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i did some looking and all i could find were those SAFE disposable events which i missed the one in my borough and cant travel to the other events bc i work on all of those days. i need this shit out of my house ASAP!!!

I’m Christian (Protestant) but open to a Jewish/Catholic/Shaman situation.

I have really bad issues and I think it could be demons!

I’m a 23 black male in need of guidance with the current fashion trends of today in New York.

Trending brands I’ve heard of that are similar to my interests is stuff like Denim Tears.

I also need guidance on wanting to go retro and try to look like how people in NYC used to look like in the 2000’s like DIPSET with the bomber jackets and baggie jeans.

If anyone has any recommendations like thrift stores or any stores catered to my interests and if you have any recommendations to the things I’m searching for PLS don’t hesitate to comment.

Beginning the process and really have no idea where to start. She's not picky at all and doesn't even really know what she wants - just for me not to spend a lot :) she also doesn't want a diamond and more of a gemstone. Any places in Brooklyn, Queens or even LI you'd suggest to get some ideas?

So I am a 28yo male living in Brooklyn. I don’t like my current job but I lovee the city. I got a job offer like 20 mins from Boston proper, this job is like 7 days on and 7 days off model. I could get a similar job near NYC but not until next 2 years. Once I sign the job near Boston it’s a 3 year contract which would be a bitch to break. I always wanted to have 2 houses one in a city and one in a rural side with lots of nature space around.

Setup I am planning to do:

- Live one week near Boston when on duty days and live in NYC (with the pay I would be getting I could afford to rent in a desirable neighborhood in Manhattan even)

- Have a car/truck maybe a little farm, lots of nature spaces, maybe even buy the house in mortgage near Boston and Have the city life in NYC for the other week

Little background:

- I am a expat living in US for last 5 yrs. Lived in NYC for one year and moved back again 6 months back. Idk something about this city that I haven’t felt in any other cities. Idk why. This makes me want to live here.

- I have only visited Boston and idk how friendly Boston will be on me especially I am new and have nobody that I know there.

- I am also single and my family is not in US do not tied to any city

Question:

- I wanna know how practical is it to do this 2 city living. In my mind it seems great I get have both lifestyle. Peaceful week and chaotic city living week

- or should I just live in Boston ?

Would highly appreciate inputs especially if you or someone you know having this kind of lifestyle. Thanks. See

Edit: So I am pretty much leaning towards picking either one. Thanks for all the comments. Now a new question arises lol, pick the job in Boston now and start earning more or wait for a year and pick a similar job/pay in NYC. Again it might sound silly but I am trying to figure my home base in US (connections, opening small businesses etc.,) basically should I pick this Boston job and move there or be in NYC for one more year with this low paying job then get a better job next year in NYC. Pay difference would be 140k post tax.

So basically if someone offers you 140k and move to Boston and live there on your prime years and possibly investing there or stay in NYC for one more year then start doing all those lagging one year behind.

Thanks if you cared enough to reach all the way to the edit part!

My English is not very good, so I am using a translation app to make sure I explain the situation correctly. I apologize in advance if I use any inappropriate words or phrases.

I am a 22-year-old Burmese woman currently studying in Finland. I have an older sister who is 23 and has been living in the United States for about three years on a student visa.

My sister has bipolar disorder, which she was diagnosed with while she was still living in Burma. When she first moved to the US, she lived in Seattle. Later, she moved to New York. Because of complications with getting an appointment and renewing her prescriptions, she was unable to get her medication and was off her medication for around six months.

About three months ago, she suddenly blocked all of our family members on every platform. We noticed immediately and tried to contact her. From the way she was behaving and speaking, it seemed very clear to us that she was experiencing psychosis. At one point, she did not even seem to recognize or remember us.

Because I was extremely worried about her safety and condition, I contacted social services and a hospital in New York, and she was eventually admitted to the hospital. I made this decision without really discussing it properly with my parents first because I was scared and felt that something needed to be done immediately.

Since then, our family has tried to reach her every day. For the past three months, contact with her has been inconsistent. Sometimes we are able to communicate with her, and sometimes we are not. Because the hospital does not allow her to have her phone, we usually have to communicate with her through a social worker.

The social workers asked us about her medical history, and we gave them all the information we had, including information about the medications she had previously taken. However, they did not give her the same medications she had been taking before. There was also a period of approximately three weeks when, according to the hospital, they could not give her medication because my sister had not consented to it. She is now receiving some medication, but when we are able to speak with her, she still seems to be experiencing serious delusions and does not seem like herself.

What our family ultimately wants is to bring her back to Burma so that she can be with us and receive care with her family nearby. However, the hospital will not discharge her because they say she is currently not well enough to leave.

Unfortunately, none of us can easily travel to the United States to be with her. We hold Burmese passports, and obtaining a US visa has been extremely difficult for us. We have already applied several times and have been rejected three or four times.

We also contacted people from her school and asked if they could visit her on our behalf. Even then, the hospital initially did not want to allow her teachers to see her. Because of this, getting her discharged and arranging for her to return home feels almost impossible.

I feel extremely guilty because I was the person who contacted the hospital and helped get her admitted in the first place. I know that I was trying to help her, but I cannot stop wondering whether I made the wrong decision. She is probably suffering tremendously while she is there, and our family feels helpless because we are so far away.

My mother has been deeply affected by everything that has happened, and seeing her like this breaks my heart. I keep blaming myself for sending my sister to the hospital, even though at the time I did not know what else to do.

Our family feels trapped in an extremely difficult and frustrating situation. We want my sister to receive proper treatment, but we also desperately want to bring her home, and we do not know what steps we can take from another country.

