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I've written about this guy previously, but he continues to be an annoyance at best and downright infuriating at worst.

In addition to all the habits I mentioned in my previous post about him, he's super Catholic and has this misguided sense of self-righteousness that I wouldn't necessarily define as "Christian."

Case in point: It is Code Red / medically unhealthy levels of hot outside. There were a couple of homeless people hanging out in a shaded area around the corner from our business. Mind you, they aren't panhandling nor did they approach us or bother anybody, they're just trying to manage in the heat while still being outside.

Mr. Needs-to-be-in-everyone's business goes out and tells them they need to leave within 30 minutes. AND he calls the cops. IT'S NOT EVEN HIS BUSINESS.

Then yesterday we had a lot of rain to the point that our road flooded. The water was anywhere from 12-18" high and anyone with eyes could see the road was covered with water, but he INSISTED on standing with an umbrella by the side of the road shouting and waving at people to turn around. I immediately thought of Dwight on The Office proudly proclaiming that he was a Voluntary Reserve Sheriff's Deputy.

The guy's an idiot and a busybody asshole that always has to be in people's business. If you tell him you had a doctor's appointment he'll say, "I mean, you don't need to tell me why but..." You're right. I DON'T. But he'll still do that low-key prying thing to try to find out more information.

If our boss leaves, he asks us where he went. We're not his keeper, dude. One of the perks of being a business owner is coming and going as you please.

He feels like an NPC that needs to run a content script before the day can continue. He has to say "Good Morning" and ask how you are. He doesn't actually care, he just NEEDS to say the words.

TL; DR: This guy continues to have the most self-assured but dumbest takes on pretty much everything.

I’d genuinely like an outside perspective because I can’t tell whether I’m overthinking things or whether my concerns are valid.

I work in a junior marketing role, and a coworker (let’s call her Sarah) joined about a month after I did.

wasn’t doing her share of the work

For roughly the first two months, Sarah wasn’t completing a lot of the work we were both assigned. I was consistently doing my tasks, and it was pretty obvious she wasn’t completing hers.

I raised it with my line manager who took a while to take action as they’re friends, and although Sarah started doing some of the work afterwards, she still wasn’t completing everything. Eventually I escalated it to my manager’s manager, and only then did she begin doing the full workload.

The downside was that after escalating it, I felt like I’d been labelled a snitch. My line manager in particular became noticeably colder towards me, and the working relationship deteriorated. Thankfully she left a few months later, so I got a fresh start with a new manager

copying briefs

Part of our job involves writing briefs for stakeholders. I usually complete mine well in advance.

I noticed Sarah began copying the same structure and key messaging as my briefs. I raised it with my manager, and the process was changed. That solved the issue, but the copying was brushed under the rug

copying work

In a meeting today, I noticed she’d copied my reporting word-for-word into her own brief without asking me.

The problem is that stakeholders now assume that my work (which I’ve been complimented by several members of the team) is hers

I’ve raised this with my current line manager and am waiting to hear how they’ll deal with it

annual leave seems to be handled differently

A couple of months ago, I requested annual leave well in advance over a bank holiday weekend.

It was declined because my line manager doesn’t work Fridays, our lead manager was already on leave, and I was told Sarah would be left alone (even though there was another manager covering).

Last Thursday, our lead manager rang me to ask if I’d be okay with Sarah taking a last-minute Friday off to attend Wimbledon, provided she finished her work (I would be left alone with a cover as the lead manager was also on A/L).

I felt put on the spot because saying no would have made me look like the bad guy, so I agreed.

She did complete her work, but I spent more of time amending her work more than mine because an offer changed on one of her campaigns.

What confuses me is that last week both my managers were off and I was effectively working alone with a covering manager, which doesn’t seem that different from the situation when my own leave was rejected. This week will also be Sarah’s third Friday off in a row.

salary disparity

Sarah originally joined as a contractor, and that contractor role was advertised while I was interviewing. HR shared the salary ranges for both roles, so I know the contractor salary was higher than mine.

I mentioned the difference to my previous manager, who confirmed it and suggested I raise it during my annual review - I didn’t, mainly because my relationship with that manager had become quite poor after the earlier issues.

Sarah has since become a permanent employee. We both recently received pay rises, and when I mentioned the pay gap, I was told I shouldn’t assume what Sarah earns.

Our previous manager had already confirmed the difference, and I still have the original HR email showing the salary bands.

