u/Azerbinhoneymood

I've come to realize that in my past building growing as a young man, my character or my personality was shaped and influenced by my environment and especially my family.

Which makes sense, this doesn't mean I've came to something others never noticed or wrote about. The only difference here is that I've just realized that the way my personality developed at a certain time was heavily affected by what they wanted me to be with them, it was to their benefits not mine even as they were my own family. I remember having certain traits in the past that I was stripped off from because they made someone older and bigger than me uncomfortable so I was coerced into tuning that down but only now that I have regained trait that I see how if I had it then it would've saved me from some situations in my life.

Honestly, I can't trust nobody but myself when it comes to who I want to become, because some even when they seem to say they intend good for me they still wouldn't tolerate certain growth or change that doesn't benefit them one way or another even if it is good to me.

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Kids cry or get emotional in any way (including temper tantrums) simply because everything is new to children including their own emotions so when they feel something they just do not understand it necessarily.

The job of adults is not to negotiate emotions nor tolerate the kids' emotions simply because "they don't know better". I don't know myself, but I can tell that most emotional problems starts from....heck, the age of zero even!

The sad part is that even these adult parents haven't even learned how to deal with their own emotions. The result? Repressed or emotional unstable/unavailable members of society.

And by this I mean to not be affected by them in how you life and in doing what you want. Yes, of course, an insult might hurt your feelings and a praise would make you feel better about yourself but still you wouldn't let these change your course.

Anybody living life with these in mind? If so then I want to know how your life going.