u/Vybrocit1

Father in law said this. My son is 3.5 months old. He has held him once, at much embarrassment to his wife (my mother in law).

He constantly says things to the baby like “well once you get more fun, I’ll talk to you” He compares him to his other grandchild (age 5) and how older kids are so much easier.

When they visited our house 6 weeks postpartum, he asked me what’s for dinner as I was trying to nurse my screaming baby.

This is just a rant. I never expect him to change. But I didn’t see this side of him until after baby arrived.

I get some people aren’t baby people. But I also don’t want him in my house and I feel he doesn’t want to be there either.

15 week old son is a suspicious baby lol. He’s constantly side eyeing people and animals who aren’t me or dad.

Son is 14 weeks and now has spent the majority of his life exclusively formula fed on an amino acid formula (Elecare). I eliminated dairy and pumped to build a stash for 7 weeks.

If I’m honest, I prefer exclusively formula feeding. I know his exact intake, others can easily feed him, and, most importantly, he’s a smiley, chunky baby (vs his screaming, spitting, constant pooping).

I have tender memories of the first 6 weeks nursing and am ready to wean off the pump when I return to work in an environment where pumping is difficult. I also want to eat dairy again.

But every time I read threads of moms slogging through elimination diets and challenges, I feel guilty. Today, a friend told me both her sons were Ige allergic to milk and she kept her elimination diet for 18 months. I felt like a quitter.

Anyone been through this?

We had the privilege of hiring a postpartum doula for one night to care for my son (3 months old).

I told her when she arrived to expect 3 night feeds.

I woke up at 3:45 am to my son inconsolably crying and hungry in his bassinet. The doula was in the next room and completely asleep, even with both doors open and the baby monitor on.

I took my baby, fed him, and kept watch since I didn’t trust the doula to get up again.

In the morning, I told her she was completely asleep and missed a feed. She defended herself saying if this happens, clients just wake her up to get the baby.

Is that standard? It seems stupid to wake her up if I’m up anyway. I mean, what’s the point of hiring someone if I need to wake them up to do their job?

Edit: firm hell no from all y’all - thanks for confirming my gut. Will call for a refund.

We had the privilege of hiring a postpartum doula for one night to care for my son (3 months old).

I told her when she arrived to expect 3 night feeds.

I woke up at 3:45 am to my son inconsolably crying and hungry in his bassinet. The doula was in the next room and completely asleep, even with both doors open and the baby monitor on.

I took my baby, fed him, and kept watch since I didn’t trust the doula to get up again.

In the morning, I told her she was completely asleep and missed a feed. She defended herself saying if this happens, clients just wake her up to get the baby.

Is that standard? It seems stupid to wake her up if I’m up anyway. I mean, what’s the point of hiring someone if I need to wake them up to do their job?

Edit: firm hell no from all y’all - thanks for confirming my gut. Will call for a refund.

Debating how to stop pumping. EPP for 7 weeks now. Baby is 13 weeks old.

I dropped the MOTN pump 5 weeks ago and my period came back. I dropped 2 daytime pumps as well. Schedule currently is 6 am, 12 pm, 4 pm, 8 pm, roughly.

I want to avoid major hormonal crashes, flu symptoms etc. Should I drop the day pumps first?

Switched to exclusive formula due to allergies at 7 weeks. Baby is now 12 weeks and breastfeeding now feels like remembering a crazy ex: I rarely think about it, but when I do, I ask why the heck I was trying so hard to make it work? Why did I let it define me? Was it all just hormones lol?

12 week old EFF due to CMPA. I was so set on breastfeeding. I triple fed, elimination dieted, pumped and froze, saw 4 lac consultants, ate lactation friendly foods, worked through clogs, engorgement etc.

After 6 weeks EFF per doctor’s orders, baby has 0 interest in nursing.

