r/rant

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 16 years and lived together for 14.5 years.

She has 4 grand kids. When the first two were born, they were absolute angels and my girlfriend and I adored them. Then her daughter had 2 more and she lost control of everything.

Her kids rule thier house. They do what they want, when they want with almost no consequence. The dad is the only one that works and when he gets home, he yells at the kids for misbehaving and not doing what their told, but they just roll thier eyes at him.

They are very disrespectful, cusses like drunk sailors and all 4 of them always want something different for meals. If they don't like what is being served at thier house, no biggie. They just walk over to the "snack pantry" and grab whatever junk food they want.

These kids don't know how to pick up after themselves and thier mom has pretty much decided she's given up cleaning the house, and her car. I've seen cleaner bathrooms in rundown gas stations.

The kids would do #2, use half a roll of toilet paper then run off and not flush the toilet.

My girlfriend and I have tried to step in and ask them to pick up or finish their food, take a bath and go to bed. Some days are worse then others. There was a time we asked the two younger kids to go to bed and they had a full blown meltdown. What did the parents do? The dad stayed on the couch playing on his phone, mom locked herself in her room.

I want to love these kids. They can be very sweet be when they want to be. But I can't stand to be around them for more than a day.

And we're spending memorial day weekend with them. 😞 😓 😩

I’m at my breaking point! You’re supposed to be my best friend but I am honestly going to ghost you if you keep up this awful behavior!

You haven’t been able to hold down a job for 2 years, you get upset the second anyone in our friend group mentions purchasing something somewhat expensive or spoils themself, yet the second some money comes in (an odd job or gift from family) you spend it on the most useless crap and play the poor me card the next time you’re struggling with rent or bills.

You’re in your 50s and still rely on your parents to protect you and be a back up when you inevitably lose your apartment but throw a tantrum if either one reaches out in an email or on socials to see how things are going or if they can come up to visit. You refuse to get your license so you never visit them and you’re lucky they are even still around TO visit!!

You had a temp job for about 3 weeks and bragged about how you were the only person not asked to stay on longer because “who wants to work at a call center anyway?” Uhhh maybe someone who has bills to pay?! Every single day you were there, you spent more time messaging us than actually doing any work.

You’re supposed to be applying to jobs regularly. We send you part time jobs that you could easily get if you’d take the time to apply, but instead you choose to teach yourself how to crochet on YouTube. We try to be supportive and recommend craft shows and little store fronts that would sell things that you could make, and then suddenly you no longer want to crochet and you’re moving on to the next random hobby, wracking up credit card debt on more materials. It’s like you’re having a mid life crisis but expecting everyone to just catch you when you do fall. You wanted to adopt a dog for gods sake! It wasn’t until one of us showed you the monthly expenses of food, insurance and tick meds that you realized how insane and unfair that idea was.

And if I see one more “from the bottom of my heart, please help me find a job” post on socials.. I’m going to block you. You told me yourself, it’s not to actually get job posts or get a foot in somewhere.. it’s to see who actually cares about you which is so disappointing and self centered, it’s unreal.

You’ve already lost 2 people from our friend group who do not want to be around you anymore because you just want to complain and have a pity party. I honestly don’t know what’s happened to you since you lost your job, but you’ve become someone I would never be friends with in the first place and it makes me horribly sad because when I try to bring it up with you, you shut me down and soft block me for the day. It’s getting to the point where I may fully block you for good for MY own mental health. My partner already asks me if we are even friends anymore because I refuse to hang out and make excuses these days and I spend most evenings frustrated over the childish choices you made that day.

I don’t want to lose you as a friend, but I also am terrified that your negative view on the entire world will rub off on me.

I enjoy make up. It’s a fun way to express myself. I love wearing different lip products, wearing different colours of blush depending on my mood or outfit, etc. I also love finding a great product that does what I need it to. It makes me feel good.

Make up has gotten so ridiculously expensive that I have to save up to buy anything or simply refuse to (or just can’t).

Sephora prices: $50+ for foundation. $32 for lip balm. $98 for an eyeshadow palette. $35 for blush. $37 for a tiny eyebrow pencil. $32 for mascara. The list goes on. Even drug store prices are crazy. Most of items are $15 at their cheapest. A NYX blush is almost $20.

