r/coworkerstories

WTF. Alright so I kinda figured this guy had a crush on me. He randomly texted me one time to ask me about my day and would get nervous all the time when we talked in person. One time I made a joke saying “you look scared of me and avoid me.” He told me likes to stay professional at work and doesn’t want people getting the wrong ideas.

He had asked me to go out for drinks once but I kept postponing it because of my busy schedule. We work in different departments. I bumped into him at work today and we chatted a bit. An hour later he texted me asking what I was doing tonight? We made plans to go out for drinks. I went to his office and he was super avoidant when I wanted to ask if we could carpool. I went back to my office and later texted me that he rather go on his own cause he didn’t want people getting the wrong impression. He told me there’s been rumors and would tell me in person.

We went to dinner and things were cool. He started getting vulgar saying he likes thick girls. He also said his coworkers from his department made vulgar remarks about me when I walked in with some tight leggings. He said they were asking him if we were smashing.

Long story short, he told me he has a 6 month old baby and he lives with his gf. He said his gf is chill and is aware he’s a flirt. I felt so awkward. He looked so drunk at that point. I told him it was best I left …I told him I was going to call a guy I like. (Trying to friend zone him here). He said “are you wet? Do you need me to f*** you?” I felt so uncomfortable and told him we should leave. He got super close to me and told me “alright i gotta tell you something. I think you’re so pretty and you got a nice little booty. I want to f*ck you” I was livid.

He then called me almost like he was crying and kept apologizing! Before I hung up he said “I can give you good c0ck”

He texted an hour later asking if I got home safe and he enjoyed the company.

I’m soooooooooo petrified !!!!!!! wtf is wrong with ppl.

70 year old co worker was ranting and raving about how great ChatGPT is. He then proudly proclaimed that he used it to write his brothers eulogy. I felt bad but I could not stop laughing. It’s so funny how quick we have given up all personal thought.

Can people not write their own Eulogy about their own brother without AI writing 90% of it. He clarified that he only edited a few bits here and there.

Anyone else’s team have a team lunch every week. I do and I’m sick of it! We have lunch every week that last for two hours. It feels so forced, and I’m not interested at all. It’s enough to work 40 hours a week together but a two hour lunch each week is overkill. We all sit at a table and talk about work and their personal lives. I’m so over it!!

So I'm in a weird spot right now where my previous Asshole boss (who says he's resigning but I heard he was fired from being the boss) is essentially helping new boss figure out how things work.

I work on a golf course as maintenance and my main job is mowing around greens and teeboxes as well as areas no other mower can get to for various reasons. And I heard from a golfer that my previous Asshole boss was bitching at my current New boss because I was constantly using my mower and how I should've been doing blah blah blah.

Which makes no sense to me because it's Spring. The grass is basically sprouting up overnight and looking like I haven't mowed it at all which means I have to mow it again. Especially since it would be INCREDIBLY stupid if the Rough around the Fairway was lower than the Rough right next to the Green.

I then heard from my old Nice boss who quit because of said former Asshole boss (yes, it's complicated) that he had also been hearing shit from Asshole boss because...he was sick of hearing my mower.

Asshole was sick of hearing me run this loud ass piece of shit mower that MULTIPLE PEOPLE told him NOT to buy.

Instead he wants to push more work off onto the sole worker cutting the Rough of the entire golf course by themselves. They are barely keeping up as is and his bright idea is to cut back on me mowing my areas and instead give them to the Rough mower. So like instead of me mowing an area like 2 Green then Rough mower does that too on top of all of their current shit.

Meanwhile just last week, my Coworker was asking me to help them cut sections of the Rough so they could actually get it all done on time. Yes, give them MORE things to do when they are barely keeping up with what they already do. Great idea!

I'm honestly still dwelling on the part where Asshole vouched for this brand new machine that I ran for 5 minutes, could tell was a piece of shit, told him that it was shit, he told me I was just exaggerating because I was just used to using the other brand of machine, and now he's apparently mad that we DARE keep use the machine that HE alone wanted.

Nobody ever liked it except him...up until he finally ran it after months of me bitching about issues and literal years of it breaking down all the time, even brand new.

But no, time to get mad and try to make one coworker take on way more shit than they can handle and take it out on others 🙄

I can't wait till he stops being a hovering presence constantly taking out his anger on other people for no reason.

