r/AdultDepression

I just feel life is just done for me. I just feel things can’t be fixed the way they are . Need help to get it over with

Im still struggling, but its better than it has been for the last 20 years.

BEST THING I LEARNED! Depression is not some single thing, not a monolithic illness that has a single cause and a single "silver bullet" cure, so quit hoping for one. It's also different for everyone.

I had to attack all the root causes one by one, and progress has been very slow.

1. Sleep. This was the hardest one. Had to learn how to fix my sleep, because in addition to depression I am prone to sleep deprivation psychosis at a much higher rate than most others, and certainly higher than when I was 18 (45 years ago). Despite what my brain tells me, I CAN'T pull an "all-nighter" any more.

2. Sunlight. This was the hardest one. No matter what time I got to sleep, or even if I didn't, I have to go outside and face the rising sun for a few minutes. Something about the early morning light helps reset all kinds of biological stuff in my brain.

3. Something physical. This was the hardest one. I had no motivation to do anything at all. Eat, shower, get out of bed. I even resented getting up to pee, to where I (almost) started pissing in bottles. What did it for me was finally getting talked into attending (watching, not participating) a BJJ class. I used to wrestle in high school, and it seems to have woken Something up in me. I now go 3x a week. Oldest man on the floor, can't do half the shit the youngsters do, but by God I'm there.

4. Quit drinking alcohol. Completely. Its been 10 months now. This was the hardest one for me. Been drinking since birth, basically, and entire family is alcoholic, going back as far as Ancestry dot com can see. "Family Tradition" of self medication to numb out bipolar, TLEs, PTSD, etc.

5. Zyrtec-D in the morning. The pseudoephedrine HCL 120 mg gives me just enough of a boost to get morning things done. The antihistamine helps also.

6. 200 mg L-THEANINE also in the mornings, and again around 5 pm. Keeps the "crazies" away. Stimulates alpha rhythms and suppresses Beta in the brain. Calmer, think clearer, less anxiety.

Like I said,lots of little things, none of which by itself made a huge difference, but together seem to be having a positive effect.

And yes, at the time, they ALL seemed like the hardest thing to do. 😀 Good luck.

So, I had an amazing job, everything around me was super great. Amazing boyfriend. But suddenly I lost it all. My job as well as my boyfriend all in a day because of my excessive alcoholism. I have been drinking since college days - I started excessively 3 years back. There hasn’t been a day I haven’t drank post and pre office. Any parties whatever it was.

I tried committing suicide after I lost both the things at once, my friends and family realised I need rehab. Like it’s high time. My mom always yelled at me whenever it was excessive that the next stop for me is rehab! And this time she really did it. I yelled and screamed at the centre they actually sedated me for 5 days and then I was started with my group therapies. I didn’t have access to my phone or I could make anyone my friend (people having different problems). Then slowly and steadily I started working with my therapists and talking to other folks, meditating and sharing in a group. The girl who couldn’t read 5 pages of a group have read 3 books in 5 days, my favourite genre became self help.
I am out of the “mind care” centre (I hate calling it rehab). I am doing a 1000 times better than I was.
I needed this. I deserved it. I still don’t have a job and the boyfriend anymore & I have no idea what’s ahead of me.

But all I know is - “I am more than what I appear to be, all the world’s power and strength rests inside of me!”

There is a lot of other dramas that took place in between. Feel free to ask if anyone has any questions.

Thanks for reading.

I'm 24ys. After graduation from university, I find it hard to figure out my next move. Dealing with my depression and sucsidal thoughts, killing me every day. I find it hard to get out of bed, brush my teeth, eat, or sleep. Everything around me is a miss. Everyone is moving forward while I'm stuck on the same cycle. I hate myself so much.

Every time my sister sees me eating or playing games just to forget, she whisper prays for me to end up like my cousin who falls to drugs and an unstable life, and for me to die. I started to wear my headphones more so I didn't listen to her so she got bolder and prayed in front of my face, she was hoping I heard her. I do hear her but pretent not to...

Last night, I attempted to end everything, I was hoping I was gone. No more pain, but I survived.

I dont know what I will do anymore. No one even noticed my absence. I dont know how to deal with my sister, or myself....

Title says it all. I literally don’t know what to do.
I do the normal adult things - I have a good job and a beautiful apartment and a couple fur babies that I love! My life is beautiful. But for some reason I can’t get myself to do anything right now… not exercise even though that was once something that brought me great joy.. I bought some roller skates hoping to pick up a new hobby.. I tried to paint.. I tried to meditate.. I tried to get into reading.. I have a bicycle.. I took some dance classes weekly for awhile… instead of doing any of these things? Whenever I get home from work I sit my ass on the couch and watch TV. Instead of doing chores, instead of learning, instead of trying to get into new hobbies… It disgusts me but apparently I’m not angry enough at the state I’m living in to do anything about it?

I know this probably sounds stupid. I just don’t know how to get myself to want to try anymore..
I wasted my 20s playing house with men it ultimately didn’t workout with and I’ve been single for awhile now - I’m wondering if I just genuinely don’t know myself or what I want? I guess I just don’t know how to be a healthy, productive, or interesting person anymore.

