r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide

I play tennis a few times a week so I already knew electrolytes helped after a sweaty match. But I never thought to take them at night. A few months ago I started drinking electrolytes before bed because I kept waking up feeling dry and tired. I also get pretty rough periods. Cramps. Low energy. That gross heavy body feeling. The whole monthly subscription nobody asked for. After a few cycles I noticed my period felt less brutal. My cramps were not gone but they felt easier to deal with. I slept better too which probably helped a lot. I was not waking up as much and my mornings felt less miserable. I am not saying electrolytes cure period pain. Please do not come for me but I do think hydration and minerals matter more than i thought. I used to just drink more water and call it a day. That did not do much for me. Now I take electrolytes before sleep during the week before my period and during the first couple days. It has been one of those small habits that sounds too basic to matter but somehow does. Has anyone else tried electrolytes for period cramps or period fatigue? Especially if you play sports or sweat a lot.

I never wear a purse but seems like everyone does so I want to invest in one. Everyone I know has coach.. should I just get a coach one or does anyone know any other ones that girls wear? for reference im 20. I have a bag from shein but I guess its not cute enough so helpp ):

Growing up in a household with 3 sisters, this is something I heard CONSTANTLY. I also heard it a lot in tv and movies, but is it a real thing?

I definitely noticed some of our cycles lining up, but it wasn’t all the time, so it makes me wonder if it was just confirmation bias.

If it is real, why does it happen? And why doesn’t it happen with every woman we are around?

Hello!!!
I have been at my job for around 4 years now, on the same team. Disclaimer/ I work a very emotionally and physically intense job. I’m a last responder of sorts. It’s a government thing and tensions are naturally high. Not an easy job but a very fulfilling one. You definitely have to have a different mindset to deal with a job like this.

Anyway my team is composed of 5 women including myself. We all love the job, but we definitely work in different ways. I am a pretty hard worker, and I like to always try my best and make sure I deliver good quality work. I have a few mental health struggles, which I medicate for and go to therapy often. I am also autistic. I am definitely strange but I always try my best to be nice to everyone and treat people with respect.

The issue is, I can be very sensitive to people sometimes. And I let things get to me. There is one girl on my team, let’s call her Anne, who is an absolute menace. I think she mentioned her mum was a principal, and she was raised pretty strict. But this girl Anne is really mean. She has been a straight up bitch to me since I started working. The way she treats you depends on her mood, and how much she likes you. She will be friendly to you, but will not hesitate to snitch if you don’t do things her way. She treats everyone different. I also don’t want to say this is a 100% race thing, but I also feel she might be racial profiling because she is nice to the white girls on the team but is mean to me and another girl (Lulu), and we are both ethnic.

She loves to control you, and tell you what to do. What she thinks you could be doing. There’s no trust. She acts like the team lead, even though she isn’t. we all work the same level and the same pay. We have a manager. Sometimes she will ask rhetorical questions in the team chat that are obviously something she wants you to do. Like “are you going to send a follow up email?”. I find her behaviour really demeaning and she has caused me a lot of trouble and turmoil over the past years.

I LOVE my job. But I hate her. I would stay in my job forever if it wasn’t for her. Sometimes she fucks me up so much with her bossiness and attitude, that I keep thinking about her a lot and it messes up my day. What sucks is that she bosses you around, but at the same time doesn’t contribute the same amount to our work. She tells us what to do, but you can’t ask her to do anything. I don’t think anyone has ever asked her for help. She isn’t a “teammate”. For example, some of us will tag team tasks or split up things that need to be done. She will only do that with one other girl, “Stacy” because they are close friends.

Meanwhile she is mean to the other ethnic girl “Lulu”. Lulu has a LOT of shit to deal with in her personal life, but Anne loves to treat her like shit and talk to her like she’s an idiot. She will get irritated if Lulu asks a question and sometimes give a sarcastic answer. “You would need to do that, because then the job wouldn’t be finished then would it?”.

I’ve spoken to my manager about this before, and so has Lulu. Lulu is aware of when Anne is being condescending. She feels the same way I do. The job is shitty because of Anne. And our manager does nothing. They made us take this conflict management course, which Anne and the other girls were pissed about because it took up work time.

Ultimately, I want to stop giving a fuck.
It isn’t worth it for me to keep working extra hard, coming up with ideas, trying to optimise things and make a difference, when I constantly get shot down. I will be in a good mood and recovering, but then Anne will fuck my day up. I’m tired of caring about this job so much. I just want to do the job and go home. I don’t want to be affected by the small things or what people say. Especially mean girls.

any advice in general, on how to deal with mean people and how to detach from a demanding job?

My schedule is fairly limited, my diet is rigid, and alcohol is out of the question. I guess this is super common in the fitness community but I don’t know how other people are dealing with it?

I feel like it’s even harder to make new friends while staying fit. Like if I had a friend group already it would be a bit easier, but there’s even more work when meeting new people.

