pronouns = gender and anyone who is imposed to that probably identifies as a cat.
If you use she u are a woman
he is a man
they is non binary meaning ‘no gender, neither male/female’.
How are you using he/they. How are you a man but not. Or how are you using she/he. Are you both male and female?
If you’re a man who dates a man, you’re in a gay relationship.
If you’re a woman that dates women, you’re in a lesbian relationship.
If you’re a bisexual woman who is dating a man, you’re in a straight relationship, same goes for a bi man with a woman, straight relationship.
So i’m 20, a woman and live in kildare.
I’ve like two close friends and both I rarely ever get to see since they both live pretty far away.
Anyone know how to make friends in Kildare or even Dublin…and please don’t suggest yubo
I also am lowkey kindaaaa anti social. Especially if it’s my first time meeting someone. I tried so many clubs and sports growing up and left them all bc I hated talking to people…it’s a wonder I have friends at all
So I work as a waitress, have been for the past 5 years in the same place (ew ik).
There’s this chef, who imma call zig zag cause that’s what his hair is doing, the hair he has left ig.
Last xmas we had a xmas work party in a hotel nearby, it was great, we got drink tokens and all so I was pretty much drunk due to my #lightweight brain. It was around three hours in when the band took a break and everyone headed to the bar. Zig Zag was there and offered to get me a drink, I refused. He then kissed my cheek and grabbed my ass before I was able to shove him off me. Mind u this dude is like 7ft tall and stocked with muscle. I’m like 5’6 and 20 yrs old, this dude is like mid 50s.
I immediately told my friend which was overheard by one of our own bartenders who practically dragged the chef out by his shirt. Zig Zag was able to get back in by the outdoor smoking area, which I didn’t know. As I was heading to the bathroom he tried grabbing my hair and pulling me until a security guard noticed and kicked him out.
He wasn’t fired, didn’t leave, he still works with us.
Today I’m in work and I needed food for a table I was on. I called out the order and he made a pretty sexual remark on how I talk ‘like a virgin’. I ignored him, as it’s not the first time He’s talked like that but I’m getting sick and tired of him.
So for some context I F21 work as a waitress in a hotel for parties, weddings and such. Been here five years so I’ve got my handful of creeps and drunk idiots.
Last month I was working at a wedding, an American one. I’m saying that only bc I live in Ireland so when we get American weddings they’re ALWAYS THE SAME.
“i won’t tip bc it’s not mandatory here” then laughs for the whole table. Who gives a fuck john, either tip me or don’t, couldn’t care less.
Anywho…The party was going on for hours and by midnight the floor staff had gone home so I started collecting a few glasses myself. That’s when I came up to a table and one of the women (MILF) tipped me €50…which is like A LOT!?!?!
I thanked her and placed it in the tip jar. Later on behind the bar she came up and asked why I didn’t pocket the money, I explained we share the tips between floor staff, bar staff and kitchen crew.
She asked if she could give me a personal tip (which we’re allowed). She handed me a crisp €100 note. Something I have NEVER seen in my whole life.
I refused the amount but she placed it in my pocket. She then asked a bit about me. I told her the basic, I’m a student, Work part time. She asked when I finish. I told her 3am.
She stood waiting outside at 3am, offered me a cigarette which I turned down. She asked If i have a bf. I said i’ve a gf. She smiled…in a weird way.
Mind you she was like 40-50 ish too.
She asked to drive me home, I refused politely. She insisted again until my taxi driver arrived. I thanked her for the tip and went home. The next day I was in work she was in the bar. She bought me a juice then a water then a beer. All of which I didn’t accept.
She then slid more money into my pocket, tipped the barman too before she left, she didn’t drink or eat. Same thing the day after.
I told my boss and she told me she’d keep an eye out. It’s been happening every day since. What do I do
So for some context, we’re both women, both 20 and she’s semi permanently living with me and my family. Last night my gf confided in me that she doesn’t like how I act during sex.
I was really taken back as I didn’t realise what she meant. She told me I become really serious and it feels less vulnerable and romantic that way, which is smth we both discussed at the beginning is what we want. She told me that I don’t act like myself, that I can say simple things in harsh or unwanted tones and it makes her feel upset and uncomfortable.
My gf and I both have been sexually assaulted in our past relationships so sex is an important and vulnerable part in our relationship.
