r/relocating

Apologies in advance for my super immature username. I made it when I was an immature younger person and cannot change it now. Anyways can someone help me brainstorm places in the US that might be better for me based on the below? I (25M) currently live in Denver CO - I originally moved here 2 years ago for a job but also conveniently looked in Denver given I do enjoy the outdoors (e.g, hiking, skiing, running, really anything outside). I’ve enjoyed Denver somewhat - runs at Wash Park, skiing the Front Range, hiking 14ers have all been enjoyable and definitely satisfy my inner granola. That being said, I recently transitioned jobs and got a remote gig, and am seriously considering leaving Denver. Here are my pros / cons (thanks in advance!):

Cons

1. No Hustle Culture: I’m career oriented and work in tech and finance. While I enjoy the outdoors, I am trying to make a really strong career out of what I do. While there are certainly others doing so, it just doesn’t have the same feel as where I previously lived (downtown Chicago) where you can relate to people about work, long hours, trying to elevate, etc. Most people I meet, including my friends, do not care that much about their jobs and have no intention to either. I would love to live somewhere with more of a career focused feel where most 20-something’s are also career minded so that I don’t feel alone. I’m also trying to start my own company on the side so I’ve definitely been feeling isolated because none of my friends really get it nor do they even understand the startup desire.
2. Boring / Lack of Culture: While there certainly are city amenities I enjoy such as fun cafes, great music venues, bars, clubs, etc., I do feel that it just lacks this feeling that’s kind of hard to pin - but maybe it’s culture? I am from the east coast, went to a boarding school for high school, and was lucky enough to travel to many different places while I was growing up. I feel that there’s not that many “worldly” (sorry if that sounds pretentious) people here - so it’s kind of hard to relate to people sometimes. I definitely crave somewhere that’s more of a melting pot with more urban, worldly, highly educated people that I can relate to more.
3. Dating: Dating scene is kinda rough as an ethnic man. Every time I go to NYC or Chicago to visit my friends, I get tons of matches on the apps from girls I’d genuinely be interested in meeting. In Denver it’s rare af. I just don’t have the same appeal. It’s also kinda rare maybe my dating app algorithm is just messed up though to find a career oriented girl who is also into the outdoors.
4. Weather: I know this might shock some, but I actually don’t like the weather here as much as most. I definitely appreciate the warm days in the winter and more sunshine than most places, but I hate how it barely ever rains in a nice all day sustained type of way, I hate the smoke and air quality issues, I hate the 2-week-long spells in the summer where it feels like a hair dryer when you walk out of your apartment. I miss east coast nourishing rain where my skin wouldn’t constantly peel. That being said I do have to say this past winter was pretty awesome despite the bad ski conditions. Also I know I can’t have everything so please don’t flame me in the comments. I also hate how dry it is and would love to be near an ocean. I love living near water

Pros:

1. Outdoors: I do love how I can scratch my outdoors itch so easily by living here. Whether it’s small by going to Wash or Cheesman, or something as big as camping in the San Juan’s for the weekend, I can do it all which I love. I love skiing, hiking, and running and bouldering (even though I seldom do it outside). I also like how easy it is to find friends who like the same stuff. It’s way harder to find these types of friends in Chicago, for example. That being said, I definitely need to live somewhere that has at least some access to areas that align with my outdoor interests, but like I said earlier, career matters for me the most so I wouldn’t move somewhere that has no career opportunities in tech/finance.
2. Lifestyle (Kinda): So I did live in NYC at one point and while it’s teeming with culture, diversity, uniqueness, people similar to me, it’s also super over stimulating, which I did not like. Denver is much better pace wise in that I feel like I can breathe, but I almost feel under stimulated going back to my hustle culture and boring point. So I’m trying to find a good blend or both? That being said I have some friends who live in Brooklyn in NYC and that neighborhood vibe seems like I reasonable pace vs Manhattan which is where I lived when I lived in NYC. But idk, I don’t know if Brooklyn really meets my other criteria especially with outdoors access. It’s also stupid expensive but my job pays decently well so I could figure it out

Overall, it’s kinda hard to figure out where to move as someone who is career focused in tech/finance who craves a more urban diverse place with people who understand my background a bit more but also with decent outdoors access, and a pace that is fast but not crazy. Hopefully that makes sense, would love people’s thoughts!! Thank you.

