r/Life

Im 39 and I feel like when I was growing up we were always at somebody’s house for family dinners, cookouts, neighbors parties, random holiday get-togethers. Now getting a few people together somehow takes three weeks and a group chat.

And going out is so expensive now! Sometimes I just want everyone to meet back at somebody’s house, eat something simple and kick back on the couch. But even that feels harder to make happen.

Is it like this for you too? What changed? COVID? The cost of everything? Everyone being exhausted?

does anyone else ever think about how fucking weird it is that we are alive?

not even in the usual "what is the meaning of life" way, i mean the actual fact that we are here at all.

we are basically just matter, right? atoms, cells, chemicals etc, and somehow this matter is conscious now. its looking around and asking why its alive, what its supposed to do, why there is a universe, why there is something instead of nothing...

like what the fuck lol

sometimes i think the really creepy part isnt death or even the idea that life has no purpose. its that some random piece of matter somehow became aware enough to ask these questions.

why isnt there just nothing?

no people, no animals, no planets, no space, no time, nothing. and that would be completely normal because there would be nobody there to notice it.

but instead there is all this stuff, and somehow im one of the little pieces of matter inside it that can sit here and think "why am i here?"

idk. maybe im just overthinking it, but when you stop for a second and dont take being alive as the default, existence starts feeling really fucking strange.

My older brother became a religious freak and we had a disagreement the last time we had a lengthy conversation : He kept saying I was going to hell because I am an Atheist (even though I'm not lol , I just don't believe in the common version of God) and wanted to save my soul. I still talk to him but I keep to 2-3 short messages like once a year.

Hello.

I don't know was just sitting and this thought just crept in.

I am wondering what did people do before social media?

Now in 7-8 years since covid social media has been in everyone's daily routine. And something that consumes alot from every ones life. Now when people get bored all use social media and stuff. No doubt people also do pursue their hobbies but

I wanted to know what was a normal day like for people who had no social media, 20 years back? How was life? Was it better? How was it different from today's world?

Just thinking of leaving social media but sometimes I wonder how will I understand news and latest updates from world? People used to watch news before now many resort to social media

P. S. I'm just 24 yrs old wondering 🤔💭

I’m 24F, and lately I’ve been realizing just how fast time flies.

I remember being younger and imagining what my life would look like at 24. I thought I’d have a decent job, some savings, places I’ve traveled to, maybe be living independently, and be able to give something back to my family—to feel like all my hard work was finally paying off.

But in reality, I don’t have any of those things.

I’m still living with my family. I recently resigned from my first job because I was hoping to find something with better pay and more opportunities. Since then, I’ve sent dozens of applications, but I’m still unemployed. I’ve spent most of the money I had left just trying to apply and get myself to different opportunities, and somehow, I’m still back at square one.

No job. No savings. No exciting stories. No big achievements.

And sometimes I can’t help but look at my life and think, Hay, what a boring life I live.

I know 24 is still young, and I know everyone has their own timeline. But knowing that doesn’t always stop me from feeling like I’m falling behind.

I guess I just needed somewhere to put these thoughts. Maybe some of you have felt the same way.

Im 34 F

I feel like once I got married I lost all of my friends.

There were things that happened and for once I started showing boundaries or speaking my mind and then "poof"

Also when finding new friends I found myself more protective of my bubble and access so now its also harder to make friends...idk its weird

Does this sort of thing happen?

A crow started pulling my hair and repeatedly attacking me while I was just walking by. Does this behavior have any specific meaning behind it?

Life keeps contradicting me, I'm a religious person and I try my best to be a good one. I help the community and people in need as best when I can. I try not to hurt other feelings, I am reasonable, understanding, sympathetic and compassionate. I mean surely someone like this deserve at least one good thing in their life right? Nope! Every single fucking time I try to do something that will help me either for the mental side or the future side, for whatever reason it doesn't work out. I can understand if something doesn't work for me. like I try to be optimistic about it (maybe it was gonna end in a bad way...) but every single time is too much, and I'm tired of acting like I'm ok. because nothing ever ended in a good way or worked out in a good way and this is just so tiresome and now I have those thoughts about ending it all. if y'all have experienced this or you have a solution tell me so I can be patient about it.