I’m so sick of it because all these brands constantly send free products to influencers. And the amount of product you get in most of these items is tinyyyy. It’s getting harder and harder to justify purchasing anything and it just bums me out so much.

I know people are fucking stupid and you wanna air your opinion but you really are just generating views. Sometimes, a proper debate is necessary, but 99% of the time, just downvote and move on. You're not gonna change some hateful bigots mind with your response. Also, remember you are possibly responding to a 13 year old or a bot. Is it really worth arguing with anyone on the fucking internet?

This is just about my experience in general, but there are a lot of people out there who lack the ability to have a constructive conversation with someone who differs from them.
In my experience it seems to be a knowledge issue as well as a logical comprehensive issue.

I also think people lack the understanding of how the world actually works through different disciplines such as economics, math, and history.

What bothers me the most about this is specifically influencers because there’s a lot of people out here spewing crap about things they don’t even understand or actually put in the effort to know and people are eating it up out of the palm of their hand like it’s the truth.

I don’t think everybody needs to agree on things, but it just seems that nowadays blanket statements and basic google searches as evidence are the status quo in the social media world which if anything is counterintuitive to constructive debate.

If people can’t step into another person shoes to see both sides of an argument and truly UNDERSTAND and RESPECT the differences, then we are screwed as a species.

Lastly, this is just a PSA but I know all of us are different and have different experiences, but it shouldn’t stop us from loving each other.
I just wanna say I love each one of you who view this and I wish you the best in life. Sorry for the rant. This is just something that has been on my mind recently and it’s made me a little sad.

Title, marked as spoilers just incase you have not seen the last episode

Rant incoming…

where was the part of Homelander going crazy and SCORCHED EARTH???? We got scorched carpet instead

what we got was Ryan and William holding Homelander nice and comfortable while giving time for Kimiko to have her DAYLIGHT WET DREAM

Let’s not forget, William tentacles are apparently strong enough to hold / stop Homelander while William was ragdolled by Bombsight??

Gosh

Anyway, I look forward to your comments and thoughts

You're a bully, and I suspect you have been for a long while. You use your status or your children to strongarm people into giving you what you want, and then get enraged when that doesn't work (or if you get even the slightest bit of pushback). Whether that be your family, friends, or even just people trying to do their fucking job.

You're controlling, and you're instilling your inherent distrust and dislike of others into your children by dissuade them from doing things with their friends. Paradoxically, you feed into and happily accept your children's complete disrespect for authority, while getting mad and being confused when they act that exact same way towards you.

Your blatant homophobia and distaste for me personally has put so much more strain on your brother and I's relationship than was ever called for. We can't express our happiness or love for each other any time we're arpund the kids, and are forced to hide it in public lest you rip away time we coukd spend with them. All of this, even when they KNOW we're together.

The hate and disrespect I've felt from you (towards me or almost anyone else) harkens back to the way that my ex stepmother treated my sister and I as kids. Except she would never accuse me of trying to poison (or otherwise "comtrol")my boyfriend. Especially while he's in the hospital for a fucking stroke!

I love you, but I can't stand being around you. I'm writing this and sending it into the void, because I know saying any of this might endanger my boyfriends relationship with his nephews who you weild like a cudgel.

Now let me emphasize that I’m a big man myself, so this isn’t an attack on my fellow big people, but my fatass shouldn’t be a cop and I know that about myself, but for some reason I just get really irritated everytime I see a fat cop. I’m not talking tall and stalky either, I’m talking beer belly, triple chin, breathes hard when he reads your Miranda rights type cop. I have friends in the military who do physical training and weigh ins, but I guess once you pass the police academy, you can just be a fat guy? What happens if you have to run after a criminal? Or hop a fence? I just don’t think there should be fat cops. On a side note, fat people look ridiculous riding motorcycles. It looks cartoonish, like they’re so big in proportion to the bike, and that’s why my fatass drives a car!!🤣

I've seen so many people arguing on Facebook lately about how they don't think abortion should be legal. When someone posted about a province in Canada now being able to self refer for abortions I commented, "that's amazing news!" Underneath n had a bunch of people being mean to me under that comment.

