Got sexually harassed by a 70 year old dude at a wedding and feeling so gross rn
I went to my cousin's wedding two days ago and had someone nearly pulling a Ted Bundy on me. It was a small wedding with at max 30 guests including families and friends, but there was also this 70 year old real estate agent that apart from working with my aunt on selling a house nearly a decade ago, nobody knew.
Nobody invited him, he caught wind of my cousin having her wedding and insisted that he come and take photos for her. My cousin actually got into a huge fight with my aunt (her mom) because she hated that dude (later I found out why), but her mom said she was too polite to reject his coming to the wedding. I myself suspect she just wanted those free photos.
I personally am not that close with my cousin so I knew virtually no one at the event, and thought that real estate agent was a very close family friend. As soon as the vows were exchanged and we entered into a kind of a recess he began striking a conversation with me, my aunt, and my grandma. It was normal and polite, just small talks, and everything was alright. But then my aunt left to help my cousin change, and my grandma decided to take a nap and all hell broke loose.
I went on a walk around the dining area (it's an out-the-door wedding at a golf club) and he found me there. It was just the two of us, and he started talking about how he's actually also a part-time great photographer and invited to take photos of me to show off his skills. I was like okay, not thinking too much because it was only one or two photos, but he just kept going! At my cousin's wedding telling me to go here or go there, do this or do that, taking about dozens photos of ME, at my cousin's wedding! I was already feeling very uncomfortable and impolite so I decided to stop. (Later I found out he actually took another dozens of photos of me behind my back without me knowing.)
I am a really gullible person so at that time I was still thinking that he might just be someone really passionate about taking photos and being really old—not really equipped with all the social etiquettes. But then he started saying to me privately how ugly my cousin looks: how her skin's terrible, how her makeup's too heavy and how she has an awful personality. I was like, what??? Because anyone would tell you my cousin is an instagram celebrity level 10/10, she's without a doubt pretty. (And even if she's not, why would you ever say that to anyone??) In contrast, he then said I was so pretty, have great skin, great posture, great skintone, just great everything, and that I could even enter beauty pageants and win (which is an obvious lie but he made it sound genuine).
He then offered me to go on a private photo trip with him, somewhere in the Canadian mountains, ALONE, this Friday. Saying very explicitly for me to not bring my aunt and grandma because "they are too slow." Alarm bells rang so much in my head at that moment, the face of one million serial killers flashing by. This was not him being polite, btw. He offered this to me five or six times throughout the wedding but never once mentioned it to anyone else. It was like he was deliberately not wanting others to know. In hindsight, I think he's probably planning to rape me in the mountains.
But this doesn't end there. I didn't tell anyone directly at the wedding because 1. My parents weren't there, and 2. My aunt and grandma would overreact and ruin my cousin's wedding. So I decided to wait until we all get back. At the dinner he was getting very touchy, putting his hand on my thigh when I was getting jittery, putting his arm around my waist when we were taking group photos, and everything just seem so gross to me even after two days. Like thinking about these and how I was used make me want to puke so bad.
He also asked me repeatedly to add his contact, which I didn't at the wedding. I said I had no signal there and will add him once I get back to avoid drama. (Probably should've just rejected him but I didn't want to cause trouble at someone else's wedding.)
I confided in my friends and parents that night after the wedding and they all agreed that he's not someone who's just impolite but someone who's a creep and had absolute awful intents. The following morning I talked to my aunt and grandma, and my aunt showed her their conversation after the wedding. He had sent her every photo he took, except those containing me! And then he asked my aunt to "notify her niece to add his contact." Yes he actually used the word notify. He was definitely using those photos, both taken with consent and without, to bait me. She also told me that a few years ago he tried to hit on my cousin with literally the same things he said to me, but failed obviously. (I don't understand why she still allowed him to come to the wedding afterwards, I'm also kind of upset over this.)
I really want him to delete those photos and expose him to everyone around, but right now it seems like there's nothing I can do. My family has collectively blocked him. But apart from that, I don't see how there's anything I can do. I learned that he was talking unprompted photos of me because he showed me one of them, and many times I caught his camera pointing at me so he must've took close to a hundred in total. I am feeling so angry and gross right now and just want to rant. He was definitely planning to do something to me in the mountains, I hope he rots in hell.