Am I reading too much into this, or does this sound like a genuine pattern of inconsistent treatment?

Years ago I worked at a plastic manufacturing company. They started out selling items that they bought from China and eventually got into actually designing and manufacturing the products that they were once selling allowing them to have a higher profit margin. Not a bad business plan but still required a lot of designing. That's where I came in. I had experience in working with plastic before I got hired and in fact that was the reason why they brought me on board.

About 6 months into working there, I was promoted to Chief designer but before I took that position, I had to train a new guy who came over from working at a local funeral home who thought, hey this might be fun. He was about 18 years old at the time and was a go-getter and a bit of a hot head. I taught him everything he needed to know about the CNC and laser cutters, how to run the program, how to set the products in the design field to maximize cuts, everything.

One day I had designed a very intricate product and gave extensive details in a PDF on how to cut, trim, bend, and glue the parts together. This young guy's job was only to cut the parts to the specifications I gave him - and he constantly messed up on this product.

One day after an especially hard and fast working day, he came in and said that the manager was yelling at him because every piece of the product that he cut - totaling 40 units - had been cut wrong. I double checked my files, saw that everything was correct, and showed him the cut file that he should have been using that I sent to him three times. I told him in the nicest way possible, just do your job and cut the files that I send you.

He had the audacity to try to yell at me and say, I will cut the files if they are correct. You need to do your job and make sure that I have the right measurements. I lost it.

Before I could stop myself I blurted out to him, look dude, I've been working since before you were sucking at your mom's tit, so don't you dare effing tell me how to do my job. Now get your sorry butt back out there and cut the damn files I send you.

Of course, he went complaining to the manager about a hostile work environment and I got the reprimand. It was okay though. I left the company about a month later because I couldn't handle the constant back talk from someone who was younger than my son.

I work at a local dessert store in my area. The job is very easy and I like it as my job for right now.

but we’ve recently hired at 17 year old boy, and he makes everything so much harder. Training new employees always takes time and isn’t the best, but once they’ve been there a while they usually know what to do, expect this guy…

I genuinely can’t comprehend how someone can end up like him.

He talks nonstop, he follows everyone else around constantly, make complainy remarks about being told to do menial tasks, is super slow, doesn’t know how to clean anything, forgets tasks almost immediately, and is just obnoxious

He isn’t a bad kid by any means, but oh my god I don’t know how his parents let him be like this.

We’ve had to get home him multiple times about talking and staying on task, he apologizes, and then goes right back to his nonsense.

examples

me: hey can you do the dishes? They are pilling up and we are about to get busy

him: awww! I hate doing chores!

me: (in my mind) this isn’t chores, this is your job

me: just go do the dishes please

him: *puts the dishes in water and then walks away, he didn’t even spray the food particles off of them*

example 2

him: *sweeps the front so it can be mopped*

manager: *goes up to the front and sees that there are food crumbs and spoons everywhere* *sweeps again and then gets on him about not sweeping*

apparently he just swept the middle of the room instead of the corners and under the tables

i’m not the only one who feels like this either, literally everyone else at my work also feels like this. people will actively try to get their shifts covered just so they don’t have to work with him.

edit: everyone else who works here is also between the ages of 16-20. Just seeing how different he is compared to everyone else is the astonishing part.

Hi all, so awhile back.. i posted about taking up the shit from my AR colleague. https://www.reddit.com/r/coworkerstories/s/py7tHlnHpU

And today, i have an interesting one for everyone: crime or not i can’t say but it’s playing games with my mind tbh.

So rmb how I said I work in a small company and I’m the one handling Finance? Well, because it’s a small company, I was tasked with helping the boss feed his fish while he was away for about a month, 4 months or so ago. However, the fishes started dying the few days before he returned and honestly, i thought it was me cause i’m not a fish-person. Naturally, i bought new fishes to replace the dead ones before my boss came back (he paid me back when he found out🥲)

For the next 3 months, while my boss was already back, the fishes kept dying still.. There was one time in the 3 months when the fishes kept dying week on week, he ranted that maybe the office is not the right place (lack of sunlight, etc) for them since the plants and fishes kept dying yet, he shared that he had fishes at home for the past 20 years and the lighting was similar to the office but they were still alive. The dead fishes was odd to me, like, them dying was an anomaly because every time the fishes died, he bought something different to improve the conditions: better oxygen tank thing to recycle the water, water droplets, etc.

