I read some suggestions that having this type of chair can be a godsend to help soothe babies and for moms/parents to feed comfortably. however my apartment is really tiny, so I'm trying to decide if it's worth me trying to cram one in here.
where do most kids sleep at night?
According to her data, no one is bed sharing? As someone who has partially co-slept since my baby was around 5 months, I’m surprised. I was dead set on never co-sleeping, then reality set in for me. I personally know ppl who co-slept, not everyone. And if you look at any social media, many ppl do it. I want to say people are lying but at the same time…why would ppl lie on an anonymous questionnaire.
EDIT: this isn’t a post where I’m asking about OPINIONS on co-sleeping. I’m asking if it’s the reality. Also, shaming it IS NOT HELPFUL as all it does is make people lie. I’m merely asking if it’s the reality or ppl are lying.
Also, the United States is one of a few countries that actively discourages bed sharing. There are many countries where it is considered normal.
My daughter is 6 months old and we had a routine pediatrician appointment this week. Everything was normal, weight, feeding, sleep, all the usual questions.
Then near the end the doctor looked at me and asked, "And how are you doing? Do you actually enjoy being a parent?"
I don't even know why that hit me so hard, but I immediately started crying. Not cute little tears either, full embarrassing can't-talk-for-a-minute crying while my baby sat there chewing on her sleeve.
The weird thing is, I'm not miserable. I love my daughter more than I knew was possible. There are genuinely great parts every day.
But I'm also exhausted all the time. I miss being able to leave the house without planning a military operation. I miss sleeping. I miss having a thought that doesn't get interrupted halfway through.
Most people ask how the baby is doing. Family asks if she's sleeping, eating, rolling over, whatever. Nobody really asks whether I LIKE this new life, and I think I'd gotten used to acting like the only acceptable answer was that it's amazing.
The doctor was completely unfazed and basically said loving your baby and struggling with parenthood can exist at the same time.
I knew that logically, but apparently I needed another adult to say it out loud. I felt ridiculous afterward, but also weirdly lighter.
So if anyone else is sitting there at 3am wondering why they're not enjoying every second of something they wanted so badly, apparently you're allowed to love your kid and still admit some of this absolutely sucks.
So I have a 9 week old baby boy and one thing I noticed about him is that he loves his bath-time, he loves the water, getting washed and everything it really settles him however when I take him out the bath? Full melt down every single time
I don’t know what I’m suppost do to help prevent this, I give him his baths between 37-38 degrees, I take him out and wrap him in a towel straight away, dry, nappy, lotion and then get him changed and but the time I’m putting his nappy on he’s already screaming
I’m just wonder anyone got any tips I can use to make the transition more smoothly?
I have a 5 month old and I’m realizing how much parenting advice seems to depend entirely on the baby 😂 I’m curious what advice did everyone swear by that just did NOT work for yours?
Anyone else feel this right now?
I ended my parental leave early and sent baby to full time care. I don’t miss him over a 10 hour day. I don’t look at pictures. I don’t think of him at all. I sit up at night and into the morning with him, counting down the hours to 7:30 when I leave him and work.
My coworker has a 7 month old she’s trying to sleep train and said “but the cries break my heart, you know?”
I didn’t say it, but I don’t know. I hear my son cry and I feel nothing. Zero. I mechanically check the diaper, burp, attempt a feed. But sometimes I’ve just stared at him in the crib. Sometimes I’ve put in headphones and walked away to do whatever for 10 minutes.
For context, he had colic the first 10 weeks and CMPI. I guess I got use to feeling completely helpless when he screamed then?
Started appointments with perinatal therapy and getting some hormones and thyroid checked.
Pediatrician is informed and we're monitoring the situation.
So I had this *magnificent* idea to diy a sensory activity with aluminum foil. All was OK, baby was excited and playing until she decided aluminum foil is a delicacy. I think a small piece may have been ingested. 🤦♀️It only took one second.
I'm losing my mind, I should have known better. I know babies eat all sorts of stuff, I've eaten worse as a kid. Baby looks fine so far, ate, drank milk, but I can't relax. She's teething, of course she would shove it in her mouth. What was I thinking. Yes I'm a FTM.
Thanks in advance
I feel absolutely terrible. My baby is 4 months old and I have been having a really hard time.
Sleep has been an issue. I posted several days ago about the false starts we had been struggling with for weeks. I took the advice I was given and increased her wake windows. It has been fairly successful. She has still had a few nights of one to two false starts and less wake ups overall at night.
