r/bodylanguage

So I went to a nightclub last night. While dancing, I noticed a chick. Initially I got the vibe I caught her eye but nothing serious. I kinda write that off cuz there was like 300 people in super close proximity dancing. I figured she was dancing with someone else anyways. Towards the end of the day, I was at the bar. This was minutes before they closed btw. I was resting and leaning against the bar counter with my back towards the register which sat atop the counter right behind me. I’m tired of dancing by myself all night. This chick just comes and stands like close next to me, like 2 feet away in what seemed like she had more space to stand away. I looked at her various times trying to gauge a reaction and she would be looking away not once looking at me. I wanted to see if she was trying to be close proximity in hopes I would start a convo but she was looking away from me. I figured she was just there resting or waiting for someone. Whatever.

Then something really weird happens. While I’m chilling there to the music, kind of taking a break from all the dancing as my feet are killing me at this point, I feel her hand touch my arm up a bit. I thought it was an accident cuz I looked back and saw it, then looked at her but she was like avoiding eye contact. And her arm was stretched too. Remember, my back is towards the counter and her hand touched my arm leaning against said counter. Super weird but I figured it was accidental. Again, she could just be drunk? Who knows, and besides, she’s actively not looking at me. Must be ugly or something lol. Then I just continue looking at the crowd and kinda vibing to the music when I feel her arm touch my back shoulder! I’m like wtf cuz she now has her right arm extended resting on top of the register that’s behind me while she’s next to me. It was a weird unnatural position. Remember, she’s to my left and we are both facing away into the crowd. And her arm is just extended to rest on top of the register box and nudged my back. I looked at her looking for a signal and she was just serious.And she’s very very strongly AVOIDING eye contact as in she’s looking at the crowd as if looking for someone, which I guess she finds cuz she then walks away with some random group walking towards the exit.

Highly doubt she liked me, so what is this? A spectrum thing? I really never dealt with a chick who avoided even a quick gaze while being right next to me.

Growing up, I was the big, heavy kid. Head shaped like an oval potato, severe skin tans, stubborn hyperpigmentation, and relentless acne. Back then, I didn’t care all that much. I just lived with it.

By the time I hit 19, I was diagnosed with serious hepatic diseases, including liver cirrhosis. It was bad, a genuine rock-bottom wake-up call that forced me to look at my life and realize I was actively steering toward a dead end. So, I changed everything.

I hit the gym, dialed in my nutrition, and dropped from 120 kg to 88 kg in just 5 months. I started taking care of myself, building a real skincare routine, fixing my hair, putting actual effort into how I presented to the world.

In the beginning, when I first started lifting, I’d look around the gym at guys who were effortlessly aesthetic and attractive as hell, instagram models type, feeling a heavy wave of insecurity. I remember thinking, Why couldn't God have made me look like that?

Fast forward to now, those exact same guys are the ones staring at me, looking a little insecure themselves. Crazy.

I realized how full of shit the world is when people repeat the comforting lie that "looks don’t matter, personality is everything."

Let’s be real: attractiveness and looking put-together play a massive role in how the world treats you. Believe or not, experiencing of the both spectrum, it does. People are noticeably kinder. Random strangers come up to ask for directions with a smile. Girls actually hold eye contact and stare. A woman older than me flirted with me (I'm an asshole, didn't knew the signs lol)

Looks might not define who you are on the inside, but taking control of your physical health and appearance changes how the world permits you to exist in it. And going from the invisible guy to the one turning heads? It’s a wild trip.

Has anyone had a Pride and Prejudice eye contact situation with someone?

and how did it turn out?

I keep seeing this guy at my workplace but we work for different subsidiaries so we’ve never actually had a reason to interact.

I started noticing him more and now I catch myself stealing glances whenever I see him. I’ve even become aware of what time he usually goes to the cafeteria which is honestly a little embarrassing to admit.

There was one time when I felt like he noticed me looking at him and there have been a few moments when I thought he was looking at me too. Of course, I could just be overthinking everything because I have a crush on him.

It’s funny to me how you can see someone almost every day and still know absolutely nothing about them.

Has anyone here ever had a workplace crush where you kept seeing each other from a distance, exchanged glances, and eventually got the chance to interact or even go on a date? How did it happen? Did one of you make the first move?

I went to a concert with some friends where we ran into one of our friends who brought along his new roommates. One guy was pretty cute but when he asked our names, he turned around and stopped talking to us when it was my turn to say my name.

Throughout rhe rest of the concert I saw him turn and look or glance at me like 10 times probably before the crowd shifted and he was standing behind me, so i couldn't see him anymore.

Is this a sign he might think im attractive, or is he just a jerk? Would a guy ignore a girl he finds cute?

I’ve noticed that this guy always has to be around me whether it’s standing behind me or sitting next to me. Is there a reason…like he feels comfortable with me or possibly interested? He does it constantly.

Any public setting like G-Y-M, cafe, park, market, concert, festival etc...there is this one person from opposite sex who you may not know and who you keep glancing at and notice they too were glancing at you before immediately looking away.

It keeps happening every now and then in that brief amount of time you spend there.