I have worked with my coworker K for years at a mid level company on a small team. A couple of years ago we had a coworker who needed to go out for medical leave for about 6 months. Duties were rearranged and since I was the only one who was trained in their very detail oriented job, it was decided that I would take over their duties and K would take over some of mine. I spent a week training K in a job that was not hard, just annoying and agreed to help out when I could but still had ownership of a few items.

Suffice to say it did not work out well. They would ask the same questions over and over expecting a different answer than the one that I would give and then would just do whatever they wanted. I ended up doing most of the work anyway while they took credit and bragged to the team about how well they were doing.

By the time our team member returned from leave, I was completely burned out and spent over a month cleaning up the mess K left. Fast forward about 6 months and I had vacation scheduled. I was only going to be out a few days not a full week and K was assigned to handle my work. Unfortunately that was not what happened.

I got as ahead on my work as I could and let K know what was important and they were told by management to ask for help on their regularly assigned work from the rest of the team. Well that didn’t happen.

I came back to work after a few days to find out that almost none of my work was done. I asked around and K was not busy during this time and never asked anyone else on the team to help them. K just didn’t want to do the job, so they didn’t. Unfortunately the day after I came back, I got assigned a massive amount of work on top of all the work that wasn’t done for 4 days and I fell extremely behind. It would have been fine if I had been caught up but it only made the problem worse. I begged for help and K was told to help me but would only do a little here and there, nothing that dug me out of the whole they put me in. It took way too long to get my work back to where it had been and I was at complete burnout again by the end.

About 4 months ago K needed to have surgery and was out for a month. Everyone in the team pitched in and we kept their work up to date and even continued to help them out when they returned since they were still recovering. A follow up surgery was scheduled last month and K was scheduled to be off for about 3 weeks. Since it put such a strain on the team last time management decided to hire a temp to fill in for them. K and the temp trained for a week and it seemed to go ok.

During this time I had a family emergency and had to take a week and a half off to deal with it, and K and I ended up returning on the same day. Thankfully the person assigned to back me up this time did an amazing job. I did not come back to a dumpster fire, and all work that was supposed to be done was done and I was able to step back in seamlessly. K was not so lucky.

Apparently our temp only did about 20% of the work and much of it was done wrong. K asked me to help with a few things and I agreed since I didn’t want to do to them what they did to me but I could not help but feel some satisfaction. Karma came and paid them back and I have decided to take the high road and let it be. I still do not trust K to back me up but maybe they learned a lesson and won’t do the same to another person in the future.

Hello everyone,

I am a foreigner working as an engineer in Europe for the past three years. This is my 2nd job here. I just found this sub so i am going to write my story here.

During my first job i reported my racist colleague to manager and asked for his advice. I only said that i have never been in this kind of situation and i do not know what to do. He told me you did good by reporting this to me and let me take care of this. Things looked good for sometime. After few days i went home and came back next day to completely strange environment. Everyone in the company boycotted me including that manager. Everyone stopped talking to me, they would not respond to my salutations and pretend they didn't hear a thing. They would not share table with me during lunch. They would not assign me any work at all so they don't have to talk to me. Imagine being in a foreign country with no friends and the people you spend whole day with loathe you. I became depressed and eventually 6 months later i left the company after fulfilling my contractual obligation. I don't want to be in this kind of situation and would not wish it on my worst enemies. Mind you this was a multinational companies with branches in 8 countries and production plants in 4 including US. During first few weeks of this boycott i fixed meetings with manager and colleagues to ask them what happened and their response was everyone has their own worries. I brought it up in weekly meetings few times and they would just avoid it and finally i was kicked out of weekly meetings.

This all happened 2 months before my first daughter was born and everyone knew i was overwhelmed at the time.

Why are racist people heartless and why can't everyone live in peace. Everyone is trying to take care of themselves, their families and their kids.

Ps.

Three weeks after i quit the job they approached me in hope that i would come back. This was because that racist colleague was backbone of our department and he left which made them desperate i think.

I walked out today! I work in a kitchen with 2 shitty ass managers. 1 is just tired of the job and being understaffed and the other is.....

