u/Lemon_Lime25

I have no idea when this started, but I’m fully convinced that if I say “omg” (the full word) something bad will happen to me somehow. Almost like in the movie Yes Man, when he gets hit by a bus or something when he says no to anything. I’ve always swapped it out with “oh my goodness” or something, which is annoying sometimes. When the other phrase slips out, I freak out and tell god that I didn’t mean it. I don’t have any religious trauma, so I don’t know where this is coming from. I guess I’m just wondering if anyone else has dealt with this.

I’ve basically never seen any edits of him, so I decided to make one. Also because I love him, of course💕

For as long as I can remember, I’ve had very sensitive nipples. One time, I was on the bus and happened to brush my arm against my chest. Through my shirt and my bra, I could feel my arm graze my nipple. It’s not an uncomfortable or painful feeling at all, it’s just annoying that I can feel them so often. If there’s a texture on my bra, I can feel them just sitting there sometimes. I’m also 19 and I’ve never been pregnant, so I have no idea if this is normal for people.

I’ve felt horribly ugly my whole life. I was never bullied specifically for it, but I was bullied for being fat since I was 9. My family compliments me every time they see me and tell me how pretty I am, but it feels like pity. There are only two things people have told me I could possible fix about my appearance, one being my hair (which I can’t grow out from a pixie cut very quick) and my glasses. I can’t afford contacts anyway. I also could lose a lot of weight, but I have issues with under eating anyway. Even with all of those, I still feel like I wouldn’t be pretty enough. All I think about when I see a good looking man is what his girlfriend or wife looks like. Once I see her, I go, “of course, I have to look like her to get a guy like that”. Which I don’t, so I feel really bad about myself. Knowing that I’m not pretty enough to get the guys I have a crush on. How do other women deal with this?

I had to move back in with my mom because my dad didn’t have space for me at his house. I’m 19, I graduated high school last year and moved in with my mom right after. She said if I got a job and moved out on my own, I could stay with her temporarily. I had two different jobs that didn’t work out for several reasons, and it’s been so hard to get another job in the last couple months. Two months sounds like enough time to get a job, but the job market is horrible right now. The problem is that I’m asking for money from my parents to get my own food, so I’m not eating theirs. Since I can’t provide for myself, and I don’t have a place of my own, I’m literally a burden on my mom. I don’t have anything to give back, because all she wants from me is money or for me to get a job. I feel so horrible about myself all the time because of it, I even decided to enlist in the military just to have my own independence. But that will take a long time, so I’m still applying to every place I can find. But of course, I get nothing back. I don’t feel like I deserve anything that I’m getting. Every time I’m eating something I like, I keep telling myself I didn’t earn it and I don’t deserve it. I’ve been really lonely recently, and sometimes I think about how nice it would be to have a partner. That thought is shut down really fast because I think I don’t deserve love from anybody. I get sympathy from my dad all the time, but it feels so crappy to hear it since he’s the only person I get sympathy from. I don’t know what to think anymore

I had to move back in with my mom because my dad didn’t have space for me at his house. I’m 19, I graduated high school last year and moved in with my mom right after. She said if I got a job and moved out on my own, I could stay with her temporarily. I had two different jobs that didn’t work out for several reasons, and it’s been so hard to get another job in the last couple months. Two months sounds like enough time to get a job, but the job market is horrible right now. The problem is that I’m asking for money from my parents to get my own food, so I’m not eating theirs. Since I can’t provide for myself, and I don’t have a place of my own, I’m literally a burden on my mom. I don’t have anything to give back, because all she wants from me is money or for me to get a job. I feel so horrible about myself all the time because of it, I even decided to enlist in the military just to have my own independence. But that will take a long time, so I’m still applying to every place I can find. But of course, I get nothing back. I don’t feel like I deserve anything that I’m getting. Every time I’m eating something I like, I keep telling myself I didn’t earn it and I don’t deserve it. I’ve been really lonely recently, and sometimes I think about how nice it would be to have a partner. That thought is shut down really fast because I think I don’t deserve love from anybody. I get sympathy from my dad all the time, but it feels so crappy to hear it. I don’t know how I can love myself while I’m actively draining the life out of everybody.

I had to move back in with my mom because my dad didn’t have space for me at his house. I’m 19, I graduated high school last year and moved in with my mom right after. She said if I got a job and moved out on my own, I could stay with her temporarily. I had two different jobs that didn’t work out for several reasons, and it’s been so hard to get another job in the last couple months. Two months sounds like enough time to get a job, but the job market is horrible right now. The problem is that I’m asking for money from my parents to get my own food, so I’m not eating theirs. Since I can’t provide for myself, and I don’t have a place of my own, I’m literally a burden on my mom. I don’t have anything to give back, because all she wants from me is money or for me to get a job. I feel so horrible about myself all the time because of it, I even decided to enlist in the military just to have my own independence. But that will take a long time, so I’m still applying to every place I can find. But of course, I get nothing back. I don’t feel like I deserve anything that I’m getting. Every time I’m eating something I like, I keep telling myself I didn’t earn it and I don’t deserve it. I’ve been really lonely recently, and sometimes I think about how nice it would be to have a partner. That thought is shut down really fast because I think I don’t deserve love from anybody. I get sympathy from my dad all the time, but it feels so crappy to hear it. I don’t know how I can love myself while I’m actively draining the life out of everybody.