I apologised immediately but after some time her words stuck in my head. I can’t get the words ‘like another person’ out of my mind. I’ve been referred to as soft, gentle and kind by my gf and friends. I never get angry, I apologise for everything even when it’s not my fault, so this? This just makes my head spin.
Last night my gf asked if we could take a break from sex and I agreed, sex isn’t an important thing to me and i’d rather have no sex and have my gf feeling comfortable than uncomfortable sex.
Any thoughts or advice would be nice
I’d much rather support and protect someone who is lying about being raped than someone who has been accused.
I believe in siding with the victim until proven otherwise. If said victim had lied and the perpetrator was proven innocent then ofc i’d support the actual victim (the supposed perpetrator)
So before I even get into this, this is in no way a hatred towards a whole community nor the background my neighbours have.
Behind my house there’s a family who are illegally breeding dogs. You’d be hearing the cries from puppies all night long, it’s horrible to hear. Neighbours have been ringing the guards for years and nothing is done, to which I assume bc of them being on government funds or smth idek.
It’s doing my head in, i’ve been doing everything I can, calling animal control, Animal welfare, the guards, been emailing the taoiseach too. Nothing has been done.
I genuinely don’t know what sort of people you’re hearing this from but if u have that opinion imma assume you’re missing a few brain cells, it takes one google search, just one.
If you’ve came across a ‘feminist’ who wants women to be above men, you just came across a woman who wants to be above men, not a feminist.
Mostly what the title says. I’m 20, nearly 21.
I’m on equaslym XL (i forget how to spell)
I’m on 30mg, I was supposed to move up to 40mg but was then suggested I stay on 30 for another month and take more protein and work out more before I change dosage.
That’s what i’ve been doing but I still see no difference. I work part time and I’ve been getting more hours now which is great but the energy, damn it drains me. I have no friends, been in the same job for 5 years, seen the OGs leave and new ones join and I haven’t bonded with anyone. I’m very to myself, I had one friend but she quit last year.
This week i’ve worked monday and tuesday, both 12-12 shifts, then I’ve worked thursday friday saturday and tmr from 6am to 4pm, i’m a waitress for events in a hotel.
Since i’ve been working more ive been taking my 30mg then half of another, it’s the ones where i can open them up and there’s powder inside. I have them specifically bc I can’t swallow pills. It makes things easier too so I’ve started Taking up to three during one working day. I’m pumped with energy. All day, all night.
I sleep like a baby too. I’m not suggesting it to anyone, I don’t know what could happen to me but it’s been working. Sometimes I take four, 120mg…I know…
Even my boss has commented how much better i’ve been in work and she’s like a brick wall, it’s hard to even get a hello from her.
I haven’t told my psychiatrist who prescribed them to me, I feel like if I do she’ll just take me off then completely or smth like that. Idek what to do tbh, I’m running on pure adrenaline rn it’s like i’ve ran a marathon and I could run another.
I have noticed that i sweat a lot more, even when it’s cold. I sometimes shake, my hands mostly, I get random piercing headaches and sometimes I feel so hungry while other times I’ve gone the whole day without eating.
I haven’t had any withdrawals whenever I didn’t take them, some days I don’t take them at all if i’m just home and not doing anything, I sometimes feel like when I don’t take them there’s like a placebo i’m on that makes me feel like i’m on them when I’m not?? if that makes sense so I’ve never been inclined to take them on days off or lounging about.
I haven’t noticed any intense side effects so farrr just the ones i listed. I do know the appetite thing is normal even if taking the right amount, my psychiatrist told me that while taking them my appetite can go completely but it’s important I still eat, and on the days i’ve a big appetite it’s also important I don’t over eat.
So for some context i’m a waitress for events, banqueting. Been one for five years here. My mam informed me her friend is looking for a job for her daughter, who i’ve met like three or four times. She’s about 16, so she can’t work long hours like me, but just wants the money. I pulled some strings and got her a job and within a week I was in my bosses office getting given out to by how careless she is.
She’s dropping plates when someone talks to her, slacking off to vape in the toilets, and just being in people’s way. The hotel is always busy and I understand when you’re new it’s crazy, Been there done that but at some point you need to cop tf on.
After the second week I caught her giving free drinks and food to her friends in the bar (expensive drinks and food too). I called her out on it and told her she either pays or her friends do. She told me she didn’t give them anything and they’ve already paid…as if i can’t check the log.
My mam is telling me to coach her more and talk to her more but the kid is like a rebel, she doesn’t care what I say, she flirts with the older chefs who couldn’t gaf and purposely *falls* into male staff, who again, couldn’t gaf.