So, i work point. Ive been self learning broil and fry because they take off and i want to perform. She just got promoted to manager which is crap because her son works the line too 18 y.o and its definitely a conflict of interest now. She works mornings just FYI I close

Last week they got slammed b4 I came in she was silent til she left, today she tried to avoid saute and delegate me on point. I dont need her help so I asked her to hit fry since they had orders. I guess she got pissed

Expo asks ETA, I call it out and called drops for other stuff she ignored it all, gave me plates on her own time, didnt stock anything THEN after the rush she walks up and says "go ahead an clean that counter down there its really dirty"

She definitely did it out of spite because I never use that shelf and I responded with "wow u cant communicate but now u wana tell me 2 clean something"

Her "well iam your boss so u have to do it....."

Me "Thats now how you lead a kitchen you can do it have a good night doll"

The managers watched her ignore my call outs. I text the GM of the restaurant and she ignored the family conflict of interest and then she said i needed to to self inventory that the other manager is new to management and she needs to learn better.

FUCK THAT! being new to management is definitely no excuse for petty revenge and abuse of authority not only did they deflect everything about her failing her basic function of her job but are they sugar coating it and making it my fault? They said me walking out made me look bad

I told both managers and they saw her silent treatment bullshit and they bypassed it. I told them me walking out was a reflection of insubordinate management and they bypassed that with "shes new to management we can fix this show up for the rest of your shifts and we can fix it but we all have a part to play" No talk or training is going to fix her petty bullshit attitude

Morale of the story. The job was fun and easy but toxic management ruined that I dont think going back will work out

She’s been caught stealing, she’s been caught damaging property, onto the next fireable offense-looking through our personal information file drawer.

She’s gotten away so much that I’ve pretty much given up on going to my bosses when I do see her doing something that we’re not supposed to be doing.

Our bosses want us to bring up issues we have with coworkers but, the only coworker I have issues with never seems to face any consequences for doing something wrong that I should be reporting. So why bother?

I try to mind my own business and clock in/out, but when I do witness something that’s wrong, I try to bring it up to my bosses. My entire time at work, I’ve went to HR once and it was for racism. Otherwise I avoid trying to be a work snitch.

I also only bring up problems that I know people in the past have gotten fired for on the spot because I’ve witnessed them getting fired on the spot for it like stealing and yes we have evidence of her doing it.

Almost everyone on the team has gone to our bosses about issues with her-Including the other two coworkers who also have high seniority over her.

Like today for example.

My other coworker was about to leave, and she saw her going through our bosses files.

These are the No No files. They have everyone’s private information on them, there’s also work information on them that we aren’t supposed to know about.

I have massive seniority over everyone here and even I don’t go behind the desk to touch these files.
I actively avoid touching my bosses desk because it’s a fired on the spot situation. I’m that deathly terrified of touching these files. I don’t even like looking at open notebooks unless there’s a note directly with my name on it.

So obviously my other coworker was alarmed about her going through these files. But because this coworker is very combative, she tried to do it in away where she wouldn’t catch on.

She asked “What are you doing”

“Oh I’m looking for (item that someone else took)”

“Well why would that item be in that drawer. You’re not supposed to be looking through those files”

So she texted my other coworker to let her know about it.

And it’s not even an item she needs because another problem we have with her is that she hoards items and supplies that she doesn’t need and that’s why my other boss (who’s been substituting for my current boss) took it from her. I’ve also lowkey been doing the same thing, taking items back that she’s taken from our supply closet that she doesn’t need but just takes because she’s a hoarder. It’s another thing on the long list of things that we have issues with her and have went to our bosses about and she still does it.

The only problem is our boss is out for the week due to personal reasons.

And now, three coworkers who’ve had issues with her in the past have to tell our boss that there’s another fireable offense she’s committed. But-will we actually be listened to and will she face consequences? I doubt it. It’s why I’ve given up.

So I (41M) work with a middle-aged female coworker in the F&B business, and I think things just came to a head last night.

My read on her situation is that she is a lonely person (not necessarily romantically but just in general) and keeps seeking validation - I dont know if its specifically from me, or everyone in general. And quite frankly, she says the most useless, inane things that I dont know how to respond to, and she gets pissy and irritated when I dont respond.

Some examples of things she has said:

- Her phone is on the ground, and she places an apple on top of it. She then says "oh look! I have an apple phone!"

