Is this bad ? I felt really sleepy after eating them .I had three small pancakes with sugar free syrup.
Another question I had , should I do away with almost all packaged food? Sometimes I don't feel like cooking from scratch and that shit is expensive so sometimes I eat a frozen pizza or tv dinner.
What range should my blood sugar be in an hour after eating ?
I struggle to not at least peek at some porn daily. Sometimes I do it without even thinking. Now I feel like I need to get off and have no desire to do it unless porn is involved. I thought about doing it without porn but I'm afraid I will still be visualizing porn. I'm trying to distract myself with a TV show (that I should be paying attention to instead of on the phone posting this). My urges are extremely strong now
I'm binas well. His profile claims he wants a LTR but when I asked him what he was looking for he just said "as long as the guy is nice and attractive then I'm down for it".
I have the feeling he only wants sex. He hasn't asked me any questions to get to know me. I'm asking all the questions. Should I give him a chance ?
I struggle so hard to get lost in a book now. The phone has ruined it for me. I'm so mad. I try to read before bed and I get like 10 minutes into a book and then I need to put it down. Reddit addiction has messed me up. I have a hard time sitting still and enjoying tv as well. Do you have these issues too?
I put reddit back on my phone to make this post. I was planning on taking a week long break from reddit. I really struggle with not using my phone or reddit in the evenings after work and on any of my three breaks at work. I usually bring a book with me to work but even if I don't have reddit on my phone , I will sit there and scroll thru the apps on my phone.
Also I if I don't use Reddit on my phone, when I'm home I use it on my laptop all evening or on the weekends like most of the day.
I always take work breaks in my car so I can listen to the radio and decompress before I go back in the building to work.almosf everyone on my team takes break in their car.
How do I not cave in and use Reddit or play on my phone all the time ,? I have no self control. I realize I shouldn't ask this on Reddit but oh well. I'm trying to avoid reddit for a while because I'm dealing with porn addiction and poor mental health and reddit is a trigger
I would like to write an outline on paper first ...or should I just start writing my book and make shit up as I go ?
Also is it silly to write my first draft of my book on paper rather than typing it on my laptop? I would rather write everything out by hand first but I'm afraid that it is not the right way because professionals probably don't do it like that.
I don't read as much as I would like so writing a book is going to be a struggle.
I'm having some big urges right now. Porn is completely blocked for 24 hours on my PC via Cold Turkey. But I could turn off the blocker on my phone and jerk off. I'm so stressed out about my lack of money and shitty job and I feel like an orgasm would make me feel better but I'm not THAT horny. I could use some words of encouragement because I'm about to relapse
I seee people all over reddit saying they deleted alll their other social media and they say reddit isn't as bad and doesn't make them feel bad. I don't get how it is less bad. When you talk to someone on reddit, you generally don't know shit about them other than their post history. You can't even see pictures of them most of the time and they are usually not your friends or family, which is what social media is designed for. I don't know of anyone who has a real life , offline friendship with someone they met on reddit. I am not saying reddit is all bad but a lot of it is filled with negativity and arguing and sarcasm.
I have a 4 day weekend , that started on thursday. I am probably going to be doing a lot of relaxing but will probably leave the house some. Anyway when I am home, I get bored super easy. Sometimes I will try to play a video game but lose interest after 30 minutes. Also, if I watch a youtube video on my tv , I try to multitask because it is hard for me to sit still. not sure if that is because the video is boring or if it is my anxiety. I have trouble relaxing even though i deserve it.
Also, I try to constantly scroll reddit or use porn to numb or escape my life. How do I accept boredom? how long does it take to get used to it? what are some healthy things to do ?
I am a bi guy and i have started seeing this gay guy within the last week who watches porn multiple times a day and jacks off in addition to the couple of times we have had sex so far. I think he may be an addict but he doesn't see anything wrong with viewing porn. I also feel he is basically using me to fulfill his porn fantasies but thats another story for another thread (I want a relationship partner not a sex toy).
Anyway, I let him get in my head and tell me it is ok to watch porn. I think i have developed a death grip too. Even though he and i have had sex a couple times (on both dates) , i still feel like i need to use porn and jerk off. I worry that if i keep seeing him , eventually i will have a hard time getting off. The point of this post is that i have given in to this porn addiction 5 times in 3 days in addition to having had sex 2 times the past week. Should i just stop dating while dealing with this addiction?
I feel no matter what that it is almost impossible to stop. I have struggled with this since i was 18 and i am 43. I will say that he doesn't care if i look at porn but past partners have and it ruined a relationship i had when i was young. I hate this crap. I feel like such an asshole.
It is expensive to live alone...and I live in a low cost-of-living city too. I only make about 38k a year. I am struggling and need a second source of income. Any of you solo dwellers pick up a side hustle or a second job to afford your own place?
I [m43] just got back from his [m37] house. We had sex the last hour i was there. I was there for three hours. but we mainly cuddled the rest of the time. He made a comment I didn't really like. He was talking about the grocery store that is right across from his house and he said, (keep in mind that i am black , he is white)" I don't shop at that store because it is ghetto. I am a professional white boy so I don't do ghetto"..to me that comment was a little racist but i just ignored it. I had a good time but all he talked about was his dog for like most of the first two hours. I kept trying to ask questions to get to know him a bit better but then he kept bringing the convo back to his dog.
Right after we both finished cumming , he smiled and asked, "so i guess we can keep doing this , huh?" and i smiled and said yes. I think he meant we could keep fooling around...i don't know that he meant dating when he asked that question. I couldn't bring myself to tell him how i really felt about things.
