r/DoesAnybodyElse

Hey guys, i want to talk about a specific pattern that i have noticed in my life for quite some time, just to see if anyone can relate to me.

So i'm 23F, and I have ended a few friendships/ relationships in the past, but one thing that i've always noticed is that the minute i decide to completely get somebody out of my life, they immediately disappear for good. I hear people's stories about an old connection coming back after some time, but that's never been the case with me. No one ever tries to reach out to me again, i never even stumble upon their accounts on social media anymore, i never hear of them from anyone else, just absolute crickets.

Please dont get me wrong, i'm not complaining at all, because i never regret getting someone out of my life, there's always a good reason for it. But what people say about your path no longer meeting another person's path once they are no longer part of your life/ story is sooo true, and i have so many examples of it:

I have not heard not even a whisper about my ex that i ended things with almost two years ago, (thank god), it literally feels so thrilling whenever i think about the fact that he literally has no idea where i'm at in life, and neither do i have a single clue about what he's been up to.

Also, my best friend of two years and i started to grow apart after graduation, and some issues arose so i decided to just stop reaching out until the friendship eventually and naturally ended, have not spoken or heard from her for almost two years now. Truly wish her the best, but it's like she knew not to reach out either, haha.

And then comes another category of people that i guess were just never meant to be a part of my life in the first place, so things never even developed between us even though they could have. Like this one family friend's daughter that i met quite some time ago, and hung out with for just two days, but we hit it off instantly. She lives abroad so she never really visited again, but i checked and she does have an instagram account. I swear all of this is so intriguing to me, because even though i'm not hurt by any of this, i would still love to understand why did she never reach out on insta; we could have been the bestest of friends all these years, so it just feels like maybe it would not have been right, we were not meant to be in eachother's lives i guess.

Anyways, the point i'm trying to make with this post is that i find it soo crazy and weird how people immediately and forever disappear from my life once i decide to cut them off, as if their time's up. I genuinely want to know if any of you guys has a logical explanation to this phenomenon, and if you can relate.

Does anyone else intentionally dress like a slob? Occasionally I will intentionally dress like a mad man when I go out to run errands like go to the grocery store or whatever. It’s like the best hack, people do not stop me to ask about this week’s promotion, ask me to get the credit card or the whatever they are selling. Even the guy selling the cell phone plans at Costco does not ask me who my current carrier is. It’s fantastic. There has even been times where I have spilled coffee on myself or a meatball falls on my shirt and even better that is what I am going to wear to go grocery shopping.

I sent a pic of a little bowl of whole Baby Bella mushrooms that I was eating to my friend and he said he didn't know anyone else who likes mushrooms as much as I do. DAE love raw mushrooms? I just be craving them and eat them as a snack sometimes and wondered how common that is

My boyfriend and I were talking about our conditions for moving on romantically in the case of one of us passing away. I said that I wouldn’t want him to date anyone that I knew personally while I was alive - with the only exception being my best friend.

Why would I not want the two people I love most to be happy with each other if they can? I know my best friend would keep my memory alive and also help my boyfriend move on respectfully. He’s a great partner and she deserves that. She would be too and he also deserves that. She wouldn’t try to replace me as a mother or make my boyfriend pretend I never existed.

It’s not like I actively want them to get together if I pass, but I wouldn’t be mad at all. When I told him this he was completely floored and said that if he had a best friend, he would haunt us for getting together. I told a few people about it and they all felt equally if not more strongly. I was so surprised that I made a poll in a group I’m in, and 156 out of 163 people think this would be a hauntable offense. Personally I would be happy for them.

I recently realized something about my eating habits that apparently seems weird to other people, and now I’m curious if anyone else is like this.

For context, I used to live with my ex and I was the primary cook, so every night I was making full dinners and overall larger meals that were honestly probably more about keeping him full than me. Looking back, I think I was probably overeating just because I was cooking more food and didn’t want it to go to waste.

I’ve been living on my own for about a year now and most days only eat breakfast and lunch. I just genuinely do not even get hungry in the evenings

Breakfast is usually a fck ton of Greek yogurt with banana, honey, and cinnamon. Lunch varies, but I try to focus on protein and fiber and make it filling. After that, I’m pretty much done for the day. I’m not starving at night and even if I am a bit hungry, it’s not for a full blown meal. I do occasionally get the chocolate itch though lol.

