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My baby loves his BabyBjörn Bouncer, and honestly, it’s been one of our most-used baby items.
The problem is that he’s only 4.5 months old and already weighs almost 20 lbs (about 19 lbs / 8.6 kg), which is the maximum recommended weight for the bouncer.

So… what do people usually do at this point?
Did you replace it with something else your baby enjoyed just as much?

I’m a bit sad because he still loves bouncing in it, but obviously I want to use it safely and follow the manufacturer’s recommendations.
I’d love to hear what everyone else did!

My spouse and I have been trying to create a Trump Account for our newborn, but we’ve now had two separate elections rejected with the exact same message: “Unable to process.”

Here’s our situation:
-Child was born in the United States in 2026.
-Child has a Social Security Number that was automatically issued through the hospital.
-We entered the child’s name exactly as it appears on the Social Security card.
-One parent is a naturalized U.S. citizen and the other is a lawful permanent resident (green card holder).
-We submitted the election once in late May and again on July 4th, thinking it might have been a timing issue.

Both submissions resulted in:
Status: Unable to process
We also received an email titled "Your child isn't eligible for a Trump Account " stating:
“We were unable to verify their identity with the information you provided on IRS Form 4547.”

We’ve already checked:
✔️ IRS Notices & Letters (nothing new)
✔️ Child’s name and SSN
✔️ Eligibility requirements as far as we can tell

At this point we’re wondering if this is:
a system bug,
an IRS/SSA verification issue,
or if others are experiencing the same problem with this relatively new program.

Has anyone else run into this?
If so:
-Were you eventually able to get it resolved?
-Did you have to call the IRS?
-Was there a specific issue causing the identity verification to fail?
-Any advice or shared experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

I went to a family Fourth of July party. The host has a big house and set up a room for my to BF my baby in. At the end of the party I’m nursing my babe and she’s dozing off too. Nice! But I forgot to lock the door. Should be fine, I’m in a random dark room away from the party in a large home.

This lady (not family, a friend of the host) opens the door. When I hear the door creak I say, “Nursing!” The door opens wider. “Hey! I’m nursing in here!”

“Oh! Is she sleeping? She’s feeding.”

“Yes, I’m breastfeeding her.” 🤨

Then she proceeds to walk up to where we are laying (I do side lying, and my back is to the door) and peers over where I have now pulled my shirt over myself and my child’s face. “Oh, I didn’t get a chance to hold her.”

Girl, you never were getting the chance and certainly aren’t now!! I am clearly uncomfortable and give her a look.

She explains she wants to use the bathroom that is connected to this room because there was a line for the one in the living room. There are three other bathrooms in the house. ALSO, this was a Jack and Jill bathroom, so she could have used the other door to get there!

Now in what world would you open a closed door in someone’s house, see a mother breastfeeding in the dark, be told multiple times that she’s nursing a baby, and come on up and sneak a peak?!?! Like standing over me.

I felt like when I kept repeating I was nursing that would have been enough. What would you have said?

Next time I’m going to 1.) lock the door and 2.) say “hey lady, give me some privacy!”

We are in the process of doing finishing touches to our house and I feel compelled to put a large rug under our dinning room table. My toddler is still a messy eater, doesn’t really throw food any more. Am I being ridiculous for wanting a rug under the table? Seeing advertisements for water resistant, low pile rugs is tempting me.

For those that have a rug or maybe had a rug under their table, did you absolutely regret it? Was it not that bad?

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I feel like on Reddit and social media, people are so quick to judge or guilt-trip others over sleeping styles.

It's already anxiety-inducing enough when you're doing shifts trying to stay awake with a newborn sleeping on your chest after barely sleeping for a week since giving birth. Or when your 7-week-old fights every single nap and cries and cries, and you're just trying to work out whether she'd actually be happier falling asleep on her own in a bassinet.

People tell you to embrace contact naps and stop "overthinking it" while you're genuinely trying to figure out what's best for your baby. Others tell you co-sleeping makes for happier babies, when you literally can't get a minute of sleep that way. Then the other camp makes you feel like you're a terrible mother if your baby isn't in a hard cot with nothing in it, in a 20-degree room, wearing barely anything so they don't overheat, swaddled- but not swaddled.