I’ve tried talking to her on multiple occasions but she’ll just walk away. Yesterday I caught her in the smoking area drinking a cocktail…i could tell she made herself by the colour.
I immediately called her out and practically yelled at her, she started crying, threw the drink at the wall and left work early without letting anyone know. My boss is holding me accountable bc I referred her and my mam and her mam are telling me I went too far, I just don’t know tbh, AITAH?
(EDIT: i’m irish, this is ireland. The legal drinking age is 18 but can be i think 17 under adult supervision as in your parent ordering you a drink)
I’m from ireland so this women only taxi thing is fairly new to us. I think it’s great Idea but will have some pros and cons to any new idea.
I’ll list my pros and cons in one moment, until then I’ll talk about how I believe it’s a great idea.
During summer I go out quite frequently with my girlfriend, we usually go to the same gay club as most other clubs in the area would be a threat for us as a lesbian couple. Ireland isn’t necessarily homophobic, but at night time clubs aren’t the best place unless you and your gf are both feminine and pass as best friends.
Clubs usually end around 3:30am during summer time and by the time we get to our bus it’s around 4-4:30. Busses in dublin are horrible, packed, you rarely get on, or, you get skipped. So sometimes my gf and I will opt for a taxi.
I’ve had mostly good experiences in taxis, I always sit in the back, never the front (unless i’m familiar with the taxi driver- like a family friend). Taxis are also a hell of a lot easier route to getting home.
However, Twice I had a bad experience.
I don’t feel comfortable going into depth on my experience but twice I was touched, and threatened.
I reported it but nothing was done.
My gf had a similar experience with her friends in a taxi, while my friend (a male) also had a bad experience with a taxi driver. In no way am I saying this only happens to women because it doesn’t, it happens to men too.
I believe a women’s only taxi would make me feel a lot better when travelling home, during the day or at night. The prices would stay the same as regular taxis too so the misconceptions on them being cheaper is plain lies.
Now some pros and cons.
Pros
1. Increased sense of safety
Many women report feeling more comfortable traveling with a female driver, especially:
Late at night
When traveling alone
In areas where harassment is a concern
2. Encourages women to travel more freely
A service perceived as safer may help women feel more confident using taxis for work, education, or social activities.
3. Employment opportunities for women
Women's-only taxi companies can:
Create jobs for female drivers
Encourage women to enter the transport sector, where they are often underrepresented
Offer flexible work arrangements.
4. Better understanding of passengers' concerns
Female drivers may be more attuned to issues such as:
Unwanted conversations
Personal boundaries
Helping mothers traveling with children.
5. Market differentiation
For businesses, it can fill a niche and attract customers seeking this option.
Cons
1. Potential discrimination concerns
Restricting services based on gender can raise legal and ethical questions, depending on local equality laws.
2. Limited driver pool
Since only women can drive, recruitment may be more difficult, leading to:
Longer wait times
Reduced coverage areas
Higher operating costs.
3. Financial sustainability challenges
A smaller customer base and staffing constraints can make profitability harder to achieve.
4. It may not address broader safety issues
Critics argue that women-only services treat the symptoms rather than the causes of harassment and violence in public transport.
5. Exclusion of some groups
Questions can arise about how the service accommodates:
Transgender and non-binary individuals
Male caregivers traveling with children
Families needing to travel together.
6. Risk of reinforcing stereotypes
Some people argue that such services imply that mixed-gender spaces cannot be made safe, rather than improving safety standards for everyone.
There’s definitely a hell lot more which could be found easily on google too. I know a lot of people have mixed opinions on this service with even few men stating on how a men’s only taxi would be good too and if that’s what men would need to feel safe I hope that goes well for them.
I grew up in a christian family, christian school, friends and neighbours. it wasn’t until i got older i realised i didn’t have to be like them, as from a young age i never believed in it.
When i got older i researched different religions, i practiced a few in private and ended up being an atheist. When i have kids I’ll raise them with no religion, im also a lot more spiritual too.
I’ll make sure my kids are educated on the different religions and practices and bring them to different places, different cultures, to learn more. When they grow older and find something they take passion in, i’ll encourage them to explore it, if they stay atheist i’ll too encourage them.
So for some context I F21 have two younger sisters hannah and faye, both 15, non identical twins.