Outside of working and caring for my animals, I just don’t know how to care….

TLDR: I have what I need in my life and I should be happy/trying but instead I’m wasting my life.

Any input helps - thanks for reading 🙏

I’m on the breaking point. I’ve never felt quite so close to just giving up. I don’t even know what to say. I feel like a lot of people dismissed me because of my past and how I look and who I am, but if I had to be real myself and everyone else, this is the clearest my mind‘s been for a while, and the most I have thought about a topic before I acted. Sometimes I have a hard time advocating for myself, but this time I refuse to not advocate for myself. I was just diagnosed with a neurological virus. The diagnosis was delayed because of negligence. And now I’m sitting here realizing the repercussions and how this will affect my future and how it’s affecting me now. And out of all the days for me to have a breakdown it would be a fucking long holiday weekend.

Is there any success story getting out of depression ? I am depressed due to marriage crisis and burnout . Started antidepressants. It gets worse they say before it gets better . It definitely does ! Every morning I wake with understanding that I don’t have anything interesting to do this day . Anything at all that I want to do ! I was happy !!!! I thought my marriage was my base and it was a good marriage . And I had my passion at work ! I am a chef . But it all crashed one day ! 2 years ago
Since then I just slowly went into deep depression .
Is there a way out ?
Any success stories ?

Hi y'all...

First time on Reddit. First time I've ever posted anything on Reddit...first time I've decided to actually *engage* on this website...in the hopes that I may not be alone after all.

I'm 33, male, unemployed, undeserving, and quite frankly...unimportant. We're already in July of 2026...I was wondering if there's anyone else out there who feels they had lost a part of themselves a long time ago, and are wondering if they'll ever get that *spark* or *motivation* to actually *live* their lives, instead of passively existing day by day? Apologies for sounding abstract, or providing such a loaded question here, but just wondering if there's anyone else who also feels *lost* in the way that I'm feeling tonight...alone, afraid, and anxious. Maybe just the knowledge of knowing that there's at least one other person out there who feels something similar to what i'm feeling right now...can help me shoulder the ache, sadness, and regret.

Thanks for reading this far into my ramble...hope you make it towards the next sunrise. 🙂

I’m 33 depressed all my life. I’ve been suicidal all my life. I can’t tell if the meds are working. Tired of taking them . I’m jobless cant seem to get hired. I tried to jumpstart my life by getting an apartment I didn’t have enough income. I don’t know how to drive I’m embarrassed I get aniexty. I can’t afford a car never had one . My life sucks I’m miserable I’m single I have no friends. I just want to end my life. I pray to god seems he never hears me . I’m lost tired feel like giving up . My whole life it’s been disappointment and setbacks and failures. I feel life isn’t worth living anymore. I’m hopeless nothing to look forward to but more bad things happening.

Life is just terrible and I hate everything about it I can’t take it anymore and nobody cares at all. I hope yall are happy I’m suffering

Another rock bottom. There’s been so many. When does it stop? now a Sudden devastating Break up over a miss communication and misunderstanding 8wks ago. We were perfect for years it was amazing. Best relationship happiest I’ve ever been. My partner left me and won’t reply my apology and accountability video I sent him. I’m severely depressed sobbing everyday and all I can do is throw away all my belongings and packing house into boxes, putting things on curb etc. I live on protein shakes. Im struggling to get to work. I’ve been planning start new life somewhere else away from everyone and everything. I quit my side job at my gym and left community. I’m searching rentals. I’m also searching suicide success and NDE stories. My life has been all devastatingly painful one thing after another. I’m alone and I don’t want to continue battling to survive in today’s world. All I can do is pack house up. I know everyone will say there reason to live and keep going but really being free in spirit feels much like liberation from heavy painful earth. My birthday 42 soon may be last.

Im so depreased. I hate being home and at work. I just fake it at work and i have no one according to my mom. My mom complains about the same issue every 5 mins. I work outdoors in heat and i wish job market was better. My mom and twin are constantly waking me up at night after her shift to talk. I live at home and it hot in my room even with fans. I hate being single and idk where to move on minuim wage ,but i have to do it alone. It is frusterating bc my younger siblings r moved out and do worse crap and my mom doesnt compare us. I dont drive and im always alone after work. The only thing keeping me going is nicitone. F 30

Hello I’m currently 22 years old and I’m at the lowest point of my life thought about every possible thing as sucide,become a homeless,overdosing, just anything to end all of this in a blink. I really need help I don’t want to continue this, my whole life I never really gave much thought what my future was gonna be like until now where I’m just going through it. Idk how do you guys keep it going

Pivoting between giving up or actually learn how to try
Im in a crisis where I have no direction in life and i have no education or humility whatsoever. If I want to continue living I have to serve in the military, to learn whats right and whats wrong. Or I end my pathetic life and be done with it. I cant decide help me pls

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I'm 29M and I honestly don't know what I'm supposed to do anymore.

For the past many months, my life has revolved around taking care of my mom, who has cancer. I don't regret being there for her, but somewhere along the way I feel like I completely disappeared.