Despite this improvement, I am still so frustrated and anxious about her sleep. I sit downstairs on the couch and anxiously watch the monitor. I tell myself she is going to wake up and to just expect it. When she does wake up, I feel my stomach drop and trudge upstairs to get her back to sleep. We EBF and I nurse her for ~10 min or so to get her back to sleep and then transfer her to her crib. It's not an awful process but for some reason it makes me feel very frustrated and anxious.
I am currently a SAHM. I am grateful for this but it's really tough being home all the time. I used to be such a homebody and now I feel like I live in a self imposed prison. I try to get out of the house but it's been super hot and smokey here recently. I also worry about my baby being in her car seat for too long. I feel so trapped by her nap schedule. I feel like if I don't give her 3 good naps a day, our night is going to reflect it. Because I breastfeed, I am the only one who gets up in the night with her.
When I was pregnant, my husband severely injured his dominant hand in a work accident. He lives in constant pain and is often unable to pick our daughter up. Therefore I have to do basically everything for her. He can play with her but recently she gets bored easily and has to be picked up and moved around all the time. He can hold her but I have to pick her up and put her in his arms. Then inevitably, his arm gets tired and he needs to put her down. I know he can't help it but it's infuriating to me. He feels helpless and I feel angry and resentful.
We live near both of our families and they visit us frequently and help with the baby a lot. I'm very grateful for this but ultimately everything comes down to me. I feed her, I play with her, I carry her around, I put her down for all her naps and bedtime. Etc etc etc.
Today I woke up with a searing headache. I just wanted to keep sleeping. My husband can't pick the baby up so I begrudgingly woke up and changed her diaper, fed her, etc. In the mornings she is generally in a good mood and will tolerate laying on her playmat for a longer period of time. My husband tried to play with her on the playmat while I tried to catch up on some sleep.
An hour went by and he woke me up from a dead, dreaming, sleep to ask me to help pick up the baby from the playmat and that she was crying. I did and I played with her for a while but she was just getting more and more upset. I decided to put her down for her first nap. She just wasn't having it. She was crying, I was trying to settle her, bounce her, and then as a last resort I tried to nurse her to sleep. She wasn't calming. I got up from the bed and shrieked. My husband came running yelling, "what was that?!". I was sobbing saying I didn't do anything I am just so frustrated.
I feel terrible for doing that. I love my little girl and would never hurt her. I am just so sick and tired of being the only one who can care for her. I know my husband feels useless and helpless. It sucks and I don't know what to do about it.
My baby is just so fussy all the time recently and I feel like she gets bored so easily and nothing is entertaining enough or whatever for her. She will not take a contact nap, she will only nap in her crib or in her car seat in a moving car. When she does nap, we have to be so quiet in the house. I'm so over it. I feel like a prisoner in my own home. She has two sound machines pretty loud in our room but if you scrape your fork on your plate or cough or sneeze, it wakes her up.
I feel like I'm losing my shit and I don't know how to make it better.
Baby is 8 weeks and isnt napping well during the day time in living room bassinet, wondering if it’s time to have him sleep in his nursery for day time naps. I would have a monitor of course, is it too soon?
Thoughts? TIA
Can teething pain last for weeks at a time? 6M old is showing all the usual teething signs (chomping on hands/teething toys, rooting around in his mouth, extra drooly, fussy - especially at night, sleeping less) but I’m concerned at how long it’s lasting with no teeth erupting. It’s been almost 3 weeks now. It was worse in the first week with fussing occurring all day whereas now it’s mostly isolated to the evenings, but still. Is this normal!? We have a GP appointment but it’s not until 28th :(
Hi Reddit!
First time mom of a (now) 3 month old baby. He is so sweetest and cutest little star!
The issue I am having is that he does NOT like to be put down. Not for a second. It prevents me from being able to do anything all day… from using the bathroom to household chores.
Is this normal? I feel like I watch my friends put their babies down for naps and tummy time with ease.
I’m so very willing to hold my sweet baby, but I also want to be able to use the bathroom or let him nap without causing him stress/crying.
Any advice would be so helpful.
Thank you in advance ♥️
I'm looking for 'i love you' lullabies. Songs that tell your baby how much you cherish them as you put them to sleep. I can't help singing "baby mine" from Dumbo. I love that song, but I'm not the biggest fan of the movie.
Hi! I'm a stay at home first time dad with 1 boy at 18 months old.
