Am I reading too much into my coworker’s behavior, or is there some flirting going on?

There’s a coworker I’ve had a bit of a feeling about for a while. Even before we ever followed each other on Instagram, I had this gut feeling that maybe she was open to something casual. I could be completely wrong about that, though. It was never based on anything concrete.

For context, I only work part-time and I barely see her. Sometimes it’s once a month, sometimes maybe 4-5 times depending on the schedule, so it’s not like we’re constantly around each other.

A while back, we were talking and she mentioned that she had seen me on Instagram. I jokingly asked why she hadn’t added me, and we ended up exchanging Instagram accounts.

She’s a single mom and posts her kid fairly often.

Yesterday, I was joking with her about how I’ve basically been around since her kid was growing up, and I asked if he was always smiling in her pictures.

Later that day I needed some USB sticks, so I asked her if she had any. She brought them to my office and jokingly asked me how much I loved her. I made a gesture with my hands and said, “This much.”

It was obviously a joke, but I wasn't expecting the conversation to continue the way it did.

When she got home, she sent me a picture of her kid crying and said something along the lines of, “He’s not smiling.”

I replied, “Ah no, I think I gave him the evil eye :(”

She said, “lol it’s all your fault.”

I said, “You gotta tell me how I can make it up.”

She said, “I’ll have to think.”

I said, “Alright, I’ll be waiting to hear that.”

Then she said, “I’m open to suggestions though.”

I said, “Okay, give me a hint then.”

She said, “Get your own USB stick 😂”

I said, “That will only make his mom happy lol.”

She said, “lol that’s very important I think.”

I said, “That’s easy, tell him I’ll make her happy.”

She said, “You’ll make me happy?”

I said, “Yes, by bringing my own USB sticks.”

She then said something like, “Well, you have two weeks until I see you? That’s enough time lol.”

I said, “I’ll put my best efforts.”

She said, “Lol I’ll be waiting with anticipation.”

I replied an hour or two later, “Consider it done!!”

She said, “Have a good night!”

And that was basically it.

Now, I know this could all be completely innocent. I might be picking up on cues that aren't actually there. But yesterday felt a little different because I was definitely flirting back a little, and she seemed to play along rather than shutting it down. The “make me happy,” “I’m open to suggestions,” and “waiting with anticipation” comments are what made me wonder.

For some additional context, I’m not exactly sitting here hoping something happens. She’s not someone I’m particularly excited about pursuing, and I’m not actively looking for a hookup with her. If she were genuinely interested, I probably wouldn’t say no, but I’m also not going out of my way to make something happen.

So I guess my question is: does this sound like two coworkers joking around, or does it sound like there may actually be some mutual flirting/interest here?

And please don't assume she's definitely interested just because of the way I interpreted it. I’m genuinely trying to figure out whether I’m reading the situation correctly.

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u/Pretend_Refuse8678 — 1 day ago

Am I reading too much into my coworker’s behavior, or is there some flirting going on?

There’s a coworker I’ve had a bit of a feeling about for a while. Even before we ever followed each other on Instagram, I had this gut feeling that maybe she was open to something casual. I could be completely wrong about that, though. It was never based on anything concrete.

For context, I only work part-time and I barely see her. Sometimes it’s once a month, sometimes maybe 4-5 times depending on the schedule, so it’s not like we’re constantly around each other.

A while back, we were talking and she mentioned that she had seen me on Instagram. I jokingly asked why she hadn’t added me, and we ended up exchanging Instagram accounts.

She’s a single mom and posts her kid fairly often.

Yesterday, I was joking with her about how I’ve basically been around since her kid was growing up, and I asked if he was always smiling in her pictures.

Later that day I needed some USB sticks, so I asked her if she had any. She brought them to my office and jokingly asked me how much I loved her. I made a gesture with my hands and said, “This much.”

It was obviously a joke, but I wasn't expecting the conversation to continue the way it did.

When she got home, she sent me a picture of her kid crying and said something along the lines of, “He’s not smiling.”

I replied, “Ah no, I think I gave him the evil eye :(”

She said, “lol it’s all your fault.”

I said, “You gotta tell me how I can make it up.”

She said, “I’ll have to think.”

