r/bisexual

Someone asked Why would anyone not like this precious innocent man? I said well he's made some pretty biphobic jokes that really played on harmful stereotypes.

Cue my inbox flooded with:

"If you guys just don’t like his personality, you can say that. It doesn’t make you a bad person to not like someone just bc you don’t like them, you don’t have to make completely false and ridiculous accusations to give you an excuse '

I said Oh did he apologize for it? I may have missed that.

"Why would he need to apologize for being hyperbolic and making a joke that doesn’t actually do any harm????"

"whoooooo carrrrressss"

Very convincing argument, this cis white man needs your protection for sure.

so ive got this friend. big. hot. muscular as fuck. we hit the gym together and yeah i stare

he is the person i trust most in the world. we talk shit to each other constantly roast each other into the ground share everything. like everything. we cuddle. we give these long warm hugs that last longer than just friends hugs are supposed to. i dont even try to make it not mean something anymore.

im married. my wife knows. she doesnt just not mind shes cool with all of it. sometimes more than cool. there are nights the three of us are just hanging out and she and him start ganging up on me teasing me and its a lot. in the best way.

we all go on trips together. we smoke together pass the same joint around end up half draped over each other on the couch or whatever. ill catch myself feeling actual compersion watching him and my wife mess with each other. its weird and hot and i dont really know what to do with it except enjoy it.

having a friend like him someone whos this solid this physical this present and somehow fits into the marriage without breaking anything is something i didnt know i needed. its messy and real and i wouldnt trade it.

So basically, I've been living under the pretense that I'm straight. I just got to uni(19M), and during my first 3 days I met 2 guys, and they were cool, and we went for some pints at the pub across from the hostel we were staying at. Basically, I knew one of them was gay, but then it turned out the other guy was bi(I was surprised but thought it was bigoted for me to be surprised cuz bi/gay people don't have to be overtly queer-looking, my bad), and that's fine with me; I don't care, but as a joke I was like, " Oh, so have you guys done it? Are you guys together- and the vibe got weird, and they basically were like, " No, " but the bi guy's super into the gay one, but the gay one just wants to be friends. I was like, that's crazy, right, but not my messy situationship to worry abt; I'm just having pints with some mates in my mind. Then we go back to this guy's room, and the bi guy basically says, like, so are we gonna do anything? and me and the gay guy looked at each other like, what in the world is this guy insinuating?? And the gay guy goes, like, he's straight, and I'm definitely not having sex with you. And the bi guy was like But there was a vibe and we all were like, " Uh, no, you were imagining a vibe. And so I went to my room. The bi guy was so embarrassed he avoided me and my gaze; like, if he saw me in the kitchen, he wouldn't even look at me. Now the issue is that I can't stop thinking about it. And it made me kinda think about maybe I'm into the idea of it, but only with the bi guy. The gay guy was flirting with me, but idk, not into it. now another guy i eat meals with keeps touching up on me and saying stuff like how handsome i am and he let me dress him for a club night and we jokingly choked each other, and he even said that he was number 1 when asked for his sexuality and when i asked him what that meant he turned red and said he couldnt tell me what he meant but my chinese friend told me its like top in chinese slang, but he also said he was straight and his friends said hes like the straightest guy they know, but hes been saying stuff(like as long as its you its ok if i accidently interupt him and apologize and then getting mad at a girl for trying to talk to him when i was speaking which made her like super sad cuz he said "hes talking" and stared her down like she was being rude but i was like its fine i dont mind uhhh.. And he would get flustered around me or nervous if I touched his face for a fun picture...(also another layer to this would be if he even was into guys im def not a bottom or sub so he might needa get over the idea of being 1 buddy) so now I'm all confused because I also had this thing for this girl and I also know about 4 girls who like me so im really just at a loss here... and also some backstory is that ive had bisexual or gay friends kiss me, usually drunk (i dont feel like anything for it or anything im actually grossed out by it) so i had always thought i was not into it. I've also only dated girls and have had sex a decent amount, and it feels fine, normal? Who knows. But also, I had a guy friend confess to me before, and that also made me really, really uncomfortable, but it's possible he was laying it on too thick, and I was also like 13 and not really smart enough to handle that type of thing when a guy friend sees you like that... so anyway, am I having like a bi awakening late in life or what? Am I just bored or lonely? Am I just horny... but it can't be normal to think/dream about, uh, domming guys... lmao I guess that answers my question. Maybe this post is just to vent or share this insane story.

What do you guys think about a rise in sex negativity? I have seen so many people online and in person expressing their hatred for sex and people who engage in sex. There's also way too many people with the view that sex is sacred and should be between a husband and wife. Aside from the heteronormative amatonormative implications of that idea, it also has no scientific or logical basis.

What do you guys think about all this?