Mistakes happen, you're allowed to have an abortion if you had sex and for some reason the birth control didn't work.

You're allowed to have an abortion if you were sexually assaulted and don't want the child.

You're allowed to have an abortion if you're not mentally or physically prepared.

You're allowed to have an abortion if you're not financially stable.

You're allowed to have an abortion if it wouldn't be safe for you physically carry through with it.

You're allowed to have an abortion just because you don't want to be pregnant.

Having an abortion for any of these reasons IS taking responsibility. No it is not taking a life, the life hasn't started yet, you are not a murderer for it. You're allowed to opt out, and it's cruel that people try so hard to make you feel bad for it.

I've never had an abortion, I also don't have kids, but if I did ever end up pregnant by mistake somehow I would get one. Just because I haven't had one doesn't mean I can't be supportive to people who have. Being pregnant is mentally and physically taxing, you have no right to tell someone no, it's not your body.

Learn to be alone and get to know yourself, instead of finding new person to vent to right away. I'm not your therapist. I took few years off dating to deal with my shit. Now I'm healthy and I don't bring my unresolved issues from the past into new relation. Ffs. Wtf is wrong with dating these days.

I don’t know if its just my bad luck, the subs I happen to see but I find many of the people of reddit really very aggravating. From the casual bigotry and self righteousness, to the pity parties and bullshit self-reinforcing loops people get stuck in -in these echo chambers. The ideologues. The smarmy comebacks. The entitlement. The narcissism. The arrogance. The dog piling. The in-group out-group bullshit. The holier-than-thou nonsense. The whining on and on and on. (As I whine about the whining) Is this where we are at? Some of you people, while I don’t hate you, I find you utterly insufferable and I’m glad not to meet you in person.

I’m aware this is kinda dumb, and is far from the worst problem in my life, but it’s pissing me off. My favorite album is AM by Arctic monkeys. And I get called a larper by Arctic monkeys fans all the time, I literally own all their main albums, and several EPs, and live album, on vinyl. Like I love Arctic monkeys, I don’t think they have a single bad album, and hardly have a bad song. But AM is a fucking masterpiece. It’s so incredible. And to have that opinion doesn’t make me less of an Arctic monkeys fan. There’s other examples of this too, like my favorite indi game is hollow knight, so people say I’m ‘larping as an indi fan’.

Liking popular things doesn’t make you a larper. I’d be a larper if I called myself an arctic monkeys fan and only liked AM, I’d be a larper if the only indi game I played was HK, I’d be a larper if the only doctor who doctor I liked was Tennent. Etc.

Why does no one these days know the difference between to and too? Or their, there, they’re… or your and you’re!!!! Or even angle and angel.

This is primary school level English. Constantly fucking these up is such a telltale sign of stupidity… and I hate to say it but I start to lose respect for people who just can’t spell. It’s frankly embarrassing.

EVEN if you’re dyslexic, you’ve still had years to just put in the extra effort to learn the BASIC differences like to and too. (EDIT: I take this part back…)

I just hate being bombarded with these mistakes everywhere I look. Any social media, Emails, even teachers at my school.

I’d even go as far as to say it’s kind of disrespectful because:

- Clearly you don’t respect my time because I’m having to spend extra time to decipher what you mean.

- You are not putting in any effort to talk to me?

Wtf is this imitation crab bs? If you’re gonna imitate it at least taste similar? Bitch ass shit doesn’t even taste close. It tastes NOTHING like crab. It’s so disgusting. It also smells so bad. Why are you calling it imitation crab? Give it some other name. That’s not imitating crab in ANY WAY.

i felt used today, and my heart feels heavier than usual.

i keep replaying everything, trying to figure out where i should have drawn the line.

i felt this before with my ex, and i’m feeling it again with someone i met on reddit—like i’m falling into the same pattern i thought i had already learned from.

it hurts because it feels familiar, and i keep wondering if i ignored the signs i already knew deep down.

i don’t want to keep repeating this kind of hurt with different people.

i need to remind myself that i deserve better than what i accepted today.

tonight, i just want to cry.