You end up feeling like every single choice is wrong.

I regret making posts asking for advice. There are so many people with genuine compassion who just want to help, but there seem to be even more who just want to shame.

What do people get out of responding in the way they do?

We have the Graco Snugride Snugfit DLX with the safety surround. When do we take the safety surround part out and how if anyone else has this carseat?

I'm pregnant and have plans for my parents to come visit after my baby is born in February. I was initially thinking of them flying over pretty soon after my due date to meet our newly born baby.

However, I started to consider that they are flying from the US to France and it's so easy to pick up a sickness on a flight, especially in winter. Personally, I probably get sick 50% of the time after flying, most of the time a cold.

How long would you wait to have visitors from overseas if you were having a newborn in February?

I'm curious both from a health perspective and also when it's easier to have visitors for the baby.

I'm not worried about entertaining, my parents are very helpful and will help us out during this time. They are quite aware that I'll be postpartum and are easy going and judgement free (in this regard at least). But I've never had a baby before, so I don't know what I don't know.

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When do I start brushing my baby’s teeth? She has one tiny bit of tooth that has pushed through.

I’m due in a few weeks, and we’re trying to work out how to safely manage life with a large dog and a baby/toddler over the coming years.

Until now, our dog has had free rein of the house, but since I got pregnant we’ve started making changes like installing baby gates and giving her her own sleeping space. It’s been an adjustment, and I know there will be a lot more management once the baby arrives.

My partner thinks they’ll eventually just coexist, but I’m a bit more cautious. From everything I’ve read, it seems like constant supervision and a fair amount of separation is the safest approach, especially once the baby becomes a mobile toddler.

We already know they’ll never be left alone together, so I’m not really asking about that. I’m more interested in how people manage things when everyone is together in the same space.

Our dog is a terrier/collie/Irish Wolfhound mix. She’s always been friendly with people and has never shown any aggression towards them. She isn’t clingy and will usually remove herself if things get too noisy. She is, however, anxious around some unfamiliar dogs and has a high prey drive towards small animals. She doesn’t have much experience with children so I’m concerned.

We’ll obviously be teaching our child to respect the dog’s space as they grow up, and we’ll continue training our dog around boundaries and calm behaviour.

I think my biggest worry is accidental injury rather than aggression. She’s large, incredibly fast, and can suddenly sprint if she hears something outside or gets the zoomies. I worry about her accidentally knocking over a toddler, or the baby crying startling her.

For those who’ve successfully managed a large dog and young children, what did your day-to-day setup look like? Are there any routines, house layouts, or lessons you wish you’d known from the start?

Thank you. It actually worked.

I have a baby that hates his car seat. I will make sure he is changed, fed, burped, etc before every car trip and he still will start crying. Well, then I saw a little tik tok hack where you hang an empty plastic bag near the window and slightly have it rolled down so that it rustles in the wind and distracts baby.

Worked like a charm. Baby immediately was interested and then fell asleep and I could roll the window back up. Now I just hope he doesn’t get bored of it 😅

My 6-month-old has been congested for days and nights are honestly brutal. Every time she falls asleep, the congestion builds up again and she wakes up crying the second I put her down.
We’ve been using saline and a nasal aspirator, but I keep second-guessing myself. Shoud I helping her breathe or just irritating her nose more? Some nights I feel like I’m using it every hour just to get her comfortable enough to sleep.
I’ve tried steam, gentle suction, spacing it out… still feels like a never-ending cycle at 2–3am.
Is this normal?
How often are you actually using a nasal aspirator during a cold?
And does it ever get easier, or is this just survival mode?

Okay we have a bad diaper rash with red, raw, broken skin so please tell me your best products used to fix your worst diaper rash! Products available in the US please. Currently using desitin max strength and aquaphor baby

When does the constant fog from sleeping in 2 hour blocks lift?

But I also hated when I was working so that’s not the solution I don’t think?? I think really I’m just struggling with loneliness which is hard for me to grasp because we have friends and family we keep in touch with and do see fairly frequently. We try to get out of the house daily whether to the library or grocery shopping or the park. But I’m still just feeling lonely everyday when my husband is gone 9-10 hours at work. And for some reason ive just been so snappy and bitchy and I feel terrible, I don’t know why every little thing is setting me off. I wish my closest friends had babies and could understand. I have seperate mom friends that I’ve made but it’s been hard to get closer to them. All of my family has their own insanely busy lives and I feel like mine is just so dull. And ngl makes me feel like a loser kind of?? Always reaching out to people to hangout so I don’t go stir crazy by myself and they’re always busy with their own lives. Idk I guess I just want to see if anyone else can relate or has any advice maybe?