If anyone has experience with a similar situation, particularly with psychiatric hospitalization in the United States, international patients, or arranging for someone to return to their home country after hospitalization, any advice about what our family can do would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you very much for taking the time to read all of this.

note 1:

I really appreciate every comment and upvote. Thank you so much to everyone who took the time to read my post and give advice.

For those who suggested contacting the Myanmar Embassy, I have actually tried calling them a few times, but they didn’t answer the phone. However, my father sent them an email about a month ago, and they did reply saying that they would see what they could do to help. Unfortunately, we haven’t heard back from them since then.

We will keep following up and sending them emails as well. Thank you again for all the suggestions and support.

note 2:

We also contacted a hospital in Bangkok and tried to put the two hospitals in touch with each other so they could discuss my sister’s situation directly.

Our goal was to make it clear that we understand she cannot simply be discharged immediately just because we want her to come home. We wanted them to know that we have a plan for her to continue receiving psychiatric treatment in Bangkok after she leaves the US. And also, we contacted people who could escort her to Bangkok airport.

However, even with this plan in place, the hospital still told us that they would not discharge her at this time.

The other day, I was at the train station and the train was a bit crowded. It was packed where everyone was seated down. When there was an empty spot next to me, a young lady, looking like she was in her late twenties sat down next to me when there was no space available. As the train kept going forward in its stops, more people left the train and eventually, the entire row that I was sitting in was empty of people except me and this woman. Now, I definitely expected her to at least move down a little and not to sit too close to me like the environment was packed but she still sat there way too close. I just felt confused and a little shocked and looked a little angry tbh. It feels so awkward that someone doesn't understand what the hell providing space looks like. I looked directly at her in disgust and simply asked if I could get some personal space. What is wrong with people? Is it always like this?

I am not a local but I often travel to NYC by rail for meeting up with friends during weekdays and weekends.

I want to know what New Yorkers think of the Hudson Yards neighborhood in general. In my opinion, while it is a great engineering achievement and is architecturally impressive (I think it looks great), the neighborhood is just boring. It lacks charm and it just feels very sterile.

Back when it was announced, the neighborhood was advertised as a place for all New Yorkers from all socio economic backgrounds. However, in reality, it really only caters to the upper middle to wealthy New Yorkers.

Are my opinions about this place as a non local valid? What do you guys think?

I live at a corner street in Manhattan that experiences heavy traffic from about 5 PM - 9 PM (if I'm being generous, it's probably longer) and then gets started back at 6 AM. I hate honkers so, so much. It's insane how ignorant and disrespectful they can be given the density of NYC.

I previously thought nothing could be done, but Gemini is telling me I can take actions that will eventually lead to getting a noise camera installed that in turn will fine the honkers. Is this a real thing? Has anyone seen it happen and be effective? Or would I be wasting my time entirely?

Apologize if this is an easily answerable question but just wanted to get some insight . I’m Canadian and will be living with a family member in Midtown Manhattan next summer for the next 3 years to attend Pace law school in White Plains. Being able to live rent free is a massive bonus for me so it’s not really in the cards to find something closer to the law school. Just curious if this is a common commuter route, and with how little ease? I greatly appreciate any insight as I’ve only been to NYC once in my life and am unfamiliar with the layout and commute times.

Hey ya’ll so I was wondering anyone is familiar with third party guarantors and if so do you know any apartment complexes that accept panda guarantee? Also if you have experience with them I’d like to hear about it. I’ve noticed that bigger leasing offices are more willing to accept them but I have yet to find one that will take panda guarantee. I’ve heard of them taking “the guarantors” tho.

I’m curious what kind of services they actually offered. Did they refer you to any specific open positions or departments with vacancies that might fit your skillset?

I went by and waited in line around 11:30 and got told after about 20 minutes that they were cutting the line off well ahead of where I was.

I’m trying to navigating dating after being diagnosed with an illness that has left me immunocompromised. Does anyone have tips about where to meet people and/or date suggestions? Gone are the days of bar hopping and indoor dining unless I mask (please be kind; I’m not saying what other people have to do. This is what I have to do to keep myself safe). Things like run clubs are also out for the time being. Looking for ideas of where to meet people (not an app) and fun outdoor dates, especially knowing the colder months are approaching.

What I’ve come up with so far: Walks in Central Park and Prospect Park, trips to New York Botanical Gardens and Brooklyn Botanic Gardens, the zoos, visiting The Cloisters, and quieter times at museums.

Someone told me they were about to be actively harmed so I called 911. The dispatcher took my last name and phone number, and the person was subsequently arrested. I’m concerned about retaliation. Will they find out who reported it?

Near Cadman plaza on the way to DUMBO, the road has always been bumpy, but they tore up the asphalt and now the holes are even bigger. My tire got caught and I flew sideways, road rash along my right side and I fucked up my thumb.

This is mostly a warning post to not go fast over unpaved road. And also an appreciation post to the couple that stopped to help me and brought my bike back while I went to the ER.

Hi! I’m 23F and live in NYC, and I’m looking for a sobriety group/community with people around my age (early-mid 20s).

I’m looking for something that actually helps teach you how to be sober, dealing with cravings, learning how to socialize without drinking, changing your relationship with alcohol, building a sober life, etc.

I’ve tried AA, but the meetings I went to skewed much older and I didn’t really feel comfortable or like I could relate to the crowd. I’m not completely against AA though.

Ideally I’m looking for something on Saturdays or Sundays, preferably Manhattan/Brooklyn and accessible from Midtown. I’d also be interested in sober social groups/events with a genuinely Gen Z crowd, but I’m looking for more than just alcohol-free parties I want some actual support/guidance around staying sober.

Does anyone in their 20s have specific groups or meetings they’d recommend?