ like the dessert he designed and calls me by “sweetheart“, “doll”, “darling“ instead of my actual name. I feel odd about it because he is so much older than me and it doesn’t seem professional. I want to say something but don’t know when or how and I don’t want to offend him because I don’t think he is trying to be problematic or anything. I feel weak not saying anything and wrong as I try to figure it out. I’m trying to think of the best way to do it so figured I’d come here to try and understand how others would go about this. Sorry for dumping this problem here, I just don’t know where else to go because my friends say that I could lose my job if I get it wrong.

Are tampons supposed to hurt? The moment I start to use one it hurts a good bit, I've only managed to use one for a prolonged period of time once and the entire time it hurt, I've seen people say on here it's normal for it to be uncomfortable but is it supposed to full on hurt?

Hi all,

I 27F have had three beautiful babies and gained a considerable amount of weight. I was able to get weight loss meds covered and have successfully lost 70 pounds with diet, exercise, and the help of medication. I feel healthier than I have in a long time, more energy, clearer mind, better sleep all that good stuff. However my body looks not that great, to be honest I feel like I looked better fat. Has anyone else lost a considerable amount of weight and have any guidance or advice on how you learned to love your new body? I feel so frustrated because I put in SO much work to feel healthier and be healthier and I hate looking in the mirror just as much as I did before.

Hey girls! I’m sick of buying “seamless” underwear in every style possible.. thong, g string etc in seamless fashion bc they always show through my tight dresses 😬 How can I avoid them from showing? Any advice or tips would be great. Ps. I’m against going full commando.

I'm tired of this one app with too much ads. It's like 30s long for each ad. Im not gonna do that every time im trying to mark my period time.

It seems like guys who want to be fwb put far less emphasis and care into the friends part. Or they only use the friends part for the benefits.

I would like to be actual friends with someone at the same time we’re sleeping together. It creates a really fun dynamic but also it creates trust and respect. I’ve had plenty of one-off hookups and they were satisfying but they are not ideal for me at this time.

Has anyone actually had success with this? Without it turning into a relationship? Or should I expect a fwb relationship to be purely transactional? What kind of dynamic has been most successful for you?

Also, what kind of vetting process do you use for one-time hookups (just in case 🥴)? What questions do you ask to ensure your safety?

Thanks guys

I'm looking for the best/safest tampons that have an easy applicator, light/small size, and have the least chemicals in them! I cannot use cups or discs due to some health issues. Equivalently, other health issues impact my ability to use pads and period underwear (due to friction and pain). I am open to trying pads and period underwear if they make kinds that won't rub against my skin at all (0% friction!!). I know some period underwear might make boy shorts? I just need ones that aren't tight around the leg, but are still fitting enough to not cause leaks (I apologize if this is a big ask!)

I don't know a lot about period products because I've taken birth control continuously (now semi continuously) for the majority of my life, so that's why I'm asking for some advice!

Thank you!! :)

I recently left my LDS hometown to study and get a job and now that I’ve finally done it I feel more alone than ever. How do I find positive female role models and friend groups? I’m talking to people in my job as a waitress but I feel like everyone thinks I’m a freak when I tell them about how I ended up here and I’m ostracised by the people I left behind in my hometown.

Yours sincerely,

Socially confused.

Someone asked about straight attraction, I'm asking about queer attraction.

Context: I'm genderfluid leaning transfeminine. When I'm femme, women treat me like a woman, the wall and perpetual arm's distance I've experienced as a dude is gone. It's lovely.

But sometimes, the body language feels like they're into me, like they're flirting, like they're attracted. The spark in the eye. And then, bam, you gotta meet my boyfriend.

I (26f) had a couple of incidents where I worked with a guy or been casual friends with and sometime along the way I would "find clues" that made me convinced they do like me but in retrospect it was never an obvious sign, just thr way they look at me and interact with me that made me feel "desired" (but maybe that was just the way I interpreted the interactions). In highschool I remember I thought some seniors liked/desired me bc of eye contact, eventhough I was like 4 grades below them and we never even spoke to one another. So I see the roots of the issue being that I always misread the signs (also was big on maladaptive daydreaming). I am now trying more and more to see things clearly but I was just wondering - how can you girls actually tell, "yeah this guy is into me and I can open up my heart and reciprocate" (if you fancy them too)?

Edit: i guess I dont want to be a fool for thinking a guy likes me when he in fact does not.

okay so I am not from the US so I do not know how things work there, my apologies for that. Basically me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship where he is studying in Dallas and I know he goes to parties quite a lot. So I confronted him about why he attends so many parties and he told me that the main reason people go to parties is either for sex or for connection. He even told me he ended up getting an internship through a person me met at these parties. This is abit suspicious to me because there is many other ways to make connections he doesn’t HAVE to make connections at parties only. Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying he shldnt go to parties I just dk if his telling me the truth about his reasons. Anyways guys please tell me if this is true and it is actually the reason people in the US go to parties for. I am getting really stressed over this

EDIT:

I do not understand why every one keeps think I would not want him to go to parties, I really never said that. I do not have any problems with him going to parties, it’s just it was quite frequent so I decided to ask him why so many of them and he told me this which sounded suspicion because parties aren’t really a good place to make meaningful connections which can score him a good internship. Please note that he is only 20 and that’s why I’m concerned. And I am really not trying to be a controlling gf, I am just not aware of the party scene in the US as it is very different from where we r from and none of us has attend a party in our country because it’s very rare to have parties here and it was mostly for just a exclusive bunch. 