Interesting demographic but I 59M with wife 37F and a son 3M are looking to retire. Currently in the Midwest. I must get away from winter but everywhere I look it's brutally hot in the summer We have already visited specifically looking for retirement options Orlando, Phoenix, Las Vegas, DFW, Austin, Houston. We are going to Vancouver WA and Lacey WA next (Lacey becomes more obvious in the next two paragraphs) and then Atlanta, Charleston SC and Jacksonville FL later this year.

Specific requirements that make decisions difficult. We need to be within 20 minutes of good Asian grocery stores and within 30 minutes of a good Vietnamese grocery store. So, that probably rules out 87% of the US. Maybe more.

Bonus points for an airport that flies to Vietnam in two flights but that really limits us to Seattle, Phoenix, some CA cities, Dallas, Houston, Atlanta unless I missed one. I said "some CA cities" because CA is out as a retirement destination. Sacramento was considered briefly, but not really an option.

Then we need to consider good schools for our kiddo.

Am I missing anywhere not listed above?

Me and my husband (23F, 25M) are looking to move out of Iowa, and we’re talking small town Iowa (less than 1500 people) i made decent money managing a small steakhouse and he’s currently in construction sales, we have incredibly cheap cost of living which is what has tied us down here for so long, i have lived within a 30 minute radius my whole life and we’re itching to move somewhere better. We’re looking for a midsized city, near Arizona since we have family there, im also hoping to get into a more serious sommelier role. Where is somewhere along the west side of the US that has a great food scene, not just restaurants but also produce and protein, and still experiences most seasons? It feels like we’re asking a lot but we are so overwhelmed every time we look.

Sorry if this is a stupid question, but I 24F have always dreamed of living somewhere remote or moving to another country/island/territory with amazing nature and a slower pace of living. I’ve spent a lot of my life just experiencing a lot of trauma, I’ve done well for myself as an adult but I am tired of being in big cities where I just feel constantly perceived and unsafe. I also just don’t want to go back to a small rust belt town where I can’t leave my house without a car or see the sun for months at a time.

Every time I do research or ask questions about a place I want to move to, I feel like I am met with a lot of pushback by locals to “stay where I’m from” (I’m not “from” anywhere, my town of origin is actually overdeveloped and drove me out). Equally, when I do research on social media posts about relocating (really anywhere I feel like at this point), the comments are filled with reasons as to why it would be unethical and selfish to move to said place. Literally, it could be anywhere from Tennessee to Scotland to Australia to Hawaii. Even places like in SoCal I have found are very unwelcoming to transplants.

I understand this and always ensure I assimilate to wherever I am moving or traveling to, but I feel like nobody wants anyone to move/visit anywhere! I also understand certain places (Hawaii vs rural Nebraska) have different reasons for not wanting people who aren’t from there to relocate, each location has different historical context and limitations on resources.

Is there any location that sounds like my initial description that wouldn’t be unethical to relocate to? I just want a change but don’t want to do it if I’m going to destroy the ecosystem or anger locals.

I hope this doesn’t come across as bitter, if anything I’m extremely anxious and have ocd about the environment and harming other people.

Hey everyone! My husband and I are looking to move to SD in 2028. We both work remote and can transfer there.
There is a few things we're looking to get a feel for as this would be our first time moving out of state.
Combined we make 164k yearly. We are looking for advice on a few things:

-Area to live based off of lifestyle and affordability. We're both big on outdoorsy stuff, creative/music oriented and big foodies in our mid 20s.

-Is 164k a good amount to live comfortably?

-Pros and Cons of San Diego/California as a whole?

Any direction helps a ton! Thank you in advance!

Hi, my family is from western NY, considering moving to the area. I’m worried about making friends though, I generally don’t have a hard time but are people pretty friendly to northern transplants there? I’m a nurse and my husband is in contracting, we have 4 kids ages 0-6.

Looking for advice and input from anyone.
I have lived in Indiana all my life. It’s affordable is about the only good thing about it. Me and my wife dont want to waste the rest of our lives here. Education sucks, waterways suck, infrastructure is terrible, etc.

I’m mainly looking for a place to raise my family. We have some money raised up to buy us a decent home (700k) we are looking for a suburban/rural life with a decent sized backyard. We love gardening, and outdoor activities. But would still need proximity to at-least a small sized city for shopping/jobs. We prefer a warmer climate, dont like the cold winters here in Indiana.

