I am tired of being angry at women for not wanting to date bi guys. It's fine. I would rather be alone or date men then deal with this crap. Even bi women don't want to date us. A lot of women in general find us to be disgusting. Anyway, have you , as a bi man , accepted that women don't want to date us ? I also don't think that hiding your sexuality is the answer either.
I'm 43. I played video games from like age 7 up until a few months ago. I kinda miss it because I haven't figured out how to replace that void. But I always felt empty after playing. It just became so unfulfilling. I'm going thru a rough time financially and health wise so I felt quitting video games will allow me to focus on those issues.
I'm a middle aged man and still do this. If someone criticizes me , especially my weight or my personality , it hurts me . Like if someone doesn't like my voice and mocks me, I almost want to cry but I don't show it in front of them.
I feel like I'm close to relapsing. I also think the Sunday Scaries are starting to creep in too. I had a productive day earlier running errands and I tried a new coffee shop but since coming back home I have been bored as hell. I guess I feel if I release then it will make me forget about work tomorrow or the fact that I have a crappy life right now (struggling financially big time ).
I stopped gaming a couple of months ago and sold my playstation. I feel so empty. I have been looking for some hobbies to replace that void. I read, but only a little (I want to change that) and write but write very infrequently (even though I like it). I feel like I need something else because I feel like something is missing. I am 43 and gamed since I was like 7. I want a hobby i can do at home and hobbies i can do to meet people
I have just admitted this to myself and that is why I have had a hard time quitting. I relapse like every 2 days , 3 at most. I always find a way around blockers. I wish i had a mate. I use porn as a substitute for real sex. I suck at attracting the right people into my life , whether it is friends or relationships. Porn doesn't abuse me the way other people have. I just have been trying to quit porn because I have been fed messages that porn is really bad and ruins your sex drive and attention span.
Convince me to quit . for real , pls.
I am trying to find some hobbies to get into but there is just so many to do. I live alone and have no kids or partner , I feel like I need to take a break from Reddit for mental health (A lot of negativity on here ruins my day) but I have too much free time and also I get three breaks at work and spend them in my car browsing reddit because my co workers are pricks and antisocial so everybody spends break in their cars. I enjoy that alone time in my car though. Also the bad thing about reddit is that I always want to view adult materials when i get on here which is bad. I have trouble relaxing and sitting with the discomfort of boredom. Does anyone have any advices?
I don't want to cut off recommended videos because then YouTube will be boring and unusable. But I always get recommended the most negative stuff , titles like "im 54 . Heres why I don't date " or " life sucks as a millennial " or something else that is racist or homophobic.
Even when I delete my watch history or search history and start over i still get this crap. Do you have this problem too ? I kinda don't want to quit YouTube but maybe I should
I can't pay my rent this month. I have lived in this apartment for almost 3 years. I am freaking out. I'm 43 and can't get evicted because I don't want to have to move back to my hometown and stay with my parents..too old for that. My lease ends in November. I live in a 1 bedroom so I can't get a roommate. Anyway , my rent was due by the 5th and I'm not sure how to ask for more time to pay the rent because I don't get paid for 2 more weeks. I'm gonna have to pay a bunch of late fees.
What do I do ? Please be nice ...
I barely been able to pay my rent for like three months now because of car repairs and I got to get some done again
And can't even relax at all. I have like $350 in my account to last me for 2 weeks. The diagnostic fee the mechanic is charging is $140. They are gonna look at a coolant leak and my check engine light. I'm tired of having to worry about my car drinking too much coolant and having to check it before each drive. I fill it up every 2 days. I'm not sure how much it will be too actually fix the leak once they diagnose but im afraid I won't be able to afford it. Also I can't afford rent this month and my car payment is gonna be late(they gave me until the 16th to pay without late fees on my car pmt)
I'm looking for a second job on the weekends but not having luck. Guess I need to apply at more fast food places. I work a grueling warehouse job Monday thru Friday . I'm tired of working hard AF and not being able to afford life
Edit :I just got an email from Moneykeys that said I have defaulted on my $1800 flex loan. Ugh
Sometimes I just don't feel like cooking from scratch and sometimes if I want a certain dish , the ingredients to make it from scratch might be a long list. Like if I want jambalaya , it would be cheaper to buy Zatarains mix than to make it myself . Do you personally buy some processed foods ?
Occasionally I get morning wood but overall when I am feeling really sexual I can't get hard until I look at porn first. My thoughts alone don't usually make me horny. What is wrong with me ? I feel like my sex drive is high even though I'm 43. I was thinking of finding a sex partner but last time I had one I couldn't stay hard. Any of y'all have this issue?
I'm a 43 yo black male. I'm not ghetto though. Lol I feel like I have to say that. I live in midtown .
Anyway , people have told me to hang out at bars to meet people but I don't drink and don't feel comfortable in bars by myself. I have tried it many times , trust me.
My hobbies include reading (not big on it but trying to make it a habit), watching movies, going to festivals , going to u of M football games . Always looking for new hobbies as well. I work 2nd shift and a lot of stuff goes on in the evenings in Memphis during the week that I miss out on. I'm trying to get a new job tho.
I'm going thru some tough times right now. I can't even pay my rent this month and it is already late. I'm so stressed out. I have to get my car fixed so that's money down the drain that could have went towards rent. Do any of you know of any rental assistance programs in Memphis ? I looked up a couple but they said you had to be way below the poverty line which I don't think I am (I make almost 40k as a single man with no kids)
I hate that I can't snack as much as i want with this fuckin disease. I really want some butter pecan ice cream bad af. I want to scream. not being able to eat sweets sucks
I eat probably 2 candy bars a day....or if i have a bag of chips ahoy or toll house cookies i will eat the whole thing. If I try to avoid carbs, my cravings get even worse. I can't just eat sweets in moderation. I also have issues with sugar free candy. I eat too much and get explosive diarrhea every time. sorry for the visual. anyway, i tried eating more fruit and that didn't help. I indulge in my sweets craving every single day , without fail. Last time i went to the doc a few months ago my a1c was a 4.1 . I gotta go again on the 18th so i hope it hasn't went up (I take metformin..2 pills a day)
I was gonna try baking my own sweets so i could control the sugars but i can't control myself around baked goods either. Any advices?
Just relapsed. I went down the rabbit hole of watching too much adult content on Reddit today. I had a blocker set up on my phone to block redddit and porn for 3 days . It expired and I practically went crazy and binged porn.
I'm 43. I haven't had a boyfriend since 2005. I have dated around but never found a guy that treated me right and wasn't verbally abusive. Anyway, I'm thinking about just staying single but even if I wanted to be with someone , I don't have any suitors. Also I'm afraid of being cheated on. Is being old and alone really that bad ? I'm talking like over 60 or 70 + years old.
EDIT: I also fear getting with someone for years and then end up as the old couple that argues all the time and can't stand each other or wasting a lot of years with someone and then breaking up and having to start all over at an advanced age.
PAA seems to be geared towards having belief in God . I do belief in God but it's not helping with my addiction. I pray all the damn time. Anyway, I was wondering if there is any other 12-step group I could join via zoom. Or in person. I'm in Memphis Tennessee
I'm tired of all these people on YouTube they act like if you start a business , you will work 4 hours a day and make a million dollars and have all this freedom . I literally know no entrepreneur that works that little. People on YouTube act like you will be happy all the time because you are a business owner but that's not true