r/bisexual

I’ve been with my bf for more than two years. We were friends for 2 years before that where he came out as gay. He later told me he was actually bi and was scared to tell people because he didn’t want to go back on his previous coming out. We started dating a couple months later.
His bisexuality never bothered me and We have great sex, but last night he told me he only watches gay porn and i was a little thrown off. I felt like I could never be enough or completely satisfy him. He’s also never been with a man and I feel like i’m limiting him in a sense?
He also told me he could imagine himself being with a man and I feel conflicted. Personally, I can’t ‘imagine’ myself being with any other person but him. Maybe it’s different because he’s bi?
I don’t like the fact that he watches porn (even straight porn) but I feel like i can’t set that boundary because he’s bi and I don’t want to ‘limit’ him.
I don’t know how to approach that kind of conversation with him. Has anyone been in my situation or on the other side of it?

Only had one relationship with guy and he chose his gf over me, (understandable) but anyone interested to share where the bi men are at and more on the nerdy, androgynous, artsy side

How did you come to the conclusion that you were bi? I'm really confused and need to talk to someone

Why do so many bi folks get defensive when someone says we have privilege? Of course, im bi myself and I have a bf. We love each other and we're happy together. But if someone said I have straight passing privilege I'd agree. Especially since I live in the south I don't have to worry about the dirty looks or potential hate crimes. Does this make me less queer no, but it's undeniable that I have a privilege that some other queer people do not have. And privilege doesn't mean you never struggle it just means you have an advantage. This is in good faith, I understand our community is invalidated a lot but getting upset at this topic never made since to me.

I'm a 25M and I came out as bisexual a few months ago.

I had a small amount of gay sex before almost immediately getting a boyfriend. We've been together for 3.5 months now.

I'm happy with him, but I really miss having sex with women. I miss it so much that I even have wet dreams about having sex with women.

To be honest, I've found that having sex with men and women is very, very different. I enjoy both, but I don't know why I'm struggling with these feelings.

How can I deal with this?

I thought I was straight, but I think I might have feelings for a girl I know and I don’t know what to do.
For context, we both seemed straight when we first started talking. She once said something like “I wish we were gay,” so at the time it felt like neither of us saw ourselves that way. Since then, she later came out as bi or possibly lesbian — I’m not 100% sure which.
I’ve always thought I was straight, but recently she’s been on my mind every day out of nowhere. I don’t know if this is a crush, curiosity, emotional attachment, or me realising something about myself.
We’ve known each other for a while and she used to give me very intense compliments that didn’t feel like normal friend compliments. We don’t message consistently right now and I haven’t seen her in a few weeks, but recently I posted a story and she liked it from both her main and spam account, which made me really happy because part of me wanted her to see it. She always compliments me whenever I post and I do the same to her. She has to be the most beautiful girl I’ve have ever seen in my life. I still remember the first day I saw her in college and the day I started talking to her and we both found out we shared similar opinions about eachother.
I don’t want to make things awkward or come on too strong. Would it be better to wait and rebuild casual contact first, like asking to hang out, or should I eventually be more direct? Has anyone else thought they were straight and then suddenly found themselves thinking about a girl every day?

For many years although I was sometimes interested in men my brain used to make a convincing to me argument about how it didn't mean I was bisexual (he [botw link] basically looks like a women anyway, he just has nice looking thighs which look exactly the same as a womens).

It seems like a lot of peoples stories are primarily about getting peace with something that at first is difficult to accept, and these arguments their brain made are essentially to avoid what at the time was a difficult to accept truth, but for me that wasn't the case. Most of my classmates already had clocked me before I knew myself and I would often joke about being bi so I essentially was already out of the closet to everyone but myself and I had no shame about it.

The thing that kept me up at night was how thoroughly I'd convinced myself with what now seem like hilariously bad arguments, even despite asking myself the question and believing I logically came to the conclusion that I definately was straight. A key part of my identity was (and still is) being a skeptic/atheist/freethinker and fully believing in arguments that now seem as preposterous as those given by flat earthers was definitely a hit to that aspect of my identity.

I remember I didn't even tell people I was bi because I couldn't give them the satisfaction of 'winning the argument' which sounds kinda stupid now lol. I just stopped correcting them that I was straight.

Anyway I post this now because I still can't fully shake off how I used to believe in these arguments; it doesn't even make sense to me, as theres seemingly no motive to lie to myself. Goes to show how much societal indoctrination can twist a persons view of things without them realizing.

Once I re-examined events in my life through the lens of being bi, turns out I had gay crushes all the way back to my tween era lol.

I just had a kiss with 3 of my male friends this past weekend and I just wanted to share with someone, that it's such a great feeling that it totally didn't matter that they were of the same gender as me. Made me realize, how great this freedom of attraction feels for me and how it's literallly no different from kissing a girl!

I'm not going to make this long but for 2-3 months I've been feeling weird abt my friend.