So far we are looking at places like Raleigh NC, Salem OR, Medford OR, Durham NC.

From our perspective it seems like:

Oregon is less humid, better nature/views, closer to Coast, cleaner waterways, more mild weathers. But they come at the cost of increased COL, worse homes at our budget, possibility of having to be compromise being farther away from large cities.

Whereas NC: we could get a much nicer home, and is much more affordable.but it’s more humid and has a far right government that is anti-workers.

Any input, advice, or recommendations? We are also open to other states/cities!

I’m trying to move out of Texas. Want a place where I can have access to walking and public transportation (bus, subway, train, etc.) Any places you recommend?

I feel like I am MEANT to be in Chicago. I LOVE that city more than any other place I've been. I am scared to make the move though. Any tips or anything to share- I'm interested to hear!

Im moving out of state to be closer to my mom. She hasn't been well the past couple years. Im recently single, have nothing really here for me. So I figured its now or never.

My career is in dentistry, I need all new licenses to work. So I enrolled back in school after 18 years. Passed the first two. Am flying back at end of the month for another exam. I havent told anyone about this yet except my mom.

Have a storage container rented for my things, But I have to drive myself and my 3 cats 1200 miles. Ive been applying for jobs. Have had one call back so far. I will get a job. Its just idk when. I cant buy a house without a job and I really cant afford to move again after this. I just moved last year and bought a whole house of furniture. If I dont find something im gonna stay with my mom for a bit. Ughhhh I dont want to do that either. Im stressing . Ive got my down payment saved and a few months expenses. Pretty sure no one is going to give me a mortgage tho without a new job there yet. 😟

I'm 27 years old and I've been thinking about moving from California to Houston, Texas. California has become so expensive that even a studio apartment is around $2,000 a month where I live.

My older sister lives in Houston, so I'd have family there. I'm honestly tired of seeing the same places and living the same routine every day. I want to experience something new, start fresh, and I feel like there might be more opportunities for me in Houston.

At the same time, I'm scared. I've lived in California my whole life, so leaving everything I've ever known is a huge decision. Part of me worries about whether I'd regret it or if I'd be making the right choice.

If you were in my position, would you make the move? Has anyone here moved from California to Houston? Was it worth it, and what advice would you give before making a decision?

Single 29F. From NJ… been here living with parents forever.

I have only been a nurse for a year and need nursing jobs in procedural areas like operating room, endoscopy, same day surgery, etc

Love nature, quiet, meditation, yoga, volunteering, helping kids.

Any thoughts or suggestions about where? I’m overwhelmed. I thought of just applying to jobs and seeing where that lands me but idk if that’s a good idea.

Hi everyone!

I've been researching the Capital Region for months and have read countless Reddit threads, but I'd love some current opinions from people who actually live there.

I'm planning a move from Greenville, South Carolina, and the Albany area keeps coming up as somewhere that seems like it would fit what I'm looking for.

A little about me:

Single parent with one child.

I currently work remotely in business sales for Spectrum (Charter Communications). If I relocate, I'd likely be looking at local opportunities or transferring within the company, so I'd also love to hear what the job market is like and whether Spectrum is considered a good employer in the area.

Safety and good public schools are important.

I love bookstores, coffee shops, local restaurants, farmers markets, hiking, and being close to nature.

Winters don't scare me—I actually look forward to having four real seasons. I'm from Asheville, NC and SC is too hot.

One of the reasons I'm considering this area is that it would put us much closer to Boston Children's Hospital. Where my child's doctors are located and we have been traveling up there for over a decade multiple times a year.

I've been looking at places like Ballston Spa, Saratoga Springs, Clifton Park, Bethlehem/Delmar, Guilderland, Niskayuna, East Greenbush, and a few others. But as you all know, NY and SC are far apart with the cost of living piece.

I'd really love your honest opinions:

If you were starting over today, where would you choose to live in the area?

Which towns have surprised you in a good way?

Which places are overrated?

Are there any areas you would absolutely avoid?

Is there anywhere people don't usually recommend that deserves more attention?

What's something you wish you had known before moving to the Capital Region?

How's the job market, especially for someone with a background in business sales or telecommunications?

If you work for Spectrum (or have in the past), what's your experience been like?

