Trying to leave Midwest without making a huge mistake
Hi all,
I’m in a pretty fortunate position overall — stable remote job in the travel industry, decent income, and a lot of flexibility. But I’ve been living in Fargo, ND for a while now and I’m getting really antsy for a change of scenery and pace of life.
One of my biggest priorities is being closer to a major airport since I love traveling, and I’m also realizing I’m very, very over long brutal winters. I can tell it affects my mood more than I want to admit…
The Twin Cities have been high on my list because it’d be practical: affordable(ish), good summers, familiar environment, and closer to my existing network. But I’m hesitant as the whole point was to escape the cold.
Oregon also really appeals to me aesthetically and lifestyle-wise, but the cost of living makes me uneasy, and I’m unsure how I’d handle the gray/dreary winters long term since I already deal with seasonal depression. I’ve visited Seattle at 17 years old and didn’t especially feel a connection if that helps.
Lately I keep coming back to North Carolina — especially Durham. The idea of milder winters, more sunshine, access to both mountains and beaches sounds appealing. I’ve lived in humid climates before so humidity itself doesn’t scare me. On paper, it sounds perfect and the laid back feel I prefer with access to nature.
I’m in my early 30s, single, remote worker, making just under $70k, and trying to figure out where I could realistically build a happy life.
So I guess my question is:
Does North Carolina — Durham specifically — feel like a good place to “start fresh” in your 30s as a remote worker? Or would I be giving up a lot by leaving the Midwest.
I’m planning to visit both Oregon and NC before making any decisions, but I’d really love to hear honest experiences from people who’ve made similar moves.
Trying to make this feel exciting instead of overwhelming 😅