- She looks at a mop bucket that has a bunch of hair stuck in the strainer from after mopping. "Oh jeez, I wonder how much DNA is in there!"

- And last night she was listening to some gospel/praise music out loud on her phone. With a lot of these gospel/praise concerts, there is a lot of prayer/worshipping involved where the singer doesnt sing. During one of those monologues, she asks me if I know the song...

The singer is clearly not singing, and I take a moment to think how I should explain to her, without making her feel dumb, that I dont know what song it is because he is not singing the song.

And of course, she gets pissy/frustrated that I dont respond immediately.

Later on in shift, she hands me a drink that a customer didn't pick up for me to drink. I tell her thanks, and she... hesitates for a few seconds with a disdainful look on her face, clearly getting back at me for the previous conversation about the singer.

Later, she opens up her lunch Tupperware and starts saying something about her vegetables, I clearly was not interested at that point, I did not want to entertain her or put up with her begging for attention.

Even more later on in the shift, as I'm talking to another coworker and walking backwards, I accidentally bump into her. I say, "oh, I'm sorry!" She responds with "no, youre fine!" And then looks at me and smiles... and stares.

Ok, a few minutes later I see her again and she looks at me and smiles again...

Is this... is this what I think it is?

Whatever the case, I just do not have the mental or emotional space to constantly validate this person.

I will say, to be fair, that I do have a bit of a reputation at work for not listening to people well. I have been dealing with health issues for over a decade that does impede my ability to manage my emotions, and therefore ability to respond to people well.

But honestly... there's nothing I can do it. It sounds like an excuse, but I genuinely do not have the capacity because of my health issues.

WIBTA if I just ignored or Grey rocked her? Or AITA for not entertaining and responding to everyone's attempts at small talk?

I work as a night security guard, and the security guard who works during the day is my co-worker, towards whom I am suddenly developing a kind of hatred.

Last night I arrived at work as usual, around 6:30 p.m., and when I got there, the security post was completely dark, with no lights on. I had the feeling that the day guard had left. I'm not bothered by his leaving, since we had discussed a secret place to hide the key to the front door before he left, I checked and the key was not there either. the main gate was also locked which enforced that really the security guard is gone home before my arrival.

I started calling him on the phone to ask where he was, but it was useless and he kept lying to me, saying he was at the security post.

Therefore, I called our security supervisor who lives quite far from the security post, but he drove his motorcycle and then came to the premises and made me sit on the back of his motorcycle to go and get the co-worker; he had turned off his mobile phone at that time. (hereinafter , I will replace the term ‘coworker’ with ‘fool’).

We arrived at a large, unfinished, unlit building. We got out and went inside, looking for the fool. We had barely walked in when we saw his shoes and clothes scattered everywhere. We searched several rooms until we reached one where the fool was asleep in his underwear, completely drunk. We asked him where the key to his workplace was, and he replied that he had left it at the workplace, the supervisor even suggested he is afraid the fool might have lost it.

It was clear we weren't going to get the key, so we left the drunk in his makeshift room. The supervisor called the owner of the property where we worked as security guards and lied, saying I couldn't get in, so he should leave his house and come open the entrance gate with his spare key, he lived quite close. This happened around 7 p.m.

Then the supervisor left, leaving me to wait alone. I waited and called the client, who also assured me he would arrive soon. I waited until he showed up around 10:30 p.m. None of the keys he brought opened the front door, so his son, who was with him, had to jump the door and enter the property. We discovered the key was at the security post but the fool had accidentally locked the front door and kept the keys in the room

My coworker showed up this morning, half-drunk from last night's drinking, saying he was disappointed that I called the supervisor. Imagine that, I decided to confront him about his childish and stupid behavior.

It also made me think about how absurd it is that marijuana is so demonized in my country while alcohol, which is far more harmful, is legal. I've had coworkers who smoked marijuana, and nobody acts like the fool who drinks alcohol; it's definitely harmful.

We just got a new kid, it's his third day. Guessing right out of highschool, by his attitude and demeanor. We utilize go carts, and he's having trouble keeping our speed limit.

He was shadowing me as I cleaned through 3 of our buildings and helping out with the things our boss has shown him. I prefer to work alone, but as a woman i appreciate having a male coworker around to tag team the gendered rest rooms without worrying about people walking in.