I'm not looking for people to sell me on the area—I genuinely want the good, the bad, and the things only locals know. I appreciate any advice. Thanks!

Heyy, so this is my first ever post so bare with me lol

My husband and I are doing some research into new states/city’s to move to. We are originally from Minnesota and honestly we’re over it, we’ve lived all over this state and now we want new. We both thought we wanted Texas but after some digging we decided against it. So I guess my question is, which state/city do you recommend? I’m open to all input!

Here’s our preferences
Realistically not over priced land or houses (we expect to pay a good amount of money but people in MN have been charging ridiculously)

Good school districts (we have 3 kids)

I’m not sure how to put this into words but we want a neighborly feel, as I’m a person that likes to do acts of service for the people around me and I’d like to extend that to my neighbors as well!

Thank you in advance!!

Considering moving to Tennessee in the next year or two, and I’m looking for some local insight. Any cities come to mind when you read any of this? Any feedback would be so helpful!

\-medium-ish sized city? Suburbs are totally okay, I just want to be like 15-20 minutes from decent grocery stores/food options.
\-lgbt friendly (as possible)
\-liberal (as possible)
\- not too incredibly expensive? Looking to buy a 4/2 home potentially.
\-would like to stay on the east side of TN if possible
\+plus if it’s scenic but not required

I am 27 and reaching a breaking point, so I am planning to leave my rural town with nothing but $2,000 to my name and no concrete plan. I have spent the better part of my 20s chasing a music career that didn't pan out, but I am done with that chapter. My current reality is one of total isolation; there is no social scene, no dating pool, and I feel like I am stagnating in a place that is completely misaligned with who I am. I need to move to preserve my mental health, but I know jumping into a new city with only $2,000 is high-risk and requires a real strategy.

I know some might say I have no industry or professional skills, but that is not entirely true. I have a solid background in night auditing, which is a dependable role in the hospitality sector, and I have experience in digital design. I am ready to work whatever job I can find to survive, and I am looking to pivot into a place that actually has a social pulse. My biggest concerns are housing and immediate survival. Since I will not have a job or credit history in a new city, I have no idea how to secure a place to live, or if I should be looking into extended stay rooms, hostels, or something else entirely.

I am looking for brutally honest advice on how to stretch my limited budget while hunting for a job. If you have any experience with doing a hard reset in your late 20s, I would love to hear how you pulled it off. Please let me know what cities or types of environments I should be targeting where a person like me could realistically find a stop gap job within a week of arriving, and how I should approach this move so I do not end up in a worse position. I am not looking for sugar coated encouragement; I am looking for a real, actionable strategy.

I currently live in Texas and I dont really like living here. I wanna move to a state that is cheap and has a cool enviroment. I really like louisiana because Ive been there alot and I like the food and the vibe of it. I was wanting to move to lafayette. Is lafayette a good place to live?

I’m going to try this again, I got some incredibly helpful insight as I was thinking of moving to Tennessee but now I’m thinking maybeeeee not. This is what I’m looking for/thinking about. I work remote and I can really go anywhere.

-I’d like to be not too incredibly far driving wise from Florida and Tennessee if possible.
-medium-ish sized city? Suburbs are totally okay, I just want to be like 15-20 minutes from decent grocery stores/food options.
-lgbt friendly (as possible)
-liberal (as possible)
- not too incredibly expensive? Looking to buy a 4/2 home potentially.
+plus if it’s scenic/mountains but not required

I was born and raised in Iowa, lived in Wisconsin for a couple of years between La Crosse, Madison, and Milwaukee. Moved back to Iowa due to personal reasons but I don’t think I can stay here. I do love the area I’m in but I hate being land locked and far away from any kind of airport/concert hub. I travel at least twice a year and hate driving 4 hours for a decent flight price.

I like the community feel and events and greenery. I hated Milwaukee because of the lake of greenery and how crowded it felt. I liked Madison okay but didn’t want to stay forever. I liked La Crosse a lot but it reminds me too much of my home town on the river. I like the size of a college town/midwest mid sized city.

I’ve always contemplated the northeast but I think I may miss the midwest too much. I like 4 seasons and the rain. I don’t think the south would work for me and I think I would feel too isolated on the west coast. Right now my strongest contender is St Paul, MN area, maybe Rochester. I am progressive and queer. I’m also a social worker if that makes any difference. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks in advance.