Also, he had a roommate/best friend that used to live with him that he keeps mentioning in conversation and today he told me the roommate moved several states away but left 90 percent of his stuff there , for some reason. I thought that was weird. I just wonder if the guy was an ex but he didn't want to tell me the truth . I know a lot of gay men sleep with their roommates. anyway, what do yall think about all i just wrote?
I am 43m, current love interest is 37. We matched on Tinder last wednesday and went out on our first date on sunday. He has blown up my phone ever since we first met, but i feel like we are slowly running out of things to talk about. I like his personality.... he is very giving and sweet. He already is pushing me for a relationship though. However, every conversation we have turns sexual...he always tells me how horny he is for me and he says he jerks off multiple times a day thinking about how hot I am.
On my end, I can't tell if i am into his personality or looks more. He is a hot chubby bear, exactly my type. We had sex the first night we met after our date. It was amazing. He shot a huge load and all i can think about is how big his load was and how hot he looked naked. I do also really really enjoy kissing him. He calls me pet names, like boo, babe, and handsome.
To be honest, I think he may be desperate for a relationship and I am just a warm body to him. He rarely asks questions to get to know me but i am always asking him things. I know more about him than he does me .he doesn't even know my last name or where I grew up or my hobbies other than reading.
I am trying to take things slow but i get a feeling he might be kinda crazy. I am supposed to go over to his place tomorrow when he gets off work. He came to my place the first time. I really am anxious to see him but i keep fantasizing about us having hot sex tomorrow which he states he wants to do too.
Sometimes i feel like i should break things off. We both have said we want to find a long-term relationship (after our date he said he felt like he found a relationship with me, even though we went on one date). I am not even sure if I want a relationship with anyone, tbh, because i want to move out of this city and i think he doesn't because he likes his job. also, I feel smothered and love spending time by myself a lot of times. I am confused and don't know what to do.
I 'm barely getting by , these days. I have tried to buy items at a low price and sell them higher to make some extra cash but i can't get anyone to buy them so its a waste of money. My car has an issue so i can't really do doordash/uber (my car is driveable but leaks coolant and i can't afford to get it fixed right now). My full time job doesn't pay enough. I want to get a side hustle or a second job but having trouble getting a second job right now.
Anyway, I can't even pay some of my bills. I use Tilt, Grant, and Dave for cash advances. I get paid late wednesday eve or early thurs morning depending on when my direct deposit hit and my job cut our overtime so i can't get extra hours right now at my warehouse job.
We only have known each other for a few days and today was our 1st date . we kissed after the date and i really enjoyed and we agreed to a second date. A few red flags i noticed though : we don't have hardly any of the same hobbies except for cooking, also when we texted after the date he said "looks like we have found ourselves a relationship", and he mostly talked about himself on the date and didn't ask too many questions. I had on my tinder profile that i am bisexual but i don't know that he even read my profile. We both find each other incredibly attractive but when i responded to his relationship comment, i said, " i don't want to rush into being boyfriends" then he said, "I am not gonna throw that title arond right now either", even though he said earlier that it loooks like we have found a relationship.
Another thing i noticed is that everything is overly sexual. he turns every convo sexual even though he said he is not looking for a hookup nor to sleep together soon. The green flags is that he seems really nice, he can really cook and bake, and he has a good job that he loves (something i envy).
I am starting to get nervous. I don't even know if i am ready to commit to a LTR even though i told him that is what im looking for. I 'm scared. Should i be nervous?
I tried to make some blueberry keto pancakes with coconut flour earlier and wanted to gag every time i took a bite. I wanted some pancakes made with regular flour but i have heard people say that you can't eat white flour at all with diabetes. Is this true? Is it ok for me to enjoy small amounts of pancakes daily, with sugar free syrup? I love pancakes. it's my favorite breakfast.
I really like living alone but my apartment is small. My neighbors live in the same size apartment and they stay home all the time (I live in a single apartment building with 16 units). I always feel I have to be out somewhere running errands or driving around to make myself feel like im doing some shit. Then when monday comes I dread it because i feel like i didnt' get enough rest. I have anxiety and depression and take lots of meds for them (4 or 5 meds).
I guess I am afraid of being bored so I spend a lot of my weekend time on reddit or Twitch. I struggle to even sit still sometimes when i am in my apartment. I feel like rest is wasting time, for some reason. I want to learn to enjoy this apartment that i pay for. I also am stressed about money because my job pays like shit and i worry what my dad and other family members (and co workers ) think of me to the point i almost lose sleep over it. How can i just learn to chill out and stop running around all the time?
I have been trying to quit using porn even though I don't watch it for hours and hours everyday . There is so much debate if it is addictive. I have heard of guys marriages being destroyed because of it . I don't know if I will ever be in another relationship but if so I worry about it being an issue. Every time I jack off to it , I feel immense religious guilt . Like I don't deserve sexual pleasure type guilt...even though I love the shit out of porn.
Anyway , I can't even get thru a movie at home without picking up my phone or constantly staring at the clock on the wall above the TV waiting for the movie to end even if I enjoyed it. Phone use has fried my brain. I still need to use my phone to look up info for a career change but find myself opening reddit and bluesky or the brave browser all the time.
Any words of wisdom for me ?
I had Cold Turkey on my laptop and Appblock on my phone but appblock doesn't block reddit app porn so I was able to get my fix on this app. I only spent like ten minutes looking and jacking but I feel bad . I was just horny but didn't want to do it without porn. Fuck
I thought about going out since my dad mentioned I should get out of the house (I'm grown and live alone but he worries about me not having a social life ). I don't really like going to bars by myself though because I don't like to drink. I only have like 80 dollars in my bank account right now and gotta use a great bit of that for gas to get to work next week..just trying to find ways to enjoy my time alone and not get depressed even though I like my own company