r/AskMen

Getting to my mid 30s, and this has been setting in for me more and more with each passing year.

Single, no kids, no romantic partner. My life is mainly just work and home. That's it.

And it feels so goddamn pointless. Why am I working and for what? Maybe it's an existential crisis I don't know, but I'm trying to determine the best path forward.

Maybe early retirement? Just feels like there needs to be some greater purpose otherwise all of my energy fades away. Just not sure what to do.

Plz halp

Found a Donna Karen suit at a thrift store. $40 for the suit and $30 for the alterations to make it fit.

As women, we talk a lot about the fkd up things we’ve experienced, but I feel like I rarely hear men openly talk about the darkest, most difficult things they’ve personally been through.

So, men of Reddit, what’s one of the most fkd up things that has ever happened to you?

I could ask on the equestrians subreddit but I’m concerned about it being too inappropriate-
So I ride horses and as a woman I’m a little embarrassed to admit I’ve always wondered how men handle their balls when riding. Especially in a western saddle, wouldn’t they be in significant danger of being crushed between your body and the saddle? What about jumping when you’re in the two point position? Riding in upper levels in general require a lot of moving around in different positions, with an extra appendage on your front would it not get uncomfortable?
I apologize in advance for this question- this has been question I’ve had for years and never had the courage to ask

Friends, family, everyone, I feel like I am everyone's last priority. Not that they don't like/love me, just I am at the bottom of their priority list.Other family members and friends always come first.

If we make plans, they will cancel at the slightest resistance. If they are hosting something, I'm the last to be invited, if I am invited at all. If we are talking, they will start ignoring me if someone else starts speaking.

It doesn't matter who, if I try to make new friends, it's always the same story, either because I'm their newest friend or just a total lack of charisma.

Anyone else going through this, and how do you cope?

And to all the people who say just be your own top priority, that is lonely as fuck. I've been doing it for years, and I'm tired boss.

I’ve gotten hit on like 2 times max back in high-school. Now that I am in uni and it’s a huge one i’ve never ever gotten hit on or outside of a school
environment . Am i just ugly?

30 M here. I always wanted to have that married life, being the cool and fun parents that any children deserve. I used to build scenarios and good thinking around it. And obviously I did factor in the ups and downs, but I kinda wanted that.

The journey to find a gf has been quite exhausting. IRL and online haven't helped a bit. I've been told by my friends (both men and women) that I'm fun to be around and hold up good conversations. But nothing has worked out for me. I'm not sure whether it has something to do with my height or race(I'm an immigrant), or looks now. But anyways, the exhaustion had slowly kicked in and I'm at a point where I don't want that anymore. I found comfort spending time and energy alone and all to myself. Plus all those cheater stories, dead bedroom stories ( I'm a HL guy) kinda helps with the reasoning of not wanting a marriage.

I want to know whether this is common or not?

I am 36yo, and for the first time in my life got hit in the balls by a basketball. The feeling was crazy! Like a weird ache in my stomach for a while, maybe 20 minutes after getting hit?

Can't imagine if I got hit harder, or if someone kicked me there..

Has anyone survived longer than me without getting hit there?

I’m asking here because I have been together with my lovely girlfriend now for 4 years, and I get that this maybe ruins the surprise to some but we’ve been discussing getting married and a proposal because we like talking about these things together. And then she told me she would really like if she was the one to propose to me. So how would ya’ll feel about it? I really didn’t expect it and I’m unsure of what to say because it really came as a surprise, so what would you think if you had been in the same position where your girlfriend was the one who wanted to propose?

I, a straight man, work in a large office. There is another guy in a different department than me, but we usually cross paths in the hallway or lunch room. Every day, he would comment on my suit and say how much he likes it and calls me his "buddy" or "friend". I usually just say a quick thanks and continue on. It's been ongoing for a month or so, and it doesn't bother me much but I don't want him to like think he has a chance or something. Would you just keep rolling along with it or would you lay it out to him that there's nothing here for him? Am I overthinking or overreacting?

Update: I have overreacted and overthunk this by a mile it seems

Let's say you're in a relationship with a lovely lady. You have sex with her, whatever amount of time per week/month that you do.

Do you ever feel like:

Yeah! I've had enough sex. I don't need or want more.

Edit: 46M I'm trying to figure out if I'm weird. I can be with her, finish, and most of the time, I still want to ravish her again. Then the next morning and so on. I think I might have an addiction, perhaps a compulsive behavior.

Do you miss it?

I'm curious about things that would turn you off of someone who you might otherwise be interested in if it weren't for this "try hard trait" (physical or mental)

Let's hear about the less obvious ones too

We've all heard about how some movies or TV shows where the male protagonist is weirdly pushy, obsessive, or straight up dogmatic where it crosses into the realm of creepy, what movies do you think are good instances of the male protagonist doing the right thing for the right reasons to pursue? Are there any such examples?