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Has anyone did Ibiza or a bachelor sober?

I had a bad early summer, gf(now ex) cheated, friends were on her side and the ones I stil had were in the drinking scene. She took the apartment too so I couch surfed for a bit before I could secure a place and during that I got a bit too into the whole drinking thing, I mean I was a regular drinker before too but I begun getting blackout drunk a couple times a week and woke up covered in mud and dirt most days. Then I had one really bad hang over after drinking most of a bottle of rum, like puked for twelve hours, and haven’t touched it since. Probably because I told my parents I wouldn’t and they live close enough to check on me. But now there was a break in in the storage units in the basement of the apartment house and mine was one of the ones hit. I got rejected by the education I wanted, I have a base education but really hoped to specialize in a specific field and I don’t really see anything particularly positive rn. So I’m focusing on trying to stay sober and that is kinda my prio rn.

That's all. Wanted to share. First 24 hours sober that weren't in a hospital or what not. Reddit has helped my mood today. I just wanted to say so :)

UPDATE: In a few more hours, I think I'll just call it two days.

I’ve been trying to quit drinking and smoking for years, I really need help

So I’m basically a blackout drinker I’m pretty young too, I also have a problem with benzos but thankfully my 1 time prescription is out so I can’t get my hands on anymore because I would take them and smoke lots of weed or just take enough to fuck up my memory. I realized that I’m not a normal substance enjoyer if that makes sense so I am making a promise to myself to stay sober until my birthday in October 🫡

First, I do not consider myself an alcoholic. I like to drink but can abstain from it when I want and stop myself from drinking more once I had one or two. My problem was weed, I am in a lot of pain and it helped manage it, as well as my anger issues. I smoked for 3 years 24/7 and decided to stop last week. Threw out all my weed shit and not looking back anytime soon. Weed helped me a lot but also hurt me a lot and I needed to walk away. Now I’m not saying I wanna replace weed with alcohol but sobriety is hard. Family life is terrible and I don’t have a lot of friends, none that I’m convinced like me either. I’m just curious if one beer would break my sobriety, I find it the only thing that calms me down. I tried the gym but it’s hard cus I’m in a lot of pain a lot of time from medical conditions. Hiking works but not all the time. And none of my friends pick up when I call. And I don’t get along with my family well either. So genuinely I’m stuck here

I don’t know if this is the right sub to put this on.
I have been sober for 30 days. My issue was Xanax.
I am prescribed Adderall and I normally take it every day in pill form. It’s starting to not really work as much and a friend suggested I snort it.
I haven’t done it yet, but I’m considering it.
Would that break my sobriety?
I mean, I’m prescribed the medication. I’m just taking it a different way.

Last time I drank/got drunk was the night of my bat mitzvah

There are a few things that help. Knowing beer and weed exist and that I could have some any time I want helps because it helps me view these substances as not super special. I could literally go to the store and buy some now if I want.

It helps me stay sober. It helps me get out of this mindset where it's like...I need to be taking every opportunity to get high because there are only so many opportunities.

I've noticed I approach substances and sobriety in the same way. Like...life is hard and I need to squeeze every last ounce down to the last for it to have meant anything.

But paradoxically the same thing that makes me want to smoke all the time is the same thing that makes me feel like there is no time for anything when sober.

It's like...being sober...being high...whatever. Both states fall victim to this internal notion that there is no time and life is short so I have to be 100% in every thing I do.

But the reality is opportunities come and go and weed and booze are just a few blocks away if that's what I really want in the same way living a fulfilling life is only a few blocks away metaphorically if I want too.

What helps you stay sober.

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Hey guys! I just finished a Guiness 0 and was later informed that it might have trace amounts of alcohol, would that mean I accidentally broke my sobriety m? Or should not stress and just also keep away from NA beers?

Hi, Community of strong people. This subreddit had been there with me 4 years back while I dealt with a very difficult time with alcohol.
I kept slipping but came back stronger and now, I have recently completed 3 years of sobriety from Alcohol and I wanted to thank each and every one of you for your support. Like me, many of you wont see the regular thank yous being posted here because of our busy livestyles and/or our lost reddit accounts.

But i mean it. Thank you very much to everyone who kept me in check and told me to never stop trying.

Why I am posting today is that I am dealing with a new dilemma. I had always used Weed as a substance to fall back on for comfort / or 'something to take the edge off' .

After a year long break, i started using weed again. I hate smoking it so i try and make edibles whenver I can. I only use it mostly after work before sleeping. Apart from a ravenous apetite, I dont believe it hampers my lifestyle anyway, although it makes me paranoid and I can surely learn how to use that time to create or be more productive.

I am concerned for a few reasons-

1. I wanted to know if it is as bad as alcohol problem. I mean i am at home rn and I do not have the craving and i sleep just fine although I am lookign forward to getting high soon.

2. Does that mean I am not sober anymore and has it hindered my alcohol journey? I wont lie i still have cravings for alcohol but conciusly avoid it and religiously stay away from alcohol. Its a daily battle for me.

3. It took me a long time to realise i have an alcohol problem and even longer to do anything about it. I am just wondering if I have a weed problem as well. and If i should do anything about it.

Sorry for the long query and typos. I am typing on my android on my way to the airport. Flying back to new delhi tonight.
Thank you all for any and all advice. Be nice to your neighbours. God Bless.