I (F19) had been friends with this guy (M19) that I met in high school. We were originally put together in a class for people who need support, emotionally. So we were kind of forced to connect by our teacher, but we discovered we actually worked really well together. He had bought tickets to an indie concert he wanted our friend group to go to, but nobody else was able to make it except for me. That was the first time we hung out one-on-one. After that, we started talking constantly and became really good friends. Unfortunately at the time, I was going through a lot of trouble mentally, being in high school and living where I was. He was my rock for a long time. We hung out as much as we possibly could, but most of it seemed one sided. Sometimes, we hung out just because I wanted an escape from whatever I was dealing with. Over time, I realized how unhealthy that was and we went from hanging out all the time to doing it whenever he wanted to. He knew I wanted to see him as much as possible, but he had a very busy schedule. Recently, he had started going to college and keeping his full time job, so we hardly ever talked. He was the kind of person to go home from school and ignore his phone all night, and that was just after high school. I imagine throwing in more work there was rough on him. So eventually, we only ever talked a couple times a month, if that. One of the issues I think we had was our weird relationship. Because of what I was going through a couple years ago, I thought I had a crush on him for a brief period. He didn’t like that at all, and thankfully, it wasn’t actually a crush. Just dumb teenage feelings I guess. So we moved past it. But recently, I asked him a random question that was on my mind. He had brought up in the past why he didn’t think we would ever work out if we were to date, and I couldn’t remember what he said the reasons were. Because I’ve been trying to figure out what my faults are so I can fix them, I asked him why he thought we wouldn’t be compatible as partners, just out of curiosity. I was under the impression that we had that kind of dynamic to where I could ask him those questions and he wouldn’t have a problem with it. We had uncomfortable conversations in the last, when we were both in relationships, just talking about our experiences. So I didn’t think this was a crazy thing to ask. But it took a really long time for him to reply to that message, and I immediately knew I messed up. He responded that my question made him really uncomfortable and he doesn’t think we should be friends anymore. He had been my best and only friend for three years, so I obviously didn’t want to let him go. But now I feel horrible for what I asked. I have a history of losing friends, but not like this. Most of the friends I had in school, I just stopped talking to over time. I’m worried now that I’m going to make my future friends uncomfortable, without knowing, just like I did with him. But maybe I didn’t do anything wrong.

I know how the title sounds, but it’s not in an objectifying way, I promise. I’ve always had crushes on men, I know I like them for sure. I’ve dated women before, and I liked it, but I was always the one to end the relationship. And pretty much anytime a woman broke up with me or didn’t want to see me anymore, I wasn’t as upset by it as I was my breakups with men. I kind of just brushed it off. The thought of being married to a woman sounds beautiful for others, but it doesn’t sound right to me. Not because they don’t have “the same parts men have” or whatever, cause I’ve heard that around before. It just sounds off, I couldn’t see myself being in a relationship with a woman. But I’ve always found them physically attractive. Mostly in a “she’s pretty, I really like her hair” kind of way, but sometimes in a sexual way. I’ve fantasized about being with a woman before, and it sounds great. I’ve never experienced it though, so it’s hard to know for sure whether or not I’d like it. I’m thinking I could be bi curious, but I don’t know. Has anybody else experienced this?

I feel like my insecurities have gotten a lot better over the years, but I still have such a hard time looking at myself when I talk, or watching back videos of me. It’s mostly my lips, they just sink into my face when I talk and I feel like it looks so weird. I think I’m really pretty when I’m not smiling or talking, but the second I do either of those, I feel like I look like a muppet.

I (19F) moved in with my mom last year. I lived with my dad beforehand, but he couldn’t afford for me to stay there since my grandpa also needed to stay with him. My mom was ok with me staying at her house until I got a job and moved out. I got a job within a few months, but I had to quit it because it was too far away. Then I got another job, but I got let go from it a couple months ago. I’ve been trying to get a job since then, but I’ve had no luck, so I decided to enlist in the Air Force. The process for that takes a long time, though. So even if I were to swear in as soon as possible, I would still not ship out until around October. But I’ve gotten everything started and am getting through the first steps as fast as I can. The problem is that my mom and my stepdad absolutely hate that I live here and it’s created a very hostile living situation. I try not to interact with anybody because I know I’ll just get berated for something. Obviously, I do my own dishes and try to buy my own food (my dad is helping with the money for that, and I also reached out to my church to see if I could get food assistance). But my stepdad walked into my bathroom today and was on a FaceTime call with my mom. They both looked around the bathroom and saw how much of a mess it was. I’ve been in a bad spot mentally, so cleaning is hard for me to keep up with. Not that that’s an excuse, that’s just my explanation. So I guess their only problem with me is that I don’t have a job right now, and my bathroom is messy. Neither of those things are good, but I feel like their attitude toward me is unnecessarily harsh. They keep threatening to kick me out for the things I mentioned, and I get screamed at constantly. My mom will point out that I’ve eaten the last of the pancake mix or something and say “this is why he (my stepdad) doesn’t want you living here”. Maybe that’s completely justified, I can see that it very well could be. My dad doesn’t appreciate the way they treat me, so it’s hard for me to tell. He’s not a big fan of my mom though, so that might play a role. I really want to fix whatever the issue is, but it seems deeper than me not cleaning sometimes. If I am the problem, I want to know what to do to change it. I also plan on getting a job as soon as I can. I’m still putting out applications so I can get a job before I officially enlist.

For added context, there’s a history of abuse with my stepdad. I had moved out when I was 13, but I came back last year because I had nowhere else to go. We had contacted cps several times when I was younger and had meetings with them, but it never went anywhere. I think that’s contributing to my discomfort with living here.