And because MY fishes (the one i had bought) had died too.. i felt pretty invested in the whole fiasco. I noted the weeks in which there were fishes in the tank over the weekend and when there wasn’t (the water needs time to adjust after a dead fish is found in it) *this presence of fishes is important for later*

So, with deductive reasoning I thought that if it was not the tank, water, fish food, water plants, or anything related to the tank, not the environment, could it be something external?

I requested for the CCTV footage citing some other reason to check on some finance thing lol 😂 okay, unethical ik! But omg, i found the fish killer!!

Over the past 3 months, i found footage of one particular colleague who was spraying hand sanitizer into the fish tank! And one thing i noted was his infrequency with sanitizing the office whenever he stayed late. So i wondered if this was even his assigned task since he actually works in a diff dept and cleaning was arranged externally.

I checked with a senior in the co (cause i hadn’t been employed long enough to know everyone’s detailed tasks) and apparently this staff was asked to spray sanitizer whenever he left work the last on Fridays. The boss had allowed him to stay later due to traffic congestion otw home (instead of spending time at a cafe, wasting money just to get coffee or a drink) he was given office keys to chill at the office while waiting for the traffic to clear. When I reviewed the footage, e.g. he stayed back every Friday for all 3 months but only sprayed sanitizer off and on.

Guess what the “off and on” coincided with!!! To everyone who figured it out: YES, only when there were fishes in the tank, he “did his task” of sanitizing the office. But whenever there weren’t fishes, he DID NOT sanitize the office.

As*h*le made a big show of spraying the office “thoroughly” whenever he DID spray probably to appear normal when spraying at the tank…

I told my boss the theory of hand sanitizer and suggested that he place a hidden camera to catch the staff’s action from up close in the act. I was almost sure that he wouldn’t believe me but i put my neck out for the fishes cause they were helpless and dying for literally no reason. To my credit 🥲 like, he believed me (not even a 2 year staff) vs this staff of 7 years!! But instead of a secret camera, he put it on a super obvious place and I also swapped out the sanitizing liquid for water jic the guy DID end up spraying.

Today, this Monday is the first time in 3 months, the fishes have survived over the weekend! I know it’s silly but i am so happy that they are alivee. As for that staff.. idk what’s gonna happen now

In the 80's I worked at an EDA company (Electronic Design Automation) where I specialized in the application tools that did place and route for printed circuit boards. As a headquarters  applications engineer my day to day job was handling tech support cases for both customers and field applications engineers. 

The company I worked for was having trouble hiring people into my role with a strong technical background and decided to experiment with training bright non-technical folks enough to handle some of the easier cases.

We had hired one such person to handle PC configuration cases. This was in the days before "plug and play" hardware, where you had to manually configure port usage for any hardware used by the application. The new hire excelled in that role of handling PC configuration cases, so my manager decided to see if they could start handling application tool issues as well.

EDA tools for printed circuit tool design aren't terribly complicated. I had an engineering degree, but anyone with an electronics technician level of understanding could probably handle the job well and we were hoping we could train our seemingly bright new hire into handling that role. So they were sent to a training class on the application tools and as tech lead for the tool support group, I was tasked with answering any questions they had about the tools outside the training.

So one day they came to my cube and asked me to explain something about "vias". This surprised me a bit because vias are a fairly simple concept. A hole is drilled in the PCB and then metal plated so that it makes electrical  contact with any printed wire traces that touch the same X-Y coordinates on various layers of the PCB. It's how an electrical connection moves from one layer to another.

So I bring up a PCB design on the workstation on my desk and start to explain this, and as I discuss the topic with the NH, it becomes apparent that they not only don't understand how a via works, they also don't understand how a wire works. So I take a step back and start to explain what a wire's role is in an electronic circuit. You have a driver and one or more loads and the wire by virtue of its conductivity passes the signal from the driver to the loads. and the various signal paths can't touch each other or the signals would get crossed. They're not getting it.

So next I decide to use an analogy to something more familiar to them. I explain that it's just like plumbing. You have a hot water source (driver) and a cold water source and they each use separate pipes (wires) to reach their respective loads and those pipes can't intersect each other just like wires can't. But it turns out that the NH doesn't understand plumbing any better than they understand electronics.

At that point I'm getting flustered and I tried to figure out how how to make this even easier to understand. I decide the wires are now hallways in a building, and the vias are stairways between hallways on different floors and there are multiple sets of hallways that people can use without ever running into the people in the other sets of hallways. For some reason that didn't work either.