DO any bi guys out there prefer body contact as opposed to anal or oral sex? Like just two guys in bed in their underwear only? Little rubbing and/or grinding? This can be especially intimate during the cold winter months

I dont even know what this means. My man came out to me last night. I have suspicions but didn’t bother since no matter what, I accept him. But he had a revelation, he met and gave a head to a guy. I am F. HE IS M. he did it not just one time, multiple , behind my back. No warnings, before he even came out to me fully. Am I wrong for hurting? I cant run to anyone. I only have him.

How do I make him feel I accept him while dealing with the pain? I love him so much. More than anything.

I’m a 25 yr old Female who has after multiple conversations with my boyfriend come to the conclusion that I want a gf for me. He is 100% on board with it and fully supports it. As someone that doesn’t really go out and live a social life outside of work how does one meet someone? Are we using apps now a days? If so any advice on the best ones to use? I have never been with a female and often worry maybe I waited to long in life to finally be accepting to this. I’ve always found such an attraction to women.

I’m a 14 yr old boy and I think I’m bisexual. However I worry that if people find out that I am bisexual I will get bullied. How can I hide it

Hello I'm 30M, black, autistic, and an athiest living in central Florida. I realized I was bisexual but heteromantic about 7 years ago. I haven't lost my virginity yet, but I've given and received head with men in the past. I've also been on dates with women, but none of them went anywhere because they lost interest most of the time. However, since covid I haven't been able to find any hookups. I get offers for head, but I can't find anyone for actual sex. With women I was struggling to get dates, I went out with 4 women this year and one turned into a friendship. 2 were a complete waste of time. I had to end things for one because of religious incompatibilities.

The most I've done with a woman is hug and hold hands. But I haven't been able to find any men for a hookup either. I tried the obvious apps like Grindr and Sniffies, I had no luck on either of them. I also wasn't being picky, I'd have settled for anyone. But no one would reply to me or reach out. One time on sniffies I got pranked and they blocked me after I drove to the hotel they said they were staying at. I even tried Fetlife and tried finding men or munches nearby. I couldn't find anything or anyone. I've also tried reddit and I found one person I was able to give head to. But nothing beyond that and I want more already.

I don't consider myself an incel because I've had at least 2 women that had interest in me and I had to turn them down for religious reasons. I also don't harbor any anger or contempt towards men and women, and I have good friendships with both. But I do feel like it's out of my control if I get a hookup or not. Things like location and me not looking like a model seem to also play a big part. I plan on going to a brothel in Nevada to lose my virginity eventually, and paying for a matchmaking service to find an actual relationship. But I'm curious if my situation makes me sound like an incel? I don't believe I am, I think I'm just unlucky.

So I (21f) live with my 3 year boyfriend (21m) and 2 other roommates including my best friend since elementary school (21f) my boyfriend has lived with me for 2 years and the other 2 for 3-4 years now.
The unimaginable, it all happened all of a sudden but my friend is like in our relationship now?! And like I’ve had a big crush on her before and have even been in a short lived poly style relationship with her in high school. She is very attractive I was worried for a minute that I would become the second fiddle (witch is weird cause I was originally the one most comfortable with poly stuff) but it has been made clear for all involved that this is some kind of temporary, (how my boyfriend said it is he loves me he’s going to marry me some day just me) she has been joining us in bed and we’ve all been kissing touching and eating each other. And like I’m just a blush bi panic mess like how does this happen and now it’s happening to me?! This has been going on for a week or so and we’re sneaking around like high schoolers hiding it from our other roommate and my mom who has been visiting. Aaaaa😭

We're 20 rn I'm bi and out to close ppl and she - despite me hinting to her that she may not be straight - prefers to believe she's straight. We've had some moments of sexual tension I noticed but I've never ever crushed on her. In fact, I broke off our friendship for an year in the past cus frankly she's not a good friend, or has the emotional capacity to be, and even now I tend to avoid her.

She has a bf rn, but last night she was sexting with a girl she met on hinge, and told me and one thing led to another and we sort of said that we'd experiment around. I bought a new vibrator that she wanted to test/use (not hygienic, ik) and I just don't know. Last year she asked to kiss me too and I refused.

We'd that intense codependent homoerotic friendship at 15-16, and we know e/o's secrets and are really comfortable. We then went to different colleges, and she's kinda fucking up her life, wasting (parents') money on alcohol, parties, cheating on her bfs (exes too) while my life is more authentically happy from within. Like I'm building real relationships with ppl in my life and more focused on my career. Like her lifestyle seems fun but she's alwayss venting and complaining abt smth or the other ykwim? And isn't there for me as much. I don't like her company much now but still sometimes I fantasize about her while touching myself.

Also I've never even kissed anyone before or been in a relationship, I just wanna explore have fun see things etc, so idk is this advisable?

Soy un chico de 15 años me gusta las cosas militares me gusta tf2 Legos demás cosas tengo reddit discord y nada más ahora busco conocer personas y quiero sentirme aceptado

Cosas que me gustan además de lo que dije

La guerra de los mundos el libro de Guerra mundial Z Jurassic park las armas y dibujar

I never thought about me being bi ever in my life of course, but when I did find out, it wasn't really a surprise and I was completely okay with it at the start. I realized at the beginning of this year for context.