We play games together like everyday laugh and all that stuff but mostly at night I have thoughts abt him.The thoughts consist of me and him walking in the park,me and him cuddling while I'm the small spoon,and naughty thoughts of me and him in the bed while he fucks me. Tomorrow I'm gonna be home alone,becuase my parents are going on a trip and I invited him to stay with me while my parents are away and those thoughts are more and more stronger,but the big thing I wanna ask

Am I bi or just maybe horny or smth or is it just because he is my best friend?

I would really want to hear what yall think?😁👍

Sooo found out my bf is a size queen, never really knew about it and now it's kinda messing with my head lol. Any suggestions on what to do or how to approach it?

So I think I might be bisexual, but a person told me that since im not interested in giving men head, I must not really like men. I told them that has nothing to do with me liking men.

I don't want to give nor receive head from men or women. I was then told I must be asexual. I said I still want sex, just not anything oral.

Does me not wanting to give or receive head from men make me less of a bisexual?

I 23m ask because I barely came out last month. I recently tried a gay bar and locked eyes with this goth femboy. I mean first time in my life i truly felt lust and interest in another guy. He was so pretty and good fashion. Thing is I hesitated when he mentioned to go home at last call. Is it bad to do a bar hookup if you wear protection and arent totally wasted?

I known myself as a bi-curious guy, I’m 25yrs old happily married to a bi woman. I don’t like males in general, but their specific body part(the meat between their legs) is what distress my sexuality I kinda, love better if it’s on a female than to a guy. But if I see a good looking male, I think about them sometimes.

Hello everyone! I am 25F and I have never been in a romantic or sexual relationship with anyone; male or female. I had crushes on men and have only went on dates with men (the 4 total ive been on, ive never been on more than two dates with a man). Ive always considered myself straight just because Im so out of the realm of dating, and thats really the only thing ive ever experienced. Ive never imagined myself in a sexual experience; male or female. Ice found women attractive. Ive wanted to explore my sexuality by possibly going on dates with women, but is that a valid way to explore if I am actually bisexual or not? Thank you all for the advice.

Sexual and romantic attraction isn’t a choice, you are attracted to who you’re attracted to. It’s something that happens naturally, something that you just feel. (If you experience attraction ofc.)

Sometimes people forget that when thinking about bisexuality. They almost think of bisexuality as the capability to just choose who you’re attracted to. Like you’ve got a big pool and you can just pick whoever you’d like. But that’s not how humans desire or fall in love with others.

And this is actually what makes me like the bisexual representation in heated rivalry so much. Iliya is attracted to women, he has sexual relationships with women throughout both the book and the show. He even has a woman in his life, Svetlana, who would make logical sense to be with. But he’s in love with Shane, and that’s not something he can control.

He can’t choose to be romantically interested in Svetlana just because it’d be the most societally advantageous. That’s not how attraction works. The most that Iliya could do is try and move on from Shane, then hope that the next person he falls in love with is a woman.

The criminalization of homosexuality in his country impacts him in that way. Having to make the horrible decision of leaving his home or moving on and desperately hoping that the next person is different. I think that’s a very authentic experience and I appreciated seeing it in heated rivalry.

So, I’m a guy and I have a group of friends that, yes ironically enough are a pretty homophobic and I’m bi. Most of them don’t know. However, I’ve come out to the very few that arent as homophobic and I’ve told them to keep it a secret. Anyways, I’m currently talking to this other guy, trying to maybe start something (I don’t know yet) and to the friends whom I’ve not yet come out to, I say that the person is a girl. My question here is, should I just come out to them now, and say I’m trying to get with a guy, or should I wait? Or do something else? I honestly don’t know what’s best here I just need some advice.

I am bisexual and in theory I am interested in men and have fantasies about them but when it comes down to actually engaging in anything physical. I then became less interested.

Does anyone encountered the same?

To the person who never hesitated.

Thank you.

You probably don’t know how much weight a single word can carry. How something as small as remembering who someone is can become something they remember for years.

Maybe, to you, it was just a word.
Just a label.
Just another sentence.

But to me, it was recognition.

I’ve spent so much of my life being corrected into someone I’m not. Explained away. Forgotten. Told that I’ll “figure it out,” that i’m “just hiding my true sexuality,” or simply watched as people chose the version of me that made them more comfortable.

So when you called me what I asked to be called—without debate, without hesitation, without making me earn it—you gave me something far bigger than courtesy.

You gave me peace.

You reminded me that being seen doesn’t have to be a battle. That my identity doesn’t need to be defended to deserve respect. That maybe, just maybe, there are people who will meet me exactly where I am instead of asking me to become someone easier to understand.

I’m bi.
Not “confused.”
Not “actually gay.”
Not “basically straight.”
Not “going through a phase.”

Just bi.

And thank you for letting that be enough.
You’ll probably never know how healing it is to exist in a conversation where you don’t have to brace yourself for erasure.

So this is for you—the stranger, the friend, the teacher, the coworker, the person behind a screen, or anyone who simply chose respect over assumption.

Thank you for seeing me before trying to define me.
The world needs more people like you.

Hi 29m

Bi guy here. Not out to anyone in my family.

I have been having sex with guys, but I really want to try and date a woman. I’m physically attracted to both, but emotionally attracted to women and want a wife and kids someday.

I am struggling to find a woman to date :(