I know this depends on the area but I’ve heard stories from people I knew personally that grew up here during the 80s/90s about how violent much of the city was.
Is it exaggerated or do you think the general view of LA during that time is accurate?
Just looked back on some of my old photos and damn. Not tryna self glaze but pre-covid me was borderline handsome, even though I didn’t think so at the time.
I’ve spent years since letting my body go. Eating the same bullshit I’ve always eaten but minus the exercise I used to do. Add alcohol to all the mix and you get the picture.
I went from a visible jawline and slight cheekbones to a puffy round face. I hate looking at myself.
The biggest irony is my sense of style, skincare and haircare has significantly bumped up since then… but so has my weight. If I applied what I’ve improved now to what I used to look like I could’ve been unstoppable.
It sucks realizing you wasted your potential. I’m 25 which some people consider young still but I really wasted the first half of my twenties not taking care of myself.
I grew up in the 2000s/10s era. Not a bad time to come up especially for kids entertainment.
If I had to pick an era to grow up in it’d be the 90s. Most of my taste in music, clothes, slang, etc come from that time. Yeah I’d miss out on the convenient tech we have now but there’s pros to that too.
I’m talking about me for personally, if you had the best years of your life this whole time cool, love that for you. Now back to me.
Not even taking into account the viral doom we entered this decade with and the other worldly problems we’ve had since, my own personal life was awful. Relationships with family, financially, romantically, it’s just been a dark 6 years.
Were there some positives in the mix? Yes, but the bad not only outweighed the good the bad was BAD.
Idk if anyone else can relate or if you were living lavida loca on cruise ships traveling the world living your best life. For me though, this whole timeline is cursed.
All I can do is play my part and hope for a better second half of the 20’s. Cause fuck the first half.
My vote goes to Austin, aka white Atlanta.
Debating asking this one girl from work out. I’m not really trippin about “awkwardness” at work, I feel like we’re all adults here. My thing is I try to be very selective on who I do ask out from work if I do decide too. It’s not something I jump straight into just because I’m attracted to the person.
I like to gauge their personality a bit, “are they super gossipy? Are they the type that would spread negativity about you during or post relationship?” So I’m careful with shit like this I’m just not big on never dipping your pen in company ink if it’s just a coworker dynamic and not managers or some shit. People find their partners at work all the time.
That’s me though, where do y’all stand?
Trust fund kids growing up with the most silver of spoons calling those in poverty “lazy” and how they just don’t put the work in…
Or how the conventionally attractive people that have been showered in compliments and validation their whole lives telling the not so fortunate looking the same thing in regards to dating. How they don’t put the effort in like they do… until you realize a lot of their “effort” is the bare minimum and just existing in public while THEY get approached, basically having the other party do the work for them.
Thing is it’s not like these people aren’t aware of their positions in society, it just randomly escapes them when they compare their successes with others. Now suddenly hard work is at play.
These people had to do the bare minimum in life to see positive results so they assume the scale is the same for everyone.
The city throws so much at you at once, naturally most people become numb to the everyday clusterfuck you’re exposed to. Especially those of us that grew up here.
I love this city don’t get it fucked up. Wouldn’t redo my childhood anywhere else, but oftentimes I ask if I’m truly just desensitized to the madness I’ve witnessed/experienced living here or if there’s an element of trauma. Most of us keep it pushing because that’s what you’re taught in this environment. Shit happens, get over it.
Didn’t hit me til I stayed in other cities and was able to actually reflect on shit… and breathe.
Does this resonate with anyone else here or am I just fucked in the head solo?
Why is darker skin always seen as a bad thing? I remember growing up as a darker skinned guy most of the shit I would get about my complexion was from my own people, other black people, more than other races.
Hell just the other day I was at a concert and some random ass dude, black, made a sly remark on my skin tone… in a bathroom. Just a random mf I don’t know feeling compelled to talk shit at a function we’re supposed to be having a good time at. On some weird shit.
Why are we, of all people, the ones that put down dark complexion the most? The people that HAVE it the most? Why do we practice self hatred like that?
I don’t mean the games themselves, but the business practices and greed behind the studios.
Now I’m not naive, it’s always been about the money, but studios used to at least try to be consumer friendly in an attempt to make that revenue. Now studios are willing to fuck over the player base to fill up their own pockets. Either by limiting ways to purchase their games to maximize profits or giving you a half baked product at full retail price then charging you more for the finished product… I mean “DLC”.
Everything is business business business, “from a business perspective” this, “makes sense from a business perspective” that, I hate how corporate everything’s become. They don’t even pretend to care about the consumers anymore.
Now before an indie head comes at me I’m mainly talking about AAA. Though who’s to say when these indie studios get big enough they won’t follow the same patterns inevitably. It’s the consequences of an industry becoming too big. You even see it in music in certain genres. Notice how you hear artists with the same flow, beats, subject matters, damn near the same look, why be original when the basic cheeseburger sells? That’s why you see so many remakes in Hollywood.