At that point I had to explain that this wasn't going to work out because it gets a lot more complicated than this. My co-worker went back to their PC configuration role. We had previously had a good relationship, but they held a grudge against me until the day they were laid off, possibly longer, because I couldn't properly explain wires to them.

So I work as a waitress, have been for the past 5 years in the same place (ew ik).
There’s this chef, who imma call zig zag cause that’s what his hair is doing, the hair he has left ig.

Last xmas we had a xmas work party in a hotel nearby, it was great, we got drink tokens and all so I was pretty much drunk due to my #lightweight brain. It was around three hours in when the band took a break and everyone headed to the bar. Zig Zag was there and offered to get me a drink, I refused. He then kissed my cheek and grabbed my ass before I was able to shove him off me. Mind u this dude is like 7ft tall and stocked with muscle. I’m like 5’6 and 20 yrs old, this dude is like mid 50s.

I immediately told my friend which was overheard by one of our own bartenders who practically dragged the chef out by his shirt. Zig Zag was able to get back in by the outdoor smoking area, which I didn’t know. As I was heading to the bathroom he tried grabbing my hair and pulling me until a security guard noticed and kicked him out.

He wasn’t fired, didn’t leave, he still works with us.
Today I’m in work and I needed food for a table I was on. I called out the order and he made a pretty sexual remark on how I talk ‘like a virgin’. I ignored him, as it’s not the first time He’s talked like that but I’m getting sick and tired of him.

hello 24 Female here.

A supervisor of another department asking whether I am virgin or not just inappropriate or harassment?

office setting Finance department- University

my complaint to HR is in progress but needed feedback whether I am overreacting or not .

personally I felt so so weird also I am student employee

So I've met this coworker last November and like day one she invites me to her parents house since it was on the way back to our plant. She said it was getting close to lunch and her parents typically have leftovers. She invited me in and her mom made me some soup. And I don't know I guess I developed feelings. And then it was small things after that like telling me I have long eyelashes or telling me how smart I am or things like telling me how much her mom likes me over her boyfriend

But I know it's not real she has a boyfriend and they're taking a trip in December. She keeps complaining to me about him but I know it's just a friendly way to complain and I should just stop imagining us

hello, so basically I'm doing an internship in some reputed company. Our team has 3 members including my TL. It is basically a sales and operations internship, the third team member is cousin of my TL and we joined on the same day and now I'm observing that she, on the regular basis says she is ill, she cant work or we can say that she makes excuses and works barely. Even today i asked for some task that was assigned to both of us and when I checked after a while I saw that only I'm doing and she as usual was sitting with one of her hands on the mouse pad and was scrolling with the other... Later we had a small meeting and the task was again assigned I asked for the low effort work which was actually different from the last task and asked TL to assign that task to her, as usual she again made an excuse and took the task and I'm again doing the same thing. And now after a while I saw her roaming around like she is very energetic.

If uh guys wanna say something, go ahead. I was just venting here.

Peace 🕊️

I started a new job a few months ago and somewhere along the way I developed a crush on one of my coworkers. The annoying part is that I wasn't even looking for one.

He's attractive, confident, funny, and somehow keeps getting even more attractive every week. Every time I think I'm over it, he does something small—cracks a joke, walks past me, or we end up talking—and I'm back to square one.

Nothing inappropriate has happened. We work together professionally and I keep things respectful because I know dating coworkers can get messy. Still, it's hard when you see someone almost every day.

Has anyone else had a coworker crush that eventually went away? Or did it actually turn into something?

Hello, I need some perspective. I really cannot understand this behaviour.

For context, he is 50sM and I’m a recent graduate in my early 20s. We work in the same team but he isn't my boss.

At the office, his behavior toward me has been incredibly tense and rigid. On a daily basis, it feels like he straight-up avoids me or intentionally freezes me out, while being completely normal, polite, and pleasant with all the other women on the team.

A couple of weeks ago, our team went on an international business trip for a corporate workshop. Even there, he was visibly cold toward me and it was crystal clear that he was trying his best not to talk to me. Throughout the entire trip, we talked for a maximum of 10 minutes total. When we did talk, we mostly laughed, but then he would immediately vanish.

Then, he would suddenly come back for just 5 minutes, drop highly inappropriate, borderline sexual jokes targeted specifically at me, and disappear again. During a team dinner and while we were out, he came over to make a joke calling me a "best blower," brought up that I wpuld join videochat , and even joked that I must "fantasize about someone" after drinking wine.