The more I think about it now, the more disgusted I get at myself for liking other boys. It's not like as if I have a problem with other people being bi. I saw another post about someone saying they felt selfish and that's exactly how I feel. Specifically about me liking the same gender. I don't know why. Sometimes Im completely attracted to men and barely women. Sometimes I'm attracted to women and barely men. Sometimes it's closer to the middle. Sometimes I'm only sexually attracted to one and romantically attracted to the other for days at a time if not weeks.

It's the times where I'm more attracted to other guys that makes me feel this way. I don't even know how to explain it, it's not like I feel greedy or anything. I just feel like it's wrong when I'm attracted to another man. It feels weird and wrong to me but I can't quite put it into words. I've had people tell me that I'm weird for feeling this way. So I don't really open up about it as much anymore.

I want to know if anybody else feels this guilt and knows how to fix it. Im sure basically everyone has felt guilty about not being straight but still. Im basically asking the veteran bi people on how I can stop feeling so guilty and selfish for liking both or sometimes only feeling attraction towards men. I don't hate this part of myself exactly, but it just makes me uncomfortable when I think about it.

Originally, I was going to share a meme I made for r/bi_irl here, but upon checking it out, I found out that the ability to add images is completely disabled. Why is this?

Idk if I'm bi or gay, I have a girlfriend but I don't really have any true attraction to her and I would prefer to have a boyfriend. But I think I have a romantic attraction to women and a sexual attraction to men. Can someone please tell me if im bi or if im gay?

Hiie everyone I'm 22F,

I wanted to ask here about some confusion about sexuality....

So,I feel romantically attracted to men. I've had crushes on men, I've dated men, and I can imagine being in a relationship with a man. I also find some men physically attractive and like fantasizing about them.

But when it comes to sex, There are only certain kinds of intimacy with men that I enjoy, but penetration has never been something I've wanted. Basically I don't find male anatomy appealing,only a certain limited things I like with men when it comes to intimacy that also mostly receiving but not myself putting an effort ykwim,but that can also be because I've felt unsafe around men in my life most of the time. So i consider vulnerability in front of men as unsafe.

But I feel a really strong sexual attraction towards women..but it feels like I need both men and women to satisfy me neither only a woman nor an only man can satisfy me.. It's like i can't imagine having sex with only men or women only throughout my life, basically i want both of them.

It also feels like I'd want intimacy with a woman to be more mutual, where we're both equally involved whether with men in comfortable with certain things only.

At the same time, I don't really experience romantic attraction toward women. I don't picture myself dating a woman or falling in love with one the way I do with men..

Looking back, I remember finding women's body really attractive and used to be really sexually curious about women more than men,like rather than watching a man, I used to record myself to masterbate and stuff. Because I'm a woman and i feel aroused while looking women's bodies.

From last year,my desire for having sex with women has increased a lot.

Before i only used to get turned on by looking at them but now I started desiring intimacy with them.

But i don't see anything like romantic attraction with them even kisses because I consider kiss as a form of affection..

Also I don't know if watching lesbian corn has anything to do with it(because many straight women find it appealing) or if it's unrelated.

So, I just want to know whether experiences like this are generally considered to fall somewhere on the bisexual spectrum, or whether it's possible for a straight person to experience this.

I’m bi, and I’m really curious to hear about other people’s first experiences with someone of the same gender.

What was it like the first time you were with another guy/girl? Did it feel noticeably different from being with the opposite gender? Were you nervous, excited, surprised, awkward, or did it just feel completely natural?

I’m especially curious about MLM experiences since I’m a guy and I haven’t had that experience with another man yet. I’d love to hear from other bi guys about what their first time with a man felt like compared to being with women.

And if you’ve ever had a bi4bi experience/relationship, I’m especially interested in that too. Did being with another bisexual person make you feel more understood or comfortable? Was there anything about the dynamic that felt different?

Good experiences, bad experiences, awkward first times, unexpectedly amazing ones — I genuinely want to hear all of it.

Obviously, only share whatever you’re comfortable sharing :)

I think I am overthinking.

I had a very bad childhood (19 male btw ) .

I was depressed from 2-3 years and i have started taking therapy.

I think I am having a identity crisis and to overcome this i want to make my sexuality as my identity.

First i thought I am gay but when I accepted it , i realised I am not attracted to guys . Then I started saying myself bisexual , but I don't feel attracted to male and can't imagine a future with a guy , meri male ego aa jati ki ek male k sath thodi rahuga zindagi bhr . So now I am overthinking over trans , Am I trans ?? But I never felt I am a girl , I did thought that if I was a girl I would get all the attention so that I don't have anxious attachment or my parents would have taken better care of me . Wht to do