Anyway, in recent conversation, someone told me that sounded unhealthy and asked how I even function. It honestly never occurred to me that this might be unusual until they pointed it out.

Does anyone else naturally eat this way? And is this actually unhealthy if I feel fine?

Like I’ll spend the whole week wanting a break, then when I actually get one I can’t enjoy it properly because my brain keeps acting like I’m supposed to be doing something.

Even if there’s nothing urgent to do, I still feel like I’m wasting time or falling behind somehow. I can be sitting there watching something, playing a game, lying in bed, whatever, and there’s this annoying background feeling that I should be being productive.

It’s not even ambition. It’s more like guilt for relaxing, which is ridiculous because the whole point of free time is doing nothing.

Does anyone else get this?

Okay so I had this discussion with some friends of mine and they think im crazy for doing this.

You know that feeling when you wake up from your alarm and feel like you want to sleep a little more? I do, and i hate it. Thats why I set a second alarm at around 1/2am. Then when I wake up and look at the time, I feel relieved that I can sleep some more.

Please tell me I’m not the only one doing this and I can prove I’m not crazy lol

I hadn’t really noticed that I do this before today, but I consistently have a voice in my head that talks to me. It’s kind of my voice but also not, but it’s not an auditory hallucination. Anyway, I was doing something and I got a little anxious, and that voice said, “it’s okay, chiquita.” I realized that I’d heard it and I thought back to see if I’ve ever done that before, I’m still not sure that I have. One thing I think it might be is maybe a coping mechanism or a form of escapism because I don’t really know much comfort mentally. In short, I’m just curious if anyone else‘s mind does this

I swear every time I stop trying to “lock in” at my desk and just start walking around, tidying up, doing dishes, folding laundry, or organizing something, my brain suddenly starts working again. It’s like movement and small tasks clear the mental fog better than forcing concentration does. Feels way more natural than sitting there staring at a screen trying harder and harder to focus.

I’ll just be doing something completely normal and suddenly my brain decides to replay a cringe moment from like 2017 in perfect HD quality.

Meanwhile I can barely remember useful stuff from last week.

Does anybody else get this or is my brain just dedicated to psychological warfare?

About once or twice a month I will wake up from deep sleep and feel extremely disoriented. I have to run through a mental list of facts, sometimes it takes a couple of minutes because it doesn't feel like those facts "fit" like my name, age, gender. I need a moment to think about where I am, and i don't recognize my partner.

Jokiningly I say it is because I was abruptly disconnected from the hive mind and I am buffering lol. Anyways, just a weird little thing that resolves quickly, curious if it happens to anyone else!

Before that sports debacle earlier this year, I had no idea

I realize we all have choices and choices of obese people caused the issue.
Watching someone stand in line for a roller coaster and then they are being told the lap bar won’t go down. Next they are having to exit the ride. This has to be humiliating.

For the past year+, I always have at least 5-10 yellow bruises on my legs, and occasionally my arms too. Doctor didn't seem worried.

Wondering if it's cause I'm getting old, or if I should push for more testing.

I struggle to describe this, but I get this unbearable tingling and almost painful nerve like sensation at my jaw (right around the bilateral TMJ area) just from hearing the sound of food crunching.

To the extent that just imagining someone biting into an over toasted piece of bread causes an unbearable tingling feeling and almost like muscle spasms. The trigger for it for me is specifically crunching sounds made from biting overly dried foods like toast, sandwiches, iceberg lettuce, kettle chips, etc.

Just writing this post was a bit painful for me, while trying to imagine these sounds to recreate the feeling to describe. It’s like an ASMR from hell.

Sometimes in my day to day activities I find myself “forgetting” to breathe. It also happens with exercise but I feel like that’s more normal, everyone has to control their breath when exerting themselves. But even when I’m standing still I have to actively make myself breathe sometimes. I think maybe it happens more when I’m concentrating on something I’ll hold my breath unconsciously but also when I’m just standing there thinking about something

Sometimes when I need to pee I get this feeling in my jaw/teeth, similar to the feeling you get when you eat sour stuff. Is this just me or no??

Has anybody else graduated with bachelor’s in something else then immediately went back for nursing? I just graduated with bs in criminal justice with the hope of working as victim advocate or even going back to get masters in forensic. I realized I love medical stuff and learning stuff of the sorts. I think I still want to do combination n hopefully do forensic nursing eventually. Not sure where to start any advice is appreciated.