Now, to be clear: I wasn’t offended by the humor itself, ot might be just a joke. What bothered me is the fact that he did this only with me.

There is another girl on our team who is also in her 20s. His dynamic with her was completely different. He talked with her a lot more, was perfectly polite, and even flattered her by asking if she is a model. He never made any inappropriate or sexual jokes with her or anyone else. I was the only target for those comments.

On top of the jokes, during those brief 5 minutes when he would reappear, he actually complimented me, telling me his perception of me had changed and that I’m "cool." I may also add that we have a lot in common, music taste, our perspective in life and we like the same alcohol. When we talked about first impressions I told him i am sure you thought I was a bit bitchy, mean, and he replied by "some men really like that".

But the moment we got back to the office? Right back to the complete silent treatment. He acts like I don't exist and refuses to talk to me normally. Yet, at the same time, he casually lets it slip that he remembers random personal details about me, like my specific music tastes.

I’m getting major mixed signals. He acts like he can't stand me and ignores me daily, but then goes out of his way to target me with highly inappropriate jokes before vanishing again, while treating every other girl normally.

Why would a man his age treat the youngest girl like that? Is he intimidated because I stand my ground professionally, is it a twisted power game, or is he trying to keep me off-balance? How would you interpret this behavior?

One Friday night we had a company event (investment bank), and we were all a little drunk so a bunch of us kicked on at a nightclub afterwards. I was in a taxi on the way to the club with a woman from HR. One thing led to another and we were fully making out in the back seat, hands wandering everywhere. She was married.

Anyway, later in the night she went home. I then somehow ended up in a laneway with another woman from HR, making out with her and hands under clothing etc. She was so cute. Single.

Come Monday morning, I had to return to a professional relationship with both of them. Awkward. I'm panicking because if they found out that had happened to both of them within a few hours then they could team up to destroy me. I worried every day that my name might come up between them. But in hindsight, I guess they breached company policy too.

EDIT: This happened previously, it's not a live situation

I just wanted to tell some of the insane things my coworker has said to me.

For context, I have worked with this coworker for going on 6 years, I met my husband through my job and we just celebrated our one year anniversary of marriage.

When me and my husband first started communicating my coworker would genuinely get angry if me and my husband even spoke to each other in front of him at work, he would make snide comments regarding the fact that “we were flirting” or that we “looked like we wanted to make out with each other” when most of the time our conversations would just be us telling each other goodbye in the afternoons or good morning in the mornings. Nothing crazy.

Before there was actually any verbal confirmation that me and my husband were talking past being friends. My coworker actually went through my phone (I used to not have a passcode on my phone so he was just able to pick it up and look through it) and went through mine and my husband’s messages and took pictures of our conversations. The only way I found out he went through my phone was because he sent me a picture of something my husband had texted me (it was like heart emoji or something along those lines)

Once me and my husband started officially dating my coworker genuinely acted like we were in a relationship and I cheated on him. He called me “fake” and referred to me as “fakey” for at least 3 months.

He refused to go the company dinner because he said “it’s going to make me sick” referring to seeing me and my then boyfriend (now husband) arrive together, sit together, and leave together. That was the first company dinner he hadn’t attended in 6 years.

My husband will text me sometimes during the day and tell me he loves me, a lot of the times my phone is on the work counter and it will be face up. For example, today my husband texted me and sent me a picture of some flowers he saw while he was out on a job. My coworker happened to be standing over my shoulder and he made a comment along the lines of “damn can’t leave each other alone can you” mind you that was the first text my husband had sent me all day.

Now my coworker has started commenting on my looks, saying I’ve gotten far in life because of my looks, and that I have pretty privilege. He made a comment recently that was along the lines of “I’d like to see you 50lb heavier and see if you get the same attention” like WTF who says stuff like that???? He made that comment in reference to the fact that a lot of times if some of the techs are in at work and they see me lifting something heavy, or carrying some they will offer to carry it for me. My coworker doesn’t see that as them polite/respectful he sees it as them doing it because they are attracted to me.