Two days ago Faye told me she seen Hannah hanging out with a boy who looks like trouble, I told my mam of course as Hannah can be misled easily and the boys she hangs around with are all bad news. Faye then texted me saying i’m a bitch and now hannah is mad at her and it’s all my fault.
Then yesterday I needed a pillow cover and my mam told me I could take one from Faye’s bed since she has a double bed with four pillows and I have a single bed with one pillow so it would even out.
I took it anyways and then got a text from Faye again telling me I’m a bitch, I’m a fagot, I’m ugly, fat, and a bunch of other words.
I told her mam let me and she then went into my room while I was gone for the day and wrecked it. I have a chalk wall so I can draw on it, I usually use it to keep notes of things so i can remember important dates etc- she wiped it all down. She wrote on my wall:
‘revenge is coming’
‘snitch’
‘fat fagot’
‘regard’
and
‘i hope you kill your self’.
I don’t even know what to do atp, I’ll admit a few times i’ve take a shirt from faiths room here and there without asking when she wasn’t home, but this??? this is just mental.
When she gets annoyed she throws knives, vases, anything sharp. I’m home now and she’s on her way home from school and i’ve literally boarded myself in.
Coming from a lesbian he him lesbians don’t exist.
Correct definition: A lesbian is a woman or nonbinary person who is romantically, physically, or emotionally attracted to women.
A man is straight. I’ve seen so many people say trans men can be in a lesbian relationship which isn’t only transphobic to the dude but insensitive to the lesbians.
By that logic, cis men can be lesbians, trans women can be gay and straight women can be gay men.
It makes no sense in any way whatsoever.
If you’re a trans man dating a lesbian, she’s not a lesbian she’s bisexual or straight.
And yes i’ve heard ppl have this opinion in person, not just online, but it’s an issue on both sides.
So I f21 work as a waitress, I get my few good and bad customers, some great some horrible, just how it is.
This morning I was working an early shift. This couple came in, well dressed and were seated pretty quickly since they had came in when we had just opened. They were extremely friendly and I ended up having a few good conversations with them when it was slow.
When I came with their mains the man laughed a little and leaned closer telling me his wife has been meaning to ask me a question.
The wife smiled and leaned back a bit and asked me if I believe in God.
I hadn’t ever been asked about my religion in work, even in general as much. I live in ireland and it’s more so the older generation that are christian or protistant.
I smiled kindly and told her I don’t follow any religion. The two gave each other a look and then began to ask me if I have any trauma and if that’s why. I felt the questions were too personal, especially while working so I told them I won’t answer and i’ll be back with more drinks.
For the rest of their stay, they’d keep asking me more questions, wondering why I didn’t, asking if I was abused as a kid, asking why i have short hair for a girl, all that.
When they were leaving they told me the devil will burn me in hell if i don’t turn to God.
I told my manager and she told me they’re banned from future on wards.
They came back less than an hour later bc the woman left her jacket, The security guard wouldn’t let them in and she complained and yelled at me for it, I ignored them but they kept yelling to turn to God, AIW???
So for some context I f21 am a lesbian, my family is pretty accepting…i mean they had no choice when I was 10 forcing them to watch pitch perfect with me to look at anna kendrick.
I’ve faced homophobia, mostly by strangers, in public and online. It’s something that took me years to get used to, though sometimes it does get scary, especially if i’m out at night.
I haven’t gone to a pride event for a couple of years since i’m usually working on the day, however, this year i’ve asked my boss for the day off so I can go with my gf (she’s never gone).
The pride event has different sections to it, it starts with the parade early, around 9am. The parade goes all up through the town ending at a park where they have a drag concert, supported by fellow lgbt artists. There’s food stalls and activities there and then usually everyone heads to the gay clubs or pubs within the area early enough before the crowds come in.
When I have gone in the past I really did enjoy myself, so I’m looking forward for this one this month. It’s on the 27th btw.
Now, last week my little cousin (who i’ll just call Lisa for privacy reasons) asked me at a family function of my gf and I could take her to pride.
Lisa’s father, Gareth has always brought his kids to pride festivals where they live in Norway. He’s not lgbt himself, neither are his kids, but he’s always been an ally and wanted his kids to carry that same positive impact. To be fair, he’s done a great job. I was always so afraid of his oldest son Shane, he seemed so homophobic, mostly just because he raps, he’d have a few verses that would sound a tad crazy like ‘sh00t up the f@gs’.
However, when he did find out he fully supported me, he took down that song and told me he was sorry, which I didn’t ask for but I appreciated it.
