r/AskMen

I know in my head that men want women to make noise and moan during sex. I know that, I've seen the comments about how hot it is and how you guys want a enthusiastic participant. But i just feel like i can't get past my shyness, timidness, or just.... feeling of embarrassment? It's frustrating because there seems to be a disconnect between what I know and how i feel. And I don't know how to fix it. Maybe some response here will finally let it click in my brain.

Let’s say this friend is getting old and is panicking because “time is almost up to find someone” and he currently starving himself to lose weight fast to get the body women want and is also playing with pill combinations on the side while starving himself. What would you say to this friend?

So I’m not the most attractive, I have a big nose and I’d say I’m below average face wise. But I’ve built myself a solid frame, I’m sub 15% body fat at 6ft, 175 pounds. Still, no matter how much I work out, when I walk through the streets and see women I find attractive, even in a normal conversation they look at me like I’m just not good enough for anyone. Whenever people talk to my friends, they always ask about them, I’m the one who gets overlooked or slowly pushed out. In 18 years of life, I have yet to talk to a single girl for longer than a 30 second conversation. I really don’t know what to do. People are nice to me at a glance but the more I try to approach or just even try to be friends they start feeling weirded out like I am not someone they would want to even be seen having a conversation with. I am starting college in a few days and would appreciate any help

Hearken unto me, men.
I come before thee seeking counsel not for an injury already suffered, but that I might fortify mine knees against the merciless advance of time.

Already do these accursed joints creak and crack whenever I squat, rise, bend, or otherwise dare make use of the legs bestowed upon me. There is little pain, yet their infernal chorus troubles me.

More gravely, my father suffered greatly from the ruin of the cartilage within his knees, until at last the surgeons were forced to cast aside the failing joint and grant him one forged by the hands of man.
I REFUSE THIS FATE.

Therefore, brothers, I seek to forge knees worthy of Sparta itself.

What exercises strengthen the knees and the muscles and tendons that defend them? What stretches preserve their mobility? What foods nourish them? What manner of cardio strengthens rather than destroys them? Are there supplements worthy of coin, or are they merely the potions of silver-tongued merchants?

And what habits must a man cast into the abyss if he wishes still to squat, run, climb and rise from the privy without sounding like a siege engine at sixty?

Speak, veterans.
Tell me what ye wish ye had begun in thy youth.
I seek not merely to heal mine knees.
I SEEK TO BULLETPROOF THEM.

TONIGHT, WE DINE IN HELL BUT BY ZEUS, WE SHALL SQUAT THERE PAIN-FREE!

Social media makes it seem like everyone has life figured out. What does yours actually look like? What’s going well? What are you quietly struggling with? Anything you thought you’d have figured out by now but don’t? Just curious what real life looks like in 2026, for men over 40 and without the highlight reel.

Want to keep things vague but I've worked in numerous environments, some mostly men dominated and others female dominated. In my experience, I really prefer an even split if possible as one gender being predominant usually causes issues.

From my experience, a mostly women environment tends to be a cliquish, "mean girl" type of environment where if you're not part of the group, you get ostracized and feel left out.

At times, I can be socially awkward around majority women (for whatever reason) but usually when its an older group I do better.

For those who were successful, how did you navigate it?

For those who have had to make big decisions in their life, how do you stop yourself from second guessing to make sure that you make the right decision for yourself? I have so much analysis paralysis and I have such a hard time deciding on major life things (job changes, dating, etc). I am constantly second guessing myself. Does it get better with age, or just experience?

Early 20s, working in the tech industry. due to a series of circumstances I've got almost 4 months straight of paid vacation (long story). I've already set aside 2 weeks to just chill with family and friends, but I don't want to waste all of it. I don't think I'll get this much free time ever again.

I'm planning on working out consistently and I'm looking for ideas on how to spend the remaining time maybe productively. I've got enough income to make anything reasonable happen (can't travel for too long tho). help me out y'all

37M, and increasingly I've learned that people feel very comfortable ghosting. I'm not talking about people you met a few months ago and maybe just didn't vibe with, but people I've known since HS, or over a decade. One was a groomsman at my wedding. Maybe I've said or done something that upset them, however I'm emotionally secure enough to have a difficult yet respectful conversation if I ever needed end a relationship, which I have in the past.

I've seen post like this in AskWomen subs, but not for guys. Maybe we are just supposed to be better about "letting it go". I'm grateful that I do have 4-6 very close friends, though a few are not local anymore.

Have you guys been ghosted, did you know why, and how did you react when you ran into them again, or did you confront them about that behavior and why they couldn't just have a mature conversation?

It just seems like a super selfish thing to do, and more so it seems like people like to project they don't "need" friends and just fly solo.

As we get older we all learn things and discover things that weren't taught to us by our Fathers or due to lack of a father, what do you know now that you want to pass onto younger generation of men.

Not asking because marriage is bad or because single life is better.

I’m curious about the smaller things people don’t really talk about — having complete control over your time, spending money without discussing it, spontaneous plans, living alone, dating, or simply having more personal space.

For men who are happily married, is there anything from your single life that you still miss?

And did you expect to miss it before getting married?

Hey folk,

For the last 3 or so years I’ve been struggling a lot with loneliness. Usually I’m a very outgoing and sociable person, I’m usually the type of guy to go up and talk to strangers and have no fear about it.

I don’t struggle from social awkwardness or anxiety but I find myself lacking close friends or relationships. I have a lot of buddies or acquaintances that I’ll hang out with once in a while. But I don’t have anyone closer than that, I suspect a few things can be the culprit.

1)My work schedule due to working in the evenings, I miss out on a lot of social interactions and events. (The current shift provides me more financial stability than day shift)

2)Distrust in others, I’ve been around a lot of people and environments where back biting, gossiping and talking about things that were said in private being aired out. Seeing those things in personal and professional environments made me keep people at arms length.

3)I cut out my old high school friend group due to their drug use, but they were my main source of friends so now I’m lonely.

4)I feel like I don’t click with people in my city but that could just be a me thing as well

Lastly I have tried different things where I signed up to martial arts/boxing gyms, volunteered, struck up conversations with folks at my local gym as well as attended faith events but I feel like it hasn’t gone anywhere.

For the most part I have come to terms with the loneliness and tried to bury myself with work, school or getting additional credentials in my field. Which has paid off I bought a house at 24 and I genuinely feel ahead of my peers and even most people in their 30-40s but I feel alone nonetheless.

I would like your thoughts, opinions and suggestions.

Thank you,

mine was a smartphone, i wanted a certain device and the seller (i admit) kinda manipulated me into buying another (worse) device, and under pressure i bought it, he kinda made me feel like "it's pretty dangerous if i walk out of here empty handed" so yea that was me, it happens i guess.

My biggest regret is the HP 29c calculator. I don't even remember if I lost it or gave it to someone. I still have and use my HP 15c calculator.

https://www.hpmuseum.org/hp29.htm

Another one I don't remember what happened to it is the Casio watch that showed the planets and Halley's comet.

https://www.reddit.com/r/casiovintage/comments/1dkxxxa/cosmo_phase_comet_halley/

There's a pattern here; I also don't remember what I did with my Canon F1 camera. I do remember loaning my lenses to my brother.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Canon_F-1

29F here. I recently got off birth control but my husband and I are not ready to have kids yet, so we are using condoms

We didn’t use them for years since I had an IUD, and my husband would always say how much condoms sucked, and I agreed.

We did get extra thin ones, but I am surprised at how much I don’t notice the condom.

So that got me thinking. What are other men’s perspectives? Obviously raw sex will always feel better, but what is condom sex really actually like for you?