I was making a note on my phone about what supplies needed refilling and when I looked up, he had a full bottle of dual blend #20 pointed at the middle of my face, a few inches away. He was smiling, he said nothing. I said "No, we don't do that." And he walked away and put it in the closet without a word. A few minutes later he asked if I was nervous.

Pretty sure he's just being childish, but that could, categorically, be considered assault. At best, inappropriate work behavior and ladden with misogyny. I let my manager know about the situation and suggested that he needs chemical safety training.

It's too early for this kind of stuff man.

I didn’t know where to post this.

I (25F) have a coworker (24M), who I will name Mike. We’ve been friends for a while. We did our internship together, came back full-time, and stayed friends. I have to admit, during our internships we weren’t close and only hung out when I was with other friends. But when I came back full-time, he was one of the very few people I knew, so we started hanging out more.

My best friend, who I will call Zara, also works here, but in a completely different area. I usually only meet up with her outside of work.

Going back to Mike. I thought we were just friends. We work in different departments but the same business area, so we do collaborate on a lot of things. However, whenever I hang out with Zara, he always asks, “Where’s my invite?” even when I’ve explicitly mentioned it’s a girls night. The “where’s my invite” line comes up constantly, and it’s getting really annoying. Zara does not like Mike, which is exactly why I don’t invite him.

One time, Zara and I were eating outside a sandwich place. He happened to be out with a hiking group, saw us, and literally yelled across the street, “Yo, where’s my invite?!” Like, what the heck? It’s not like he doesn't have people to hang out with; he does his own thing, and I don't go around yelling at him for invites. He does not like the things I do like shopping, reading, coffee shops. We have nothing in common. He does a lot of things, how do I know cause he told me. Barely any invites, when I do get invites it’s for event I don’t like.

Another instance: Zara and I went to a pottery event hosted by our company, which Mike actually helped organize. He saw me at work later and was like, “How come I didn’t get an invite?” Dude, you organized it, you can just come! He even ran into Zara alone at the grocery store later and cornered her like, “Oh, I heard you went to the pottery event, how come you guys didn’t invite me?” She told me about it later and talked about how annoying it was.

Lately, I started going to hot yoga classes. He asked me, "How come you don't invite me?" Sometimes he makes me feel so guilty that I end up inviting him. I did invite him one day, but I had to cancel last minute because of work. I told him he could still go without me, but he ended up canceling too. When I went the next day, he asked what I did, and I told him I went to the class. He goes, “Damn, you mad stingy about these invites.” Like... you can literally go on your own???!!!
I am a total homebody, so I don’t mind staying in. But he’s always judging me for it, asking, “What do you even do all day after work? Or wow you watch a lot of movie! Or omg you’re always going walking on that high school track ground!?” I live near a high school and they have an open track field that whole community uses in the evening. I see many people go running there.

Sometimes I feel so guilty that I end up hanging out with him and his friends, even though I don’t like any of them.

Anyway, getting to the main point: We hung out alone for two weekends in a row because Zara had to work overtime and I just wanted to do something outside. We hung out, and he paid for everything. I didn’t ask him to, and I even asked him to let me send him money, but he refused. I think he took the whole thing the wrong way.
Then on Sunday, he asked to go to the movies. I assumed he meant him and a couple of other people, but it turned out to be just the two of us. After the movie, he turned to me and said, “Let me take you out on a date.”

I actually said no at first. He immediately pushed back: “Come on, I can’t be as bad as the last guy.” It was so awkward, and we were standing outside in the freezing cold, so I just ended up saying yes to get out of the situation.

The next day, I doubled back. I called him and told him I didn’t want to go out because we are coworkers. (The truth is I also just don’t like him like that, but I didn’t say it). He kept pushing: “Why not? We are adults, why would working together matter? I’m moving to a different area soon anyway, how about we go out after I move?”

I had to say NO five different times and keep repeating that I don’t want to go out with someone I work with. He just couldn’t take the hint. In the end, he just dismissed it with, "We are adults, it's fine."

Maybe it’s just me, because I’m a girl in a very male dominated field, but now I find it so incredibly awkward to talk to him or be around him. Am I wrong for getting a massive ick from all the “where’s my invite” nagging, and him basically judging me for everything I do outside of work?