Anyways, At the family function, Lisa asked me if i could take her. She’s around 10 years old now i’m pretty sure. Gareth immediately said that would be perfectly fine. Lisa has never attended a parade in my country (ireland) whereas gareth has (he was born in ireland).
However, Lisa’s mother then said no. Nana (her name) and Gareth have been divorced for three years now, she’s never been around the kids that much either, but was very quick to say no. Lisa started pleading with her while gareth said lisa would be safe with my gf and I but Nana kept saying no.
I didn’t mind whether Lisa came or not, but I was still somewhat confused as to why Nana was saying no so harshly. I’ve never seen Nana as a homophobic person, though again, I’ve never talked to her about it either.
Gareth and Nana started arguing at that point so I took lisa off to the living room away from the fight. She was asking me so many questions about the parade, so I showed her some photos and videos i had taken from past parades. Lisa is obsessed with anything rainbow, unicorns, glitter, music and especially drag queens. She literally told me when she’s older she wants to be one.
I didn’t want to get in the middle of Gareth and his ex wife but the arguments were getting so loud to the point Lisa and I could hear every word in another room. I told her to stay there as I made my way to the room they were in.
I told Nana that my gf and I are protective over Lisa, we wouldn’t let her out of our sight, that she’d be safe with us. Nana kept flicking her wrist at me, muttering words in norwegian, words i didn’t understand but gareth definitely did seeing the weird look on his face.
I found out the reason she didn’t want lisa going is because she believed lisa would turn gay from being around so many gay people, and that gay people bring their kinks out during pride parades. I was honestly really taken back by what she said.
For that first statement…it’s so untrue. I grew up around straight people, I befriended a gay guy when I was 13 and didn’t know he was gay until we were 15 (this dude was wearing makeup and in the dance club and i had no idea). I didn’t know what gay was until i was 15 too. That guy was the only out gay person in my school at the time, i didn’t know anyone else who was and yet Here I am…a lesbian.
I also know a girl that I work with, she has two gay dads, she’s really straight and has been with her boyfriend for five years…so that logic? 🚮
To her second statement, I don’t know what sort of parades they have in norway but that’s not the case here. The only things i’ve seen are people wearing animal tails, something I don’t associate myself with but just stay away from, (they also don’t cause any trouble, they’re usually kids).
I explained it all to Nana but she wouldn’t listen, she just kept speaking in norwegian and looking away. I knew Lisa was overhearing it all, though I had a feeling this isn’t the first time she’s heard it.
Time skip to two days later, Gareth called me, he told me Lisa was allowed to go. He ended the call before I could ask any more questions. He just texted me a paragraph after saying to pick Lisa up from her child minder before the parade and not to bring her to the club after (which I wouldn’t and the kid is 10, I’m 20 and get ID like…).
I talked to my dad about it all and he seemed a little on the fence about it. He told me it sounds like Nana doesn’t know that Gareth let me bring Lisa, and that I should mention it to Nana. I don’t want to start more issues between the two divorcees, or make Lisa upset.
I guess I’m just a little on the fence too now.
My plans won’t change whether I bring Lisa or not. I know she’ll be upset if i don’t bring her, she’ll probably complain to her mother about it. But If I do bring her, Nana will find out and it’ll probably cause more arguments between her and my uncle.
My mam is saying to bring Lisa but my dad is saying otherwise, what do i do?
I live next door to a mother of three kids, two are twins (17 yrs old) and the other is the youngest (10yrs). Her husband left her after the most recent kid was born with a rare condition where her right ear is folded in wards.
She’s always struggled with finding a job, now she’s struggling more. He left, doesn’t send child support funds, doesn’t ever see his kids, doesn’t stop by ever.
People in my estate blame her, they call her a slut, a whore. Even kids have started telling her kids that their mother is a whore.
I know a guy from work, his wife and him split up a couple years ago, they have kids together but it wasn’t working. He’s been recorded in public while taking his kids out a few days a week, people praising him for taking care of his own kids, calling him a real man.
What’s the difference?
The movie was short af like so short. Dragged the whole ‘getting in there’ for way too long.
A series would be cool af, each season could be a new level
I know he’s a composer but damn I just searched him up and he’s KNOWN…how did i not KNOW??
His name is Stephen Mckeon he’s worked on The Mummy (which I knew), Pilgrimage, The hole in the ground, Evil Dead Rise, Rose Plays Julie, The Cellar, Norm Of The North
AND MORE???? wtf