To those who robbed—say, a jewelry store or a bank—stealing over $5,000, and got caught: if you could go back in time to the moment before the mistake that led to your arrest and do things differently, what would you change? I always think that pulling off a robbery is easy and that no one should get caught, but the statistics say otherwise—that most robbers do get caught. If it’s not a secret, what was it that got you caught?

I'm 27, spaniard living in my country.

I studied programming and worked at a company for two years before starting a degree in Computer Engineering in 2022 (yes, right when the AI ​​boom began).

In 2025, I started looking for a job because I couldn't afford my final year of university (due to family circumstances). I was hired after nearly eight months, but I only lasted three.

I had to pay for surgery for one of my dogs, and my cat developed kidney failure, so I asked if I could work from home. They gave me permission (I even said if it isn't possible I would stay at office), but two weeks later they called me into the office and ended up firing me.

Since then, I’ve been looking for work without success, and I’m starting to consider working in other sectors.

Should I just go work in the mines or head to Norway to look for a job in the oil industry?

At this age I feel embarrased living with my parents and no social life.

Tonight I'm recovering from quite possibly one of my worst episodes I've had in such a long time. My anger was at an absolute all time high were all my emotions were coming out at once, getting angry at my parents, banging around, and just not knowing where I am. I've noticed I've been having this little bumps there and now, but tonight was basically the straw that broke the camel's back and I genuinely don't know what to do now.

I'm at the the point in my life where I just don't know what to do with all this anger and frustration I've been having lately because I'm telling you, this isn't normal for me to be feeling this way, and I have no idea what to do about it

22m, uk, live in a little rural village. this place is suffocating me. There's no other young adults here, there's no public transport so I have no personal agency, I can't get a decent job because there's no employment, I'll never end up dating anyone since there's no one TO date. And worst of all I'm living with my parents in a room barely bigger than a cupboard. I don't even have a proper bed since it wouldn't fit.

I've wasted away a year of my life trying to get out the normal way (applying for jobs, making enough money to move to a city). That isn't working, I've got no money, no life, and i'm beginning to lose my mind.

I made a post on this subreddit talking about this earlier this year and somebody said "when it gets bad enough you'll pack your car and just leave" I. Don't. Have. A. Car. I can't afford one, not the car itself, not the insurance, not the fuel. that is a complete non starter. If I did I'd be able to drive wherever I wanted and just sleep out of it. But currently, not an option. I work part time and barely make above what I'd be getting if I was on welfare, even after saving up for a year a car still isn't an option.

But that thought stuck with me, and I think I'm closely approaching the point where taking a leap into the unknown regardless of circumstances is preferable to continuing to rot in this shithole. There is nothing holding me back except financial circumstance. and sleeping rough seems more and more preferable to spending another unbearable day here with every week that passes.

I've had the thought to just buy a one way train ticket to london and hope for the best, find someone to couch surf on, apply for jobs in person instead of online, schmooze my way into a good life. I don't know how i'd go about any of that. It's stupid and short sighted but what other choice do I have? Keep spamming applications at the wall and hoping someone will take pity on me? All I know is I probably won't be able to hold myself together much longer if I keep living here.

Anyone else here been in a similar situation? maybe offer some insight into what you chose to do?

I (male, in my late 20s) have a friend, X (male in his early 30s), whom I've known for 4 years. He's a very introverted and withdrawn person. For most of the time we've known each other, he was usually happy to go along with plans I suggested, such as beer on pub or going to cinema.

At one point, he told me that although he sometimes attends public social events in the city, he hasn't formed any close relationships with the people he meets there. He told me that I was his only close friend, which I had suspected for quite some time. I've found him polite, but extremely reserved.

What seems suspicious is that X has never even tried to invite a girl on a date (he told me this), even though he is already over 30. He is not gay. His social skills have always seemed very poor. He is like a quiet awkward kid.

