r/howtonotgiveafuck

This is a question to all the people who:

- don't worry about what others think of them

- aren't paranoid about whether people secretly hate them

- aren't obsessed with being liked by everyone

- manage to relax and empty their brain

- manage to move on and keep living

How do you do it? How do you manage to be so chill and just live? Please teach me your ways, I aspire to be like you.

I work at a warehouse. The job is very physically demanding. I think my boss hates me. Whenever I ask for something that will make my job easier , she shoots down the suggestion. Also she will walk past me literally twenty times a shift before she stops and speaks to me and often if I say hey to her first she won't respond. Also im being overworked and asked to handle the load of 2-3 people and when I can't handle it her and my co workers accuse me of not moving fast enough. My body literally aches in the morning when I get up , like I retired from playing pro football .

My co workers also gossip about what they think my sexuality is , behind my back of course. They seem overly worried about why I don't have a wife or kids. Also my co workers act like they are the manager and often criticize my work unfairly and tell me what to do and how to do my job. I often get made fun of because of my thick southern accent(even though I live in TN) and co workers mock me behind my back and sometimes to my face.

This shit makes me violently angry and I often think of getting bloody revenge against them even though it won't solve anything and get me in jail

For the past 2 days have hung out with my stepsibling’s who is very different from me. I am your quintessential worn out nyc millenial where I just want to be at peace at home enjoying my rent when I am not slaving away at work. My stepsibling grew up outside of the country in a very big party atmosphere. I’m talking going out every night until 5-6 am and drinking til u can’t anymore. For me, thats not my scene. Do I judge or feel that I’m better? Absolutely not. I’m just the type of person who will do anything during the day but once night comes, I like to be at peace with a book or good show. Plus I’ve learned to love doing things solo because I don’t have to do anything by committee and I can do as I please without judgement.

Anyways, stepsibling has some friends who have also immigrated to nyc and they wanted to hangout with their friends and insisted I come. I went to be polite and yes, expand my horizons and be more social but this crowd was way beyond my comfort zone. I’m talking about your bbl baddies from the bx who are ready to eat a man alive for money, a bunch of 40 year olds drinking, smoking hookah and playing music on blast at all hours of the night. I found it to be exhausting. While I accept my boring self for who I am, I will be honest if it didn’t feel depressing to feel judged because I am not as loud or because I insist on not drinking if I know I will be driving which to be honest, I felt like behind my back it was a point of ridicule that I insist on not drinking when I know I will be driving. Especially as someone on medication that amplifies the effects of alcohol and driving in a city as congested as nyc, drinking and driving is a non-negotiable for me. I don’t want to carry an accident in my conscious if i can help it. I decided the crowd isn’t for me. I appreciate them wanting to invite me into their fold but I’ll have to decline future invitations. People who can’t accept me as I am, are not my crowd. My actual friends currently accept me as I am and don’t ask me to change. Thing is, I won’t lie if I said I don’t feel out of sorts or even depressed after spending time with a crowd that I know sees me as pathetic and lame. How do I process this?

Was on the train ride from hell last night. We were delayed / stopped on the tracks for a cumulative total of 4+ hours. Woman started freaking out on the train conductor at one point.

She kept screaming at him to stop interrupting her (he was just... responding to her??) and that he was the rudest person she ever met 'and that's saying something' Okay, 20-something yr old girly. Burn. At one point he walked away and she was like, 'exCUSE me I was still screaming at speaking to you."

She kept bringing up her 'life-threatening medical condition.' He asked her, 'do you need medical assistance right now?' and she said no. Okay. I'm not unsympathetic to the frustrations of medical conditions not being taken seriously (check my post history), but... she literally just wanted to scream at him and have him stand there, take it, say nothing back and not leave until she was good and done? Like she's entitled to the ass-kissing of a 5-star resort. Girl, it's AMTRAK. Have you ever been to the gd post office? This is only a slightly better experience than that.

To the point of this post: she must've thought bringing up said 'life-threatening medical condition' (repeatedly) was her trump card, because she was like, "Have YOU ever had a grand mal seizure and spent three minutes on the floor turning blue?!" Like she was betting on that being her 'gotcha' moment so she could scream some more about how he was so rude or whatever.

The guy, who had been deadpanning his one-syllable answers this whole time, without missing a beat, just said, "Yep." And left it at that.

It must've thrown her bc she didn't seem to know how to respond. She was like, 'You have?' and it was pretty clear she didn't believe him but could see how calling him an out and out liar would've been a bad PR move for her (and yes, race was a factor here). He just said "yep" again and didn't elaborate.

Anyway. Can't stop thinking about that moment. "Yep." Glorious. Sorry you're upset but you are not entitled to my mental labor of making you feel better, especially since you're upset that I'm not playing along as your punching bag. You can't press me into the service of arguing with you. Fuck off.

All i want to do is shut my mouth in bus and stare outside the window but i always end up talking to people i dont like this part of my personality i dont have a control on it, i just want keep quiet in bus and go to my class talk with 3 friends i have in class and like actually have fun with them and then go home sleeping in bus and yeah thats pretty much how i want my life to be peaceful with good friends to talk to but idk why i always get side thoughts about what others might think of me or what my sister thinks of my maybe i talk alot blah blah

I really want to become a really calm person, i want control my anger so i can become a better person.