r/DoesAnybodyElse

I am a 25M northern European who is only 172cm (barely 5’8). Why is it important where I’m from?

Because here the average height is close to 6 ft (182cm)! Which makes dating for a short guy like me impossible.

I have simply accepted a life without romance and that I never will kiss anyone.

No women have ever asked me out. I have never tried the dating apps because they don’t seem to work at all for short guy + I’ve heard the apps is mostly bots.

I have never asked a women out either because I’m shy. Also don’t wanna come off as creepy, weird or offensive in any way.

So that’s it. I’ve accepted to live a lonely life without romantical love.

Anyone else here done the same?

I have a journal where I stick my used contacts that have been with me during important moments of my life. I have a pair from a green day concert, my wedding, the birth of my sons...etc. I have never told anyone in real life that I do this.

it's like I don't ever feel close to anyone in a way that I understand and actually feel, and I either feel alone and sad about it, or alone and happy that I can just be left alone. Or it doesn't cross my mind at all that I haven't spoken much to anyone for days.

Then I hear from other people stuff like "I feel safe around you. Your presence is calming. I can tell you anything and be myself around you, in ways that I can't with other people. I look forward to spending time with you/I enjoyed being with you" etc. And I know people aren't just saying that or buttering me up, I can tell they mean it.

it makes me go ???

I feel like I see everyone but no one sees me. Most of the time, that doesn't bother me or cross my mind. Other times it makes me bug out and get weirdly existential.

idek why this happens to me

Would it be possible with the tech we have for a space station to exist indefinitely in a LaGrange point orbiting the Sun, the same way the ISS orbits the Earth?

I can't help but wonder what dynamic that would create among humans, and whatever else might be out there.

it triggers my flight system and i just don’t want to talk to them anymore

I'm experiencing something that honestly unsettled me, and I'm trying to figure out if anyone else has gone through something similar.

For the past few weeks, almost all of the media I've been consuming has been true crime, Reddit paranormal stories, real-life murder cases, and other creepy or disturbing content. That's pretty much been my entire media diet.

Another thing worth mentioning is that my dreams have become incredibly vivid. When I dream, I often become partially conscious—I know I'm dreaming, but not enough to fully wake up. The best way I can describe it is that I form actual memories of my dreams, almost like memories from real life. After waking up, I can usually remember them quite well and can still clearly tell the difference between dreams and reality.

My dreams also tend to mix real-life situations into them. Sometimes I'll dream about coding problems, debugging issues, or random fictional scenarios where I somehow come up with a solution inside the dream. When I wake up, I remember those dreams surprisingly well.

It's also been the rainy season where I live, so my sleep has been pretty fragmented. I've been waking up multiple times throughout the night for the past several days. Sometimes the dream continues after I fall back asleep, and sometimes it completely changes.

Now, here's what happened today.

I woke up around 8 AM, which is pretty normal for me. My morning was completely normal. Then around the afternoon, I started feeling slightly lightheaded. When I got to my dad's shop, something very strange started happening.

Everything suddenly felt like it had already happened before.

Not in the usual "I've seen this before" kind of way. It was much, much stronger than normal déjà vu.

Videos I watched felt like I had already watched them.

Customer interactions felt eerily familiar. There was one interaction where I genuinely felt there was absolutely no way this hadn't happened before. It felt so familiar that I felt like I could predict exactly what the customer was going to do next.

Even while writing this post, part of me has that weird feeling that I've already had this exact conversation before.

The best way I can describe it is that it felt like the thin wall separating my dreams from reality had shattered. My dreams felt like they were bleeding into real life.

I would randomly get mentally "lost," and then I'd come back with the strange feeling that I had just woken up from an old dream.

The closest descriptions I can come up with are:

• "It feels like I woke up in a timeline where everything happening has already happened before."
• "Someone turned the déjà vu dial all the way to 100."

Because I've been remembering my dreams so vividly lately, it almost felt like everything happening around me had already happened in one of those dreams, even though I couldn't necessarily remember a specific dream where it happened.

The feeling lasted for the entire morning and gradually faded later in the day. Throughout the whole experience, I still knew what reality was. I never actually believed my dreams were real—I just couldn't shake the overwhelming feeling that everything around me had already happened.

