Specifically targeted to the men who prefer getting to know someone better platonically before deciding whether or not you’re interested romantically- how do you go about this without risking a new friendship you made?
Thinking of buying “She Comes First” for my husband. I want to know if other men found books like this helpful in perfecting their technique, or if you guys would recommend another book?
EDIT: buying changed from gifting because people were thinking I was talking about like a birthday present. I just meant buying it for him.
Asking because my older brother’s jokes are super funny but some are also straight up questionable LMAO.
He sent a video of him grabbing my nephew's head to fart on it or he would chase his older kid around the house in nothing but his "pride" underwear ( my step nephew 19M bough him really tight pride underwear for him as a father's day gag joke and he made it his mission to make him regret ever buying it ).
I need to know if this is a male thing or if my brother has some "screws loose" type of humour ? 😭
I’ve always heard people saying men are visual, and yes, most of the time I hear a man saying something GOOD about a girl, is her looks, usually is not about personality or intelligence.
And what the ugly/non conventionally attractive can do to get a good partner (besides sex)?
Things like your drive or kindnes. This is a safe place to be a bit selfish.
We all know how little men get complimented and whether you’ll admit it or not, it does a number on the mental health of millions of us with how infrequent it is to have someone say something nice about you, and I want to start vocally admiring traits from the men around me but I dont know where to start or what to look out for, so tell me fellas.
What aspects of your life/personality/hobbies/whatever do you wish people vocally complimented you on or openly admired you more for?
I am 34m and I moved sideways to a new team at work about 4 months ago and one of my coworkers seems to absolutely hate me. The coworker is called J and is late 40s, married with kids. I barely have to interact with J but she does sit near me and she seems to listen to my conversations with another coworker who is also a woman but in their 20s. J will interrupt and commandeer the conversation while ignoring me. There have also been times when I am walking back to my desk and she ends up behind me and I turn around to find her super close behind me like tailgating me in real life with a weird grin. Its strange and just all around bad vibes. I think I must have done something to annoy her, I am one pay grade below her and there were a couple of times I answered questions she was trying to answer but seemed unsure of the actual answer so that could be it. I was wondering if anyone has advice in determining whether a woman hates you personally or whether she has issues with men in general? Are there some dead giveaways? I am progressive and most of my friends are women so please no comments about all women hating men etc.
With all of these out-there questions being asked, I'd like us to take a moment and be a little boastful: what's a recent win in your life? It can be small, familial, or maybe a promotion at work.
For me? I was told by a family friend that at a party that their kid looks up to me. I was really taken back by this but some of the other parents agreed, and they did it to my face. I'm still beaming about it, and it's been 2 weeks since that happened.
I'd like to hear y'all's recent wins, let's talk about you!
My boyfriend and I were on the topic of sex last night and I basically asked him why he’s so hesitant to be rough with me? And he said he’s afraid he’ll hurt me but would do it and other certain acts he finds “disgusting” with a “one night stand” or someone he wouldn’t cross paths with again. He’s not the only man I’ve heard this sentiment from actually, I’ve come across a lot of men who think that way, why is this?
I know a lot of women (me included) can find it really attractive when you are both bilingual/multilingual and you hear a man speak his native language after talking in another “shared” language.
So I started wondering if guys experience this as well or if it’s more of a girls’ thing?
In your opinion, is there a specific language that instantly “earns bonus points”? Or have you ever found a partner suddenly “more attractive” when they switched to their language?
I want to have a hug with a girl but it never happened. As I always see other comfort level. Although I never asked too but I want hug sometimes so how to ask women? Please give tips
Since last august I've lost about 40 pounds (went from 235 to 195) at 6'2'' I had just kind of casually "bulking" for years training strength and realized I had kind of gotten out of control so I made some changes to my eating and saw some really good success.
I've still got a little bit of a belly and have petered out on weight loss at what I think of as being a maintainable lifestyle (eating good but tasty meals, occasionally having something sweet and hyper palatable) and I don't really have a desire to change my lifestyle MORE than I have but I'm also not really shedding this and I'd like to get down another 10-15 so I can get shredded enough (temporarily) to lose the adipose tissue and improve my overall hormone signaling and body comp.
I don't want to be shredded for the long term mind you, I would probably want to come back up in my weight and re-feed a little bit, but I want to get rid of the extraneous belly fat and get to a more healthy overall composition, and shedding this will take a lot of dedicated eating to get my body to signal to my reciptors that they can free up these fat cells (or I can just trick them with a GLP-1 and they'll burn much more normally).
I'm thinking of asking my doctor about going on GLP-1s for a quarter or something to get me over that hump, just wondering what people's experiences are using these drugs.
Like it’s keeping us divided, to a degree that it almost feels as if we don’t share the same gender or sex because of the topic, challenges or struggles.
For example. Dating. Some men in extreme cases have never had a GF or sex in their entire life. Yet some men would say it was easy for them so it should be easy for you, others would say just go therapy, others would assume they just hate women, while another group would say it’s just about confidence. So many different explanations without any understanding of ‘lived’ experience.
Another example would be the topic of Masculinity. Some men would say go gym, have a strict schedule, put women and kids first and completely bottle up and ignore your feelings. Others would say it’s about embracing your feminine emotions, that it’s okay to have whatever body you want, it should be acceptable to have non masculine hobbies and interests. While another group would say it’s all about money, finance, and building an empire. Is it all of these. Is it some of these. It is none of these? Yet most men would butt heads on what the ideology of it REALLY is.
My point overall is that in the 21st a lot of the burdens, responsibilities and obligations the previous generation of men before us is something we don’t share as much anymore. Women are capable of providing for themselves. Kids don’t need an in person male figure in their lives to teach them things, and men, 50-100 years ago are completely different to what we are now. Leaving us men of this generation trying to figure ourselves out and where we belong in this new age of society.
This is more of a philosophical discussion. I hope it doesn’t devolve into chaos 😅
I know I’m not the only one this has happened to! Guys, what lines have worked for you as a response to that?
I'm 25M, 5'8, 120 lbs. I've never managed to find clothes that make me look good. I'm going shopping this weekend to completely change my wardrobe and I'm looking for advice.
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Like I know there are lovely women who work in HR but why does HR also attract some really horrible women to the job?
Just wondered on your thoughts and whether you have any answers ?
Hi, this might seem obvious to some people, so please be kind if you think it’s a dumb question.
I’ve seen a lot of guys remark that they don’t want a “pillow princess”…I’m afraid this might be me but not for the reasons implied by the name. I’ve only been in a relationship with one person (in our 30s, late bloomer here) and he shamed me for trying things and doing things “wrong”. An example would be him wanting to do doggy and he said I turned around weird. I’m not dumb and I know there’s no wrong way to turn around, but it made me second guess everything. It made me anxious to try anything so I ended up most of the time just laying there. Clearly we are not together for a multitude of reasons, but thinking of sex with someone else makes me feel anxious that I won’t do enough and be labeled lazy when really it’s because I’m scared of doing something wrong or being laughed at.
So what does it mean to you when a girl “participates”? What are some things that are viewed as attractive or appreciated? I know everyone is different and communication is the key, but was wondering if there were any generalizations that could be made to give me an idea. I don’t plan on taking notes and performing, but am curious just the same.