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10w’s of cosleeping going well I suppose other than the last two nights and my fiancé effectively being over it.

That being said I think I profoundly messed up with the whole crib thing. My LO knows it’s her space but just gets excited when I put her in it and starts babbling. I think I might’ve made it “too fun.”

She’s obsessed with her crib module- it has stuffed animals on it I’ll admit it’s pretty cute. She is also obsessed with that aquarium toy from baby Einstein. Both are in there. If I turn one on but not the other she looks for it.

I’ve got her to nap in her crib more than a few times. Haven’t tried a night since she was teeny tiny. Wish me luck.

Any advice or thought are welcome.

I really should’ve took a parenting class because I’m hardheaded and will only listen to fact backed by research.

My family is also just super opinionated and judgmental so I’ve kind of kept some space between us and them during this time.

So here’s the deal- I just took off my baby’s mittens at 9 weeks. I mean I’ve played with her hands before throughout the day, not every day though.

She scratched her face pretty bad a couple times and my partners dad said to leave those suckers on. So that just what I did. It made sense. Now I’m reading a bunch of stuff about how I potentially fucked up her fine motor skills development and feel like an idiot.

I also feel terrible because they were in fact her “first toys” and comfort and I just took that away for literally no reason. Babies will scratch their face. It’s part of life.

SO if anyone has taken off their babies mittens around 2-3 months and they’re totally fine and developing normally, please leave a comment. I just need some reassurance right now.

Save your “classic ppd” comments for the birds. I’m well aware that’s most likely what I’m dealing with but just let me vent.

I miss my old life. I miss being able to party to be frank. I miss working too. I had a kid too early and severely regret it. I knew it would be difficult but having all your freedom stripped away from you overnight is a huge slap in the face. My partner doesn’t give me time away from her. He did for the first time yesterday and that made me realize just how much time I haven’t had to myself since she was born two months ago. I barely take care of myself anymore. I use to be huge on self-care. I had many hobbies prior to having a kid and suddenly it’s just not possible to partake in a single one of them. I can read in bits but that’s about it.

My little is a terrible eater. She just takes so damn long and is so sporadic about it. I’ve tried so hard to problem solve it but there’s nothing I can do. It’s always one step forward, two steps back. My entire existence is making sure this little girl eats and sleeps enough and it doesn’t look like it’s going to get any easier for a very long time.

I haven’t had a good stretch of sleep in two months either so I’m basically running on 3% brain capacity at all times. I idiotically cut my hand yesterday pitting an avocado and just sat there for a second like wtf. Never pitted it like that before in my life.

I just wish I never had a kid. Not right now at least.

My mother thinks she’s a baby whisperer and an absolute super parent, constantly bragging about how she got every single ones of us (I have three siblings) to sleep for 4 hour stretches immediately then 8 hours by 2-3 months alone in our cribs.

Quite frankly I don’t believe her. Having a baby now I’m like sure buddy, completely ignoring your child when they wake isn’t the same thing as sleeping through the night. Especially having the same experience four times? Give me a break. I don’t care how amazing of a parent you are, you’re not going to get miracle babies four times in a row.

I digress from talking about any of my parenting choices with her ATP since she’s so opinionated and has basically told me I’m wrong with almost all of my choices.

My two month old wakes 2-4 times per night and I think that’s pretty good. How often are/were your two month olds waking and did anyone get to an 8 hour stretch as early as 3 months consistently? Just curious.

Apparently I’m basic (per my partner) because I call mine “munchie” as a shortened version of munchkin. I love it so no cares given.

My fiancé (now ex-fiancé) met IN REHAB and we thought it would be a great idea to drink through a move. We landed a larger spot for the same price so we were stoked. The entire process just took forever because we were renting a fully furnished spot and moving to an empty house. Every weekend turned into drinking and buying used furniture, then daily drinking since that point. We both agreed the other day that we were quitting the cycle today. We both have highly addictive personalities (go figure lol) and both drank then got into the most idiotic fight ending with him chucking his wedding ring at my face and grabbing my phone and throwing it at our dresser. I’ve never seen him get violent before. Then he comes back and acts like I should take him back no problem and hands me my ring to put back on. I didn’t. In the midst of the arguing he said he didn’t want to be with me and we’re no longer engaged. So that’s exactly what happened. You don’t get to come back with your tail between your legs and act like that never happened. You said what you said. So now he’s laying next to me in bed after we had a long conversation ending with him agreeing to therapy. I’m just venting and feel like a bum.

Stay sober folks.