I normally smoke weed pretty regularly. When I’m home, I usually smoke from a bong about 4 times a day around an hour after waking up in the morning then again at 5 PM, 9 PM, and 1 AM. Each session is usually 1–2 bong hits.
I’m currently on vacation, and my usage has dropped a lot:
Thursday night: last normal bong session
Friday: smoked 2 joints, around 11 PM and 3 AM
Saturday: waited until around 1 AM, shared a joint with my buddies, and hit a dab pen about 6 times throughout the night
Sunday (today): no weed
I’ve also noticed that weed has been giving me anxiety pretty often lately, probably 7 out of 10 times I smoke. I’ll sometimes get an increased heart rate, feel anxious, and my stomach feels weird. This didn’t used to happen to me, but it’s become pretty consistent recently.
Today I’ve been feeling pretty rough, nausea/feeling like I’m going to throw up, weird head feeling, anxiety, feeling run down, stomach discomfort, etc. I also drank 6+ 4.5% Surfsides last night, so I’m sure the hangover is contributing too.
I’m wondering if the symptoms could partly be from cutting my cannabis use so drastically, even though I haven’t been completely THC-free since Thursday.
For someone who normally smokes as much as I do, would you recommend cold turkey at this point, or gradually lowering my usage over the next week before quitting completely?
I’m mainly looking for experiences from people who have been through something similar. How bad were your withdrawal symptoms, and how long did they last?

I’m a little over a year sober, and I’ve honestly never been more lonely in my life. It seems like everyone’s lives revolve around drugs, and alcohol, and parting. I feel weird because I don’t want to go to the bar every weekend so I just go home to be alone. I know my sobriety is more important than not being lonely, it just sucks sometimes.

I had gone 34 days without a drink. And was feeling awesome. Then for some reason, I told myself I deserved a drink. That was 1 week and 2 bottles of vodka ago. Trying again for sobriety and just hit 24 hours without a drink. Feeling depressed, guilty, anxious, and just plain sick.

No question for the group. Just needed to put some thoughts into writing. Best of luck to everyone in their journey.

Hi everyone, has anyone else experienced the same long-term MDMA abuse symptoms?

I used MDMA and cocaine for years, and since my last heavy use, I've had these symptoms since February, and they haven't changed. Has anyone else experienced the same? When will this get better? Have I permanently damaged my brain? I can barely function in my daily life.

I now know that MDMA is neurotoxic, but I never really thought about it before.

I hear spoken words, but my brain doesn't process the content properly.

I can hardly follow conversations because entire sentences don't register.

The same applies to written texts: I can read the words, but I can't grasp the meaning of entire sentences or paragraphs and have to reread them repeatedly.

I can barely follow movies or TV series due to the lack of language processing.

Something about today’s media kick started my sobriety again. If it wasn’t an alcoholic catgirl with service tremors or Spider-Man advertising his NA beer. But I’m that stupid cat seizing up and sweeting.

I’m ashamed that it’s this bad.
I thought cutting back on my own has possible but it’s a medical intervention…

Anyway, dropping this sack off my back. I have three weeks and it’s been insomniatic, sweaty hell. Pacing like a lion catching myself make excuses to take a sip.

This sucks but it’s crazy how a liquid has this hold..

I have no one to talk to about this! I have a lot of alcoholics in my family. Looking back now I see I’ve never had a normal relationship with alcohol. I think I just thought that it’s normal to get absolutely blasted any time alcohol was involved because I didn’t have many opportunities to drink, and only drank “socially”.
Long story short, it wasn’t until I was suddenly drinking alone in my basement daily, bringing nips with me everywhere, waking up every day pissed at whatever stupid shit I had done the night before that I realized something had to change. I feel so much better now. My only regret is not doing this sooner.

Here to vent since not sure where else to do it but struggling with a situation I’m sure is not unique.

I stopped drinking 8 months ago. It’s been the longest stint in my life and I’m trying to get to a year. My wife of 25yrs marriage was my drinking partner throughout it all. She has passively supported me through my sobriety but is not interested in her own or ready to make the commitment.

I have never wanted to be a teetotaler about it and force someone into something they are not ready for. Also I have been focused on myself and my sobriety and learned to ignore or tolerate her drinking which has been reduced during my efforts.

However there continue to be occasions (once or twice a month) where she gets very drunk in public settings. Having clarity now I can watch her become more drunk by the second drink. I wind up not only being the designated driver, but the organizer, preventer of accidents, witness to her verbal embarrassments and recorder of her antics the next day.

Following these times it always leads to arguments but I avoid when she’s drunk and confront the next day. She apologizes and has even started seeing a therapist to help her but despite its a repetitive process.

Tonight was her birthday and I made special plans and took her to dinner and a concert which by the end she was drunk. She passed out on the train home and argued with me when we arrived.

I am getting tired of this and longing for a change or something to snap her out of it before I need to leave it for my own sanity.

Wondering if there are others out there living a sober life with a spouse or partner that isn’t and how that works?

Been a bad day, lost my streak of a few months today and I’m not proud of myself. Regretted it the second I left the bar. Do better than me folks.

Hi, so I've been sober from 7oh(opioids) for about a month now and I know depression is normal but it's getting to a point of I don't know how much longer this can go on without a relapse.

Nothing and I mean nothing is fun. With the exception of when I'm out doing stupid shit with people. I crochet, I sew, I go for walks and car rides, I clean my room, play games, and none of it's fun. Before I started using I had this experience too but definitely less extreme. Medication didn't really help.

I'm so sick of feeling flat all day and absolutely nothing helping me. Advice appreciated