What can one infer from this? Attraction? Creep allert? Random sightseeing? Casual stuff?

the guy that i like, my childhood bestfriend and i have been really close since childhood, he’s a bit older than me, and lives in a different city, we were acquainted because of our families being super close, and we meet every once a year minimum and get to stay together for 4-5 days.

i’ve liked him for a while but it wont lead anywhere so i’m very normal with him, like i always used to be, however since the past few years, his demeanour around me keeps changing a lot. One thing that has started is that he has stopped hugging me, because we met very occasionally every year, 4-5 hugs were always mandatory but now he avoids that, it’s not like he has stopped hugging people, it’s just me.

whenever they come to our city or vice versa, we stay at each other’s place, when they arrive, everyone hugs each other, and when they leave, the same thing, however my friend, hugs everyone but me, and if sometimes i offer first it is a very avoidant sort of side hug, never a proper hug, he even hugs my older cousin sisters normally but not me.

nothing between him and i has changed in terms of our relationship dynamic, but his body language towards me is very weird, i really wanna know why. He avoids seeing me in the early morning when we stay together, and at night also he prefers not stay up late with me, when a few years back we would be alone and up till 3 in the morning, it’s very weird to me because he does it with others just not me specifically.

i would love an analysis on why this is happening, is it my fault or smth, and how to fix it i guess. Do let me know if y’all need any more details about him and i.
for more context, he’s 19 and i’m 17 as of now, and this change in demeanour started 2-3 months before he turned 18

There’s a manager I work with and we have a weird vibe idk. We get along and we’ve never had any conflict at all. He’s so loud and confident with others but reserved and quiet around me. But with others are in a group with me he’s fine. But one on one he’s so awkward and he won’t start a convo with me unless I do and when I do he’s listening to me the entire time. Sometimes he’ll make certain comments but mostly quiet. He’ll make eye contact with me and quietly say hello but then lowers his eyes. What does this mean, did I do something wrong?

I have noticed this several times now. We may be talking as a social gathering whilst watching our kids side by side, shoulder to shoulder with a small expected gap.

As we talk we speak straight ahead of us and then sometimes gesticulate and then turn our heads to look at each other whilst speaking. It is mixed up this way like a normal, organic conversation.

However, I have noted on a few occasions that the other person can end end diagonally behind me. Like at 8 o clock on a clock face to my 12 o clock. When they are there I have to really rotate around when speaking.

Why do they make small micro adjustments and end up almost behind me?

Six weeks of acknowledging each other’s presence in the workplace, mixed with eye contact, looking at each other and the other one looks away, him hovering around my desk, we are starting to collaborate on a project, just started like yesterday,
and today he winked at me at the end of the day. Is winking at other women normal at workplace? What was he trying?

Need help understanding this girl. She will say hi to me then stare at the floor until i pass,if i catch her off guard she kinda freezes and just looks at me, when walking down stairs she just kinda walks slow motion and stares at the steps and talks with her hands alot.

For starters and context, this happened well over a year ago. One semester in college, there was this girl that would sit next to me almost every day. We never really interacted much, except one conversation about a quiz, but I could feel there was a “tension” between us. On the first day she sat next to me she obviously lingered near my desk almost wanting me to say something or interact. Obviously like a dumbass I got nervous and froze. Anyway; I sighed during final exam and she seemed to obviously copy me (did it twice). Just random stuff like that idk. Anyways, that semester ended totally uneventfully. A year later we shared a class but we never really sat next to each other or talked, until one random day where we crossed paths in an elevator and she began making small talk to me. Next day by chance, same thing happened. At the end of that class, she came up to me asking for my phone number (for studying together, but still…we had only spoken the two times in elevator) We texted about a test we had and exchanged study guides; but after that nothing happened for a few weeks, until we ran into each other again weeks later; she’d text me about upcoming assignments/tests, and she even wanted us to study before class for a quiz, which we did (irl) Then for the final she wanted us to have a study phone call; (I was a commuter student so I wasn’t on campus much) we did and it lasted an hour and half, and when it ended she even suggested another study call later or next day…Next day was final, we chatted before it took the test, and after the test she called me on the phone to discuss it…a few days later we shared our quiz scores and then one day I sent her my final exam score and that was basically the end… It’s worth noting she had a bf during this time, but she never actually told me. Looking back I did kind of develop a crush on her, but still am not sure if she was into me or not.I still think about this a lot lol

Hi All,

I have had this eye contact that went on with my coworker for almost 5 weeks and soon after a project came up and my manager put me and the other person together on it. We are both from two different teams and vendor companies and work at the client site.
Now that my manager introduced us, I have been trying to get to a spot where I feel comfortable talking to this guy because I felt really nervous around him esp because he gave me the eye contact in the beginning. I don’t want to feel all warm and romantic when I look at him and work with him.

Now that I am gathering my courage to talk to him professionally, I sometimes feel very nervous still, and kinda forget how to smile or talk to him about anything else other than work.

Yesterday we chatted for 3-4 mins straight and I was looking into his eyes directly, and asking questions, he was actively listening and answering, I felt super weird once the conversation was over mainly because I don’t want to come off desperate or weird at all.
I am worried if he read my soft eyes, because to me his eyes were just flat wide open, i didn’t see him giving me any warm look. He did mention to chat again for a few minutes today.

I was busy today and couldn’t talk to him at all, so towards the end of the day when he walked past my desk, our eyes met and he gave me a smile, I smiled back at him. And then I stopped him and asked about the project. Him and his other friend will come to work on that project with me tomorrow.

I don’t know what to expect, I think I have developed a crush on him, and now I don’t even know if he still feels the same way about me like he did a few weeks ago, but I don’t want to lead myself on and be delusional about the situation. How do I proceed in this situation?

My coworker (a guy) gave me (I'm a woman) a hug today after I had told him how much I appreciated his help and gave him a small gift to thank him. During the hug, he rubbed my back. Does that mean anything?