r/introvert

You both still live under one roof, apartment or whatever, but you have two different bedrooms instead of sharing one. You still come into each other's rooms and cuddle, spend time together, even sleep together, but the option of being alone is always available. Having your own personal space when you need it with no judgement from your partner.

I speak from experience sharing a room with partners before. It starts to feel suffocating after a while. It's like every aspect of my life is intertwined with theirs. I need my personal space and me-time. Anyone else want this too?

I genuinely prefer being alone. It’s not because I’m shy or can’t make friends, people have befriended me and I can talk to people just fine. I just find a lot of socializing unnecessary and draining, so I choose not to do much of it.

But every now and then I’ll have a day where I actually want to talk to someone, and then I realize I have nobody I can just randomly call or hang out with.

For people who are similar, how do you deal with those days? Do you just accept it, reach out to someone you haven't talked to in a while, go somewhere or something else?

It seems like everything we say gets taken the wrong way or offends somebody smh and this is one of the reasons why I like being a night owl because at night I can relax in peace and use that time I have to finish doing things without distractions.

I'm generally curious. I was at a lake with family this weekend and someone got a call and I was asked if it was mine. I had no clue because I realized I get so few real calls, and have good spam blocking I can't recall the last time it rang. Texts I know chats but not calls anyone else I'm curious

Is it just me, or did you guys also end up blocking all your friends after graduating?
Honestly i blocked everyone I considered my “friends” because looking back, I realized that they were just using me for everything. They never actually cared to get to know me or build a genuine friendship, and it makes me SO angry that I didn’t notice the signs sooner. Like, how did I let myself ignore all of that??
What makes it worse is how much I overshared with some of them. I told people things they honestly never needed to know, and now I look back and cringe so hard 😬😬. It’s made me trust people way less and genuinely question whether I even want to make new friendships anymore.
Right now I actually love isolating myself and cutting people off. Of course I get lonely sometimes, but honestly? I’d rather deal with that than keep pouring my energy into people who give me nothing back or keep getting stuck in one-sided friendships.
Maybe I’ll feel differently eventually, but for now I’m genuinely done chasing friendships and trying so hard to be understood by people who don’t even care to understand me. I’d rather protect my peace and keep to myself than repeat the same mistakes again.

>Hey everyone. I'm 18 and a pretty big introvert. Because of that, my social circle is mostly guys, and I don't really have many female friends or know how to start making them. For the introverted men here who used to be in a similar spot, how did you eventually meet your partner?

Mind you, in my country, a guy hardly asks out a stranger girl so this is another problem for me ....Also i have a fear that I will be called creep because laws aren't gender neutral and a woman's scream will get me in big trouble...

Hi, I am 23yold (F) and I honestly just wanted a place to rant out my thoughts. I have always loved being alone and have quite a few hobbies to do. But despite all of this, recently I have felt really lonely. My IRL friends have relationships and pretty busy with their partners or just moved out from my city. I work a job that I pretty much hate and it really affects me because I feel like speaking to someone during my work hours, but most people I know are busy and I am unsure how to interact with people as my job is remote. I also struggle with anxiety so when it hits me, talking to someone really helps and then I sit realising that I have only one person I could text regarding this and sometimes they are busy and it is totally fine. I do live alone so sometimes that also really hits me in a bad way. I have a habit of being overly attached to a person I would be talking in a span of time and when they are hot and cold with me it makes me feel really anxious and off. So now I am mostly just sitting trying to focus on my hobbies, but I also have like a thought in my head if it will always be like this. I have acquaintances that I see post about going out and just visit so many things that I do not really have the ability to do so. So I just start overthinking everything, although a part of me knows I am still quite young. How can I make this feeling better or just be more okay with being just alone or handling my emotions alone? I have thought about therapy, but it is not an option yet. I am also working on not needing to rely on people as much, but I am unsure how to build more friendships when life feels so closed off.

i recently realized that i’m actually a pretty introverted person, despite being extremely active on social media and, generally speaking, being a very outgoing and magnetic person. at one point i had a lot of friends, and i’ve never really had any issues communicating with people. it’s just that i get tired of it very quickly, and oftentimes i’m simply not interested in talking to people. i genuinely can’t listen to someone for more than five minutes, while at the same time i often prefer being the one talking. like, it’s easier for me when i’m talking and someone is listening to me, and i usually don’t even talk about the most basic, overused topics like discussing someone’s life or whatever. it’s usually historical, philosophical, psychological, or otherwise similar kinds of discussions.
that’s why i have very few people around me in general — simply because i’m not interested in interacting with most people. i can easily block someone if i realize they’re texting me too much or constantly spamming me. it can annoy me A LOT. but for a certain circle of people — my friends, my partner, or whoever else i genuinely care about — i can literally listen to them for hours and spend the entire day with them without getting tired at all. i’m willing to completely give myself to a person. but with everyone else, it just doesn’t work that way.
and overall, i don’t even want to make new connections. i don’t feel like meeting new people because, generally, it just doesn’t interest me. i’m perfectly comfortable being alone, even in environments that i regularly go to. it could be math classes, some other classes, work, whatever. i’m completely comfortable being there by myself.
but what do you do when you genuinely get tired of interacting with people really quickly? i can’t spend a lot of time in a group because afterwards i need like a day or two to recover. i can’t even spend that long just hanging out with people i have things to talk about with, if they’re not part of that small circle of people i actually care to be around. i just can’t spend a lot of time with them.
has anyone else ever felt like this? do you also get irritated really quickly by being around a lot of people, or by someone talking way too much, or just by social interaction in general? share your experiences.