Today though, something clicked. Seeing my son smile and gurgle at me, doing tummy time, babbling with him, bringing him to mom’s groups and a neighbor’s BBQ, bringing him to the lake…I suddenly don’t care about how is is fed. Like I don’t even think about it. I’m just happy he’s happy. And I suddenly see there’s so much more to being his mom than how I feed him.

I wish I could go back to my pregnant self and especially my 3 weeks post c section self and say, “it’s all fine. He’ll be fine!”

Once I was out of the cloud of hormones and unsolicited advice, I feel SO much better

Curious: is cow milk formula widely used in your country?

American here. It was heavily pushed in my birth hospital and ob office (free samples, telling me it was best to try it “in case” even though baby was gaining)

11 week old. On Elecare for 4 weeks now. Cut dairy for 2 weeks. Pumping and freezing.
Pediatricians have given me conflicting advice: one said wait 4 days. One said formula exclusively for 3 months total, to get to the 5 month mark. No advice on how to reintroduce pumped milk or nurse (an ounce a day and work up?)

Does anyone else have this?

He’s 11 weeks old. My husband works 7 am- 7 pm.

I dread being alone all day with baby. I’m completely fine when our house is full of people (weekends with grandparents or cousins etc). But I feel on edge alone.

I’ve hired a sitter to come over a few hours a week so I can sleep in the day. I tried going to free mom groups but my local ones kept getting canceled due to low enrollment. I’ve taken baby a few times to walk in a mall or even just drive around the city. I take him for a walk daily in the neighborhood.

But it’s very lonely.

That is all lol

That’s all lol

Baby is 11 weeks old today. I count down the days to my leave ending. Anyone else feel this?

First time mom here (34 years old). I cannot believe how hard this has been. I also cannot believe how fast time has already gone.

Parents, give me your best advice, proudest moments, and deepest regrets.

Is anyone experiencing this? I don’t know if it’s post COVID, social media, or normal aging but my parents (66) are suddenly much more anxious, pessimistic, and unwilling to leave the house? It accelerated in the past 5 years and very much in the past 2.

Examples: up to 2021, they independently took out of state vacations and independently managed a rental car, airport parking, flights, tickets etc

Now: they’re nervous to park at the airport (“what if i leave the car in the wrong ramp?”), need my help to buy tickets (to a location they’ve gone to 8+ times), and don’t want to drive. My brother (30) had to go with on said vacation as the designated driver, check in for flights etc

They’re both still working and seem generally well (good hygiene, enjoy gardening, cooking).

AMy mom had a torn meniscus in 2024 and needed 6 months of pt. My dad had emergency bladder surgery in 2022 and was on FMLA for 12 week recovering. Between this and covid, they’re suddenly helpless and it’s hard to watch. I feel like they’re 80 and not 60.

Wondering if it’s true that you forgot all the bad moments? And if so, after how long?

I’m already forgetting some details of the birth and it’s only been 3 months.

Anyone have experience with multiple babies to know what a hard vs easy newborns is?

Family members have commented my son is “hard,” but I think he’s just a baby? Fussier than average maybe, but from posts here, he’s pretty in line with baby behavior (reflux, fights sleep, cow milk protein intolerance)

He’s repeatedly compared to my sister in law’s unicorn of a baby who nursed excellently, slept anywhere, slept through the night, etc etc.

Grandparents graciously took baby and I slept 10 hours like a rock

Title says it all. Anyone else feel this?

9 week old diagnosed with CMPI at 7 weeks after 3 weeks of purple crying, pooping every feed (8-10 times/day) and blood in stool. Currently on Elecare and doing well. Not quite night and day, but definitely a huge turnaround.

I eliminated dairy 2 weeks ago but not soy since Elecare contains it and he seems to have no issues. I’ve kept pumping and freezing but…will we ever use this stash? Did your kids eventually outgrow it soon enough to get through a stash?

FWIW, pediatrician advised another 2 weeks minimum on Elecare, preferably for a total of 2-3 months. I’m going back to work at that point and don’t see how I can keep up pumping every 2 hours daily.