Hiii, I’m a 19 yr old female and recently I’ve been struggling in terms of my sexuality and dating. I just ended things with a guy I was seeing and I feel really disappointed with this situation. I’ve never had sex or have been in an actual relationship before and I feel like I’m behind on a theoretical timeline, which I know in reality I shouldn’t be worried about but it’s plagued my mind and I’m almost embarrassed to not be experienced sexually going into my sophomore year of college. I personally feel like I would want to be in a relationship if I were to be intimate with a partner but a lot of my friends don’t feel the same and now I’m wondering if this is a childlike fantasy of mine. I feel like not being experienced sexually or in relationships makes me feel like I’m not as mature as my friends, they talk to me like I’m a child or naive when the conversation of sex comes up. I guess I just want some advice in terms of dating and how I should come to terms with my sexual experience or lack of. Should I just “get it over with” and if I were to be honest with a partner about not being experienced is that something I’ll be judged for?

I am an introvert, and generally don’t talk to people when I’m out and about. However, I also live in the South, where strangers tend to make small talk, and sometimes try to drag it out.

To be clear, I don’t have issues with the basic pleasantries (“hi how are you”, “mind if I squeeze past you”, etc.”). My issue is when people try to turn it into actual conversation and I dont have the ability to escape.

For example, my husband and I had a date this morning, and we were at a cat cafe. A stranger kept trying to make conversations with me about the cats. Talking about the cats different personalities, do I have my own, etc.

I was not in the mood to talk with this person, but I couldn’t find a way to disengage, and it eventually stopped only because the stranger moved away.

Does anyone have recommendations on what to say/do to get this to stop? I don’t want to be excessively rude (being in the south means I do try to be polite), but I’m not going to talk with a stranger just because THEY want to.

I’m so tired of acne all over my back and shoulders, and a little on my bum as well. I shower daily, use a salicylic acid soap and let it sit for a minute before rinsing. Always wash my hair before my body so my shampoo and conditioner isn’t what’s causing this. I don’t use moisturizer in the areas with acne as I assumed it would clog the pores more than they already are.

I don’t know what to do but I hate seeing so many bumps all over my shoulders and back, and when I get it on my bum it’ll be very painful and bright red, very embarrassing and difficult going to the beach in a swim suit with that. Any advice welcome :(

Hi, I am new to the sub but already feel welcomed. I am a 23 year old virgin. The desire for sex is not something I felt presently or felt the need to act upon. It was simply a thought I washed over. Now at 23 all I have been desiring, down to my bodies ovulation, my view of men in my day to day life and my expectations of men that I find attractive, has driven me to desiring having sex with a man. I feel scared that in the moment i will realize that I made a mistake. I fear traumatizing my body.

There is a 25 year old man I met online that is eager to have sex. One part of me gets excited about the thought of it all happening, but a wash of fear comes over me when I think about the fact that I would be alone and vulnerable while something I have no idea of the feeling of is happening to me - penetrative sex - I feel incredibly torn, emotionally and physically.

Kindly advise on your experiences and guidance in this. I hope that I am not alone in this mindset

Thank you ladies🩷

I’m so sorry if this is all TMI but I literally have no one to talk to about this and I feel safe here under anon hahah

I’ve been with my partner for 5+ years now.

I’ve never really been one to initiate unless I’ve had some liquid courage. I just get insanely awkward and embarrassed trying to be “hot” or “sexy”

I know it upsets my partner that I don’t really initiate and I’m really trying to change that, it probably wouldn’t feel nice to always be initiating.

But also the only place we can do anything is in his family home and his adult siblings are also ALWAYS at home and his bedroom shares a wall with them. It’s so fricken awkward and I can’t even actually enjoy it half the time because we’re trying so hard to be silent and obviously respect other people living in the house.. also doesn’t help that I pretty much NEED a vibe used on me which is also noisy so we barely use it 😞 I wish we could just enjoy it and be kind of careless with it. I think we really need to spice things up somehow but it’s so hard when we have to be super quick and silent. We pretty much do the same two moves and do it as quick as possible which is honestly never really enjoyable and starts to feel like a chore.

I really want to be “s3xy” but idk how to do it!!!?!!? Like I want to get him to go crazy with anticipation of it and then initiate it but idk how to even flirt or text him like that without literally wanting to curl up into a ball and never be seen again. Im such an awkward unconfident person day to day 😭

If anyone has ANY advice on anything I would love love love to hear it. I want to be confident and actually enjoy myself and spice things up!!!