Starting a couple months ago he has started to be interested in other babies when we see them in public. He also really wants to get the attention of kids slightly older than him. I think he is starting to want to socialize.
With socialization in mind I signed him up for daycare for 2 days a week. We took a tour (1.5 hours) and he got sick for 2 weeks. Then his official start date I left the room after 15 mins and watched him from the lobbies cameras for 1 hour. He cried the entire hour straight... no one was able to calm him down. It got to a point where his health was a concern so I took him home and decided to pull him out of daycare. Huge waste of money because we had to pay for the whole month regardless of how many days he went.
Since then I've been looking for online playdate groups and ideas on how to put him into a social environment where there are other kids.
So far I've been rejected from mom 3 groups because I'm a man... I can't find "dad" or "parent" groups in my area, literally moms only. Its 100 degrees F (Texas) so no kids are out on playgrounds or parks near me. There are very little things for toddlers under 2 in my area. Texas suburbs honestly feels like a curse sometimes. Most places I go with my son (mall, groceries, etc) are fill with moms and it would be really creepy if I just approach them and try to get their contact to get my son a playdate.
Its like trying to wingman for my on son so he can make some friends.
Can people share some ideas on how I can get my son some friends?
Do not keep concrete expectations on how your life is going to look like for the next 2-4 years. Depending on your support system, most other aspects of your life may take a backseat - time, sleep, career, health, relationships, etc.
The best thing you can do for yourself and the baby is make informed decisions. In my humble opinion, do not limit the source of your education to just your doctor.
You and your baby are a product of multiple subjective factors like physical and mental health, pregnancy, labor and delivery, postpartum, support system, financial stability, career privileges, and what not. Hence no two parents are going to have the exact same experience. Remind yourself this when you get the tendency to compare.
Every baby deserves a safe and happy parent(s) and a safe and happy environment. In many cases, pregnancy and childcare permanently shift relationship dynamics. Keep this in mind when you're required to make a difficult decision.
Feel free to add more :)
Work or become SAHM?
Im recently had our daughter and my husband is giving me the option to quit my job and stay home with her. My mom is planning to retire soon so if I keep working can ask her for help since I work from home but know my mom didn’t retire to then take care of an infant 40hrs a week so don’t want to rely on her solely to watch her. I work from home so could try to figure out how to make it work but even the thought of it stresses me out trying to juggle both and feel guilty already not being able to give my daughter the attention she may need during the work days. Financially we can make it off of my husband’s salary but we will have to budget and be very mindful of what we’re spending. I’m worried that the guilt of not contributing financially will be a lot for me but at the same time putting our daughter in daycare is a no go either.
I feel like since I have to option to stay home and watch her grow up I should take it plus I’d really like that but I’m so worried about the guilt. Any thoughts?
My son is 9 weeks and omg is trying to stick to a pumping routine hard
He has exclusively breast milk and I can’t breastfeed him a lot of the time due to the fact I got such a bad oversupply and a fast flow/letdown
It’s like I see I should be doing it every 3-4 hours but it’s so hard to as he dosnt care and will jsut scream and cry or refuse to be put down
I’m just worried my supply would dip due to this
I have a nearly 3 year old and a 3 month old. We had to run a time sensitive errand this morning so the toddler and I showered and I quickly put a dress on my toddler and her shoes with the intention of getting her into a pull up after I got myself into clothes. Well I just completely forgot she did not have one on. We all got in the car and buckled in and did what we needed to do and went back home. We were out for about an hour. When I was helping her get out of her seat is when I realized my mistake. Pee everywhere. I just had to laugh and apologize to her that I didnt notice. Mostly im just glad it wasn't 💩! In the background my newborn was upset because she wanted her next feeding so it was a little chaotic to try to get everyone cleaned and then fed. 😍
My husband may still be at work when it’s time for me to go out with my friends to a restaurant. Do you all take your babies out if you have a date night? He is two month and we would be there by 7, and leave by 9. I usually don’t like taking him out past 7. But he doesn’t even go to bed until 10 anyway..
I sterilize her bottles, wash my hands 1,000 times a day, wash her clothes at 60–90°C (140–194°F), wipe everything with antibacterial wipes, wash her toys… and she says, “Cute.” Then proceeds to lick the floor and put EVERY SINGLE THING she finds directly into her mouth.
Now she rolls, somehow crawls, and we go out more, so I’ve officially lost control. 😂