Since we've come home with our new baby girl, my two dogs have been acting strangely and I cannot read their body language or intentions.

Whenever our baby makes a noise/cries they come running and try to get to her, not in an aggressive way I would say. They both come and try to lick/sniff, but also start whining loudly and sometimes barking which can get overwhelming whilst in the middle of trying to change her diaper or feed her or do anything tbh.

I understand a dogs curiosity but the whining and barking/ obsessive behavior has me concerned and quite frankly overwhelmed.

Has anyone else experienced this and can provide advice on how to deal/train them to be more relaxed around the baby?

I have 12 month old twins and we had been using these little silicone brushes that you put on over your finger and just with water to brush since they started getting teeth, but at their one year check up their pediatrician said it’s time to start using actual brushes and toothpaste. We got some and most of the time they fight it hard. We’ve tried a couple different toothpaste flavors and brushing our teeth in front of them right before doing theirs and they’re into holding the brushes, but not letting us put them in their mouths and definitely not with the toothpaste. I feel like we end up fighting to get a few tiny brushes in every night and then end up giving up. How are you getting one year olds to actually have their teeth brushed?

Hello,
My ~6 month old baby is pretty intense when it comes to sleep regressions, which happened when they unlocked a new skill, such as :

• using their hands to catch things
• rolling over
• at the moment : crawling

So, what are the next skill unlockings likely to trigger new sleep difficulties ?
I can think of sitting up straight, and later walking.. anything else ?

cheers,

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My 5 month old suddenly stopped taking bottles at 4 months. Before that she was taking them 3-5x a week no problem. I was mostly breastfeeding because it was honestly just easier and my supply wasn't great when I pumped. Bottles were used when I had to go out without issue. I didn't realise that could change or I would've been more consistent

We took a 2 day trip where no bottles were given and since then… complete strike. She used to at least take one from my husband at night in deep sleep but even that stopped this week.

The ONLY thing that works now is a Tommee Tippee 3 month nipple, in her bouncer in the morning, when she's happy and not too hungry or tired. Even then it's maybe 4 out of 7 days depending on her mood. We've tried everything: different bottles, nipples, temps, positions, me out of the house, others giving it, you name it.

Had to switch to combo feeding with formula too because I was pumping and losing milk and it was making everything worse mentally.

Here's my problem: I have a trip in 6 weeks to care for my sick mother in another country. I'll be gone for one week. Taking the baby isn't an option. I'll be alone and in and out of hospitals. My plan was to leave a pumped stash and have her on combo feeding while I'm away.

Two friends have told me their babies refused bottles until they went back to work and then just… took them out of hunger. I'm hoping for the same but I'm terrified.

I'm considering going cold turkey a week or two before I leave to test this out— no breastfeeding, bottle only. But I'm worried it'll stress her out and make her even more breast-fixated.

Has anyone actually done cold turkey and had it work? Or am I about to make this worse? Any experience with leaving a bottle-refusing baby would honestly help right now

My baby is ten months old, and I cannot have a conversation with my mom without her insisting I bring the baby to visit and how it's so easy to fly with a baby. She keeps insisting that "everyone does it" and it's starting to make me feel like a bad mom that I really don't want to. There are no direct flights so even the shortest way to get to them is 2 flights and 6-ish hours of travel, god forbid there's a delay and we miss our connection.

I told them and all my extended family that they're welcome to visit us anytime, but somehow it's my fault that not all the relatives have met the baby yet...

Please tell me I'm not being crazy when I'm reluctant to travel? I worry about germs, logistics, sleep (his and mine), entertaining the baby on the plane itself, general travel anxiety, and the plain fact that the visit itself will feel like a chore.

SEND THEM ALL AWAY. Let them be loud around each other FAR AWAY from me and my sleeping baby.

Yes I have the damn sound machine on blast. It doesn’t work.