I said, “Alright, I’ll be waiting to hear that.”

Then she said, “I’m open to suggestions though.”

I said, “Okay, give me a hint then.”

She said, “Get your own USB stick 😂”

I said, “That will only make his mom happy lol.”

She said, “lol that’s very important I think.”

I said, “That’s easy, tell him I’ll make her happy.”

She said, “You’ll make me happy?”

I said, “Yes, by bringing my own USB sticks.”

She then said something like, “Well, you have two weeks until I see you? That’s enough time lol.”

I said, “I’ll put my best efforts.”

She said, “Lol I’ll be waiting with anticipation.”

I replied an hour or two later, “Consider it done!!”

She said, “Have a good night!”

And that was basically it.

Now, I know this could all be completely innocent. I might be picking up on cues that aren't actually there. But yesterday felt a little different because I was definitely flirting back a little, and she seemed to play along rather than shutting it down. The “make me happy,” “I’m open to suggestions,” and “waiting with anticipation” comments are what made me wonder.

For some additional context, I’m not exactly sitting here hoping something happens. She’s not someone I’m particularly excited about pursuing, and I’m not actively looking for a hookup with her. If she were genuinely interested, I probably wouldn’t say no, but I’m also not going out of my way to make something happen.

So I guess my question is: does this sound like two coworkers joking around, or does it sound like there may actually be some mutual flirting/interest here?

And please don't assume she's definitely interested just because of the way I interpreted it. I’m genuinely trying to figure out whether I’m reading the situation correctly.

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u/Pretend_Refuse8678 — 3 days ago

Coworker chased me, now she’s avoiding me?

I’m 24M and have a coworker who’s 33F. At first, I didn’t think anything of her. I’m generally easygoing and friendly with everyone. We exchanged numbers for work-related stuff because I used to go to her location once a week.

Then I stopped going there for about a month, and out of nowhere she reached out and started texting me. I kept things pretty casual and didn’t really initiate much, but she kept restarting conversations and eventually suggested we should hang out sometime.

The thing is, she has a boyfriend. She also told me about their “sleep divorce” situation and made comments like “you can do anything as long as they don’t find out,” which definitely made me think she was hinting at something.

Over the next 6 months, she asked me to hang out like 5 different times. I wasn’t really interested at first, but eventually I said okay and we went out for food last weekend.

I went into it with a “whatever happens, happens” mindset and was open to seeing if there was a vibe. We actually had a really good time talking and laughing, but honestly I didn’t feel enough chemistry to push things further. She also randomly started talking about trust in relationships, so I just kept things light and focused on enjoying the food and conversation.

By the end, she kept saying things like “I had so much fun” and “we should try another restaurant next time.”

But the very next day at work, I could instantly tell she was acting different and kind of avoiding me.

Now I’m just confused about the whole thing. Why pursue me for months, ask to hang out multiple times, act super interested during the date, and then suddenly switch up afterward?

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u/Pretend_Refuse8678 — 3 months ago

Coworker chased me, now she’s avoiding me?

I’m 24M and have a coworker who’s 33F. At first, I didn’t think anything of her. I’m generally easygoing and friendly with everyone. We exchanged numbers for work-related stuff because I used to go to her location once a week.

Then I stopped going there for about a month, and out of nowhere she reached out and started texting me. I kept things pretty casual and didn’t really initiate much, but she kept restarting conversations and eventually suggested we should hang out sometime.

The thing is, she has a boyfriend. She also told me about their “sleep divorce” situation and made comments like “you can do anything as long as they don’t find out,” which definitely made me think she was hinting at something.

Over the next 6 months, she asked me to hang out like 5 different times. I wasn’t really interested at first, but eventually I said okay and we went out for food last weekend.

I went into it with a “whatever happens, happens” mindset and was open to seeing if there was a vibe. We actually had a really good time talking and laughing, but honestly I didn’t feel enough chemistry to push things further. She also randomly started talking about trust in relationships, so I just kept things light and focused on enjoying the food and conversation.

By the end, she kept saying things like “I had so much fun” and “we should try another restaurant next time.”

But the very next day at work, I could instantly tell she was acting different and kind of avoiding me.

Now I’m just confused about the whole thing. Why pursue me for months, ask to hang out multiple times, act super interested during the date, and then suddenly switch up afterward?