I have a coworker—he’s my boss (among other things)—who I’ve fallen for. We’ve been working together for years, and a few months ago I made it very clear to him for the first time that I like him. He reacted strongly, so I knew it had gotten to him. After a few weeks, we were at a company party, talked a lot, and got a little closer. A week later, everything was still okay at work, but then he got sick and we didn’t see each other for two weeks. When we saw each other again, he was acting weird. He was afraid to come over to me, and when we talked, he was super nervous. Since then, it’s been a crazy push-pull. He’s 40, has been single for years, might have a fear of commitment or intimacy, gets embarrassed easily (especially about anything related to his personal life), and finds a lot of things embarrassing. At work, he initiates physical contact, but it’s all stuff you can brush off as “just work.” I, on the other hand, touch him quite often, and I think he likes it too. I once asked him out on a date, which he flat-out refused (that was about 4 months after I went on the “offensive”). So, now I’m in a bind. I don’t know if this guy has feelings for me or not. When we talk, he stumbles over his words, and sometimes his face, neck, and ears turn red. Sometimes he does things on purpose: coming over to me, making up work excuses, rushing to the hair salon when I tell him to go, going over to other women and glancing at me to see “if I noticed.” Any suggestions?

I am a 30f that works in vet med as a vet assistant while I'm back in school to become a tech. They hired another assistant 2 weeks after me that wanted to cross train for reception and assistant. She is 21 with zero animal experience and I've been working with animals for around 4 years. She's your typical "know-it-all" and comes from a sheltered and religious background from what I've gathered. She was never very friendly from the moment she started. She began stealing my locker to the point where she will take my bag out of my locker and put her things in there. I started 2 weeks before her and claimed that locker on my first day. She also tries to compete with me and the other assistant. She will blame her errors on us and micromanage us. After talking with her a little bit I figured out her personality is just naturally extremely competitive like she has something to prove. She told me how distraught she was when she didn't make valedictorian in high school. 😂 She does not seem like she's at all cut out for vet med. She can learn things no problem but it's the fact that she is not super comfortable with the animals and she can't stand strong smells which is hilarious considering what we deal with daily. She is a huge baby. I'm a bit frustrated because I absolutely love everything about my job except her and I have to work with her every day. She thinks she knows better than the veterinarians and I'm just waiting until they decide to let her go. Please vet med gods, listen to my prayer 😂

Ours is a big office and i have a seperate compartment. She usually hangs out with me there sometimes for an hour or 2. I rarely go upto her place but i do go to her place and spend time with her like 15 mins if i dont see her. But one day she comes to my cabin and says that she is sick and tired of wasting her time there and storms off while other coworkers of mine were present there. She always comes there to talk to me.

I think I messed up my chances!

2 Saturdays ago, I went out to a bar with friends and 2 coworkers. I got pretty drunk. I ended up dancing in front of a coworker and we ended up making out. I know he was sober because he was driving that night. I remember telling him I thought he was cute, and he said I was cute too. Don’t know who initiated the kiss though. We didn’t really talk about it much after that.

On Monday, he texted me first asking how my hangover was. We talked about the night and laughed it off. At one point I joked and said I can’t continue drinking around him anymore because I’ll “keep pursuing him,” and he replied, “let’s keep drinking then.” I also told him I’m trying to find out what he’s all about and why my friend was obsessed with him. Random fact: he was talking to a friend a while back and I found out randomly. Such a small world. I also said “I do it better” he said he’s trying to find out. That was stupid of me to do.

We kept texting pretty normal talking about working out and he joked about getting buff. I said he was already fit. Then he said he might end up looking like one of my past crushes (he named him and said he was huge). He also brought up another coworker who used to be into me and had been so persistent with going out with me. Conversation got weird.

After that, I stopped replying because I suddenly felt sad and confused.

For context, I’ve actually had a crush on him for a while, but I never acted on it because he used to talk about girls he was seeing and I also talked about guys I liked, so we always kept things very casual and friendly at work. He knew when I found a guy attractive or a guy I was hooking up with. I remember I joined a dating app for a week and he knew about my stories. I think I ruined my chances….or maybe there wasn’t real interest. It’s been 2 weeks since we texted and I’m not sure why I’m feeling anxiety. I didn’t reply to his last text. My friends said I acted too desperate and need to have him look for him but I think this was a bad idea.
Do you think I ruined my chances by going silent? Or if he were genuinely interested, would he have reached out again over the last two weeks anyway?

I started a new job at a medical warhouse about a month ago. I was one of about 6 new hires that came in in batches of 3. Now I arrived in the first batch with 2 other people. The only important character is a 50 year old woman ill call kooky. She's a lesbian former drug dealer who according to her has done time in jail. Real from the streets type or so she says.

