u/Vybrocit1

9 week old diagnosed with CMPI at 7 weeks after 3 weeks of purple crying, pooping every feed (8-10 times/day) and blood in stool. Currently on Elecare and doing well. Not quite night and day, but definitely a huge turnaround.

I eliminated dairy 2 weeks ago but not soy since Elecare contains it and he seems to have no issues. I’ve kept pumping and freezing but…will we ever use this stash? Did your kids eventually outgrow it soon enough to get through a stash?

FWIW, pediatrician advised another 2 weeks minimum on Elecare, preferably for a total of 2-3 months. I’m going back to work at that point and don’t see how I can keep up pumping every 2 hours daily.

Husband went back to work so it’s just me with 9 week old all day. I mentioned it to my neighbor (age 45 ish) and she cheerfully agreed to stop over and help for a hour so I could do a telehealth appointment. My gut was skeptical since she doesn’t have kids herself and is just a …nervous person. But she assured me “oh we practically raised our niece, I spent so much time with the other family next door and their baby, etc” She keeps texting me every few days “let me know, I want to help”

Gets to our house and won’t even hold the baby. Just looks at me nervously. I ask if she is ok feeding him and go to the kitchen to get a bottle. Come back and she says “I just asked ChatGPT what to do with a baby”

Omg get tf out of my house

I miss my telehealth appointment and tell her thanks for stopping by.

We’ve known them about a year. She never gave me weird vibes but now I realize she was probably lying the entire time about her experience with kids and just wanted to…see my baby? Pretend to be maternal?

TLDR listen to your gut!

9 weeks PP. My pregnancy was a breeze. Absolutely no complications, minor nausea, and I lost almost all the weight within 3 weeks PP. Birth was straightforward and I felt so close to my son for 2 weeks. Nursing, cuddling, etc, even with sleep deprivation and c section recovery.

Week 3-7 were then the worst of my life. Discovered at week 7 he has cow milk protein intolerance after bloody diapers and 3 straight weeks of scream crying almost all day, 9 am -8 pm. He never napped more than 20 minutes, screamed after every feed for 30-40 minutes (aka every 2 hours, 40 minutes was scream crying) and screamed non stop during every witching hour (6-8 pm).

I had a mental breakdown by week 6 and considered checking myself into the hospital just to sleep. My mom saw me in this bad state and called in every person I knew to take shifts with baby. I mean anyone: coworkers, aunts, neighbors. Our house is a parade of visitors.

I stopped breastfeeding and baby takes hypoallergenic formula. He still fusses but the screaming has stopped, mostly because I can see when he is overtired.

But…something inside me broke. I don’t feel bonded anymore. There have been 2-3 day periods where I only did overnight feeds. Daytimes were his grandparents, dad, or neighbors. I’m grateful for the help but I don’t even feel like he’s my baby anymore. He’s a person I need to keep alive and it doesn’t matter whether it’s me or a neighbor, he’s happy if he’s fed.

Anyone else feel this?