Has anyone experienced something like this before? Is there a name for it? I'm especially curious if fragmented sleep, vivid dreams, or consuming a lot of disturbing content could contribute to something like this.

I looked for a power bank. One brand kept popping up with good reviews, but the name is "Cuktech." My first reaction was just... no way. It looks like a bad typo or something sketchy.

But the reviews were great and the price was good, so I finally caved and bought it.

And honestly? It’s great. I've used it for months and it works perfectly. It has a nice magnetic feature and a built-in cable, so the quality is good.

But it made me think, how many good products did I miss before just because the branding looked stupid? Does anyone else do this, or am I just overthinking?

Like games, horror films. Grossed out or weirded out, maybe, confused maybe, but scared? Never ever. Jumpscares? Annoying, not scary. I noticed that when I played Soma some years back, which I keep hearing people say is a super hard hitter in that regard. Yet... nothing. Made me wonder if I'm missing something, but apparently not.

I don't know if it's just me, but does anyone else feel really bad seeing stores with no people in them, restaurants with no customers etc.? It's especially worse when there's windows to see clearly into the store and you can very visibly see the cashier/clerk etc. just waiting? I don't know about restaurants but when this happens I enter the store in the hopes that maybe seeing another person browsing inside will pull in more people to check the store out 😭😭😭Is it just me?

It’s not a headache most of the time, it’s like the roots of my hair are sore, it hurts when I rake my hand through it.

Idk wtf causes this, and sometimes it happens because I had my hair up too long, but sometimes, like today, I’ve had my hair down all day and it still randomly happened.

Does anybody else get this?

I don't know why but I've always had this thing where whenever I am sleeping anywhere outside of my own house, no matter what place it is, it could be a hotel room, or a family member's house, i always sleep like crap because it just doesn't feel right sleeping in a different bed and environment, i can just never sleep anywhere outside of my bed, also i will be spending a few days at a family member house tomorrow and i know damn well i will be sleeping like crap the next few days, does anybody else ever feel this way when sleeping away?

I don’t know how to explain it other than it looks like 👁️‍🗨️. When I close my eye and press on the inside corner, there’s what looks like a white circle with a black circle/pupil.

Ever since I was a kid I always thought I was seeing the backside of my eyeballs or something.

Whenever I’m stressed, I almost always end up craving spicy food. Not because I think it’ll solve anything, but for some reason it just feels more comforting than anything else.

I’m curious if other people have a specific food they always crave depending on how they’re feeling.

If so, how do you handle it? I've been realizing I've been suffering from this for years, but made even worse with a company I'm less than excited about doing work for. Normally it's whatever and manageable. But I noticed with my new company it's been made even WORSE than ever.

i don’t know if it’s already been said here but i need to know this is not some underlying mental illness…but does anyone else feel this overwhelming sadness when thinking about what people have said to you like over a decade ago? i mean i do this about things people have said in the present but surely people don’t think about the little things that happened 10 years ago? i just randomly thought about what some people said to me that was just mean and some things that i might have said that was a bit embarrassing but my classmates at the time were being assholes about it. one of my friends is even mentioned the embarrassing moment once a couple of years back and she was laughing about it but i didn’t really find it funny…and i just feel sad idk. and this ALWAYS happens. like i can never forget all the times people were rude or snarky towards me? i can never forget it like most of my childhood. but as soon as i feel this overwhelming sadness i’m just back to normal in like 2 minutes even though it’s still there. i wish i could get a lobotomy idk

I used to think I had a pretty average/mild view of things, especially compared to the more extreme stuff and very obviously hurtful people we see. I'm not a bigot or like hateful at the very least. But I've been starting to see patterns in the people and art I enjoy + how the majority of people react or view them, learning how much I never clocked as unhealthy. So been starting to really worry I only resonate with bad people (at the very least the immature and questionable).

It's a enough of a pattern and a subtle thing to me that I worry about pursuing things I find interesting or 'feel right', since there's years of evidence of those feeling being towards bad people and things. And I don't know how much I've been unknowingly passing along.

Does anyone else ever worry about that too? Do you have experience of learning to pick up on healthier things?