Now believe it or not we got along quit well, friendly even. She gave me her number and invited me on an outings with her family. She would compliment me often, tell me her entire life story and even hug me on occasion. I include this to say were were quite friendly

Now about a month after we get hired, another batch of people come in. One of which I'm instantly drawn to. Ill call her maria, She was an incredibly beautiful latina woman. Now initially I'm hesitant to engage with her at all. I like to keep to myself at work and would rather not get involved with someone I work with. But she was very friendly towards me, even called me "papi" as a greeting. Some of the other women, kooky included, didn't like her. So to keep the peace I was often paired with her.

Now the enticing incident happened about 3 days into our blossoming friendship. We were at lunch together, sitting at the same table and one of the managers pulls up. I was offered a position I didn't like and rejected it. So managment was offering it to her as well. She was objectively a very good worker better than a majority of the others. So I was explaining my experience with the position alongside the manager.

Later on kooky was complaining about maria, how she geeks preferential treatment due to her looks. How much she hates management, and how she heard management was talking about with Maria but didn't know about what. This is where i fucked up. In my stupidity I let slip I already knew about maria talking to managment. Kooky then peppers me with questions. To which I just say "its not my business to tell, you'll have to ask her yourself" she then asked if the conversation had anything to do with her. And I say no. The conversation then ends there with her, in my mind, playfully teasing me about not being shit.

Now I come in the next day and as usual say hello to kooky in passing, she walks past me and doesn't speak. I think she just didn't hear me. I get to my station and she there. So I say hello again...and that's where it all goes to crap.

She starts laying into me about me being a phony friend, calling me the f-slur multiple times, the n-word, just cursing me out. The goes on to say that "if not for this job she would beat my ass in the street" ect ect"I hope her pussy is worth our friendship" ect ect Just pacing back and forth agitated. I genuinly thought she might swing at me. Saying that since she told me gossip and a bunch of her own business, I should have done the same.

I should also add kooky is a gossip and has gotten in trouble before. So of course I'm not telling her anything. And I generally don't gossip which she knew.

After this tirade, I'm standing there absolutely dumbfounded. I just walk away and start working for 15 minutes until I come to my senses and go tell manganent about what happend. Cause imo a former gang banging, drug dealer who went to jail for guns and drugs Saying if not for this job they'd beat my ass....is a bit threatening.

So after I tell mangment and write a statment they send me back to work. Im very specific in this statement and i tell them i do not feel comfortable nor safe around kooky becsuse she threatened me physically multiple times. Then about an hour or so later I'm called into a meeting. They then bring kooky in as well...cut to the lead and my manager saying "we know you to had a....little altercation. Yall need to keep these things outside of work and act professional, were LIKE A FAMILY HERE, it be best if you to can shake hands and bury the hatchet..."

To say I was enraged was putting it mildly after he finished the speech, I took off my uniform and resigned effective immediately. Then all hell broke loose. People were talking all over each other, begging me not to quit, kooky then cut in and told me not to quit and asked "if I apologize will thay make u feel better" I tell her absolutely not! After calling me slurs and threatening me for no reason, and apologizing aint gonna cut it. She then proceeded to lie about the encounter infront of managment!

At that point I decide enough is enough and head to the door when I'm stopped by the warhouse manager. To make a long story short. My supervisor lied to him about the incident I reported and he didn't read my statment himself. Once he was informed of whay actually happened and the fact that there was a witness he sent kooky packing immediately and was very apologetic. But by that point I was done. Between the incident itself and managment lying and trying to brush it under the rug, along with many other unrelated issues with the job I left. And the worst part is....I didn't even get maria number. A truly generational loss

Tldr I try and get to know the new hire, one of my other coworkers wanted dirt on her, I decline to share, all hell breaks loose. Slurs are thrown, threats levied and lies told. I quit mid shift.

How can I deal with a coworker who wont stop talking? I started my dream job 3 weeks ago, but I've been dealing with a coworker who is draining all my energy from constant talking.

From the time we get there until the time we leave her mouth is yapping. I'm still learning and still in training so when I try to do tasks that I really need to concentrate on its hard to do when someone is talking to you.

She is training me and we share an office so I have no escape from her. I've been coming home every day exhausted. I've been spending time at night doing things I cant do at work because I have no time to concentrate.

Someone please tell me how to deal with this in a nice way because what I really want to say is STFU.