So yeah, I’m really eager to hear how other women who’ve been in this situation have dealt with this or found something that works. Or if I just have to choose then at least I know something has to give.

so I have a first date coming up we’re going to the gym then a little restaurant for a post-workout meal. he’s a professional trainer and going to the gym is one of my hobbies so I actually am looking forward to it! but my issue is I LOVE wearing makeup and giant lashes. I wanna be myself and look how I look 99% of the time, but I don’t ever wear makeup to the gym. now idk if this is an exception because it’s a first date, or if that would be odd? also even if I did want to wear makeup would that be weird of me? thanks for any advice!

hello! i've always trimmed instead of shaving for my private area. i've never felt comfortable removing all the hair there, and find that trimming with scissors is better and easier for me.

ever since i started trimming (so, over a decade), i've been using hairdresser scissors, which are look and made for right-handed people. i've gotten used to cut with my right hand, but now i've realized that things could be easier if i just got the right scissors and maybe made for left-handed people.

so, if you trim your pubic hair, what kind of scissors do you use? i don't know if i should buy nail scissors or scissors for eyebrows/nose hair... i have pretty thick and long curly hair even down there. thanks.

first time hosting a party in my apartment and I'm waking up in cold sweats every night in anxiety that it's going to be a flop because not enough people will come or it'll be awks??

me and my friend are co-hosting it together and keeping a common theme of mostly STEM students from our university in hopes that everyone will be on the same frequency and it won't be awkward given most people won't know each other. we also have about 30 people confirmed yes with majority of them bringing plus ones but we're also both expecting quite a fair amount of people to flake on day of.

to the party hosts out there, how do y'all ensure that everyone is having a good time, and that there'll be enough people attending to make it a "party" and that it won't be an awkward feet shuffling event.

Do any of you suffer from the dry vagina? I mean really dry. I'm only 26 years old,I can't remember being really wet since being diagnosed with PCOS 3 years ago. But now it's to the point where I can't even have sex,besides it's uncomfortable all the other times too. I have visited tons of gynecologist in these years and they really don't care about it being dry. They don't suggest any test nor medication. Also I keep being infected by yeast infection and BV very regularly, to be precise 3 times within 5 months. I feel really miserable.

Hi! This is my first time traveling by plane outside my country. I’ll be away for a month, and I’d love to know what you guys consider essential to pack! I’ll be bringing a checked suitcase and a personal item.

What personal hygiene products should I bring? I’d really appreciate your help. Thank you! 💗

Apologies for the poor formatting because I’m on my phone. I’m f24, I’ve been in college for many years now. I meet a lot of different kinds of people and I am always in awe of how smart people appear to be. Especially if they are younger.

I am learning a lot about U.S. politics in my classes and I just always feel lost about subjects I’m not understanding right away. I was like damn, I thought I generally knew what was going on in my country but I’m just now learnings about REEs, flock cameras, and how we’re connected to Greenland and shit. I get that college is supposed to be hard and I don’t have to be an expert in everything. But sometimes I feel like people are just naturally tapped into things and I’m not lol. You truly have to make an active effort towards expanding your knowledge but how can I continuously do that and not doubt my smarts as much? Esp as a woman <3

Today I literally cried at work whilst helping students. I had a long day. First I realised I’d left my laptop home whilst travelling so had to go back and collect it (my manager was understanding and I made up my time). Then his manager was offering one of her other reports a matcha and also brought a small gift for another colleague as she was having a difficult time. I was wearing headphones so I understand she probably didn’t want to bother me and I don’t need her to buy me a drink but I felt excluded ( I’ve had other instances where I felt overlooked by her). And then I had a busy student facing shift and literally cried whilst helping. Luckily no one noticed it, and I carried on.

Also I’m adhd and she’s aware I can be hypersensitive to rejection. I’m also new, person of colour, and an immigrant. I absolutely love the job but how do I not let this affect me and just focus on work? I know my colleagues are not friends but instances like these can get to me. How do I believe in the positive qualities I bring? Is it worth bringing it up to my manager? Thank you!

Leaving an extremely emotionally exhausting and stressful job this Friday and wanting to start my healing journey to connect back with myself. I feel that the 9-5 grind and long commute culture completely crushed my whimsy spirit and I’m hoping to find books that can help me get back to my old self again :)

Thank you!!

Hello! I'm 22 and got my first job ever. I mostly just do administrative work, I also have to be social throughout the day like making phone calls and talking extensively with my coworkers

My ability to verbally articulate myself is nonexistent and embarrassingly stilted and I struggle a lot to look and sound friendly. I try my best to be polite and smile and sound cheerful, but I'm afraid I end up coming off as too perky and overly friendly or cheery or fake since I tend to drop my smile once conversation is over and I only really end up talking about work-related stuff instead of doing more small talk and regular person-to-person conversations

It doesn't really help that I would prefer to be private at work and I don't really feel comfortable in divulging too much about my personal life with coworkers. I'm also boring anyways but I think some people could mistake that for me genuinely avoiding conversation when I just don't have a lot to say so I think I end up looking standoffish, but I also think some people think my awkwardness can be funny so maybe it's not too bad???

However I've been told by people (not at work at the moment but in the past) that I come off as scary or like I hate them when I just unfortunately look and sound like that when I'm relaxed or not thinking about anything. I think for me, especially since I'm a woman, I have to sound and act friendly to not be seen as a bitch or like I want to wear their skin, but it's really exhausting

I sometimes get worried and confused too when I think someone is being flat or indifferent with me so it's not like I don't understand why people would think that about me specifically, I would just like to know how to at least not come off as off-putting or potentially act rude without having to push myself so hard to do a persona that I don't think has been effective at all anyways

Any fun zingers or lines or jokes so I can at least go from unsettling person to occasionally humorous but boring person would be helpful

Other side note but I would also appreciate any tips on how to transition from a person facing job to something less social but with decent pay and benefits too please