Earlier this year, I introduced X to another friend of mine, Y, whom I've known for a while and have a good relationship with. Since then, the three of us have started hanging out together on various occasions, such as birthdays and other events, roughly once a month.

I still meet Y one-on-one quite regularly between our group meetups. However, I haven't had a one-on-one meeting with X — my friend of 4 years — in more than six months...

There were 3 occasions when I suggested to hang out with him, and every time X turned me down, saying he didn't have time. During last months he never invited me for 1:1 meeting. I didn't think much of it for a long time because X has always been very quiet with poor social skills, but recently it has started to bother me.

I also found out that X sometimes hangs out with Y. What's strange to me is that they don't even have that much in common — one of them is a nerd, while the other isn't. X doesnt have much to share.

My relationship with Y is still very good, but what bothers me is X's behavior.

I have supported X when he was lonely, introduced him to different people, and in some way, I helped make his otherwise lonely life more interesting, although he has never really acknowledged that. I was always nice to him.

Now I feel like he's simply ignoring me. The only time I see him is when the three of us meet. And even then, he's basically the same as he's always been — quiet and not very talkative. Outside of those group meetings, there's almost no contact between us. He is not texting me. It seems rude.

What should I do in this situation? Behavior of X seems imature, even so he is older than me.

I’m 35 and I’ve been struggling with low confidence and self esteem for a long time. I constantly think about what other people think of me. Even after a simple conversation I can replay what I said and how I said it. I wonder if I should have said something differently. Sometimes it stays in my head for hours or even days.

I also get triggered by small things. If someone is trying to one up me or show off their success I can get annoyed or insecure. Even if I don’t say anything I start questioning myself. Why am I bothered by this? Why am I comparing myself to them? Why am I letting someone else affect me? Why can’t I just be happy for them?

Sometimes I wonder if my own ego is stopping me from actually living my life. Why do I care so much about how I look to other people? Why am I afraid of being myself around others? Why is it difficult for me to genuinely feel happy when someone else is doing better or has better financial stability? We are all just people. So why do I turn someone else’s success into something that makes me question my own worth Even though I know what I’m doing and what I’m making is good enough, seeing someone who seems far ahead can send me into a spiral about how I should be doing more, making more or achieving more. I struggle to appreciate where I am without comparing myself to someone else.

The same thing happens when I get angry or frustrated. I might react in a way I later regret. Then I spend hours thinking about it and feeling guilty. I don’t want to suppress my emotions. I just don’t want to keep getting triggered and reacting in ways that I wish I could take back.

I honestly want to understand where this low self esteem comes from. Why do I constantly need to think about how others see me? Why can’t I just be comfortable being myself?

Another thing I’ve been wondering about is why anger seems to be the strongest emotion I feel. Sometimes anger feels easier and more intense for me than even love or happiness. I don’t know if I’ve just learned to express anger more easily or if there’s something deeper going on.

I want to stop comparing myself to everyone else. I want to stop letting small things get under my skin. Most of all I want to be able to feel something without immediately judging myself for it. Has anyone else gone through this? How did you learn to trust yourself and stop living so much in your head?

I have a 3 year old son and I’m terrified that the things I’m still trying to fix in myself will someday become the things he thinks are wrong with him. I don’t want him to inherit my battles. I want him to inherit a father who fought hard enough to end them.

The title says it all, I just blew a job interview that would have given me access to the better parts of life.. If only I had known the one piece I had to know and I would be on the way to a better life. I don’t know where to go from here..

I am still working on becoming mentally stronger, but my mindset has already shifted to some extent simply by gaining a better understanding of human nature.

Would like to get some opinions and advice on moving to another state. I’m 26, I’ve lived in Idaho my whole life and I’m currently separating from my gf and selling my house. I don’t have a college degree I’ve always worked warehouse jobs/forklift work. I have my dog and won’t give her up but I need to relocate somewhere more affordable as Idaho has gotten to be so expensive with rent and everything else. I was thinking Houston Texas because it is a large distribution hub and I could find a job. Any advice or suggestions on other states?

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