We’re at a point of no return. Call me negative, this is the facts.
I feel like by a certain point you should have basic levels of dating experience under your belt. I’m 25 and barely have any. I’ve had a few dates that went nowhere here and there but nothing legit. I barely have much sexual experience.
I spent so much of my formative years being this weird socially inept kid, the rest of my youth was spent being overweight and not taking care of myself. Now I’m 25 and I feel like I’m totally fucked in the game now.
It’s hard hanging with friends hearing all their experiences in high school, college, early 20s and all you can do is nod your head. Like I really wasted my youth not developing myself better, now I gotta sit with the fact that I’ll never get that time back. I’ll never experience being young with somebody making mistakes together, by this point you should know wtf you’re doing.
I feel like even if I started now I’d be so behind off the rip. I can’t even front this is a depressing feeling, just knowing I did it to myself too.
Just turned 25 and I basically fucked off my early 20s. Spent most of it being out of shape, poor diet, alcoholism, being depressed and just feeling sorry for myself.
Got back in shape around 23/24 then gained all that weight back. Feel like I’m just behind in life and I’m now at the age where I should be more put together than I am now. Physically and mentally. That’s time I’ll never get back.
What’s your experience? Has it affected you socially, dating, etc?
I’ve got stories for days but I wanna hear y’all out.
Pessimism, fatalism, existential dread, replaying traumatic memories in my head over and over. My mind is tainted with this dark tint.
I assume the worst and oftentimes I’m right. Some will call it a self fulfilling prophecy, but none of these same people can answer why this logic only applies to negative thinking. When you assume the best and you’re wrong that’s just life, if you assumed wrong from the jump you somehow put that negativity out into the universe, hence creating that situation…
My view of life has been fucked up since I was a kid, but anyone’s would if they were robbed of a childhood. I can’t look at the few good things to happen in life in good faith without assuming it’s some cheap rug pull waiting for me to let my guard down. Again, oftentimes I’m right.
Wild how you can go from an active social life to staying home in your empty apartment on your off days because you have no one to spend them with.
You’d rather be alone at home than alone in public because at least you don’t have active reminders of various friend groups out and about having fun in your face.
Feel like Spider-Man in that new movie. Alone, no one to confide in, going through personal demons by yourself, ruminating the losses you’ve had along the way. It’s one thing to choose not to share your struggles with anyone, it’s another to have no one to share them with.
That’s life though, boohoo I guess.
Taking away all the superhero comic book elements from the film the day to day personal struggles he goes through really spoke to me in a general way.
As someone in their 20s, lives alone, dealt with tremendous loss along the way whether family or friends I once knew, having nobody to confide in, the mental health battles, the overall sense of being alone in this world, this movie felt like a cinematic mirror in a sense.
Coming from a traumatic upbringing I find myself gravitating to darker narratives and troubled characters, that’s why I love the punisher. Spiderman has always had a hint of relatability from a coming of age, going through basic struggles of adolescence kind of way.
This movie though is the first spiderman story that felt like a direct hit close to what I’ve actually experienced.
These “signs of interest” and all that other colorful shit. No one really knows til you know.
I’ve had people I could’ve swore up and down liked me because of the attention they gave me, body language, all that, just to find out they’re just friendly extroverted mfs.
On the flip I’ve had people I thought couldn’t stand me, hated me… turn out to like me on the low?
This whole body language and signals thing is bullshit at the end of the day. It’s no way to know til you make a move.
Specifically romantic ones. Every crush I’ve had left me feeling worse at the end of it.
Found myself starting to catch feelings with for one girl work with now. I thought she was cute from the jump but that’s as far as it went. Now I’m thinking about her more than I want to.
We barely talk which is the funny part. We’re cordial now and actually greet, call each other by name, smile etc now, before we barely even spoke. She’s a really sweet person from what I’ve seen.
Regardless I’m actively trying to bury whatever developing feelings I have while it’s early. Easier said than done though. The one and only thing I envy about sociopaths is their limited ability to feel or experience normal human emotions. Not a good overall way of life but a hell of a benefit in this sense.
Just saying the word crush makes me uncomfortable, like I’m still in school, but I can’t think of a better way to put it.
There’s this girl I work with, I thought she was cute from the jump but I wasn’t actively crushing on her like that. Recently though I’ve caught myself thinking about her more than I’d like. We don’t even talk like that at work but it’s at this current phase where we’re actually saying hi to each other, calling each other by name etc. She’s a really sweet person I’ll say that.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with liking someone in theory but it’s always been a negative experience for me. It’s like a new anxiety unlocked at work. On top of that she’s a coworker, I’m not naive to how fucked up shit like that can get. So I’m trying to push all these feelings aside, while it’s still in the early phases of developing.
Idk why I even wrote this shit tbh, just yapping my thoughts out.
I’m a few days shy of my 60 days with the company. My 30 day review came almost 2 weeks before the actual 30th day and it was positive. I assumed the 60 would probably be just as early.
Haven’t gotten one yet, is this a good or bad sign?