I’ve been at this job for a few years (longer than most of my coworkers) and I’ve had my fair share of issues to resolve with coworkers, but usually it’s a quick conversation & we’re all good. I am visibly younger, so I’m used to people overstepping boundaries at first. I was hired because of my experience & expertise (and constantly receive praise from my bosses, help my coworkers, etc., so I have no worries about my performance. However, this new coworker is very different.

Let’s call her Jodie.

Jodie transferred from a to my department as a cost consultant (this actually has very little to do with my job & we almost never have to communicate). She’s been in my meetings while I’m presenting asking questions about things that were already covered minutes prior. She treats me as though I don’t understand my work by criticizing issues that are contractor mistakes (not approved by me), and after I decide to make a specific adjustment, she’ll ask “do you mean [blank] instead?”. All pf this in front of our bosses.

There have also been occasions where she butted into conversations I was having with other coworkers about work or non work topics just to derail those conversations as well. At this point I’ve stopped talking to her.

Until I walked in on her & a coworker who does a similar job as me discussing my work with a contractor. This was very off putting, because neither of these people know processes & they didn’t mention meeting on any of these changes at all.

I don’t know what to do here. I’ve mentioned to my boss that this has been going on, but I guess now I have to worry about secret meetings to change my work?

There’s a woman at work named Cheryl and I swear every office has a version of her.

She’s not openly mean enough to get in trouble, but she somehow makes the entire atmosphere heavier the second she walks into a room. You can literally hear conversations die when she appears around the corner.

Cheryl acts like she’s management despite not actually supervising anyone. She monitors everyone constantly. If someone comes back from lunch a few minutes late, she’ll quietly say: “Half days must be nice.”

If someone calls in sick, she suddenly becomes an investigator: “Hm. They were fine yesterday.” She also has this talent for disguising criticism as concern. She’ll say things like: “You seem really tired lately. Everything okay?” in front of other coworkers so now everyone turns to look at you like you’re falling apart.

The breakroom is the worst. Someone could be talking about a new puppy, vacation plans, or literally anything enjoyable, and Cheryl somehow redirects it into negativity within thirty seconds.

Coworker: “We’re going camping this weekend.”

Cheryl: “Hope you packed emergency supplies. My cousin got stranded once and almost lost a toe.” Nobody even knows how to respond to that.

She also keeps track of things that no normal person should notice. She remembers exactly how long people take on break, who leaves early, who orders takeout too often, who seems “off” lately. She never directly accuses anyone of anything, but she says just enough to make people uncomfortable. The strangest part is she genuinely thinks she’s helpful. If there’s tension in the office that she personally caused, she’ll sit there saying: “I just think communication has really broken down around here.”

Meanwhile everyone is actively avoiding eye contact with her. At this point people schedule lunches around Cheryl. If someone sees her heading for the breakroom, they suddenly remember they “have emails to finish.” New employees usually try to be friendly with her at first, but within about two weeks they develop the same thousand-yard stare as the rest of us.

What makes it worse is there’s never a big dramatic event HR can point to. It’s just years of constant small comments, judgment, negativity, and hovering until the entire office collectively feels emotionally exhausted whenever she’s around.

I'm not bothered enough by her to leave my longterm employment, but she really does make the work week feel exhausting.

I currently work at an airport and my supervisor is properly the weirdest guy ive met he thinks we are mates which we are but when it comes to woman he's a different guy. Whenever a new girl joins who is either 18-25 he adds them on snapchat and says oh I can take you out ect etc.....

aI have a work crush atm and everyone knows it and so does he but he still carries on and trying to flirt either them, do I report him? even tho he's kinda my friend, the guys feel weirded out about it.

Every time I see him he's like "oh did you do it yet with her" but im like she's only a crush we haven't been out on a date yet.

Any advice on how to battle this?

Extremely lazy coworker, who’s been here longer than all of us, has a bad habit of trying to get us to fix her problems. And I’ve had ENOUGH!

Today she asked me to look and see if a customer had a non-pay cancellation because her home was cancelled. (As the CSR non-pays are my area.) I looked at it. Coworker was actually the one who put in a cancel request on the policy. So I sent her back a message letting her know SHE put a cancel request on the policy and that is why it is inactive. She wrote back “can we get it reinstated?” This is how she tries to get us to do something for her. Using “we” on things she alone is responsible for. When you write back things like “yeah we should be able to” she’ll say back “can you look at it?” Can you call and get it reinstated?” Things like that. I did not fall for it.