Hi, Hello ! Just before I start my story I will quickly introduce myself.

I'm a 24 yo tboy, english is not my native language (I'm french), I'm on the spectrum and I've been bullied when I was younger, I have social anxiety and I'm not good with socials interaction. I care so much about what people will think of me and if they feel good and what can I do to make then feel good (I think you need those informations to understand where I came from).

So my orchestra conductor is a women who is in her early 30s. French is not her native language, she learnt it just for us, she speaks english and spanish. I'm good in english so I always talk to her in english and when she wants to say something during our rehearsals and she doesn't know the word in french she asks me.

During July I attend a one week course of music and she was one of the conductors. And multiple time when we were not playing music she was with the music teachers but she was alone at the end of the table and nobody were talking to her. Her french is good but she can't understand everything especially when it's jokes or slangs.

So one day I ask her if she feel alone in situation like that and we talk all the night in english of course. And I say to her if sometimes I annoy her she can say to me I will not be sad, I think I'm just afraid that she thinks she have to talk to me because I'm the alone one talking in english.

She says that she's kind of an extrovert but since she's in France she feels more like an introvert and I see her when she walk to me and it seem like she doesn't know if she can be with me.

I don't have a really good self esteem, and I'm afraid of being annoying or maybe taking more space that I should take. I'm always feel bad when I can't really read into someone intentions or emotions, I'm afraid of being a burden to someone.

I really like this women, she's kind, she's pretty, she's fun, she's interesting and she gives us opportunity to do things that we never did in music.

My question is, if you put yourself in her shoes would you be annoyed by someone like me ?

I think that's all, I don't know if it was clear you can ask me question i will do my best to answer.

Thanks everyone ☺️

Looking for some interesting conversations 🧠

Hey everyone!

I’m from India and I’ve been trying to step outside my usual routine and connect with some new people.

I’m into coding/tech, learning random things, music, movies, philosophy, and those late-night conversations that somehow start with something completely random and end up getting deep 😂

I’m currently learning web development, but I’m also curious about life, people, ambition, failure, success, and all the weird questions we usually keep to ourselves.

I’d love to meet people who enjoy thinking, questioning things, sharing different perspectives, or simply having a good conversation.

You don’t have to agree with me or have the same interests. Honestly, I’d rather hear a perspective completely different from mine.

So if you’re up for a conversation, tell me:

What’s one thought you’ve had recently that you couldn’t stop thinking about?

Let’s see where the conversation goes. :)

I am not shy and i do not have social anxiety. I am simply on the extreme end of the introversion scale. I often go weeks without social interaction besides what is required for work and school. I have a total of three friends. I am 22 and have only ever dated 4 guys, the longest relationship lasting 3 months. i spend the majority of my free time with my cat.

to most people this sounds incredibly depressing. but i am happy and content. I love being single, I love having only a few close friends, and i love being alone: it’s as simple as that.

Even after 22 years of this, my mother still cannot get on board. She is convinced I am depressed. She blows up my phone every day and tries to force me to make plans with people. people pity me when they see me alone at social gatherings and get offended when I decline to hang out with them, especially classmates or guys trying to “fix” me. i’m not broken; i’m just different. It’s annoying and i wish people would just accept that i’m weird and move on with their day instead of taking it personally. as i get older it becomes more and more common for people to just start minding their business, i hope i run into less of this behavior after i graduate college this coming december.

any other fellow extreme introverts?

Im a 22F and i have a work crush whos a 21M, a little introverted but still can joke around and have good convos with everyone.

We are not super close but i feel like hes always a little quieter around me and looking nervous. I promise i caught his eyes lingered half a sec longer the other day when he saw me, and our not-very-often texts were pretty standard, like he dont open convos with me but never keep his own response short, theres always a bit of extra info in there.

I dont wanna regret in 5 years time thinking 'what if', so after 6months of secretly paying attention to him, ive finally have the guts to text him if he wanna grab lunch with me before our arvo shift starts. He said hes 'busy in the morning and will see me at work!' ❤️‍🩹

I see this as him having absolutely no interest in me☹️ Based on my mindset he doesnt even wanna get to know me(?) I thought we could meet out for coffee or lunch outside work so I could get to know him more.

What i find weird was how we both chatted at work as if i havent texted. I replied 'no worries we can grab ☕️ sometime when ur free' and he left my message unread on insta, how heart breaking is this😞 but yeah i dont think hes avoiding me or what its just, very normal.

I still hold a place for him in my heart but I understand my chances are low. I know hes single and very dedicated to his uni stuffs.

Could I ask please if you have ever rejected your crush for whatever reason? Does he knows now that i like him? Is this his way of rejecting?

I would appreciate any input if you have any clues. Enjoy your day<3

I am looking to interact with fellow introverts here and want good company as I am currently in a rough patch and trying hard to fight my loneliness and isolation. Plus also looking more remote work or suggestions.

When was the last time you made a genuinely new friend?

Not a follower.
Not someone you exchanged a few messages with.
A real friend.

Sometimes we grow up, get busy, change cities, start new jobs, or simply drift apart—and suddenly our circle becomes smaller.

So I’m curious:

Where do adults actually make new friends these days? 👀

Work?
Social media?
Hobbies?
Gym?
Through mutual friends?
Or does it just… happen randomly?

Tell me your experience. 👇

I basically have no friends and tall to no one except for my family. I want to make friends but it's hard because not only am I shy but I'm also socially awkward as well and have a hard time walking up to people, starting conversations, and continuing conversations. How do I stop being shy and awkward so that I can build relationships with other people that aren't family.