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u/Pretend_Refuse8678 — 3 months ago

Chances of IRCC accepting my foreign work experience for CEC PR? Complicated situation

Hi everyone,

I’m planning to claim my foreign work experience for Express Entry/CEC and wanted some honest opinions on whether IRCC is likely to accept it.

Here’s my situation:

  1. I worked remotely from Sept 2022 to Nov 2023 for a UK based employer as a Sales Development Representative (Independent Contractor). It was a software startup.
  2. When I submitted my first study permit application in Oct 2023, I included:
  • my resume
  • offer letter
  • Last 6 months of bank statements with highlighted salary transactions
  1. However, I was unaware and my resume at that time was not updated properly and the duties mentioned there would probably match a lower TEER occupation.
  2. In my second study permit application (Sept 2024), I did NOT mention this foreign work experience because I thought only Canadian work experience mattered. Same thing happened with my PGWP application in Aug 2025 I didn’t include the foreign experience there either.
  3. My original offer letter mentioned that a more detailed employment contract would be created after 90/180 days, but that never happened and I just continued working normally.
  4. Another complication is that the same employer paid me through 3 different UK companies over 13 months because he kept creating/dissolving businesses. Example:
  • ~4 months from one company
  • ~5 months from another
  • ~4 months from another
  1. I think one of those companies is still active today, but not the original company from my offer letter.
  2. I do have supporting evidence:
  • bank statements
  • offer letter
  • Loom videos
  • some Hubstaff records
  • work samples
  • chats/emails
  1. I'm on my way for 1 year of Canadian TEER 1 experience this year.

My main concerns are:

  • Will IRCC think I misrepresented because I didn’t mention the foreign experience in later applications?
  • Can I still claim this work experience now if I provide detailed responsibilities matching TEER 1/2?
  • Will the changing companies/payments look suspicious even though the work was genuine?
  • Does inconsistent job duty wording between old resume and PR application create major risk?

Everything is genuine and truthful. I’m just worried because my documentation/history is messy.

Realistically, what do you think my chances are of this being accepted?

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u/Pretend_Refuse8678 — 3 months ago

Chances of IRCC accepting my foreign work experience for CEC PR? Complicated situation

Hi everyone,

I’m planning to claim my foreign work experience for Express Entry/CEC and wanted some honest opinions on whether IRCC is likely to accept it.

Here’s my situation:

  1. I worked remotely from Sept 2022 to Nov 2023 for a UK based employer as a Sales Development Representative (Independent Contractor). It was a software startup.
  2. When I submitted my first study permit application in Oct 2023, I included:
  • my resume
  • offer letter
  • Last 6 months of bank statements with highlighted salary transactions
  1. However, I was unaware and my resume at that time was not updated properly and the duties mentioned there would probably match a lower TEER occupation.
  2. In my second study permit application (Sept 2024), I did NOT mention this foreign work experience because I thought only Canadian work experience mattered. Same thing happened with my PGWP application in Aug 2025 I didn’t include the foreign experience there either.
  3. My original offer letter mentioned that a more detailed employment contract would be created after 90/180 days, but that never happened and I just continued working normally.
  4. Another complication is that the same employer paid me through 3 different UK companies over 13 months because he kept creating/dissolving businesses. Example:
  • ~4 months from one company
  • ~5 months from another
  • ~4 months from another
  1. I think one of those companies is still active today, but not the original company from my offer letter.
  2. I do have supporting evidence:
  • bank statements
  • offer letter
  • Loom videos
  • some Hubstaff records
  • work samples
  • chats/emails
  1. I'm on my way for 1 year of Canadian TEER 1 experience this year.

My main concerns are:

  • Will IRCC think I misrepresented because I didn’t mention the foreign experience in later applications?
  • Can I still claim this work experience now if I provide detailed responsibilities matching TEER 1/2?
  • Will the changing companies/payments look suspicious even though the work was genuine?
  • Does inconsistent job duty wording between old resume and PR application create major risk?

Everything is genuine and truthful. I’m just worried because my documentation/history is messy.

Realistically, what do you think my chances are of this being accepted?

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u/Pretend_Refuse8678 — 3 months ago