When I'm not taking care of her, I have nothing. No job, no routine, no purpose, no excitement. I don't even feel motivated to do things that I know are supposed to help like exercising, learning a skill, applying for jobs, or pursuing hobbies. I just don't care.

Most days I sleep. When I'm awake, I often end up masturbating just to feel something or to pass the time, and then I go back to sleeping. My appetite is low too.

People keep telling me to find a purpose or stay busy, but I genuinely don't feel any drive to do any of it. It's like my brain has gone numb.

I'm safe. I'm not planning to hurt myself. I just feel empty and directionless.

Has anyone else gone through something similar after being a caregiver or after life completely derailed? Did the motivation ever come back? How did you rebuild a life when you couldn't even imagine wanting one?

I'm not looking for motivational quotes. I just want honest advice from people who've actually been here.

I was okay today .. then I just really thought about my life and how I actually don’t like it .. any of it .. I have no one that loves me .. no one to love .. I don’t even enjoy my job.. my friends are all struggling … I got so depressed by just thinking of the reality of my life

Hello. I'm 33 and nonbinary. I have very severe C-PTSD. I've been harmed by the so-called mental healthcare system so much that I'd rather die than pursue mainstream therapy or medication again. I'm extremely isolated and extremely traumatized. I think about killing myself all day every day. I tried last year. I don't know what to do anymore. I can't go back to the therapists that harmed me and I can't handle more useless meds and side effects. I'm willing to try alternative therapies. But I've also reached a point where I can barely move or speak or eat or sleep. I want to die so badly. How can I make the pain stop? Please.

31yr old, Female- I’ve been mentally struggling for 10 months now. To start, I never thought I’d live this long. I completed all my career goals early, so I quit my job and decided to do something that made me feel something about 2yrs ago. I work for myself now. Then started family troubles- I’ll spare you the agony of the details but my once very close/loving family & extended family has shattered. To sum it up- Legal issues, dementia, lying, addiction, framing one another, kidnapping, rape & being generally cruel towards one another which brings us to the state of now- pretend they all don’t exist. Every. Single. One. They all act like no one else exists anymore outside their immediate family. I love my family but they’re a bunch of selfish immature assholes who refuse to communicate like logical human beings. To add, my long term relationship feels like a joke. Being a devoted and loyal partner, I have been disappointed/disrespected/humiliated so much that I fear it will continue forever. I still think he is a good guy (he has grown an incredible amount) but he’s an idiot when it comes to women and irrational when upset. Not to say I do not play the other role in this “failure” of an ongoing relationship. I’m not the coolest cucumber when heavy shit hits the fan and I’m a mean drunk. (I stopped drinking) I stayed in my hometown to be close to my family and my boyfriend. Now that it’s all gone to shit and I’m not tied to the corporate world here I feel no reason to be here. No one hears me anymore, well actually no one listens- they just respond with the first thought of themselves instead of listening or asking clarifying questions. When I first noticed a few months ago it I felt like I was walking in a simulation & suddenly speaking some other language. Which in turn told me, I’m not important. That I could disappear and although at first it would hurt people they’d move on reasonably fast and I’d soon be an after thought. I’m okay with that. I don’t want to be who I am anymore. I want to leave, disappear and start somewhere that I don’t have to be who I am. I don’t want to feel like I do. I worry leaving won’t fix this and I’ll think about ending it all. Which really isn’t all that far from the back of my mind already. Anyways, I guess I needed to vent and ask people how they handled finding themselves while fighting depression. I don’t need the “go drink water” “walk in the sunshine” “go to therapy” bullshit cause I do all of that religiously at this point to keep.. ya know those thoughts at bay. I need actual advice and direction here.

Let me advice you im not looking for attention im looking for a sign things will get better and i dont wanna hear it i just have so much time to do things im so bored and i have no actual friends so i wanna read yall opinions on this for starters as a young kid i was taken from my mother and to skip the boring things she got me back at 11 before j went back i was with my grandma and oh my gosh we were in a rich neighborhood of white people and it was fun she made sure we never ever touched a device so we always had fun in a good we we went outside played and as im writing this im tearing up because thats the most fun ive ever had (downey ca)in my life my brother was around the family would always have something and meet up but things changed after i moved back in with my mom she was around alot of gang banging areas and i fell ik with people i just didnt like not being included so i did bad things became a mean person and now im stuck with all this later on she began to get afraaive because she spent alot of money on a lawyer getting us back and it tore her apart she put alot of anger in to us and me and my brother gathered and told dcfs now im with my aunties daughter it is cool yet ive been through 3 households in the family and they all treat me like a stranger and don’t trust me its weird and honestly i just cant wait to be on my own once again between all this i have tinnitus and its scary and the ringing never stops because i listened to niche music on blast I’ve switched schools every single grade At least 2-3 times im always left out because of it and honestly I’m so tired i just bed rot or go outside with people i don’t even like girls im not even into honestly as a black male i can confidently say my type is white girls i don’t want someone who always is so entitled and i may just be too young for rls but that is just a very very short summary of everything that goes on in my life and its hell i dont give me no christianity bs please i will hate on it but yeah bored and just want opinions or other stories