I wrote back: “You should be able to. You may have to call underwriting.” Insinuating there is no “we” in this. She is going to fix her own problems.

A lot of people need to realize that they’re simply just your colleagues and not your senior in high school or the person who pays your bills or some shit.

I walked into the office today, typically im all “good morning” and stuff I don’t really talk to people and I prefer to keep it that way. Just good morning and walk off. However this morning started rough and I wasn’t very chatty. Didn’t want to talk, didn’t even wanna be in the office but I showed up anyways & I walked to the place we supposed to clock in and a lady started subtly talking about how some “people” don’t greet. Saying she doesn’t know if it’s cos some people think they’re too beautiful or too young or better than other people that they don’t greet but to her it’s just pure foolishness. I had clocked in and immediately just walked out cos I didn’t wanna stay and keep hearing such bs. Like why tf are you entitled to a greeting from your fellow colleagues?? Because they’re younger than you?? I’m 24 btw. And doesn’t greeting go both ways? If I don’t greet you , you can equally greet me otherwise we can just go about our day. Silly lots always trying to do some senseless shit. I hate the corporate world so much.

So this has been bugging me lately and I need to get it out somewhere. So there's this coworker that did nothing for the majority of the year and I covered her tracks because at first I wanted to be nice to a new employee and also I hate drama. I was playing on jackpot daily one night and realized that I'd been stressing out and skipping lunch almost every day. Reason being of me getting the extra work for and she going home earlier. This is on me I know. After that I stopped doing it. Just did my job and only my job, no convo no drama just stopped it. Felt like I dont owe her an explanation about me not doing her job. Two weeks later she goes to our boss telling her that I've not been a team player and he gets me called in to talk about my attitude. I don't know what she told him but I cleared myself after the convo and told him my version of the story or should I say the actual version of the story. Its quite dissapointing. Like I'm the one that's having to defend myself here. Turns out the best way to be a team player is to cover for her and do two jobs and not complain once. Great system jesus. Really glad I found out that secret.

I work full time 9-5 from 3 years, in my last job including commute the trimming was 8-7 and job was extreme stressful. Everyday after office I feel extreme fatigue in my body. It was not normal i feel severe tension in my jaws and lower body hurt my neck felt so stiff. My office environment was toxic so I thought it is because of stress so i tried hard found another job with less working hours and days. Relaxed environment. But I still feel same tension stress and extreme exhaustion now my trimmings are 8:30 to 5:30.

But situation is same it is so stressfull i need help. During my previous job i visited doctor explained everything and he said the same its stress but now i changed it less working hour and days.

My hb is 13.5 overall good, 24F and all reports are clear i always had abnormal rbc in past that is the same other than that everything is fine.

I (30F) work in office and have been in my position for 3.5 years. I have worked under the same supervisor this entire time. Almost 2.5 years ago, my coworker ‘Madi’ (30F) started on our team.

When Madi first started, she clung to our supervisor James (55M) very fast. She was always at his desk talking to him. At first, I chalked it up to her learning the role.

But as the years progressed, her behavior toward him has only escalated. Some examples:

1. When I returned back from vacation in 2024, she asked if our supervisor texted me while I was away. After I told her no, she said “Oh, James always texts me when I’m on vacation, saying wish you were here (the office).”

2. She has drawn pictures for James on his whiteboard. During winter, she drew a snowman titled “Frosty James Jr”

3. She asked other supervisors of when James’ 25 work anniversary was. When she found out, she decorated the entire office and bought him a cake.

4. A few weeks ago, another worker told me Madi referred to herself as the “best worker” on James’ team.

5. She follows James around like a puppy dog. Everything he says is hilarious, and she makes a point to laugh very loud.

6. She refers to herself as James’ secretary.

There are more examples, but it’s getting to a point where it’s affecting my mental health. Unfortunately I’m past the point of being cordial. When I think of her, look at her, or hear her speak, I’m instantly filled with disgust. When we are in the same room, I don’t look at her or talk to her.

I want nothing more than for her to leave, but she won’t. I also feel a lot of her behavior is targeted toward me since I’m the only worker ahead of her seniority-wise on James’ team.