Are you ready for this one? A guy that I work with was leaving our company to start his own business. He had a solid business plan and the right people in place. He was after me for literally months to join them and I finally agreed as it was a huge bump in my pay. I should also add that he left our former employer with very bad feelings between him and ownership. Now, it's 9 months later and he acquired work and employees by buying out the arm of a competitor. All of a sudden, he's not happy with my performance and says that I need to be doing more, but I have to come up with what this 'more' is. I know he wants me to quit. I simply cannot believe this man. I am thinking he wanted to poach me because he knew I would be difficult to replace, and wanted to stick it to our former employer. What would y'all do? I am beyond enraged at this point. Thank you for letting me vent.

As a 21 yo girl I recently got on bumble and i get over 100 likes a day but.. I keep matching with guys who want to watch me get fucked, I get this is a fantasy but the amount of men who want this is disturbingly high. I just want one guy a healthy normal dynamic *not kink shaming . Rn I matched with this handsome guy and he just started fine but now he's texting paragraphs of how he would want to watch his friends fuck me . Yes I got screenshots this is very real I get this often.

(I’m not homophobic btw)

Is this what it feels like to be your average woman? ALL THIS UNWANTED ATTENTION FROM GUYS AND NO ATTENTION FROM THE GIRLS.

I’m a straight guy, like straight up no attraction to the same sex. I’ve been asked out by like five gay people in the past year. Two of my friends came out to me and immediately were like “i… kinda like you as more then a friend.” And no disrespect to their courage, but I’M NOT FUCKING GAY. I LIKE WOMEN OMG.

DO I GIVE OFF GAY VIBES? My other friends say I don’t. I look quite the opposite actually.

My girl friends say this is a “good thing” because apparently I’m secure in my masculinity and my identity and I’m a respectful person or whatever.

Maybe, maybe it’s because girls are just less direct and hints go clean over my head. But it feels like I literally only attract gay people. I’m not even zestyyyyy.

I wear hoodies and sweatpants. I have no style. Why do you like meeeeeee omggggg

I feel like I fucked myself with where I am in life. I got too excited and bombed my original plans to be a single gamer in a 1 bedroom house and 2 cats. No screaming child, no having to consider other peoples feelings, no burnout every god damn day. I feel stuck. Angry. Overwhelmed...there isn't a single fucking word in the dictionary that can legitimately describe the emotion I'm feeling right now. I hate this. I hate myself more and more each day. And waking up feels like a fucking job of it's own. What really takes the cake? I can't off myself without knowing i'll hurt someone. I'm so fucking stupid.

A few years ago I moved across the country, leaving everything behind. I had a work from home job for a while, and I haven't really been able to connect with anyone. I never really did the online dating thing, but I downloaded Bumble For Friends to try and find some people to hang out with.

I am now painfully aware of what men go through when they're on dating sites, and it's obnoxious. There are like three girls total on this app. I mean, I know there are more, but you have three archetypes:

1. Weed Girl: Seems cool, but smokes weed and makes it her personality. Multiple references about gardening and smoking to make sure you don't miss the fact that she smokes weed. I don't condemn people who smoke, but I'm not in a job where I can smoke weed, and I don't want to go into my job smelling like I do. Next.

2. Club Girl: Likes bars, drinks, wine nights, clubbing, and going out. All her pics are from her regular Bumble or Tinder (assets out) and she's low-key looking for men on the friend finding app. If she's not posing in front of a mirror she's in a bar with a cluster of identical girls. Did I mention she likes to have fun and party? Next.

3. Fucking Becky: So inescapably bland that you don't even know if she's real. Likes hiking, the beach, books, working out, and coffee. Listens to: True Crime and Taylor Swift. Watching: Bridgerton or The Summer I Turned Pretty. I'm not shitting on people who like these things, I like Bridgerton, but please, just say one unique thing. Next.

That's it. Where are my alt girlies? My nerds? My goth baddies? My cottage core babes? Fellow gremlins? I don't want to hang out with Becky or weed girl, and parties are loud. I just want to meet someone down to earth who maybe shares one or two things in common with me. If this is what people are getting on their dating apps, no wonder everyone hates online dating so much.

This is all stupid and I hate making friends in adulthood because it's so hard to find anyone who seems interesting.

Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.